After reading most of the comments, I realised I'm quite late for the posting. But Tyra I just want to tell you your show is not only being aired in USA. Your inability to keep a neutral stand shows your lack of understanding of what it means to be a talk show host. And the whole world can see that.

I was disgusted at how you and your audience tackled such a sensitive issue. The conservative people are not the narrow minded people here. You guys are. A simple sentence like "Going on a date with my daughters" raised such eyebrows. Yes I agree its not a normal term to use, but i do not think you are in any position to tell someone that its a bad phrasing. Come out of your narrow minded, popular culture and try and learn about how to respect other people's belief systems.

Personally, I do not think that purity ball is really important. If given an option, I will avoid going for it. But if its not doing any harm and people are going willingly for religious or other reasons. My question is WHAT IS THE HARM?? Just because its out of your norm that does not mean that they need to conform to your beliefs.

The other issue I want to raise is that, if you want to be a successful talk show host you need to learn how to listen. The 2 fathers kept on reiterating that the purity ball is not so much for pledging your virginity but its more about the fathers pledging to protect their daughters and keeping them safe. I guess you just went back to your point on it being about virignity to receive good ratings for the show. Well yea it did grab attention, but so many people are disappointed about the way you handled the situation.

I am usually apathetic about issues and do not comment on forums. But i was quite disturbed after watching the show today. It almost seemed as though you were advocating having sex before marriage. No i am not a conservative person but i have the sense to respect other peoples lifestyle choices. You are entitled to your beliefs but i guess being a successful talkshow host requires the ability to see the wider picture. Go learn from Oprah!

After reading most of the comments, I realised I'm quite late for the posting. But Tyra I just want to tell you your show is not only being aired in USA. Your inability to keep a neutral stand shows your lack of understanding of what it means to be a talk show host. And the whole world can see that.

I was disgusted at how you and your audience tackled such a sensitive issue. The conservative people are not the narrow minded people here. You guys are. A simple sentence like "Going on a date with my daughters" raised such eyebrows. Yes I agree its not a normal term to use, but i do not think you are in any position to tell someone that its a bad phrasing. Come out of your narrow minded, popular culture and try and learn about how to respect other people's belief systems.

Personally, I do not think that purity ball is really important. If given an option, I will avoid going for it. But if its not doing any harm and people are going willingly for religious or other reasons. My question is WHAT IS THE HARM?? Just because its out of your norm that does not mean that they need to conform to your beliefs.

The other issue I want to raise is that, if you want to be a successful talk show host you need to learn how to listen. The 2 fathers kept on reiterating that the purity ball is not so much for pledging your virginity but its more about the fathers pledging to protect their daughters and keeping them safe. I guess you just went back to your point on it being about virignity to receive good ratings for the show. Well yea it did grab attention, but so many people are disappointed about the way you handled the situation.

I am usually apathetic about issues and do not comment on forums. But i was quite disturbed after watching the show today. It almost seemed as though you were advocating having sex before marriage. No i am not a conservative person but i have the sense to respect other peoples lifestyle choices. You are entitled to your beliefs but i guess being a successful talkshow host requires the ability to see the wider picture. Go learn from Oprah!

I'm shocked to see so many people in the audience thinking so negatively about something so harmless. This proves how sad the world is now. The covenants are about fathers trying to do their best in helping their daughter. What's so wrong abt that? Although some could do perfectly fine w/o it, I don't see any harm but good to show ur love in more elaborate way, telling ur daughter u care. It also serves as a reminder to daughters to love their fathers like their mothers by being pure in body, mind and soul? It will be the greatest gift to parents.

Q1. Why pledge to father not to God?
The covenant is based on the Christian faith, so I'm very sure they do. Many of the kids know they are pledging to God too.

Q2. Why don't pledge to mothers?
Coz all the while mothers are greatly involved in children's lives. It's the fathers who's not. That's the main reason for the creation of such event.

