I think is great to have good friends but we don't own them. If there are two friends atracted to the same guy and he decides to go for the one he really likes, there should not be a problem because he has the right to make his own decisions. It is wrong to tell a person, "oh, don't look at that one, it is mine"

hi tyra i love your show and mostly love your style, how do i get to go on your show i would really like to see you theyre

Hey Tyra,
First of all your show is amazing. I absolutely admire you for everything from your part in coyote ugly to all the help you give women across the world.
Im 20 years old and i live in a small town where everybody knows everybody's business. I did a few things while i was in high school that im not too proud of myself for but at the time they seemed justified.
I graduated 2 years ago and i was still seeing my high school sweetheart up until september of last year. Even though he had a new girlfriend that didnt stop him from calling me so you can imagine the history we had.
Recently there was a fake myspace made in mockery of myself degrading my family, my friends and myself. i know who did it but i cant prove it and it really gets to me that after all that time someone can hold a grudge and do such a horrible thing.
They put things on there that are very hurtful and sent it to everybody on my friends list. As you can imagine I'm very broken up about it and my boyfriend wants to retaliate physically on the person responsible. I dont know what to do. Do i call the police for defamation of character or slander or do i let my boyfriend do what he seems fit?
I'd really appreciate it if you could answer any of my questions to help me and other girls like me who hve been thru something similar.

Thank you so much for being the person you are!

sincerely,
richelle

Well, I have had my share of so-called friends but I think this time I got hurt the most. I am down to one friend because the ugly two-faced monster took over the other one's minds.
But the good thing is that I realized that one best friend, a very important boyfriend and God is all that I need in my life. If it is meant to be that way then it will be just that and I will someday get my crown of gold.

God Bless and Much love to everyone.
Love,
KayLa

Hi Tyra

Well my so called friend...wow! I met my ex husband thru her and she was always around. She had a few problems where she was living so I invited her into our home. I was pregnant at the time. When my son was a week old I went to my mother..first time mom. Well while I was gone she slept with my ex-husband. I was hurt #1 he was my husband #2 my son was a week old and #3 friends dont do that. I later found out that they were getting high off of crystal meth (which was a big probelm between my husband and I...he was tryin to quit). So I felt like the good that I did to help her was reversed and she was very ungrateful. I never spoke to her again. I am now divorced and very happy. But it was a learning experience. Follow your gut feeling always.

I had a "best friend" if you can call her that anymore. If it seems that I sound bitter, guess again; i'm more hurt than bitter. Let me first say, it was NEVER about a guy it was about the known rules between girls. Okay, so let me begin telling you the tale of a "best friend" gone WRONG.

She was a great friend, we were there for each other for the great times and a lot of the bad. I was there for her when she had to deal with a terrible ex-boyfriend and she helped me when I was at my lowest moment and considered suicide, but she just dropped me without even saying why. During our friendship I always felt that she was trying to buy my friendship, what kind of person does that? Then I figured it out, the guilty kind of person.

It all started when I was talking to this guy that I didn't even know. He was just an email buddy that meant nothing to me. Of course I found him attractive, but who cares. When we decided to meet, I wanted her to be there in case he was an axe murderer. She said she would and we met him at the local coffee house. At first it was okay, she stayed on the side and just read a book. It started to get weird when we all went out to eat. It may seem that I should have saved that for another time, but he was leaving and we were all hungry. We went out to eat and from previous nights out I said I was uncomfortable with her drinking because she acts differend, plus the fact that she was my D.D. and she always ends up drunk. Needless to say, she ended up drinking and acting a fool. But even before that, me and this guy were talking and all the sudden she says "i'm cold" and sits in between me and this guy. What kind of friend does that? I would never block my friends game, but I guess that's just the way I act. Anywho, she got more buzzed and got out of her seat and started giving him a back rub. What the "F" is that? I asked her, "what are you doing?" She said nothing and told me I looked nice this evening. Okay, that was odd. Because she was drunk like usual when we go out and I wasn't able to drive, the guy took it upon himself to drive us to his house. Sounds fishy, doesn't it? When we were at his house, she goes right to his bedroom and lays on his bed. In my view, only prostitutes and straight up skanky girls do that. I noticed that he was paying attention to her more and so when he left I told her, "he probably likes you." What did this skank say..."You don't know that, he's talking to you too." Ugh, okay hooker. It all fell to crap when she gave him her number and I was in the room. This is the girl that EVERYONE talks about because of how dirty she is, but I saw someone different and had her back. Boy, was I wrong and got stabbed to prove it. The guy was leaving for some show he is trying to start, and we all said bye.

Don't think the story is over because something horribly strange happened, I told her that I didn't care if she wanted anyone else but just don't touch that one. I even had a dream that night that she swooped him up and text her, "please not that one." Isn't that weird? It's like I knew what was going to happen.

