Today they repeated the show about purity balls and I am still shaking my head.

How can someone put up a show with those hypocritical fathers just pretending they have the best in mind for their daughters but they probably think themselves how to take advantage of them.

Simply despicable.
Lets celebrate male/father's hypocrisy.

Caireann

regarding these Purity Balls, i am in two minds about this. on one hand, i think that its great that these girls are pledging their virginity in public and with their fathers, they them seem to be taking it very seriously and at the same time, the fathers themselves are also promising to always take care of their daughters, making it public, hence more formal and serious. in today's society, to see this sort of thing is great. however, on the other hand, i do think this is sort of an extreme reaction ot the kind of stuff being portrayed so freely in the media and the messages being sent out. granted, i am not from the USA and have never experienced one of these Purity Balls and am not a Christian. therefore, i was really amazed that such things existed. to tell u the truth, of course its okay that these girls should not have been forced into the whole thing, but i don't think it's actualy NECESSARY that a whole ball be held specially to commemorate this decision made by those girls. ultimately, the decision to have pre-marital sex or not is the individual's descision, not her mother's or her father's, and i think its a very personal thing that need not be shared and shoul not be shared with their world(their community). also, these girls, should htey ever want to change thier mind int he future, they will be under some sort of rpessure from their "pledge" to abstain from sex till amrriage, made in their earlier years, because, many of these girls go through this ceremony at a very young age, where they might not even understand fully what sex is.
encouraging abstinence is great, its what more girls should do nowadays, but its actually a little scary to be so extreme about it, like sex is bad and its a sin which it isn't! otherwise how would people be born? i myself am a virgin and i plan on staying that way till i marry and its not because i'm a Hindu or cuz im Asian but simply its my decision and i don't have to pledge so seriously about it because its something i know in my heart that i wasn to do.
Lastly, i do agree that Tyra was very negative towards her guests which was wrong and sn apology is needee because im sure they did not agree to go on the show to be attacked. However, her jumping on the "date" terminology, had me thinking about Sigmund Freud's theory almost immediately. maybe its my mind but it IS a little strange. sorry, but this is my opinon.

The people organizing the purity ball remind me of my own father.
I would not trust anyone of them.
My father always spoke of honour, doing the right thing, always citing quotes from the bible.
Later we found out that he molested my sisters when they were still children and in 2001 he (now 76 years old) finally ran away with his Russian secretary with whom he has 5 children.
Understandably, if a guy sais he wants only the best for his children, then I don't trust him.

Proper sexual education might be more interesting than this kind of balls put up by hypocritical fathers.
Caireann

wow,Tyra i watched the show last night on the "purity ball".i have so many comments & concerns.i think it's a great idea and in our world today very necessary.i wish i would have had this opportunity growing up. at 31 now, i know how hard life is growing up distant from your father. a girl's future is affected by the relationship she has with her father. it is the father's responsiblity to "Date" his daughter to show her how she is to be treated and respected. i believe that if more fathers were this active and concerned about their daughters, we wouldn't have as many teen mothers,runaways,drug addicts. fathers are responsible for protecting,providing,promoting and perserving. my prayer is for the young lady who shared her story,she needs true love,not sex because there is a difference. as christians,we are called to be different from others including the way we raise our children. we should not worry about others and their opinions but only about honoring God and obeying Him. as a christian,Tyra,my prayer is that you always remember,1 can't serve 2 masters,we are either on God's side,or we are His enemey.keep Jesus your focus and live your life to please Him and not others. you have been giving a platform to speak to millions and everyday you say something with your shows and comments. my question to you is are you loving God with your whole heart, soul and mind?Can the world see by the way you walk, talk, live and give that you are a believer and follower of Jesus Christ?May God continue to bless and keep you.Walk in truth,speak truth, live the truth.

Tyra,

I love watching your shows including ANTM. I would like to comment on ANTM. I think that Jenah was robbed because of who she is. Just because she is not clappy happy and grinning like a fool all day it does NOT make her an "unhappy" person. She has had a hard life for someone that young and to expect her to NOT carry it with her is just insane. Our experiences make us who we are for better or for worse. And I like Jenah, she is less frivolous than most girls. I am sorry to say that I felt you and the judges chose really poor candidates for your final 2. Salisha's hair cut does not suit her face and Chantal can't even sit still for more than 2 seconds. Jenah was "punished" because she said that she is "not a typical Cover Girl", I don't know what's wrong with that, some cover girls are too saccharine. She still did a banging shoot. I don't get your judges sometimes, they tell people to be "real" yet when it's not the right type of "real" they don't like it and it's taken against them. And Nigel Barker always creates such a fuss over nothing and his excuse is that models are always watched and observed on sets and backstage on shows, then how come their behavior is so bad? It's not really a deterrent and some of the stuff that he admonished your models for are just dumb (Caridee and Jenah). He should just just let it roll off his back and not be such a sissy. I feel for Jenah is because I see a lot myself in her. I am a happy person but it's not obvious because I am not clappy happy like your two finalists. And people always say that I have a "chip" on my shoulder when I really don't, I just have had some tough experiences in my life and I am a changed person for that and I am a better person. And I am very happy with where I am right now and I don't walk around grinning like a fool either. It does not make me bitter or unhappy!