Q3. What happens if the daughter wants to have sex before marriage?
If she's old enough (mental maturity is very subjective. Some mature at 18, some as late as 24), being the father, I will inform her the pros and cons and let her make her own decision. If she plainly wants to have sex for fun, I will tell her that's not right, especially when this covenant is based on the Bible. If she wants to have sex because of love. Then I'll ask if the guy is pressuring her for sex to prove her love. If so, I tell her he's a dangerous man. If not, I will tell her "be careful to fall into the trap of lust and not love. Be wise. No matter what's ur decision, I have no right to judge and I will still love u like before". If she is very young (say 12-16) and wants sex, I tell her, "Pls wake up ur idea!"

Q4. Girls seems to think purity ball is abt virginity though the covenant meant it more for fathers.
This is not a misinterpretation. It's a beautiful gift for their father's commitment. It's an initiative from the girls. You'll see this phenonmenon when girls (as young as 4) are overly exposed to explicit things. They tend to know what's sex at a tender age. Besides I see no harm but plenty of good to stay pure as long as one can. One should know premarital sex leads to STI, broken relationships, early marriages (usually leads to poverty and divorce), abortions...

Q5. The girls are too young to understand sex so they should not pledge.
First, the covenant is not abt pledging virginity. Second, if it's modified and virginity is involved, what harm does it make when u ask God and ur father to protect ur virginity when u're 8! If u please, u can give sex education before it and I mean telling her the real thing. Most likely she will be glad to stay pure. If she disagree, she needs help.

-FYI, I'm 21 female. I've a father who lives with me, but we have a very distant relationship. I don't resent coz I have a great mother to guide me but I think it will be good to have a closer relationship with my dad.

Why is everything a one size fits all answer. Isn't this ok for them to do if it works for them? I wish i would have had more of a relationship with my Dad.
Also, the people that I know that use the term date (which I can see where it could have bad connotations for some) really are ust trying to set the example up of how to treat a person of the opposite sex without the phsical touce. So much of dting is NOT physical but of course that's all that people see. Divorce happens as we never go beyond what a relationship is talking, treating another with respect, listening, etc. Do you know any marriages that could learn these lessons. I wish everyone could accept that we all might have different answers to life and it's not so cookie cutter for everyone!

Just saw your re-broadcast of the "Purity Ball" show. I'm a father of three daughters, a 13-yr old who doesn't live with me, a 21 yr old who is out on her own now, and my 8 yr old. Personally, I applaud the two families who started Purity Balls. I get that the fathers are pledging to their daughters and God that they will be good fathers, and that includes being examples of good providers, good supporters and good husbands to their wives. I believe a daughter who grows up in a household with that type of father is a confident daughter, a strong daughter, one who has self-esteem and independence. I DO believe a young girl who is raised solely by her mother can have all of those qualities, but I think the odds increase if a father, a good father, is involved in his daughter's life. There are so many examples in the world and in the media that applauds daughters doing things or living a lifestyle none of us would wish for our own. Shouldn't we support men and families who find ways, even if they are extreme that support the daughter, teach her strenght, self-esteem and confidence and shows her love?

Hello Tyra,
The reason I comment is congratulate you on the show “Purity Ball”. I believe that it was a wonderful show and a change from the promiscuous world we live in today. I am unaware whether you are spiritual or religious, but it is great to show younger girls that there are option in regards to their sexuality and virginity.
We are human being, not animals and we are capable of controlling our sexual urges. And to tell adolescents that they are going to have sex anyway and that protective sex is the only way is not accurate. We as a society, should not only put emphasis and center on safe sex, but we should also focus on abstinence and its benefits. In today’s society we scourge young males and females for practicing abstinence, we put pressure on them to readily get rid of that atrocious virginity. This could be seen in films such as “American Pie”, “40 year-old virgin” and “Superbad”.A lot of adolescents today are embarrassed to express to others that they are virgins, which is horrible. If a teen decides to practice chastity, purity, or abstinence it should not be seen as a negative thing. I am not saying that every youth should choose to practice abstinence, but the media should not scorn it and show the youth that is can be cool.
Overall, the show “Purity Ball” was great and very inspiring to people who are intending to stay pure for marriage. As a child I was never very religious or spiritual, but now as adult I have made peace with god and myself. I am a 29-year-old educated, female who is a virgin and is practicing chastity. However, I believe that you do not have to be very religious to practice abstinence and presenting that option to the youth is grand. With being pure, not only are respecting ourselves and making a promise to god, but at the same time we are protecting ourselves from STD’s and unwanted pregnancies—which is the only method that is 100% effective.
The only somewhat negative thing I found about that show was that I felt like your audience and yourself at times attacked the fathers. In one instance, you ask the parents why was the father in charge of protecting their daughters and not the mothers. I find it to be part of the fathers’ responsibility, for it is they are the ones who walk their daughter down the aisle and give their daughters hand in marriage. If we ask why the fathers and not the mother, we should also why is it customary for a father or male figure to walk the bride down the aisle and why can’t a mother do the same?
P.S. I really don’t expect you to read this comment or reply. I realize that you are a very busy person and you really don’t have time to reply to the viewers and the fans- who are the one primarily responsible in keeping your show afloat and on the air.

