Dear Tyra:

I am a doctoral student at Morgan State University and my dissertation is titled "The influence of mother-child communication and parental monitoring on sexual behavior in African-American high school students."
I regret that I did not see the show you did on April 7, I believe, to address teenage sex in high schools. My wonderful advisor, Dr. Kidd-Taylor called me this morning to tell me she saw your show. She mentioned that the show covered a lot of the issues in my dissertation. Is it possible to get a transcript from the show so that I can incorporate some of what you covered? If possible I will be more than happy to share my dissertation with you once completed. Maybe discuss implications for future public health interventions to prevent some negative health outcomes for teens who engage in early sexual behavior. The role of parents is so important, yet many people do not appreciate this in prevention programs and forget that parents are the first influencers in their childrens lifes as they develop.

Sincerely,

Ludmilla

im soo happy you did a show on this because in my town there is sex in schools... i wasnt aware of this until i got into highschool.i was shocked..and kinda disgusted.

Well, i have never had sex and i am not planning on havin sex untill i am happily married! I am not even 13 yet, so i hav a long way to go. In the Bahamas (my hometown) sex in school is FAR from a big topic! We don't do that in our schools, but they might do that other places, but not in schools cuz that is so nasty. People out there (especially girls) please I BEG YOU wait because if you don't there will be some SERIOUS consequences! Stay Blessed, not Stressed!

dear tyra i had sex in the school bathroom then 2 weeks later i found out i was pregnant and im only 13 i had my baby but he didnt make it he died i feel really bad i feel like its my fault he died

I also go to the same school as Alexa and what she said was so true! A lot of people knew what was going on at our school! i think it is very unfair that she is being punished for speaking the truth. If i were her i would have said the same thing! Why are people at school acting clueless now? This is not a new topic, alexa was using her freedom of speech and i think at a catholic school they should be encouraging us to say what we feel and not withhold information to protect the schools reputation!

Hi Tyra..

I am a senior at the catholic school that Alexa was talking about. It was unfair for her to say those untrue things about our school. No one has sex inside the school, and if they have...no one knows about it. Obviously she is hanging out with the wrong people if her friends are doing these things. And saying that there are no virgins? I think at least half of the girls in our grade haven't had sex. And she is being pretty hypocritical for making those accusations. Our whole school is very confused about the situation and those who know the girl are embarrassed for her and our school. It was immature to make up those lies.

I think that parents need to start telling kids the way it is FLAT OUT!!! If we don't take the time to educated our kids and make them comfortable about having sexual conversations with us...what can we expect?

(please read if ur a mom)
Hi Tyra,(everyone)

My name is Audrey, I am 14 turning 15 in a week (yay) my boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months which is a very long time for my age. He has asked me if i wanted to have sex with him not thinking about it at the time i said yes. I am still a virgin and now that I look at what I said to him im scared. We have'nt done it yet and are sapposed to sone. He does not no im still a virgin. He just turned 17 and is "experienced". He thinks ive had sex. but i did'nt tell him that. He asumed I did. Im really scared and don't no how to tell him or say im not ready. Im still really young and a virgin and very active in church. I want to stay "pure" until im married but im scared if i tell him he might leave me. I really like him and don't no what i should do. I dont have any parents or any one to help me so I was wondering if u could. or any parents or young moms that have any advice please send me an e-mail at smalls.charmed@yahoo.com

thank u so much for ur help!
-Audrey

i go to school with gio. the one who had no remose and personally good for him.
he shouldnt have remose.
if not in school then it would have been else where so whatever.
good for him

Hi tyra,
My name is be-be sadly already experienced having sex because I was raped at age 8. later on when I was 10 I hade sex in school with my so called best friend, as nasty as it seems I did it ,and I kept doing it for years and I am now 16 yrs old and 7 months pregnant so plez plez plez wait to have sex, or wait unstill your of age because I had sex and now I am pregnant so what ever you do wait!!

