QUESTION: So I’m planning a big third date with my new guy and I want to impress him. I think he’s totally up for anything, so what would be something extremely spontaneous, outrageous and fun to do with him?!

- Kate

Bachelor #1 - Wow, it’s shocking enough that you’re a girl who doesn’t think every date should be only about her. My first instinct is to tell you this: Men don’t care about the beginning or middle of the date, as long as the end is good (if you know what I mean). But, since you’re the rare girl who wants to impress your man, I want to help.

Ladies, I know daddy taught you that men are all the same, but believe it or not, we all have different personalities. Plan a date around your guy’s interests. He’ll be surprised enough that you considered his level of enjoyment.

If he likes sports, get him tickets to a local sporting event. Too pricey? Look into local minor league teams. Corpus Christi isn’t the biggest city, and we have a minor league hockey team, an AA baseball team and two indoor football teams.

I’m not the manliest man, as some could tell from my haircut, so I’m not the biggest sports fan. But last Sunday, I took Promo Girl No. 2 to see our AA baseball team, the Corpus Christi Hooks. It was our third date and she had a blast, cheering along and high fiving my friends when the home team scored. So, not only did she get points with me, but also with my friends.

If he’s into music, get him tickets to a concert out of town and plan a little road trip. Shoot for original, “Every guy enjoys laser tag or the arcade every now and then,” my fellow bachelor, Stephen, said. Drew and I agreed. I know, it’s shocking that we’re all still single.

The date doesn’t have to be outrageous or shocking. In fact, I can’t think of anything “outrageous” or “shocking” that would be appropriate for the third date. Those dates are usually reserved for spicing up a relationship and involve the type of clubs that I wouldn’t want my little sister reading about on this blog.

Remember, you’re not expected to sacrifice your enjoyment. Try new things together. Catch a comedy show, go thrift store shopping or try some food that neither of you has tried before. It’ll give you the opportunity to learn more about yourself while you both learn more about each other.

Bachelor #2 - Girls, this is so easy! Take something you know he enjoys and add intimacy or food to it. The key to being spontaneous is not doing any planning. Look around for an opportunity to catch him off guard. It shouldn’t be too hard.

For example: One evening, I am sitting at home, when I get a phone call from a girl friend. She asks what I am doing for dinner. I say I am going to stay in and get a pizza and some beers. She says she is in the area and can pick it up and bring it by. I hadn’t had any intentions of inviting her over, but if she is bringing over the suds and slices, then all the better. Just like Domino’s, in fewer than 30 minutes, she is knocking at my door. I open up to let her in. She has a large pizza box and a 12-pack of my favorite beer.

Without saying a word, she walks in, takes out two beers, opens them, and puts the rest in the fridge. She sits down at the kitchen table, opens up the pizza box, takes out a piece and starts eating. I close the door, a little confused, but hunger draws me to the food, and thirst to the beer.

We sit at the table and start chatting a little bit about plans for the night. I say I am staying in and taking it easy. Her arched eyebrows make like jump ropes going up and down. What is going on here?

I finally notice that she is wearing a long coat. When she takes it off and folds it over the back of the chair, I finally figure out what is going on. I stayed in that night, but definitely didn’t take it easy.

Later, she told me that after she picked up the pizza and beer, she decided to go back to her place and change into something more creative. I appreciated the spontaneity. It took some guts to show up like that. This girl means business and that is cool.

There are a few keys to pulling something like this off. First, you need to be sure that no one else is with him. Second, you need to pretend like nothing is out of the ordinary. This can be difficult when you are trying to hide your sexiness. Third, make sure you get dressed after you get the pizza and beer. No need to go strutting your stuff for the convenience clerk or pizza guy. Last, do not try to do something like this if he has some kind of deadline to meet the next morning, say on a Thursday night, when he has to send in his answer to a question for TyraShow.com.

Bachelor #3 - Wow! This one’s even trickier to tackle, considering it's only your third date with this guy, I mean, that's a tough date! He’s gotta love your spontaneity so I suggest going for something a little bawdy, but still, you're going to want to really impress him. Since, from the sounds of your question, you’re both really into doing outrageously spontaneous activities I've got a couple of suggestions that I think might be right your respective alleys.

First up, you should put on something really sexy. I suggest a full blouse, but leave the top button undone so it gives his imagination some fuel for what else might be under that top (wink!) For the lower half I suggest a mid-length skirt that shows a little calf, but don't have the skirt go above your knees- the last thing you want is for him to think you're a Loose Lucy!

Next, pick him up from his place and tell him you're taking him to his favorite restaurant, but take him someplace totally silly. All-you-can-eat buffet, anyone?

Before you get too comfortable at the dinner table make sure you go up to your waiter and say it's your date's birthday. If they want proof, tell them you would show your man's I.D. but he's “just so shy and modest about his birthday.” This not only gets you off the hook about showing an I.D. but also completely keeps the guy in the dark (men love surprises!) about that secret double fudge brownie and virgin Mudslide coming his way at the end of his delicious meal of battered shrimp, endless salad and, of course, hush puppies, “did somebody say Shrimp Lover?”

After dinner act really sly and pretend like you're just taking the long way back to his place, but instead you're actually taking him to the movie theater. That's Right! You're taking your insanely lucky man to a double-feature of whatever two terrific movies you want to go see. This guy is gonna be so lucky, heck, I'm jealous already.