I object to the focus on "purity" altogether. I am not a religious person, but I still had plans to wait until marriage or at least a very serious relationship to have sex. Instead, I was date-raped at age 19. The guilt over the event (that comes in part from people suggesting that women who aren't virgins aren't pure) kept me from reporting the incident. MANY young women are pressured into having sex before they want to. It's one thing to celebrate women who want sex to be about more than the objectified physical act that is constantly promoted in the media, but suggesting that once a woman has had sex she is no longer "pure," helps no one.

who cares. just be a good dad and always be involved & you shouldnt have no problems. dads dont need a purity ball to raise there daughters the right way. i would think as long as you were an active involved parent then things will work itself out. there is no point in being possevive....

I was a little irritated by the way everyone jumped on the one dad because he used the word "date". He was using it as a metaphor not some creepy weird habit. We as parents have the responsibility to take our young men and ladies on "dates" to teach them appropriate behavior.
Why is it that we have to have this "free to be me" and do whatever feels good attitude?
Personally, I am the mom of 4, yes four boys, ages 22, 18, 13 and 8 and we have talked with all of them about saving themselves for the day they get married. What is wrong with that? Why is it some taboo subject to teach our kids about abstinence when they are "9"? Are we spending that much time on the certain sexual education the are getting at school, on the bus, on the playground? Personally, I am appalled that teachers think they can teach sex education better than I can. I wish they would leave that to the parents that want to do it themselves.
I was raised as a liberal woman who was given the gift to speak her mind. I am only realizing now that I want more than to climb the corporate ladder, the ability to bring home the bacon, the courage to burn my bra and have free love with whomever I want. Society said it was OK. I don't want my kids to endure the same pain that I grew up with as a result of my promiscuous lifestyle. I want my children to marry the woman they love and it be their first time. I am also a realist. I failed that road myself, but if I empower them with the ability to make better choices than I did there is the possibility that they will succeed at it.
I recently had the privilege of a couples story of their wedding day. They were 20 something kids, both raised in wonderful families and both vowing to save themselves for the day they got married. The day this young man married his bride was the first time they actually kissed. What a wonderful testament "covenant" to each other.
Let's empower our children with the ability to do better than the last generation did. Scripture speaks of the world we live in, we should not be surprised by it at all. But God has also given us the tools to use to make the changes. This world is rampant with sexual immorality, unwed parents, abortion and STD's at an all time high, it only makes sense to be a little "extreme".

I think that there are girls out there who want to pledge to be pure and fathers who want to help them remain that way is AMAZING! In today's society, it is really just a crying shame that so many people go out and have random sex with whoever they feel like, and I think it is absolutely wonderful that there are still young girls out there who value their relationships with their fathers and with Jesus Christ. I was in years watching this show because I was just so happy to see that not everyone in this world is so messed up and immoral and without values. I am 23 and haven't pledged purity in an official purity ball, however, I have vowed to keep my purity and my virginity forever because I do not want to get married and I don't believe in pre-marital sex, so therefore, I will never be having sex, and that is to honor the Lord, and myself because I think that people who go out and have sex unwed have no self-respect and don't care about having a relationship with and honoring a relationship to the Lord. I think its terrible that so many audience members chastised these fathers who only wanted to be there for their daughters and help them become honorable women with good morals and values and who only wanted to protect their daughters from the cruelty and evilness in the world around them today. I wish my 21 year old sister had pledged purity to ANYONE before she went out and basically ruined her life (I'm not going to go into any details.) But had she vowed to remain pure until marriage, she wouldn't be as miserable as she is today. More people need to be like the young girls on your show and realize that virginity is the most preciouis thing to have and that giving it away is the most sacred thing you could ever do and that sacred act belongs only in a marriage.