hi tyra,
my name is be-be sadly already experinced having sex because i was raped at age 8 later on when i was 10 i hade sex in schoolwith ny so called best friend , as nastey as it seems i did it ,and i kept doing it for years and i am now 16 yrs old and 7 months pregnat so plez plez plez wait to have sex, or wait untill your of age because i had sex and now i am pregnat so what ever you do wait!!

hi tyra,
my name is be-be i really enjoyed ur show about sex in school it really tought me alot about the stds yor can get and more.but, sadly already experinced it because i was raped at age 10 anyway i also like the fact that you are real and you don't make up lies or pick sides that much

ps. mabe i can be on the ur show later on :)
yours truly,
Be-Be

hi tyra,
my name is be-be i really enjoyed ur show about sex in school it really tought me alot about the stds yor can get and more.but, sadly already experinced it because i was raped at age 10 anyway i also like the fact that you are real and you don't make up lies or pick sides that much

ps. mabe i can be on the ur show later on
yours truly,
Be-Be

DEAR TYRA,
I GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL IN MAY, AND HAVING SEX IN SCHOOL ISNT NEW. THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON AS FAR AS I KNOW SIENCE I WAS IN MIDDLE SCHOOL. MAYBE THIS WOULD NOT OCCURE SO MUCH IF IT WASNT EASY, BUT IT IS EXTREMLY EASY. AND ITS THE SCHOOLS FAULT THAT IT WILL CONTINUE TO HAPPEN. I DONT KNOW WHAT PICTURE HAPPY WORLD EVERYONE ELSE IS LIVING IN ,BUT THIS IS LIVE AND UNCUT. ON THE OTHER HAND, THE KIDS THAT DO THIS ARE SIMPLY TRING TO EITHER SATISFY SOMEONE, FIT-IN, OR FEEL SOME TYPE LOVE OR COMPASION THEY ARE NOT GETTING AT HOME. THIS WILL CONTINUE TO HAPPEN UNTIL EVERYONE TAKE A LOOK AT THERE SELF AND WHAT THERE DOING TO PREVENT IT!!!!!!!!!

YOUR #1 FAN
*MS.CHUK*

DEAR TYRA,
I GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL IN MAY, AND HAVING SEX IN SCHOOL ISNT NEW. THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON AS FAR AS I KNOW SIENCE I WAS IN MIDDLE CSHOOL. MAYBE THIS WOULD NOT OCCURE SO MUCH IF IT ASNT EASY, BUT IT IS EXTREMLY EASY. AND ITS THE SCHOOLS FAULT THAT IT WILL CONTINUE TO HAPPEN. I DONT KNOW WHAT PICTURE HAPPY WORLD EVERYONE ELSE IS LIVING IN ,BUT THIS IS LIVE AND UNCUT. ON THE OTHER HAND, THE KIDS THAT DO THIS ARE SIMPLY TRING TO EITHER SATISFY SOMEONE, FIT-IN, OR FEEL SOME TYPE LOVE OR COMPASION THERE NOT GETTING AT HOME. THIS WILL CONTINUE TO HAPPEN UNTIL EVERYONE TAKE A LOOK AT THERE SELF AND WHAT THERE DOING TO PREVENT IT!!!!!!!!!

YOUR #1 FAN
*MS.CHUK*

i belive if your child was taught what to do and what not to do you will have nothing to worry about

Tyra,

My boyfriend is an 8th grade Health Enhancement teacher. In his recent sex ed class the kids were discussing what is 1st, 2nd & 3rd base. In my day (I'm 42), 1st base was kissin, 2nd base was abouve the waist touching, 3rd base was below the waist touching and then a home run. Now 1st base is making out (kissing & touching), 2nd base is fingering, 3rd base is oral sex and then a home run. I was truly shocked to hear how little respect kids have for sex and for each other. It's completely lost it's meaning!! There isn't anything romantic about it anymore with these kids. Yikes!