A while had passed and my friend was not answering my calls or calling me back. One night, out of the blue she finally called me and wanted to go do my favorite thing in the whole world...the batting cages. She took me out to dinner and then to the cages, but on the way home she said she wanted to tell me something. I said to just tell me, because not saying "I want to tell you something, but you might get mad" makes me curious and a bit angry already. The little conversation went like this:

Her: Do you remember that guy?
Me: Huh? What guy?
Her: You know the one that we met at the coffee shop.
ME: Oh yeah. What about him?
Her: Well, he's been calling me.

Okay, hold up. Already she tries to put blame on someone else but herself. You have a choice and I guess that meant to hurt your friend and pick up the call and keep talking to some guy instead of considering how your "best friend" would feel. So she goes on telling me that he basically calls her all the time and they talk. I had it, I told her not to touch that one. I don't even really care, it was just the fact she couldn't even own up to this whole situation. It wasn't about the guy, it was the fact I had to tell someone who is my "best friend" not to touch that guy. I gave a warning that I knew she would break. If she really liked him, she should have come to me a long time ago. Instead she hid it and blamed him for calling her.

She always had a way of making me feel like the ugly, fat one that nobody will want. She always has to keep reminding me and any guy that is talking to me that she is SO small. Yeah, I was jealous...but what kind of friend makes you feel bad about yourself? So, she dropped me off at home and I just cried. I cried because this is the girl that was my "best friend", we said we love each other and would never hurt one another. What a crock of crap! In the end she's with that guy and has yet to say she is sorry for hurting me. She couldn't even get the balls up to call me after that day, just to talk to me. Our friendship meant nothing and this new guy means everything. If I hurt my "best friend" I wouldn't just leave her hanging and crying for weeks. I would have called her, or even showed up at her house to tell her how much I was sorry...but wait a minute, thats the way I would deal with things. The way she treated me and just dropped me without a good-bye or sorry, that shows me I meant nothing to her. I read in a blog of hers and she blames me for making her sad. She basically said that I was a crappy friend and put too much of my depression on her. I may have spoken about my things with her, but she can never say I wasn't there for her too. I even told her, "If I make you feel sad, TELL ME." Instead she just kept me in the dark and kept making me feel worthless. I am hurt and angry, but part of me still misses the girl that I was friends with.

So, readers of this story...you don't have to tell me anything. You can think what you want of me, but at least I got my story out. This "thing" that happened has but me in the bad light because all the mutual friends I had with her, basically dumped me too. I learned that I can't trust anyone and to keep my mouth shut. It seems harsh and I do have a lot inside, but how would you feel if the person you trusted for so long throws it in your face that you are crazy and the reason for making her life a wreck. I hope that none of you will ever feel the pain of losing your self-worth, self-respect, confidence, and your "best friend". I let her do that to me, I let her rip me apart and make me feel guilty. What do I think of her now? As one of my friends said, "she's dead in my eyes" and I hope that she has something like this happen to her. People talk about karma, but I have yet to see things happen to the people that have hurt me. So, I do what all burned people do...deal with it, move on, and start a happy life. Because the one thing that hurts the hurter is when you don't let them get to you and live a happy life.

Too bad that Tyra is moving to N.Y.C., I would have loved to meet her or talk to her. I have mad respect for someone that doesn't let any hurt show and walks tall and proud. I hope to be like that one day, until then I show them no fear and live life. Only behind closed doors do I let my true emotions show.

I met my ex best friend my freshman year in high school. We were unseperatable, we went everywhere together and she was the one person I KNEW I could trust.. She would do anything for me whether it came to sticking up for me, helping me with my problems, or just go shopping with me. She was someone I could truly call my best friend.
In the middle of our junior year a bunch of drama happened with this guy and her family and she had to move to tennessee. I was devastated, but we still stayed being best friends...
My senior year her and her new boyfriend came to visit me and it was great, she even suprised me by coming and spending the weekend with me when I graduated from high school. I was so happy she was my best friend and was still here for me. Not too long after I graduated I went down to tennessee (where she lived) and spent a week with her. I talked her into coming back down to Alabama (where i lived) with me to go to one of our friends 18th birthday party.. she came.. and she ended up meeting back up with one of her ex boyfriends..everything went downhill from there.. to make a long story short, she left me for that boy. I think its so wrong because I thought you were supposed to choose your friends (at least your best friends) over your boyfriend.. But that didn't happen. She tried blaming everything on me saying that it was my fault we're not friends anymore but she's the one who chose him over me. People have told me she still wants to be my friend..but she really hurt me.. I dont know what to do...

i used to have two best friends. one while i was in high school and one i met after i had graduated and moved to rochester. the one from high school got so involved with her boyfriends she made NO TIME for anyone else, except her boyfriend's friend's. so i talked to her about it and she blew me off. then my other best friend i had, was very jealous. But i didn't find this out until after i had spilled everything out to her, then when i broke up with my ex-boyfriend, she took my past and everything i had told her and threw it in my face. spead it all around plus more that wasn't even close to the truth! she made up rumors and tried really hard to ruin what i had bulit there in rochester. so i told her off then cut her off and she couldn't understand why i didn't wanna be friends with her anymore and tried telling me that she did all that because i wasn't paying enough attention to her, and because she was jealous of my relationship with my ex. but i told her it was WAY to late! and she had just proven to me what kind of person she REALLY was, and that was the end.
and ever sense then i've stood my ground and haven't talked to her even after she's tried hard. but I'm not going to let someone like that into my life again!

