I saw this episode a few months ago, but tonight it definitely came in handy!
I'm a college student, and I was at a local coffee shop studying for my next exam. There was a man there also who was trying to get a little bit too friendly. He asked about my major and what I was studying. I didn't see anything wrong with revealing that information along with my first name. Then he tried to get my phone number so we could "study together sometime." I politely said "I don't give my phone number out." He then gave me his, but wasn't satisfied, so he asked for my email address. I lied and said I didn't have one and quickly went back to studying.
Anyways, I just wanted to say this episode came instantly to mind when he first started talking to me and I am so grateful for it. Otherwise, I would have felt bad for not giving my information and that would definitely have led to trouble.
Thank you!!!

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You had questioned a girl on the show by asking if attractive men can commicommitt crimes, a brillent writer talked about this in his noverl "The Picture of Dorian Gray. in the novel a beautiful young man commits horrible crimes even murder. Looks should not be the judge of a person's character, some of the best looking people are grotesque on the inside.

OH my gaed this show really opened my eyes. I once did that with a guy i had berley turn 18 and went to him for the day all the way to mexico. GOod think he turned out to be someone nice i dunno what i was thinking. It is so scary to realize that I actually put my life in his hands. Its so scary.

Hey Tara i was watchin this show the other day and i thought that aston did a great job with your help but i think she still could have been in danger because she walked out of the bar on her cell phone where the creepy guy could have followed her out of the bar and then watched her on her way home and he couldve easily seen where she lived so wat should she have done

Dear Tyra,
I am currently a student at the University of Connecticut and watch your show a lot and I think you are doing great things with your show to empower women. However I was disturbed about tuesdays show. While it did hit close to home being a female college student with parties and free drinks and many opportunities to be taken advantage of I found that you left out one key aspect of the picture. What about the MEN. Its always present that women need to protect themselves, cover their drinks don’t go out at night alone, I as many girls have been brought up by these rules repeated before every school dance or night at the movies. Repeated in schools and by parents as well as the media.
As you said on the show there are articles in the newspapers about women who are sexual abused raped and even killed. But what is not mentioned is the men who commit these crimes the men’s identities are hidden and seeped under the rug. Were supposed to believe this is the work of a few mentally ill or deranged men but that fact is it is an epidemic. The one thing that UNITES women around the WORLD is sexual abuse. I find it so sad that the one thing that unites us as women is one thing that causes us the most pain. While teaching women to be strong and independent should be at the forefront of the adjenda. It doesn’t seem right for all women to have to live in fear of men. Although I live on a very safe campus when I walk home from the gym or a late class I cant help but listen to each of the footsteps behind me to wonder who that is in the shadows, women shouldn’t have to live in fear. The public should be educated to the fact that it is not these women’s faults they were raped that she did not some how asked for it because she was walking home alone at night or wasn’t watching her beverage like a hawk all night. We need to stop educating and RE-EDUCATING women and wake up to the fact that it is men who must be EDUCATED.
Tyra, you have so much power in society, women AND men alike isten to you. You are in a position to help society as you have been doing. Women should not have to hide but rather be able to walk proudly down the street at any time of they day or night. And this can partially be achieved by what you have already set in to action the EMPOWERMENT of our women. But it is a society that breads generations of sexually violent men that is the main issue and is the issue that is being ignored by all other sources of media so I ask you Tyra to consider this issue that I have presented. In no way am I saying that all men are women haters or that all men are antifeminist angry rapist but what I do present is that many men, far to many men are involved in violent crimes against women and this is what we as a society and you as a figure head in society must get to the bottom of. You of all people can be a driving force with this issue.
Thank you so much for your time
Sincerely,
Frances

I was so delighted to see the show on safe dating. I am recently divorced and have been dating for a short time. I found myself in some of the girls as well. Right before your show came on I wemt to the gym to work out. A man approached me and started to talk to me. He had seen me prior to that date and told me exactly what I had on etc. I was a little hesitant but found myself sharing information that I should not have. We sat down in the lobby of the gym and talked for about two hours. We exchanged business cards. But one thing I did was take a picture of him with my cell phone which is something I had never done before. He had no problem with that. Some flirtateous comments were made. We went our way. I came home just in time to watch your show and thought what a coincidence as to what your topic was. I was so glad to know that someone stated on your show a safety measure was to take a picture. So I realized I had done some things right and somethings I did not do right. Now I will defintely be more cauteous in the future. Thank you for saving so many lives.

