I think you should wait. It gains the woman a little more respect to wait. Besides, if you give it up too quickly, it wouldn't keep him on his toes.

I just have one question, why is all of this advice directed at women? What about the guy and please no crap about their hormones. women get horny just like they do. Shouldn't the guy get told "hey man if you have sex with her the first night she might think that's all you want." or "hey why don't you try holding off for a while I bet that would really turn her on" I'm tired of all the biasness!!!!!!!

hey i think its great and fun to have sex on first date, but its not very secure since you dont no who you having sex with for long. can i have a date mail me edie4000@yahoo.com

I disagree with having sex on the first date. (YUCK) you don't even know the person. Imagine if they have some kind of STD....nasty. What if some guy just needs "some" and decides to go out with any girl and gives them an STD. Or what if there Swingers, even worse. "Say No to sex on the first date"

Speaking from experience i can testify that sleeping with someone a 1st date is not good. I thought he was mr.right being that we had a connection and all. All it made me feel was cheap bc he don't call, email or drop by to say hi no more. Lets just say he disappeared leaving me hanging. To make a long story short having sex on the first date is a big "NO" "NO".

Julianne Hough of "Dancing with the Stars" wants to remain a virgin until marriage, she tells CosmoGirl magazine.

In a recent interview, the 19-year-old spoke of her trouble fitting in with the Hollywood crowd, due to the presence of the drugs, sex and alcohol she refrains from.

Hough says she wants "to be with that special person ... and [waiting to have sex] will strengthen that relationship. I'm not trying to preach consequences here, but I think when you say no, down the line it will be a better decision."

She admits keeping up with her goals can be difficult at times — but her family has been supportive.

"My dad, whom I'm very close with, will text me, 'Are you doing the right things, in the right place, at the right time?' And it's usually when I'm someplace I shouldn't be. So I'll call him and say, 'Thanks, I needed to hear that.'"

Hough broke up with her fiance last year.

Click here to read more at ET Online.

There are consequences to any kind of sex, first date or not. I have 3 children all born out of wedlock. 2 have fathers who passed away, 1 at 7 months and 1 at 11 years old. They never got to know them. I wished I would have been married and they all had the same father. I was just having sex and on birth control. So you answer the question. I love my children but a great injustice was done to them - they really, really wanted to know their DAD's but...I finally married my oldest's son's dad after 26 years of being apart. He is the one I really loved. Waiting to have sex is the safest in all areas. Abortion, yes I had one of them also so I do have personal experience in my answers. This was the worst decision I made at that time cause it comes back to haunt you, most women who have had one would be lying to say that it doesn't. I have worked at a crisis preg center and that is was is said over and over. They can't handle the aftermath of the abortion. I hope this will help protect girls and guys from making life changing decisions regarding sex on the first date- once it is done you can't get back what you just gave away. And we are responsible for our actions so do not blame the person who YOU give yourself too even if it is one piece at a time. Look in the mirror and that is the person who is responsible for what happens to you as a consenting, all knowing adult. One more thing it only takes one time to get pregnant ( sex is not a social entertainment ). I will stop now. I also worked in the court system for approx 9 years in the area of nonsupport/establishing paternity and setting child support and the other area was protective order court. So please reconsider if you are considering giving away your virginity or any other part of your body away. Oral sex included...

I think you SHOULD DEFINETELY NOT have sex on the(your)1st date!!!
personally im a virgin and if the "guy" really really looks forward on being with you then he'll wait till after marriage !!! I know that seems IMPOSSIBLE but i didnt say u cant "mess around" if u know what i mean????? but goodluck 2 u

I think you shouldn't have sex with a guy on a first date because after that he'll only call you when he wants to have sex with you , which is okay if that's what you're looking for.I have no qualms with sexual equality though and i think that men and women should be able to do what they want without being thought of as "bad" people.
If you're just looking for someone to be with in a sexual , no strings attached way then it could be harmless as long as you use protection.

I don't think having sex on the first date is right. For me that is telling a guy that your easy and that your willing to do it whenever. I think you should have sex when both the guy and the girl is ready and they have known eachother for awhile. When you don't know the person good and you have sex I think the realtionship would be based only about sex and not the important part of a relationship.

i think U should not have sex on the first date and this is from someone who've been there. since i was into chatting, i ended up meeting this guy. we texted for several months but when we actually met, i knew i might give it up already because i was intrigue with him as a whole and mostly of his experiences since before the act i got a fresh start at the movies. we had dinner and then after, that's when he told me we were just going to talk.. in the motel? i know it was truly going to happen and it did. we also started seeing each other just to do the act. we shared conversations but never really went out again. mostly at first i thought it was just lust and then i totally fell for him. alas, he was seeing other girls. i found out about this a little too late. and now, he is married and we're still having conversations and we did it one time also. along those bitter moments were also times that i tried having sex w/other guys to forget him. always just at 1st, no 2nd dates or whatsoever. i just wanted to forget the guy but i failed to do so. i guess it was never really over between us but i try to be over him. i tried so hard until i gave up and just befriended him w/ a precaution of not having sex w/ him anymore and making sure that if ever i'm going to do it again... it's with someone i'm in a relationship w/. i'm turning 22 but i never had a boyfriend although i already got a lot of guys i went to bed with. i'm sure it's a lesson learned and deeply engraved in my heart.

When I met my husband 13 years ago, we waited 2 months before we had sex. Then ever since then we have been....well.....let's say we can't keep aour hands off each other. We will be married for 11 years on March 8th.

I think it just depends on who it happens with. I had sex on the first date with the man I'm with now & we love eachother very much,we are going to have a baby in June & we are getting married.So,in some cases,I think it only depends who it is.But-I have also done it b4 & it didnt work out rite.Like I read in another comment,it is true that u probably wont get much respect if u give it up 2 soon!But,it worked out fine 4 me,sooo.... u never really know

well what i think is its really bad to have sex in the first date b/c 1. the guy will think u easy to go.
2. he is goin to think that u done t before with other guys. which is not good 3. he might not trust u. 4. he is goin to take t as ts just 4 fun and leave u the second day oh wait not second day but after he done and did what he want....so i hope no one do this b/c that will make the guy not respect u in some how...!!!

thanx for readin my comment......N.H

Of course not. Used to be a time when that question was not even relevant.

I believe that you will end up with a far more committed relationship in the long term if you wait until you are married to sleep with the person. I think that if you can trust that person to be disciplined enough to wait, then you won't have to worry when you do get married that he wouldn't be able to control himself with someone else.

See, that is the thing also about sleeping with a married man (I know, it's another subject all together, but it ties in here)You know that he was married when he slept with you and then there will come a time when you will start to question if he's cheating on you because you know he is capable of it.

So, you can do it. WAIT. It will be worth it! =)

No, i do not think people should have sex on the first date becuse they might not know them very well. They probably don't even know if they have HIV or something worse.

No: I don't think anyone should have sex on the first date, because of the fact most times first dates are normally done with someone you will like to know better. Come on, you don't even know if he or she wants a second date; you having sex with that individual does not guarantee you that second, third or tenth date all you are guaranteed is a one night fling. Please! ask yourself; is that all i am worth? I am not saying to be Mother Thereasa, but simply to cherish who you are body, heart and soul.Then decide when in the relationship you are 100% certain you are ready to have sex with the person you choose and not who choose you.