Carrie - My Best Friend's Wedding

I just got back from my best friend's wedding. It was a breathtakingly beautiful day, mostly because the newlyweds were deeply, radiantly in love.
Yet it's not always easy to "give away" your best friend, even to an amazing man. My cup runneth over with happiness for her. But I wondered. Would things be different now?
Could I still call her at midnight to dissect the existential significance of my bangs? Would she still want to make a run to T-Bell in full pirate costumes just to see if people noticed? And what about our impromptu Justin Timberlake dance parties? Was I going to be dancing solo to JT from now on??
Because it was an Indian wedding, the bride's hands, wrists and ankles were decorated with elaborate henna designs. The groom's initials hid playfully amid the intricate swirls and Hindu goddesses. My own hands were painted in a complicated pattern of peacock feathers, symbolizing the ritual of courtship. (As if I need a peacock to remind me of crazy courting rituals!)
For those of us new to the henna thing, the bride offered a quote:
Your friends say that blossoms will bloom in your hands.
Your spirit, your life, are on the brink
Of reaping new happiness.
- from the film Zubeidaa
I loved that the delicate design on my hands represented new happiness. (It also represented an eye infection -- I rubbed my face before the henna dried and found myself on a date with an emergency eyewash.)
Just before the wedding ceremony began, all 250 guests walked outside to greet the groom. He entered on horseback to a lively drumbeat. Everyone – grandmothers, babies, a forklift operator from across the street – began dancing, encircling the groom and showering him with cheers and winks.
Then it was time for the bride's big entrance. I held my breath as she floated down the aisle in a stunning, jewel-encrusted sari trailed by a gorgeous black braid that nearly grazed the floor. At the very last moment, just before walking under the wedding canopy, she turned back and found my eyes. "Hi, Carrie," she mouthed, her lips sparkling in a smile.
During one of the most important moments of her life, in the middle of her wedding, she took the time to give me a shout out. That must be its own form of true love. And in that instant I knew – single or married – we would forever remain best friends.
Later, at the reception, traditional sitar music and Bollywood classics gave way to bhangra and hip hop. Around 1:00 a.m., the sweet falsetto of Mr. Timberlake vibrated through the dance floor. I felt a body near mine and glanced up, ready to tell some guy to keep out of my dance space.
Instead, I saw the bride. She gave me a quick nod and we rocked out to "Rock Your Body," grinding to the ground like the good old days.
Just then a hot groomsmen I'd been checking out wandered over and asked me for a slow dance. The bride and I collapsed into giggles. I think she actually shoved me into his arms. As I walked away with him, I looked back and mouthed "thank you." Then I caught a glimpse of my henna painted hands and heard her voice.
"Your spirit, your life, are on the brink of reaping new happiness."
I only hope that happiness includes a little JT with my BFF.










Comments
Hi Carrie, I just wanted to share some insight from the other side of the road. Among the group of me and my two BFFs, I was the first to get married. We have all been friends since the fourth grade. I often wondered if we would stay true friends since I was changing my status. Would they be bored by the fact that I wouldn't have any juicy post date tidbits to throw out? Would they feel I couldn't relate to their dating woes and therefore not come to me for the advice they had so eagerly sought before?Could I share my life equally with my new husband and my old girlfriends? We had all said we would be in each others wedding from the seventh grade on but when I was getting married they lived half way across the state. I didn't feel we could realistically plan and carry out our middle school pact.On the day of the wedding they showed up with dresses almost identical to each others though they had nothing more to go off of than a strip of ribbon I had mailed each of them. We held hands in the elevator on my way down to the wedding ballroom. They sang me my favorite song of the moment, the one that they would walk down the aisle to before I would enter. At that moment I knew that no matter what,we would be BFFs forever. My husband will always have my heart, but I know that those ladies, my true friends will always have my back!
Posted by: CarLa | April 30, 2008 11:37 AM
Thanks for reading and for the great advice, ladies!
Posted by: Carrie | April 30, 2008 9:55 AM
I don't she'll forget about all the thing you have done with her, but just remember she's a married woman now. There will be times that her spouse will be looking to spend time with her also. Just be patience with her and continue to be there for her.
Posted by: Muzzetta | April 29, 2008 8:12 PM
Your friend is awsome if she will go to taco bell in a pirates costume and allow you to call her in the middle of the night, my bff yells at me for calling her after 10 and we are only 17 lol! Also your writing and choice of diction to express yourself is phenomenal! thanks for allowing me a dive into a day of your life
Posted by: Candice | April 29, 2008 5:57 PM