hey tyra
the thing is that the bad friend in this case is me i stopped talking to my best friend because i didnt like her boyfriend because he talked about her behind her back and when they were together he was a different person.and also he broke up with her about 4 times and when he wanted to get back together he just said he didnt mean to break up and she always bought it he also made her stop wearing make-up and didnt let her talk with any of our friends because he said she didnt need us cuz she had him now.well i told her to open her eyes and to see that he was just playing with her and she said that it was OK that she loved him and that it didnt matter so since then our friendship wasnt the same because she was a completely different person.
right now they been together for almost 3 years
and we havent talked for a year now she has tried to talk to me but i just dont have anything to say to her
i just feel really bad that she doesnt see whats happened to her and i really miss her but once i have her in front of me all can think about is him and how shes changed and it just hurts me so much.and i do want to get our friendship back but its not
as easy as it sounds.tyra should i give up on her completely or should i keep looking for my best friend that i know is still in there?

I have a "friend" called margaret. WE always have fights, even if its not my fault, i know the value of a friendship and always beg for forgiveness. I'm there when she's feeling sad, and we share our innermost secrets. But when she's with her older sis and her friends, i'm totally ignored and i have the feeling she is doing it on purpose. She has lied to me about so many stuff, but i never made a big deal out of them, but why she hurts me on purpose....i don't know. I feel really hurt by these things. She doesn't know her actions really do hurt me cuz i act all hard core. She acts like this tough bully but i'm not intimidated by her, many people are however. I don't see whats on the outside, i see whats on the inside. I try not to judge people. It just hurts me to know this friendship cannot be salvaged with the direction its going in and i really hate that. Margaret if you ever read this, i'm sorry, but you know what you did to me was wrong, i have forgiven you, as always, but i cant taker this anymore, and if you do this to me again, i'm sorry, but we can no longer be friends. Why would a friend want to hurt another human being the way you did to me at that party? You always brag about how bad you are and how *itchy you are, and now i'm starting to see it. If you ever do the same thing you did to me in the party to any other human being, BURN IN HELL. I TRULY believe you are th DEVIL!!!!

Hey tyra

I'm heartbroken. I come from klenya and live in the U.S> cuz my mother is an international lawyer and we have to move with her. I just graduated the 8th grade and my best friend for 3 years had a fight. It was a dumb fight. In my school library, we are assigned seats. Me and my other friends were put in the front and ericka, my bff, was put in the back. I was passing notes with my other friends and she felt left out so she stopped talking to me. I apologized a gazzillion times. I told her all my secrets, but i wasnt worried cuz we've had many fights before but we always made up. However, this time it was different. She made up rumours about me and all my other friends believed them. I was still willing to forgive ericka, she was my bff, i loved her like a sis. My parent even treated her like flesh and blood, but things were never the same. I called her every day to apologize, but she didnt listen. I was so sad and angry at the same time. It felt like someone i knew and tryusted for years just died. We are still talking but things are never the same. We are about to move to another country and i wish we had stayed friends so that we could still keep in touch. WE swore no matter what fight we had we would be bffs 4ever, but i guess no matter how sorry ui am, i would never have traded the past 3 years for anything. I value those years like i value my own life. Ericka, if yopu ever read this, i'm sorry and goodbye...

Heyy tyra i LOVEEEE ur show i try to watch as much as i can the funny thing is i always see the camercials for the next show an di have this paper FILLED with notes saying watch tyra monday at 11:00 like for 2 weeks straight hee hee anyways ilu and i loved my best friend but she turned on me wen another gurl moved in next door. i was her only friend and wen she was with another friend she would hate me and i hated her SOOO much but i learned to forgive her but then she was saying mean things to me so i havent forgived her sence! also im still trying to look for tht page were i tlk to u ?? also i saw the show were people were calling u fat and tyra ur NOT fat ur verry skinny in a good way! im glad ur a modle who cares and tht americans next top wabble was verry mean !! anywho i look up to u as an idol u inspire me u make me feel alot more happy about myself because every day of school wen i took the bus home from school ppl would say i am fat and like sence im small they say go eat a big mac u fat miget and i dont even like mc donalds and it rly hurts my feelings and im happy tht the kids who said it graduated but yes bye