WOW. I read every comment. every word and I am right in the middle of this as we speak with my daughter. Im a single dad with full custody of my daughter. The mom is not in the picture for her daughter. She is hooked on bad things. My daughter is a honor student, well brought up and very into me. I am her world she says. As she is my air that I breathe. Im a man in every sense of the word but I sit here crying after I saw your show.. And IM the type that dont cry but this hit home.. I am GOING to take my daughter on a DATE and pledge my loyalty to her and take her hand with a ring and vow this to her. This was the most insightful thing I have ever thought about doing and i thought about this 3 years ago. Im going to wait until she has her first womanly cycle. We are a open family that discuess sex and boys and I am a very protective father.Im 35 she is 13. It is important for me to pledge this to her. we pledge alligience to the flag, we honor all the moms that work and take care of there families. WHY not honor the dads this way. your a very smart woman and you know from some of your shows and all the research you do alone that there are more broken homes and underage sex going on without the dad there then there is with a dad at home. I also commend the woman who spoke against it that she had a eating disorder. SHE WAITED TILL SHE WAS 24 yeah she got pregnant BUT she waited till she was 24 that is damn good. Yeah she jumped the gun so to say and got pregnant BUT she should of been a little more knowledgable that safe sex is not only the mans responsibility. Tyra I would come on your show if you ever have one regarding honoring the dads out there. I want to say to all the comments on this blog that the majority of you agree with this. I think that is awesome. We are worldly people and we need to step up. Almost to the point that we need a national awareness to these types of issues. Like a million dad march. We live in a time where we pawn off the raising of our children and as a dad i stepped up even before my daughter was born. She needs to learn to be a individual first and not rely on the false promises of the boys. As for one comment on here regarding the boys pledging purity. They SHOULD and if moms want to hold a DATE with their boys to show that. I empower you to do so. when is it ever not positive to express your views with someone you love. I would die for her. Though I must say moms have a natural ability to influence the good in our youth and they are the backbone of a family by all means of the word. Dads role is to protect and show the repercussions of ones actions and be the enforcers of the family.As for you boys. take responsibility and treat woman with respect. they are the most important things on this worldy earth. All woman are to be loved and respected.Dont abuse them and they will be loyal to you forever. AND NO MEANS NO.

WOW. I read every comment. every word and I am right in the middle of this as we speak with my daughter. Im a single dad with full custody of my daughter. The mom is not in the picture for her daughter. She is hooked on bad things. My daughter is a honor student, well brought up and very into me. I am her world she says. As she is my air that I breathe. Im a man in every sense of the word but I sit here crying after I saw your show.. And IM the type that dont cry but this hit home.. I am GOING to take my daughter on a DATE and pledge my loyalty to her and take her hand with a ring and vow this to her. This was the most insightful thing I have ever thought about doing and i thought about this 3 years ago. Im going to wait until she has her first womanly cycle. We are a open family that discuess sex and boys and I am a very protective father.Im 35 she is 13. It is important for me to pledge this to her. we pledge alligience to the flag, we honor all the moms that work and take care of there families. WHY not honor the dads this way. your a very smart woman and you know from some of your shows and all the research you do alone that there are more broken homes and underage sex going on without the dad there then there is with a dad at home. I also commend the woman who spoke against it that she had a eating disorder. SHE WAITED TILL SHE WAS 24 yeah she got pregnant BUT she waited till she was 24 that is damn good. Yeah she jumped the gun so to say and got pregnant BUT she should of been a little more knowledgable that safe sex is not only the mans responsibility. Tyra I would come on your show if you ever have one regarding honoring the dads out there. I want to say to all the comments on this blog that the majority of you agree with this. I think that is awesome. We are worldly people and we need to step up. Almost to the point that we need a national awareness to these types of issues. Like a million dad march. We live in a time where we pawn off the raising of our children and as a dad i stepped up even before my daughter was born. She needs to learn to be a individual first and not rely on the false promises of the boys. As for one comment on here regarding the boys pledging purity. They SHOULD and if moms want to hold a DATE with their boys to show that. I empower you to do so. when is it ever not positive to express your views with someone you love. I would die for her. Though I must say moms have a natural ability to influence the good in our youth and they are the backbone of a family by all means of the word. Dads role is to protect and show the repercussions of ones actions and be the enforcers of the family.As for you boys. take responsibility and treat woman with respect. they are the most important things on this worldy earth. All woman are to be loved and respected.Dont abuse them and they will be loyal to you forever. AND NO MEANS NO.