I love you Tyra!

Hi Tyra,

I would like to first start off by saying that I truly enjoy watching your show everyday, this also includes ANTM. I think with your shows you have tried to give women their power back which is also evident through your T-Zone efforts. So, I was really disappointed with your reaction to the purity ball and the relationship the father's have with their daughters. There is absolutely nothing wrong with what these families are doing. I think that we are all so used to dysfunctional families that to see great families with WONDERFUL, not perfect dads is weird to us.. I think that you should really take a deep hard look inside and ask yourself WHY? Why was I so negative towards this idea. In addition, the word "date" is used all the time amongst girlfriends, buddies, etc.. I also went on "dates" with my dad..

Still Luv Ya Girl, just a little disappointed today.

Tyra, I recently watched the show on the purity ball and was very disappointed with how you tried to twist the guest words. I don't believe you listened to your guest and you tried to misconstrue their answers. I'm so glad to hear so many comments that agree with me. These families were modeling good examples and you were trying to tear them down with your words and the poor lenses you were looking with.
I applaud both families for being so loving on the show in the midst of your un-warranted critic. You made the show/ball about virginity and it clearly was not. How great to see a father loving his children and protecting them. Love shined brightly on the truth during your show and I was soooo impressed with the mothers, fathers and daughters on your show.
Cheers and many blessings to them!

May everyday of your life be filled with humble reflections on the many you inspire or hurt with your tongue. You have the power of life or death through your speech. My hope is that you use that power more wisely in the future.

* Wishing love would fill and engulf your heart daily.

Regards,
S

Hello Tyra, it is December 10th and I'm currently in Al Kut, Iraq. I turned on the TV tonight a caught the last 20 minutes of your show in-reference to the purity balls. I am a father with four children: two boys, one daughter and a foster child. My little princess is 7 years old. I feel father's should "date" their daughters. Now this term "date" isn't what society thinks, and ture fathers know what the this term means. I have been over here in Iraq for almost one year now. I see my children on a web camera almost everyday, but the one memory my daughter has is the time I took her on a "date" to dairy queen just before I left. I spoke with my daughter the other day and the one thing she could not wait to do, was to once again go for an ice cream "date". She advised me that she got a special gift certificate from the dentist for a free ice cream and she wanted to spend it on me and her. If I did not have this kind of relationship with her prior who knows what she would have done with the gift certificate. I feel if fathers don't have this kind of relationships with their daugthers, they will more than likely find some sort of relationship with some other male figure. God as made women and little girls in a very special way which requires a great deal of feelings and relationship qualities. Fathers need to be apart of these feelings throught their daughters lives. Thanks

I have to say I got really fired up with your reaction to the phraseology of '"dating" your daughter!' I grew up going on daddy-daughter DATES! My church has held "Daddy-Daughter Dances" with only the intent of quality Daddy and daughter time! (And for that matter, I don't think the Purity Balls have anything to do with religion, just good morals and daddy-daughter relationships.) Oh, how I am thankful for those dates! We had dates to the hardware store, to Wendy's, walks around the neighborhood, on real estate appraisals that my dad did...etc! I cherish those DATES! They've helped create an open and trusting relationship that my dad and I share. And I do think it's perverse how we have twisted the word "date" to have a sexual meaning! I mean, come on! Don't people say "I have a date with the dentist"? I am a 21 year old, straight woman and on SEVERAL occasions make plans with my "girlfriends" and say "It's a date!" or nonchalantly say "Let's make a date!" And it's never been questioned.
And the thing that FIRED me up the most is that you, Tyra, are always applauding women who are 25 or 30 or whatever and are still virgins! I love that... but then you obviously had a problem with the Purity Balls. Even IF it was about saving your VIRGINITY until marriage WHO CARES!? CONGRATS TO THEM! WE NEED MORE PEOPLE DOING EXACTLY THAT!
I love you and the way you have changed a lot of women's lives for the better, especially when it comes to body image and self-esteem, but I was extremely surprised by your obvious take on this.