First I want to say that I really love your show and I think you are a great role model and have a very positive message. That is very much appreciated in today's society. Well, here goes; I met my best friend in first grade and we became inseperable. We would walk to each others house and do everything possible. He was a boy so I couldn't spend the night or anything but it was okay because we had the days, school and hour long bus rides. Anyway, when we started middle school he started really noticing girls and I got a little jealous. It wasn't horrible until high school when we really started to grow apart. He was my only guy friend and the only guy that gave me attention outside of my family. To this day I've never had a boyfriend. Anyway, the summer before our Junior year in High School, I was going to move so I thought I would give him a piece of my mind, move and be done with him. I started to tell people that I thought he was annoying and that I didn't want to be his friend anymore. I was hurt and later realized that I loved him as many friendships go between girls and guys. Then I moved 1500 miles away. Well, we ended up moving back a couple of months later for financial reasons. He didn't really go to church anymore and had started going to Running Start at the local college so he wasn't at school either. I felt horrible. I wrote him letters and tried to call and apologize but we've never talked about it. I've seen him a couple of times and had the usual small talk but I moved again from WA to AZ before senior year. He doesn't respond to my apologies or attempts to mend maybe some of our friendship but he does have me as a "friend" on myspace so... I learned a huge lesson from my stupid mistake but I just wish he would talk to me so I know how he feels (well, probably awful). He was the best friend I've ever had and I miss him so much and I just want to hear his voice again and know that he's ok. He also
"came out of the closet" when I moved the first time and I was devastated. I hadn't been there to talk him through it even though I knew that it wasn't true (don't ask, it's just not. He is such a ladies man and he knows it :) and recently, three years later, is saying that he is bisexual. I just want to be there for him and let him know that I still love him. I was always the one that supported him when even his family wasn't there for him and I let him down. I think about him every day and how much I screwed up and how much I miss him. It's been almost four years since I have really talked to him and I don't think I can move away from that until I hear from him. I've never really told anyone that story in it's entirety and I haven't really replaced his best friend status because he has a special place in my heart. Anyway, thanks for listening. :)

Hey, I just graduated from high school and I have had the same friends since elementary schoool. Well, in 10th grade I became sick with anorexia and my friends abandoned me. Then, they came back when I wasn't so gaunt and I confronted one of my old best friends on why she left me and she told me that she didn't know how to deal with me being sick. After that, things went back to relatively normal until this summer. A group of me and 4 other girls always hung out until in a matter of a month, they forgot about me, didn't care and disrespected me 3 times. First, we went to stand in line at harry potter 7 for 6 hours and when my other friend and I went and got a drink, they FORGOT about us and got a book without us and left us to wait by ourself and didn't even appologize. Then, they planned a 2-day camping trip and neglected to tell me about it! THEN, i found out that they did something together (that we ALWAYS did together) without me because I was on vacation and didn't tell me until it slipped out accidently. When I confronted them on this stuff, they didn't even acknowledge my feelings! ugh I don't understand why after 10 years my "friends" don't even consider or care about me.

Hi Tyra,
Last year I was going out with someone for two years and it wasn't going anywhere and I wanted more out of what he wanted. I would always talk to my bestfriend about my problems like most of us do. So one day I wanted to go back to college and get my dergee and he did not support me but I still went back. Things got bad with him and you know I'm still talking to my bestfriend on this. Alot of things went on, to make the story somewhat short. During all of this my bestfriend got save and I'm save too,however going to school and working and my partner is not supporting me and like some of us do we still telling us what to do (bestfriend). So I have my eye on someone in class that I like that want something out of life like I do. But before I go on, I told my pantner before I started back to college I no longer wanted to be with him. Now again I told him I no longer want to be with him. Everything start getting bad I left him so he started calling my bestfriend telling her all of these things that wasn't true. So she came to me with things that I did not like she said something that I felt that she is my bestfriend and she should know me better than what he was telling her about me, she started talking to him and listening to him. Than she told me that she feel that she is in the middle of this and she is save and that she don't want no more of this she is tried of him calling. So at this time I'm tried of all of this so I went off on her because I felt that she should have been on my side not his. So right now we are not friends at all, alot of things happen that is just some of it. Don't get me wrong I think about her alot I even called one time to talk to her to let her know how I feel but I was unable everytime I think about it I get mad, I'm still mad and hurt. Our friendship ended like that when I called her she did tried to talk like I said I'm still mad and hurt before she got off the phone she stated I'm still her friend but to me she not. When things got really bad ending with him I felt she turn her back on me when I really need her. Thats Life!!

hi Tyra,
Me and my friends have been tight for a while and all i do is keep screwing up. I keep ditching them for other people and i dont know why. I have been so stressed out lately and they say i have changed. That im not the same old person any more and i have changed for the worse. i mean they asked me to come over i said yes then i ditched them to hang out with one of my other friends. Then when they ignore me i feel like crap and its my own fault. im depressed half the time now and thongs arent looking to good for me. I need some advice and some quickly. Will u please help me???

My story has to do with my best friend i've known for almost 15 years now and her boyfriend who i THOUGHT we were friends but i guess not.

I dont get to hang out with my friend a whole because she's always hanging with her boyfriend. At first i didn't mind because ive known her for so long and they've only been together for 2 years. Plus there's always the phone. But she got a job and we didn't talk that much anymore so we decided to hang out. I stayed the night with her and her boyfriend gave her his "permission". I thought that was weird but he is controlling. I just shrugged it off but then the second time i stayed the night with her he blew up at her. They were arguing over the phone WHILE I WAS IN THE ROOM and her phone is so loud i could hear everything he was saying. It was really hurtful to hear him tell her "she can't be your best friend because i am", "she better not be conpaired anywhere to me", and other really hurtful things. Every other time me and my best friend hung out before then she always asked if he could hang too and i would say i didnt care because i wanted to be his friend too.