The purity ball was portrayed in the show as if the fathers were trying to protect their daughter's virginity rather than purity. Yes, while some girls chose to remain abstinent during this event, it was not the primary basis and role of the purity ball. The purity ball and covenant is more the fathers promising to be a guide for the daughters in a world that is full of trials and tribulations. It is about the relationship, based on love, between a father and daughter. One father explained his covenant to his daughter as him promising to be the best he can for her and that he would always love her and be there for her, no matter what. As a 19, and 18 year old, both raised in public school settings, we know the amount of pressure and the troubles that fill that world, all these fathers are trying to do is create a loving environment where their daughter can run and feel the love and warmth of unconditional love. There is nothing wrong with these fathers trying to be an example for their daughters, loving them, and signing covenants promising to be an example and protecting their purity. At the end of the show it was said that purity balls and clothing lines were extreme. However in reality, they are not. Just because abstinence and purity is not a common choice among people today does not mean that the purity ball and clothing lines are extreme measures. They are merely uncommon because they are promoting a lifestyle that has become the underdog. The idea of a father daughter dance is not a bad or immortalizing idea, in fact, Girl Scouts engage in this dance annually. It is just a time for a father and daughter to dance, and have fun, like the purity ball. Just because fathers are promoting abstinence and purity does not make them creepy and it should not produce shudders. They are merely trying to protect their daughters from a selfish world in which many people live caring only about themselves. These fathers are very commendable and just want to be part of their daughter’s life, is this really that bad?

I am a mother of three teenagers, one girl and two boys. I am also married to their father, a wonderful man. We openly talk about our expectations for all of them to remain pure until marriage and why it is important that they do so. My daughter and husband have a close relationship, and he gives her the "real" of what guys think and say about the girls. He constantly asked her the question; "What is it that you want them to say about you?" Yes, dads should "date" their daughters. My daughter has an expectation that the door be open for her, that her chair be pulled out to seat her,etc. But also, she learns what is expected from her in the way of manners, conversation, personal presentation, etc. Just as my daughter is taught this by her dad; I take the responsibility in teaching our sons. We have not allowed worldly views and societal "norms" to raise our children. We have chosen to raise our children on purpose and with purpose!

I think this is a wonderful idea because I'm a father of two little girls, ages are two and five months.This is not a battle of the sexes thing here, it's a guideline or a syllabus on how a man should treat a woman. Fathers are their daughters first boyfriend in life so for a father to say, "I'm taking my daughter out on a date" is perfectly fine because women tend to choose a man with the same qualities of their fathers. The word "DATE" is being misused in thr first place. Dating is like going on an interview for a job. People date to see if the other person is compatible for them just like an employer interview a possible employee.I'm 27 and I wish I would've waited til I was married before I had sex. God's plan was for both parties to be pure so they would'nt know if its was good or not.It was for both parties to become one.Each time you have sex witha person a little of your spirit is deposited in that person and thats why relationships are so jacked up nowadays.To make a long story short if all women chose to keep their purity until they were married what will it inturn make men do(Keep It Positive) be pure as well because women really do chave the power when it comes to sex. Thanks for reading my thoughts.

tyra,
i am 15 years old, and i am a believer in remaining a virgin until marriage. However, i do not agree with this thing called a "purity ball." Yes, fathers should have a realy good relationship with their daughthers because it shows girls how they should be treated by boys and men. However, daughters should not be pledging their virginity to their fathers they should be pledging it to god and their future husbands. Futhermore, since when do sons pledge their virginity to their mothers? Never heard of that. Purity balls are just proving that girls are still treated differently than boys.