Tyra twisted the "date" part..there is absolutely nothing wrong with a daddy-daughter date. I'm 19 and I grew up having these with my dad, there is nothing sick and twisted about it and there is nothing wrong with referring to it as a date in a public setting. Daddy-daughter dates are some of the best memories i have. Shame on you Tyra for making it sound like he was trying to get with his daughters. An apology should definately be made.

Tyra twisted the "date" part..there is absolutely nothing wrong with a daddy-daughter date. I'm 19 and I grew up having these with my dad, there is nothing sick and twisted about it and there is nothing wrong with referring to it as a date in a public setting. Daddy-daughter dates are some of the best memories i have. Shame on you Tyra for making it sound like he was trying to get with his daughters. An apology should definately be made.

I watched a re-run of the show about the purity balls tonight and I have to say I was disappointed in the obvious negative feelings that Tyra had towards the topic and the guests on the show, and I agree with alot of the comments that have already been posted. I have several things to add. It didn't appear to me that any of the girls were being "forced" to go have this magical cinderella time with their fathers. I don't recall there being a condition placed on any of the participants that they have to commit to staying a virgin or talk about their "sex life" with their fathers. I believe the whole point of the ball was a bonding between father and daughter and a public commitment by the fathers to be more than the proverbial breadwinner. If this show had aired 20-30 years ago, it wouldn't seem so "extreme" as Tyra put it. I think it just goes to show how low the morals of this country have become. I love the fact that the father used the term date in reference to special outings with his daughters. It will reinforce to them, when they start dating, what a date should really consist of...NO sex.

While I think encouraging self respect in girls is important what about purity for guys? No one says anything about that. Purity is always a virtue that is attributed with girls but if we want to really change things we should look at encouraging purity in both sexes.

While I think encouraging self respect in girls is important. However, what about purity for guys? No one says anything about that. Purity is always an virtue that is attributed with girls but if we want to really change things we should look at encouraging purity in both sexes.

Wow. I have to say that I am pretty disappointed in Tyra after watching the show about the Purity Ball. I feel like she wasn't listening to the main dad at all when he was talking about relationships. I think the purity ball is a great idea with a terrible name. It should be called the "Daddy/Daughter Dance" or something. It sounds to me like the focus isn't about a girl remaining "pure" til marriage, but a father building a positive relationship with his daughter.

Shame on Tyra for making this nice family out to be a bunch of extremists. There are families/fathers out there who try to control their daughters sex lives, but I don't think that was this case with the Wilkinsons.

Who would you rather have as a dad - Michael Lohan or the guy on today's show??

Don't knock the few good fathers we have in this country.

I enjoyed the show regarding the "Purity Ball". It's a great thing to see fathers stepping back up to the plate & taking responsibility for the proper rearing/upbringing of their daughters. Women really are the back-bone of a nation. Why? Because they are a child's 1st teacher starting with the 9 months she carries it and then she becomes (in most cases) the child's primary caretaker. So, if you have whorish,loose , moral-less women raising children then you will create a chaotic, moral-less society much like America is today. Keep up the good work "Purity Ball" dads. You are doing a great service to your country & to mankind.

I thought this show was absolutely terrible. What a sad world we live in where good fathers are portrayed as sick and disturbed. How sad that a father can't have a "daddy-daughter" date without it being sick. Its terrible that those women who chose to save their virginity are portrayed as weak, whereas in reality these women are the strong ones of our society. Its much harder to go against the norm than to follow the crowd. Overall, I thought this show was ridiculous.

I thought this show was absolutely terrible. What a sad world we live in where good fathers are portrayed as sick and disturbed. How sad that a father can't have a "daddy-daughter" date without it being sick. Its terrible that those women who chose to save their virginity are portrayed as weak, whereas in reality these women are the strong ones of our society. Its much harder to go against the norm than to follow the crowd. Overall, I thought this show was ridiculous.

As I watched the show I was not surprised at the reaction of the audience, we live in an environment where sex and nudity and perversion is celebrated. Young girls "go wild" and the world just smiles and says they are just having fun. Men and now young boys sell them for dollars on the streets of ever city in the world. Half the babies born in this country are born to young women who never see the babies dad again after the "one magical night". If a young woman knows that she is valued, that she is protected she does not have to settle for "baby I love you" in the back seat of a car with street trash. My granddaughters have never been to a Purity Ball, but their father, a respected retired serviceman has instilled all of these same values in them. They are strong confident young women who love their father, talk to him about anything, seek his advise, and counsel and know how they want to be treated by their future husbands and will settle for nothing less. One is in her second year of college and still a virgin and very proud of it. There is nothing creepy about this, it is how "We Believers in Christ" live. There is a saying, it goes like this...If you don't believe there is no explanation possible, If you do believe there is no explanation necessary. Oh! by the way in answer to the question about mother/ son relationships. I raised 4 sons and they learned how to open my door and pull out my chair when they were just little boys. Two of them are married and their wives and daughters are queens in their homes. So don't knock it because it comes from God.