Well finally one night i had a HORRIBLE day and she conforting me. He threw another hissy fit and she talked to him but i got tired of it after shrugging it off two other times so i asked her if i could call him and talk to him and she said it was alright. So i called him and i started to try and talk to him but he just said rude words to me and hung up on me. I got mad so i called my friend and i told her what he had done and she said she'd call him and talk to him. That was 3 weeks ago and she hasnt called me back and ive called her numorous times and left 3 messages. She has yet to call me back. So i guess in her mind 2 years beats 15.

Hey!!
This is probably not as bad as othe stories but here is my storie......
ONE DAY IN 4TH GRADE ME AND MY BEST FRIEND WERE IN A GROUP TOGETHER FOR MATH! WHEN WE WERE DONE SHE SAID I CANT GET UP..(WE WERE SITTING ON THE FLOOR) AND SO I SAID I CAN`T EITHER!! THEN SHE SAID MAYBE IF YOU WEREN`T SO FAT YOU COULD GET UP!! I was so upset!! Then she went and told everyone what she said and 1 person actualy said you know what she said is actually true!! I am still mad at her for that!!

i did something terrible and now i've lost my best friend for good. my boyfriend (at the time) and i went to his close friends' house all the time. to me his friend was the perfect guy for my bestfriend,so i eventually hooked them up but kept to myself the crush i had started to have on him. they date for like a month and me and him became close cause he always came to me with problems with their relationship. then it wasnt working out so he ended it. about a week later finally confessed to me that he had a crush on me. but i was still dating his friend(even though he wasnt treating me right). his frien constantly tried to tell him to treat me better or someone else will but he never listened. he broke up with me a few days later then a week after that me and his friend together.now my bestfriend hates me even though she said she didnt care. me and him arent even together anymore.i personally dont think she is being right case guys shouldnt beable to come between bestfriends! I just dont know what to do now.Help me Tyra! What do you think? Was i really that wrong?

Oh goodness Tyra I watch your show alot!!! and I realy have a problem. Im only 12 years old and im over weight im only 4/7 i get made fun of all the time. I get called pork chop, fatty, ect.
Tyra I have a huge booty and i meen huge. Oh Tyra please help me!!!
Love allways: Cashmere

I had a friend, well we were "supposedly" friends. When my sister who is 15 would come home from California with my dad she would be TERRIBlE to me she would talk behind my back, call me names, and worse with my sister. So I was finally fed up with it I told her not to talk to me till she decided to be a true friend. Later on I found out that when I thought we were friends she would talk behind my back at school, call me fat, and worse.
To this day we still don't talk and that was almost 3 months ago.

hey tyra,

im dani. recently my best friend has completely ignored me because i told her i was moving. she has completely stepped on everything out 7 year best friendship ever stood for.

i guess when you go through hard times your true friends really shine through..

love,
dani

p.s MAMAS ROCK!

Hi Tyra,
i dont think my story is anywhere as bad as yours but i just feel like no one understands how i feel && felt about what happend.Because i dont think my [[exx]]best friend realized how much i loved&& tursted her.

i had a best friend && we were on and off but there was one point where we didnt fight at all for like 8 or 9 months && thats long for us cuhz we used to fight alot ewll not so much fight but leave each other && then come back, but i was dating one of her ex boyfriends && i know tahts against the rules of BFFS. but i dont play that game. && seh knew that so she stopped talking to me && she got mad but thy had broken up like 3 months ago && she slapped him && cheated on him with his BEst Friend && i was good friends with this boys momma so you know me nd him were acutally really close. && me nd him went out for 7 months. && we broke up the first time because one of my other good friends kissed him like makin out && stuff && i found out from someone else && taht was all a mess && i guess before me nd him got back togheter him && my best friend the one i trsuted started liking each otehr again.but i didnt know until after me n him started going back out. so we talked about it and then he finally said okay i wont like her anymore && taht was the last of it. so i thought. but we broke up like 3 weeks before i left england because we got in this huge arguement && i started feeling like someone else could treat me better but i loved this boy to death.so then we broke up && me nd this other dude go out but i only did that because i wanted to make him jealous. which was really stupid because everything messed up after taht. so My VERY VERY BEST FIREND.starts "loving" my ex. && oh boy did i lose it. i stopped being friends with her && eveyrhting. right before i moved too && i know i dont play that whole you cant go out with my ex boyfriend but This boy was different. i hadnt ever felt what i felt for himw tih anyone else. so this "best friend" got all upset && shes supposably " strong" but shes a bunch oh BS. she lied to me about plenty of things it turns out && she told half of my secrets. && apparently liked my boyfriend all along of the 7 month we dated.i know this seems like its nothing but it tore me down because she was the other half of me.&& now i feel like i can never ever trsut again.
i just wanted to get that out.
thankz
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Dear Tyra,
My case isn't really as bad as some of yours, but here goes. In fourth grade, I had one really close friend. We did everything together, and told each other everything. We thought that nothing could come between this close relationship. Also, we both were tomboyish, and she was always talking about how superficial a lot of girls are.
Anyways, then, in fifth grade, I had a lot of anxiety, worries, and I may have accidently drank a bit of mold. Then I was always felt like I was going to be sick, so I missed a LOT ot school.
Then, me being gone, I think that my friend needed to find someone else to be friends with. Once I had gone to the doctor, and gotten better, I went back to school. Then of course, my friend had a new friend, so I was kind of an outsider. Now it's 3 years later, and we're all still friends, but I'm slipping even further away from them. Now it's summer, and I'm pretty sure that none of them want to be my friend.
None of them stodd up for me in times of struggle, they just talk about when I was sick like it was just the flu, or some joke. It all makes me so mad.
What should I do?

