men in every version (father, cousins, friends, bf's) have made me cold hearted. i thought i didnt want a relationship with anyone... so i have a booty call. he's my best friend and i've known him for about two years and have been a booty call for only a couple of months... supposedly we tell each other everything completely honest with one anohter, love each other so much, everything is supposed to be clear. now i've fallen for him I THINK and it seems that it'll hurt just as much to lose him as it will to keep him.. tell him/dont tell him? i'm stuck.. and it pains me to face him everyday and have to keep my feelings to myself. hear him talk about other women... i cant just not listen cause then i wont be much of a friend, and besides, hearing him talk about it helps me remember where i stand in his life and not drift to far from reality. I WOULDN'T RECOMMEND THIS BEST FRIEND/BOOTY CALL RELATIONSHIP TO ANYONE... WHATS WORSE? IF I COULD GO BACK AND CHANGE THE PAST I WOULDN'T DO ANYTHING DIFFERENTLY. love isn't supposed to make sense. but its not supposed to hurt either. you know your worth dont allow not even the person you love the most in all the world make you feel second best. cause when your title is "booty call" it might as well be "not good enough to be my gf".

beware: this can happen to anybody. even the most cold hearted person. and it sucks to be cold hearted and vulnerable because you contradict yourself.

Ashley, dump that loser. i'll be more than happy to abuse you as much as you want.

-Jeff (Leah's friend)

well i think that booty calls r cool as long as you are single and of course still looking. i have a booty caller myself and i must say i am definately loving the calls it is flattering to know that someone out there thinks you are interesting and fun .we chat on the phone maybe for over four hours that is just so great i must say

My comment about the show today with Mike and all the men that came on the show to bring out honesty is well past needed. Women have their way of thinking and men have theirs. Just because you hang out with guys all the time or have brothers or other honest men in your life doesn't mean they will be as blunt and admit that they see women in a two category point of view. Some times I think even though it may be harsh or not exactly what we agree with or want to hear sometimes I wish a guy would be as honest with us women as they were on the show. You are fantastic Tyra and I love your shows about sex, relationship, and other situations that are not talked about because of the attitude of many people that watch TV. They are all questions we want the answers to but we don't have the resources or the honesty of people around us to find the truthful answers! Thanks!

It's okay to answer a booty call if u indeed want one...My boyfriend of 2 years comes over after the club on weekends and I don't have a problem with that! I actually enjoy it. I would rather he come home to me then to a hood rat from the club. Does that mean we are gonna make love? Not necessarily. Sex is consensual-It depends on both of us. Cuddling and sleeping knowing he is next to me is ENOUGH at times...but how could I resist not having sex with the man I love?!

It depends on whose calling after midnight for example if its an unforgettable ex the phone is better left unanswered but if its a present suitor then its ok especially if its long distance communication is key

it think that there is nothing wrong with late night calls .To me it means that the person needs 2 hr ur voice b4r they sleep.and thts quete sweet!

well im only 17 and have a boyfriend its a long distance relationship for right now, but he loves me and i love him. he always calls me even after midnight, may b just to sit on the phone and sleep together, lol idk if thats a lil weird but i think its sweet that he wants to hear me sleep, even though i dont snore, and when its time for him to go to school we wud say goodmorning and have a nice day until he calls me later on about his day.

Although I thought the show today was entertaining and offered insight from a guy's point of view, I felt like Mike "Relationship expert" was sort of a jerk. Some of the comments he made on how men see women down the street and categorize them in only two categories really angered me because not all men are like that. I have plenty of guyt friends, an older brother, and have spent enough time around and with guys and I know for a fact that not evry guy thinks about sex as soon as they see a women. Maybe next time Tyra you should have a REAL man who isn't a misogynic jerk.

I fell in love with this guy while I was married. I found out in the summer of 2004 that my husband had cheated on me and I was very hurt by this. So I started associating with this guy and he was there for me when I was really vunerable. He didn't take advantage of me and I shared my many problems with him. At first everything was all good but now it is really bad!!!! Needless to say my husband found out in the beginning of 2007 and now we are getting a divorce May of this year. My concern is with the guy I had the affair with. He seems to still want me around but he wants to do what he want to do. We never made a commitment on saying we was a couple but I feel like he is taking me for granted because he thinks I am okay with the fact that I be over his place the majority of the time even though I know he have other friends that I have heard that he have had sex with. I don't like this but I know that we haven't commited to one another and also I am still married and I am eight years older than he. I know that I'm no SAINT here but I fell in love and I need to know should I give him time or should I move on? I'm so confused!! HELP

I had a Booty Caller..... and i answered only because i found hard not to!:) theres was a little catch to it though...there was a bit of an age diff. but it all stopped it only happened 2 times and he doesnt do it anymore but i think that its okay unless if you dont like it and it bthers you, otherwise theres nothing wrong with it!

Well booty calls are difficult to ignore when your single because sometimes women want the same thing men want. Honestly speaking, booty calls are not always bad if you look at it from both views. But other times it gets quite old and you would like to not have it anymore. I personally, do have a botty call for two years now and honest to say I have got tired of it because I have to much pride for myself to go down like that. I let the man straight and told him I don't want to do this anymore because my feelings were getting hurt and I couldn't say anything to him about my feelings because we were not together. So in the end it was a win-lose situation i own my pride and he lost a good woman that he didn't want to make anything happen

Well what if you have known this person for a while, you are OK with a play date every now and again, and then HE says that he feels guilty for using you and respects your friendship more and no longer wants to hook up??? But still wants to hang out all the time and ALWAYS calls you, and stays on the phone for HOURS.......Just don't get it!!!

I totally agree with Carol. If you and the person are consenting adults and ALL things have been put on the table from the beginning there should not be any problems. But ladies be sure that you are not just accepting the "Booty Call" status just to be with a person who you are interested in having a long term relationship with. Emotions and Booty Calls don't mix!

I have a booty caller. He sometimes calls I sometimes call. We both sometimes answer. Two consenting adults can make this decision, especially if both aren't in relationships and don't want a permanent relationship. If you want a long-term bf, though....Mr. Booty Call isn't it. But he can be helpful while you are searching!!!!

I say don't answer (of course, the rules are a little different if he's "your man"). I find it hard to not answer my phone no matter who's calling, truth be told. Anyway! Men don't want it if it's too easy. Not suggesting that a woman be a tease, because that's just wrong. Just slow down...you control the pace. If he's impatient let him move on to the next.

It depends on who or what type of guy he is. And who says because he calls after midnight where going to go running. I don't agree with the girls that are like that. I'm not one of those girls, but it does'nt stop me answering my phone after midnight.
If my current boyfriend rings me after midnight and i'm in bed i won't see him and if he just turns up at mine and i'm in my big thick Pj's he knows that when where going to bed where going to sleep. Men don't control sex woman do!
So girls you have to remember your in control so dont act second best to any man, say NO to Booty Calls..

.Rebecca.

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