As I watched the show I was not surprised at the reaction of the audience, we live in an environment where sex and nudity and perversion is celebrated. Young girls "go wild" and the world just smiles and says they are just having fun. Men and now young boys sell them for dollars on the streets of ever city in the world. Half the babies born in this country are born to young women who never see the babies dad again after the "one magical night". If a young woman knows that she is valued, that she is protected she does not have to settle for "baby I love you" in the back seat of a car with street trash. My granddaughters have never been to a Purity Ball, but their father, a respected retired serviceman has instilled all of these same values in them. They are strong confident young women who love their father, talk to him about anything, seek his advise, and counsel and know how they want to be treated by their future husbands and will settle for nothing less. One is in her second year of college and still a virgin and very proud of it. There is nothing creepy about this, it is how "We Believers in Christ" live. There is a saying, it goes like this...If you don't believe there is no explanation possible, If you do believe there is no explanation necessary. Oh! by the way in answer to the question about mother/ son relationships. I raised 4 sons and they learned how to open my door and pull out my chair when they were just little boys. Two of them are married and their wives and daughters are queens in their homes. So don't knock it because it comes from God.

As I watched the show I was not surprised at the reaction of the audience, we live in an environment where sex and nudity and perversion is celebrated. Young girls "go wild" and the world just smiles and says they are just having fun. Men and now young boys sell them for dollars on the streets of ever city in the world. Half the babies born in this country are born to young women who never see the babies dad again after the "one magical night". If a young woman knows that she is valued, that she is protected she does not have to settle for "baby I love you" in the back seat of a car with street trash. My granddaughters have never been to a Purity Ball, but their father, a respected retired serviceman has instilled all of these same values in them. They are strong confident young women who love their father, talk to him about anything, seek his advise, and counsel and know how they want to be treated by their future husbands and will settle for nothing less. One is in her second year of college and still a virgin and very proud of it. There is nothing creepy about this, it is how "We Believers in Christ" live. There is a saying, it goes like this...If you don't believe there is no explanation possible, If you do believe there is no explanation necessary. Oh! by the way in answer to the question about mother/ son relationships. I raised 4 sons and they learned how to open my door and pull out my chair when they were just little boys. Two of them are married and their wives and daughters are queens in their homes. So don't knock it because it comes from God.

As I watched the show I was not surprised at the reaction of the audience, we live in an environment where sex and nudity and perversion is celebrated. Young girls "go wild" and the world just smiles and says they are just having fun. Men and now young boys sell them for dollars on the streets of ever city in the world. Half the babies born in this country are born to young women who never see the babies dad again after the "one magical night". If a young woman knows that she is valued, that she is protected she does not have to settle for "baby I love you" in the back seat of a car with street trash. My granddaughters have never been to a Purity Ball, but their father, a respected retired serviceman has instilled all of these same values in them. They are strong confident young women who love their father, talk to him about anything, seek his advise, and counsel and know how they want to be treated by their future husbands and will settle for nothing less. One is in her second year of college and still a virgin and very proud of it. There is nothing creepy about this, it is how "We Believers in Christ" live. There is a saying, it goes like this...If you don't believe there is no explanation possible, If you do believe there is no explanation necessary. Oh! by the way in answer to the question about mother/ son relationships. I raised 4 sons and they learned how to open my door and pull out my chair when they were just little boys. Two of them are married and their wives and daughters are queens in their homes. So don't knock it because it comes from God.

I love the Tyra show by the way but I think that a father should not have a say in his Daughters sex life!!! And Keesha we really don't care about how Philippines live!! And I actually work with a couple from the Philippines and sorry honey they aren't like what you said!! Welcome to America!!!!

I just recently watched this show tonight and was a bit disturbed by the Purity Ball. I do agree that more fathers should be more involved with their daughters. I also believe that it is good to teach your children -- all of them -- about abstinence. It struck me as odd, however, that there were no boys involved in this ball. So, are the boys allowed to be un-pure? Can they go out and have sex? If so, with whom are they having sex? It's another double standard.

I think its away father's can interact with their daughters one on one.