~ Rachel

hey tyra im melissa and im 13 years old. me and my so called best friend were the closest and i told her everything. one night me and her start talking and then we got into a fight and after we got into a fight she called my boyfriend and told him lies about me and that i was gonna break up with him and he beleived her. he broke up with me when i talked to him later that night and since then i have been a mess. i loved him so much and he dumped me cuz my ex-best friend told him a lie about me.

Dear Tyra,

my name is shaida and i am 19 years old. i recently found out about 5 months ago that my boyfriend had been sleeping with my so called best friend for a little over a year. not only had she been sleeping with him but had also lost her virginity to him as well. i was crushed. how could someone that i thought i knew so well do something so mean and cruel to me...both her and my boyfriend. i had been going out with my boyfriend for four years. to me it just feels like both relationships that i had with both of them were just a lie.

some of the things they did included having sex in my OWN house when i was there at the time... but i had no clue what was going on...

another time was when i dropped her off at her house after a party... one of my boyfriends friends went to go pick her up just seconds after i dropped her off to bring her to his house to have sex

even though im soo angry with the girl i used to be such good friends with... i forgave my boyfriend... and trust me.. thats not the first time that he cheated on me...as i know of hes also slept with two other girls that i used to be friends with... no matter what he does to me i always go back...and he always tells me that im the one that needs to change...ill never feel good enough for him...i have always been insecure with myself but now i just feel like its gotten worse... one reason why i feel like i dont want to let go of him is because whether he has me or not he will always be able to get someone else....i think im just waiting for him to go back how he used to be before everything went bad

i remember you saying one time on top model how ms. jay said the kiss isnt the same...he doesnt even kiss me

so in all i feel like ive lost 2 best friends instead of only one...i always thought of him as my best friend too

hey tyra, im shanty from the philippines.. ya, i know its quite far.. i love your show so much! i'm still 17 and i'm learning a lot from your show.. you totally empower girls like me.. ;)

about the topic, i had one close friend who now became nobody in my life.. i told her about this personal secret and i totally trusted her.. but she spill the beans, and that made me hate her so much.. from then on, i never said my his hellos to her.. i think its normal for me to feel this way cuz she stepped on my trust, and every trust when broken is so hard to repair.. i don't think i'm over reacting, it's just the way i feel.. we've grown our separate ways now and i still do think of her, still care for her but i hate her..

i once had a friend(yolanda) in kindergarden we were the best of friends but then i moved away....and went to differrent schools until 5th grade me and my mom moved back to the area and i went to school on the first day and saw my old best friend!...we were best friends again we were soooooo happy that every friday we went to her house and i would stay there the whole weekend and we would do EVERYTHING together we even shared a boyfriend.Well at the end of the year i found out that i was going to a differrent middle school than her.but later that summer me and my mom didnt move yet so i went to her school and we were sooooooooooooooo happy to be together again we dressed alike a sat a the same table.But thats when she met another girl in her class(i wasnt in any of her classes)and i got really jelous and mad at her so i got another friend her name was Nicole and we got really close but she was a hoe and stole everybodys boyfriend but i still liked her but yolanda hated her and wanted to fight her but i said no cause shes still my friend...so i was like whatever im gonna tell her u want to fight her and yolnada said ok..so i did and they met in the courtyard and was talking crap to one another and i said stop your both my friends and then i left cause wouldnt stop talking bad to each other so nicole told the princible about yolanda and they called her and me to the office and i said i had nothing to do with this(it wasnt my problem)so the priciple escused me and yolanda and nicole were still in the office so latervthat night i called yolanda and her sister picked up and said "dont call this house no more yolanda dont wanna talk to you" so i started crying and i said why? her sister said "cause you didnt stick up for her she hates you and doesnt want to hear your s*** again." so she started cussing at me and i was crying saying im sorry yolanda..im really sorry...but now im so glad shes out of my life cause i was gonna make bad descions if was still her friend...now i have wonderful bestfriends and im happy