I myself am a sixteen year old, and I see girls dropping out of school in their freshman and sophomore years! That is ridiculous! I do think that having a relationship with your father is a great thing, and if more young women had a relationship with their dads, then maybe they would see how a man should treat them and would have better morals and would have more self respect.
Tyra, I thought that you of all people would encourage the actions that these fathers are taking to build long lasting relationships with their girls. Do you think it is okay for girls to be having sex at young ages like twelve or thirteen? I'm not saying that as young women we HAVE to wait till we are married, but staying pure as long as possible is a great goal, and the fathers should be commended.

I was deaply moved by this show and how it seemed as if fathers were being viewed in a negative light for actually taking part in their daughters lives. My oldest brother actually took my neice out for dinner and gave her a ring that signified a pleague of purity which my family thought was wonderful because her father was not involved in her life. The purpose of the dinner was not just to focus on her purity but to show her how a man should treat her when she is asked to go on a date or what to expect. It also taught her a great deal of responsibility. Although there are cases where this sort of thing could be taken out of context but, in all actually our young women need some male guidance in there lives and most people really need to get their mind out of the gutter.

Tyra does not care and she have no time to read all comments here, this is ONLY A WASTE OF TIME... go purtiy balls go !!! 100% a believer of it. Does Canada have one of those party , if not , I will start one up !

I want to say THANK YOU for portraying this practice in a realistic light. It is scary to me that a father would take a pledge to keep his daughter "pure." Though the concept of women as sexual property is present in the stories of the Bible, these were written down centuries ago and that idea has since then mostly been crushed, at least in this country. I'm not saying that these fathers are having sexual relationships with their daughters. I'm also not saying that I am opposed to father-daughter events, nor do I think they are inherently bad in any way. However, the idea that it is a father's duty to watch over the virginity of his daughter until she is ready to be married and give her virginity to her husband is frankly a little degrading. Or have we decided that all a woman is good for is her "purity?"

Well I can say that I was actually surprised to see this show. WOW!!!!!! I think that these balls are great and encourage teens to stay pure until they get marry. I couldn't understand what the big deal was. The bible says that we live in this world, but not to be part of it. that is exactly waht these teens and their parents are doing. Sometimes we have the nerves to ask why is society the way it is. But is because we become part of the changes that are around us. We are so worry about fitting in that we forget that we can make a difference if we learn to be differen. I was surprised that the audience and you Tyra were so surprised about the word date. I looked up the definition and this is what it said "an appointment for a particular time" As you can see when we are ignorant and not knowledgeable we can misenterpret things. The bible also said that God's people are lost because of the lack of knowledge. Just as the same way how a girl from your audience ask the why do 8 and 9 year old girls need to make these commitments. The answer is simple. Take a look around you girls are getting pregnant are young ages. My question would be why does a 4 or 5 year old is asked what they want to be when they grow up if they don't even know themselves. Well because we as parents what for them to dream big since little. You can expect to talk to your kids about being pure at 16 or 18 We need to do it since they are little. Now that also makes me wonder why is it ok for a girl to learn at school how to put on a condom and how to protect themselves. and is not ok for a PARENT to teach them to stay pure. WOW!!!! society can wash your brain if you let them and from watching the show I can see how brain washed people are. These ball are not an extreme. This is what every family should be doing because that is what God wants from us. We have forgoten about our Creator adn taht is why this world is so lost. We say is our body we can do whatever we want with it. But the truth is that it does not belong to us, if it did we would be able to keep it forever. We have no control over our lifes. All i can say is that i'm very proud of the parents and the girls for standing up against all odds. This takes to WWJD (What would Jesus DO) I know it would be the same thing. Because that is exactly what he did when he spoke about the gospel.So next time you do a show similar to this one. Please inform yourself and don't be so hard on people just because you don't agree with their beliefs. God bless