I just want to say that I'm a huge fan (u probably hear that all the time!. As for teens having sex in school, that is ridiculous. We all know, yes teens have raging hormones and all of that, but I really don't think that is an excuse for giving in and doing it. I'm 22 yrs old so it's not like I don't remember being 15,16 yrs old but come on...it's not that hard to control yourself and say no. I think its stupid that children are giving in to their "raging hormones" and doing things that could have serious consequences. 13/14 yr olds are no longer acting their age and that is disappointing. Even though 16 yr olds may say things like "but I love him and we've been together for 1yr so we should have sex" that is still not a valid reason for having sex. Yes it's a personal descision but I just want to yell out "who do you little girls think you are running around and having sex with some boy who will not be around forever!" That is so degrading to yourself. I'm 22 and am proud to say that I did not shame myself while I was a teenager and am now in a loving relationship with a guy I met when I was 18 and the relationship we have was worth waiting for. Once you hit 18yrs old then it's more reasonable to be thinking about having sex because you are leaving your childhood and entering adulthood and are more likely to be with someone who you may end up spending the rest of your life with. And if the person you are with forces you and you feel pressured to do it is not worth it, someone better will come along, you just have to be patient and keep your legs closed. It's not that hard no matter what anyone says...THANKS!

I lost my vergenity when i was 6 years old because I was raped I thought that i could have sex 2 make me happy but it just made me worse.when I was 10 I had sex in my school bathroom and never got cought.now i'm 13 and still having se now that i seen your show I stop because I dont to be young with a baby.

you need to get your acted together and stop the sex at school

I go the same school with this dude and I am shoked myself about this whole issue...Teen sex has always been a huge and unfortunately common issue. But in SCHOOL? That is totally unacceptable. Some people think that its ok, but really its not cool when you get caught! It's definitely not smart because most schools have working cameras everywhere..

I am a high school teacher and sex in school is a major issue. My first semester of teaching 2 freshman got caught in the hallway after school both by teachers and because we have cameras in the halls. The older students response to this was that they at least knew what cameras didnt work or were to go that didnt have cameras. This wasnt my first encounter with in school. Students grab each other all the time. They are proud of hickies and who they are with.
When I was in high school this wasnt as common but still happened. I am even guilty of pleasuring someone during class when I was a senior in high school and I know several students who did even more but it was top secret until after graduation but now students are proud of it and tell people.

tyra,
my name is kristen and im 19 .i fell to the trend of sex as a teen.dew to that i had my son zach when i was 17.i got pregnat with him when i was only 16.but i do believe that with some kids that start having sex at such a young age there is more of a reason behind .most kids will think of the first thing that comes to there head when they look for an excuse.wether it be perpressur or even just becouse they want to be popular.i myself had sat down and thought about why i started having sex at a young age.after about 4 hours of sitting in my room it finally hit me.when i have sex i feel like i was being accepted and loved.i didnt have a dad growing up and i wanted a male figure in my life to love me and give me what he didnt .i also realized that part of it might be when i was raped as a child.the guy who raped me used to tell me that he did it becouse he loved me and if i loved him i would have sex with him.i know not everyone has gone threw these things but if you have a teen sit down long enough you can get a better reason behind why they do what they do.

Hey Tyra..I just wanted to say handling sex in school is pretty hard...i mean i am not sexually active but i know alot of people that are and some are even pregnant! I don't want to end up pregnant but i am curious do you think because i have made it this far without being sexually active i can wait at least until i'm out of hugh school??
please help me!?

Hi Tyra! Im watching your show about teens and sex in school.Im 15 almost 16 and I've known a few people who have done things in school but im still a virgin and plan to keep it that way for a while. I've been dating my current boyfriend for over 9 months and we have done sextual things but havent had sex.We've also talked about it and we agree that its not going to happen for a while, and if we do start having sex if i will go on birth control or not. My mom and best friend think i should but im not so sure becasue i know that if we start having sex it wont be happening a lot at all and ive heard about all the things it does to your body. Im just a little confused and i want to talk to him more about it but for me its so hard to bring sextual things up.