Megan
P.s i love you halsey,kristy,lisa,Mariah

I met my first real best friend when I was in first grade. For five years we were inseperable. I spent the night at her house every weekend, it seemed. We were so close that many people thought we were sisters. Then, throughout our sixth grade year, she would stop speaking to me for no apparent reason. We made up several times when this happened (13, if I remember correctly). The last time she stopped speaking to me for no apparent reason was right before my 12th birthday, and we haven't really spoken since. I am 18 years old now, and I still don't know why she did this. She was such a good friend to me throughout elementary school.
I have gotten over her (I haven't necessarily forgiven her, I'm just not mad anymore) and I have gotten over losing this friendship. The only thing is, I just want to know what I could possibly have done to make her treat me the way she did. I'm just curious, you know? She never told me, even when I asked (she would ignore me if I asked). That's not even the whole story. She got one of our friends to treat me the same way. Eventually, she stopped speaking to him as well, apparently because he apologized to me. Now he and I are best friends...and I don't think he even knows why she stopped speaking to me.
Oh, well !

WOW WHERE DO I START SO YEAH I HAD THE BEST FRIEND A GIRL COULD HAVE WE SPENT EVERY DAY TOGETHER FOR LIKE A LONG TIME.THE WOW SO MY BEST FRIEND GOT A MAN MAY I ADD ONE I COULD NOT MEET??AND THEN IT WAS LIKE SHE NEVER KNEW ME SHE WOULDENT PICK UP WHEN I WOULD CALL "CUZ HER MAN DIDENT WANT HER TO HAVE FRIENDZ" BUT I WAS LIKE HER SISTER I THOUGHT SO I GOT SICK OF IT AND TOLD HER TO ACT LIKE WE NEVER MET.NOW I FEEL BAD A MISS HER I WANT MY OLD FRIEND BACK NOT THE ONE HE MADE HER.WHAT SHOULD I DO TYRA?OH AND OH HER MYSACE WE HAS SO MANY PICS NOW THERE NOT ONE OF ME..HELP ME

ok. so check this! my bestt friend just turend on me after 11 years of friendship.!! all of a sudden one day she decided to stop talking to me! i know weird huh? but i guess at the end it was ok because my reputaion was being hurt... to tell you the truth tyra i care for the girl and everything... but shes a h@*!!!and i was being seen that way too. you can only care for a person so much, and theres a limit to what your gonna take. oh well things happpen fora reason.. right?

Tyra, just recently my best friend did something horrible to me. She made out with my ex boyfriend and then told me she did. I didn't know what to tell her because I had shared with her all these great experiences I had had with my ex & then she went & did this. It really hurt me that my "best friend" would do something so horrible to me. What was even worse is that my ex boyfriend only did it to get back at me. So now I don't trust my friend because no matter how bad my ex is it takes two to tango.

Hey Tyra
i don't know if i can talk about this on here but i need to get it out and i need someone to tell me what to do....ok so in my comment befor i told you about my boyfreind breaking up with me and after that i was absoultly devistated and so i went down stairs and my step brothers freind Chris was there and he is really really cute i think and i had known him for a little while but when i got down there he saw that i was sad and he wanted to know if i wanted to talk about it and i said no and went back upstairs and laid down on my bed......a few minutes later he came in and laid down next to me and we cuddled i guess and i really like him but i think he has a girlfreind but he acts like he likes me back and i just need some advice......What do i do tyra

♥ Always
Alisha

Hey Tyra
My name is Alisha and I'm 14 years old and I had this freind that was my freind since kindergarden and 2 months ago i started going out with her cousin and the first 2 months were Great but when my boyfreind broke up with me she got really angry with me and now we don't even talk to eachother and i mean i still talk to my ex because saposedly he still has fellings for me or something.Can you help Tyra

Hey Tyra,
I was hoping that you would be able to help me. I am 23 and I have been married to my husband for a few months but we have been together for 4 years, but when we got married EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING changed. We went from having an almost perfect relationship to being angry and unhappy all the time. I had been talking to my best friend about this and she told me that her brother was going through the same thing. He was very unhappy in his marrage and that he was looking to get out. So I started to talk to him about our relationships and how we might be able to fix our marrages and become happy again. THAT DID NOT HAPPEN!!!! The relationship between us grow to something more and we ended up having a relationship that was not approprate for that time but it happend. My husband knows about it and we are working through it but I have lost my best friend over this and I am still unhappy in my marrage and I feel like I am trapped. My husband says that we can work things out but I dont feel like I want to at this point and time, more problems keep comming up and we just can not keep up with all of them. PLEASE HELP ME IF YOU CAN I AM ABOUT TO LOOSE MY MIND.

Thank you and I love your show.