WOW! I have to say that I love your shows. and that when I was changing the channels and saw what you had in your show I was very impressed since I thought you were actually encouraging teens to be pure, to have these relationships with their daughter. YOU know sometimes we ask ourselves why is society the way it is? The answer is because we are blinded by our customs. You know the word of God says that you live in this world but not to be part of it. And that is exactly what these teens are doing witht their fathers. I was also surprised when the audience and you Tyra were so offended with the word "date" If you read the definition you will see that is not related to just sex. 1)an appointment for a particular time. One of the people in the audience said why do 8 and 9 year old girls need to know about sex and why should they promise staying pure until marriage if they are so young. the answer is so simple because we see that girls are being sexually active at a very young age. and why should a 3 year old baby be asked what he wants to do when he grows up if he is not there yet. Same thing because you have to teach and feed your child with knowledge since young so that when they are grown

WOW! I have to say that I love your shows. and that when I was changing the channels and saw what you had in your show I was very impressed since I thought you were actually encouraging teens to be pure, to have these relationships with their daughter. YOU know sometimes we ask ourselves why is society the way it is? The answer is because we are blinded by our customs. You know the word of God says that you live inthis world but not to be part of it. And that is exactly what these teens are doing witht heir fathers. I was also in surprised when the audience and you Tyra were so offended with the word "date" If you read the definition you will see that is not related to just sex. 1)an appointment for a particular time. One of the people in the audience said why do 8 and 9 year old girls need to know about sex and why should they promise staying pure until marriage if they are so young. the answer is so simple because we see that girls are being sexually active at a very young age. and why should a 3 year old baby be asked what he wants to do when he grows up if he is not there yet. Same thing because you have to teach and feed your child with knowledge since young so that when they are grown

I think the idea of the purity ball was great. There is nothing wrong with the dad using the term “DATE.” These dads are preparing their daughters for the reality of the world. If dad shows them how a woman should be treated then they will know that they don’t have to settle for anything less. A dad taking his daughter on a date, showing her how a lady should be treated is the best thing for a young girl. For those that don’t know any better of course the term ‘date’ may seem weird. This type of treatment will allow the girls to not be surprised or have their breath taken away when some random man does it. They will already know what it is like to be treated well and this thing won’t be foreign to them. Not saying that all the girls participating in the purity ball will keep themselves but it is a good start. Sure there are young ladies out there that did not have a father figure and still chose to keep themselves. The girls participating in this ball will learn to appreciate the father figure and authority in their lives. This is not too extreme. What is wrong with a father and daughter setting aside a day once a year and making it special? This gives the family something to look forward to. As for the lady who said she regrets taking part in preserving herself, that’s her own personal issue. Everyone is no perfect. We all have feelings and it is a part of being human. Keeping yourself until marriage is the right thing to do. It’s just like if a person needed money and wanted to rob a bank. This person knows that it is wrong to do that however, you will feel less than perfect because you are having thoughts of doing something wrong. The parents are not putting too much pressure on these girls. More girls need parents like this. There was a comment about 8 or 9 being too young to know about sex and I know for a fact that it’s not true. These fathers have shown there daughters that they should be treated as the princesses they are. As for the oath, we take oaths everyday. We you get married you are taking an oath to honor this other man, you take a oath when you agree to take a job and fulfill the requirements. This is a life lesson to these girls and an opportunity to give them responsibility. I feel sorry for the people that think this is wrong. Christians are always wrong according to the world because we are trying to do whats right. We will all see in the end.I think Tyra is no better than a tabloid. I have watched many shows and it seems like all she wants to hear is the gossip. She digs deep into questions the guest may not want to focus on and its noticeable. If it continues this show won't be around too long.

I think purity is extremely important, as a 16 year old girl i strive to stay pure, but i think its really weird that these girls are pledging this with their dads.. it almost seems as if the dads have programmed this into their childs head and that their child has no option. My parents taught me what God thinks is right but they never forced me to believe anything. I have established my own personal morals and beliefs.