Hi tyra,
thanks to you for the wonderful show you have been doing i realy enjoy it so much keep the wonderful good work and remember that you have a good people who are watching you allways. greetings to your family and stay blessed.thank you

dear tyra,
as i was watching your show i recognized myself in the girls who made the mistake of giving too much info and willingly went with a stranger to his car. but i was even more surprised of one of your guest who said that she could tell who was dangerous and who wasnt by just looking in to his eyes. honestly i think that is just the stupidest mentality a young woman could have. i dated and lived with a man for over two years, now with all that time you would think i would know this man inside and out. but boy was i wrong. this man that i lived with and loved and saw as my soul mate and furture father of my children ended up being a monster i never would have imagined. i would have never though that i would be a victim of domestic violence and i was sure that this man would never ever hurt me. for your guest to say that with a look into a mans eyes she could tell his true intensions how can this be if i couldnt tell the man i lived with for over two years could subject me to a statistic. thanks for having this show tyra and opening my eyes to the stupid mistakes a girl is willing to make to "impress" a man.

Hello Tyra. I love your style and swag and definitely your fashion. But being a man myself. It's starting to get very annoying that to empower woman in what they need to do to accomplish their goals, you have to step on us men. SO FAR IN ALMOST EVERYTHING THAT I'VE SEEN FROM YOU AND OTHER TALK SHOW HOST to empower woman means to degrade the mass of damn near all men. We're put in this box. With the exception of a few (most of which are gay). What about what women do dangerously wrong in comparison to us. I saw your show today on how to watch for Date Rappers and things. Good advice, but in all I, and I'm sure others got the impression that you have to act like we're all date rappers. Look at every man as a potential date rapper or murderer. When homegirl says she looks in the eyes. That true. Cause in all the pics you had up. If you really look. You can see the slight evil in their eye. Even pretty blue eyes. But you guys tried to make her feel like she was the dumbest thing on earth for not assuming that the guy you set up was not a bad guy. Then to prove your point you take her to his car which is prearrange with bats and duck tape to give the illusion that he could have been. But he wasn't. and after the demonstration. You really prove her right. She knew he wasn't dangerous in real life. I got daughters myself and we tell them the similar fashion of advice without putting the air that you got to look at all men as threats. That's not how you empower woman right. That's how you empower woman to step on men mentally. If you going to put us out like most men or damn near all men are potential threats, you need to do the opposite for us men and point out dating flaws that we miss in crazy as women and help us recognize the dangers that we naively miss. That could help avoid bad marriages, the birth of a kids that will have their life twisted cause of the womens subtle bullshit that us men don't see upfront. That dangerous in it's self. Those are the families that raise the Jeffrey Dolmers and such. There's crazy men and crazy women. Be fair.

Also. What you said to home girl about tossing the hair and playing (how you spell it)Quoi is that how you say it. What ever the white folks say. I don't know. Review that part with the black girl in the bar. You may think we like that. But we don't. It made her look more snotty and cocky than intrigue at that point. Most men don't like those responses. She probably would have gotten left alone a long time ago following your direction. Good thing the guy was an actor huh!

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I watched this show and saw how Tyra berated someone for making dumb choices. She was asking them if they had any self esteem. Funny, yesterdays show had the Nasty, HO of the town, Tila Tequila, on and Tyra just loved her. So you don't think her behavior warrants a few self esteem questions Tyra? Tyra is a hypocrit!

HI TYRA,

WELL I JUST FINISHED WATCHING YOUR SHOW TODAY. ALTHOUGH IT WAS A GREAT SHOW AND IT HAD A GREAT MESSAGE I COULDN’T HELP BUT NOTICE SOMETHING THAT MADE ME CHANGE MY ATTITUDE TOWARD YOUR SHOW. YOU HAD AN ACTOR “MIKE” AND HE WAS ON THE DATE WITH GINA, YOUR GUEST, AND I RECOGNIZED HIM. YOU HAD HIM ON A PREVIOUS SHOW, AS A GUEST. I KNOW THAT WHAT IM SUPPOSE TO TAKE THE MESSAGES FROM THE SHOW AND THE PEOPLE ARE JUST WAYS TO GET THE POINT ACROSS, BUT I THOUGHT THEY WERE REAL PEOPLE. TO BE HONEST I KNOW IT SOUNDS SILLY, BUT, I FELT VERY DISAPPOINTED. IM ALWAYS THE GIRL LIKE," OH MY GOD DID YOU SEE TYRA TODAY..." AND NOW I FEEL LIKE ITS ALL FAKE. YOUR SHOWS ARE AWESOME AND I LOVE THEM, I LOVE YOU, YOU'RE THE BEST. BUT KEEP IN MIND THAT YOU HAVE VIEWERS THAT PAY ATTENTION TO THOSE LITTLE DETAILS.TODAY WAS LIKE A RUDE AWAKENING.:(

Nov 13th, I'm watching the show on dating safely. Tyra is berating a girl because she was making foolish choices. I find it very odd that Tyra is accusing this woman of not having self esteem, while she had the HO of the town, Tila Tequila on her show the 12th
and never grilled her on her nasty behavior, and her self esteem.Tyra just thought Tila was the most fabulous thing! Tyra is a hypocrit!

Hey Tyra,
Watching your show(dating dangerously) struck a big nerve in me today. I am now 31, but when I was 22-23 years old, I went out a night in the town with some old friends from high school. It started out with me and 3 other girls and about 4 or 5 guys. By the end of the night, I was left with 4 guys, 2 of them I really knew from school, the other 2 I had just met. We were all dancing and having a great time and, yes, alcohol was involved. We all decided to take a break and went down stairs to get some fresh air. One of the guys I went to school with asked if I had wanted another beer and I said sure. I walked with him over to the bar to get the beer, and right when I got there, one of the other guys had distracted me. By the time I turned around, the guy buying me the beer handed it to me and offered to "chug" with him. I went to take a sip of the beer and noticed that something was fizzing inside. I showed it to him and he said that it was just a lemon. I decided that I didn't want it and handed it to the other guy. At that point I noticed that my friend had motioned for the other guy not to drink by shaking his head. I knew then that these guys that I thought were my friends, weren't. It was really scary. There is more to my story, but I don't want to leave anymore details.

i'm always watching your show. you realy have that great concern to all women how to be strong and how to take care and believe in their selves and most of all their safety. thank you very much its of great help for us. I consider you as a hero for us. more power to you and God bless you always. oh,i like your make up and outfit today.

I watched your show today. And I tottaly saw myself in those girls shoes. When I go out with guys I can be a little to trusting. I recently went on a date, and I was really creeped out when I reized when we went back to his place to hang for a bit, that I had been there before (because I dated his roomate). I hope you do a follow up to the Hidden Camera Dating.

Don't be stupid like I was at age 19 when I went into a guy's place. He lived way upstairs and I could have been in a really dangerous situation. He did no harm to me, but it could have been so much worse. I have learned through the years not to be so trusting.

what should you do if you are in love or think.an you feel that hes cheatin on u? an you thinkin about having sex??????wat should i do???????????/

I'd just like to say that it seems like every show has something relevant to me and my life as a young woman. But today's show really hit home and it's not even over yet. You see, I was drugged at a bar, taken home and raped. And my friends were at the bar with me and this still happened! So I'm so glad that Tyra has done a show about the dangers of dating and meeting guys at the bar. I would do anything to prevent even just one girl from being raped or even worse, killed, all by choosing to trust a strange man. I do not want other girls to go through what I went through, and what I am still going through 4 1/2 years later. So be safe, even when your friends are with you because you just never know what may happen!

Tyra,
I'm watching this show right now and I want to say thank you for helping women realize that they can take control and not be stupid. I wish all my girlfriends were here watching this with me. A few years ago all my girls and I thought that we could "just tell" if a guy was a good guy. Turns out we were totally wrong when one of those so called "nice guys" molested my best friend. Women need to know that predators and murderers don't wear signs on their foreheads.

Tyra,
I'm watching this show right now and I want to say thank you for helping women realize that they can take control and not be stupid. I wish all my girlfriends were here watching this with me. A few years ago all my girls and I thought that we could "just tell" if a guy was a good guy. Turns out we were totally wrong when one of those so called "nice guys" molested my best friend. Women need to know that predators and murderers don't wear signs on their foreheads.

Thank you Tyra for doing this show women need to know of the dangers thats out there. Im recently back in the dating world and it is really hard! Even when i was married and out with a friend i trusted i was given a drink that had a date rape drug in it and suffered a very tramitc experince. Its sad how these women were so willing to trust strangers. I hope women learned from this and will use some of the tips that were given!!

Hi Tyra!
I would just like to say that I agree with the girl Gina and I think it was kinda wrong for you to say she was dumb. I dont think she feels like she has some "super powers" where she can just tell or that she thinks "it'll never happen to her" but it's sort of an intuition.
I, myself have gotten into cars with strange guys and a few of them I turned down. If I felt like this person could harm me, I wouldn't go. I don't look at looks because, like you said, he can be handsome and still hurt you.
And about giving out information, I feel ANYONE who sees me leave my job could stalk me and follow me home. What difference does it make if I just give the information willingly? Someone, anyone could still follow me if they wanted to. And yes, I do think that the people who were raped or killed before was either dumb, drunk, or didn't use their natural instincts.
I still love you Tyra and I think that the show was still good. Some people dont know how to get intouch with themselves and feel-out a person, so those tools you showed on the show are helpful.

I haven't seen the show my friend is recording it but it really struck me when I had seen the advertisement for it. I hate to say it but is almost like women need something bad to happen to them just understand that not every man is trustworthy. I am so happy that Tyra was able to have a show on this. We don't live in a trustworthy world anymore. Its not the good ol' days where every one is named Bud and Mary Sue. Women need to open there eyes. I was molested for years by my step father after i told my mom she's still with him. Then just recently I was assaulted by someone I considered a friend. I could talk to him about anything and then he turned around and did this to me. Women need to understand that there are bad people out there. you can't trust every joe that comes up to you. I don't want something bad to happen to some woman because she THINKS she can trust some guy that picked her up in the club. Some women just don't realize the mistakes that they're making most of the time. They leave the club with some guy or they go to a hotel with someone. Its hard to say it but women do set themselves up to get hurt.