Lots of love
Disstressed in Colorado

Hey Tyra,
I was hoping that you would be able to help me. I am 23 and I have been married to my husband for a few months but we have been together for 4 years, but when we got married EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING changed. We went from having an almost perfect relationship to being angry and unhappy all the time. I had been talking to my best friend about this and she told me that her brother was going through the same thing. He was very unhappy in his marrage and that he was looking to get out. So I started to talk to him about our relationships and how we might be able to fix our marrages and become happy again. THAT DID NOT HAPPEN!!!! The relationship between us grow to something more and we ended up having a relationship that was not approprate for that time but it happend. My husband knows about it and we are working through it but I have lost my best friend over this and I am still unhappy in my marrage and I feel like I am trapped. My husband says that we can work things out but I dont feel like I want to at this point and time, more problems keep comming up and we just can not keep up with all of them. PLEASE HELP ME IF YOU CAN I AM ABOUT TO LOOSE MY MIND.

Thank you and I love your show.

Lots of love
Disstressed in Colorado

Well,I had a friend tht turned on me. She done it more than once,but this last time was the end.I was talking to a guy that I thought that we were building a relationship,I found out he went and got a girlfriend.I was really hurt because I thought he was nice.So I went to my Myspace and typed a Buletin that said that i was hurt. Well my friend wrote me and told me that she was sorry that i was hurt and that she was going to kick his butt. First off I thought that how can a 5'7 girl was going to beat up a 6'7 guy. I told her that she didn't have to get all mad like that and that it was my problem,she was upset that I said that. So,the next day I talked to her and she was really mad at me. She started talking about how i come to her with all my problems(like I said before it was a bulletin on myspace)and she gives me her shoulder to cry on and how I use her, but thats now what hurt me thost.... What hurt me the most was when she told me that all I do is flirt with guys on myspace and then i let them walk all over me. Then she started talking about my past relationship that at the time I was just finish being upset about.I didnt like it and hurt how she told me all that. The relationship that I with my ex was a bad one, and I knew that but she was very hurtful. I am not the most skinny girl in the world and I don't tret myself right like I should. I know all those things but she was wrong to say those things to me

hi
I have a quick question...do u guys disclose people"s emails on teh blog sites?

Dear Tyra,

I'm 13 years old and going into 8th grade. In my last school year I came into middle school with my best friend. But she didn't consider me as her "best" friend back. Soon she started ignoring me and so I just left. Things between us are okay and we're still friends but we don't hang out anymore. I'm glad that she respects me and I spoke for myself but as soon as I left being apart of the "popular" group I moved on trying to find somone to hang out with. These 2 girls that i had known awhile but never really talked to had also had the same thing happen to them by this girl. So I started hanging out with them and things were great at first then they slowly started to prefer hanging out with each other then all of us together. And once I had had enough they replaced me with some new girl. I feel so depressed all the time because I have no good friends and I know I never did anything wrong they were just mean girls. Now I hang out with some nice girls but they're not really good friends. They have all been friends since they were little so they don't really let anyone else in. I feel so excluded not having any good friends and no one seems to understand. They all say just get a new friend but either the girls at school already have a best friend and won't let anyone in or they're really mean. I'm also scarred that it's going to happen again. Can you help Tyra?

I said something horrible to my best friend once, but I apologized and tried to make up for it, and she's forgiven me.

HI TYRA,
MY NAME IS ROCHELLE. IM 12 YEARS OLD(AMLOST 13). I HAVE MY 2 BEST FRIENDS SINCE KINDERGARDEN! BUT THEN BOTH BECAME ENEMY IN 7TH GRADE BECAUSE OF A SAYING. BOTH OF MY BEST FRIENDS ARE MEXICAN. 1 OF THEM SAID SOMETHING ABOUT GANG RELATED. AND MY OTHER FRIEND GOT MAD. SO THATS HOW IT STARTED. ITS VERY LONG. THEY EVEN WANTED TO FIGHT EACH OTHER AT THE SCHOOL'S DANCE AT SCHOOL. BUT NOPE. I STILL TALK TO BOTH OF THEM BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. TYRA I HOPE YOU CAN GIVE ME AN ADVICE WHAT TO DO. EMAIL ME. LOVE ALWAYS*

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Dear Tyra,
I have a problem with my friend who is also in my family one day me ,her, and my other friend were talking bout how are day was when this boy came up to her and ask her for her number after she gave it to him she told me to make sure I was watching good because that the closes I'm ever going to get to a man at first I thought it was a joke but she told me that it was time I new that I was an ugly fat girl who will never have anything or anybody.I was so hurt I cry cause she was like a sister to me and to hear her say that it hurt so when I got home my other friend went home with me to comfort me but I was hurt so I told her "why would you won't to be around some one as fat and ugly as me " she told me that that no matter how I look that she would always be there for me no matter what, so that made me realize that I know who my real friends are. Tyra do you think she was wrong for what she said? Do you think I should give her a second chance to be one of my friends?

Dear Tyra,
I have a problem with my friend who is also in my family one day me ,her, and my other friend were talking bout how are day was when this boy came up to her and ask her for her number after she gave it to him she told me to make sure I was watching good because that the closes I'm ever going to get to a man at first I thought it was a joke but she told me that it was time I new that I was an ugly fat girl who will never have anything or anybody.I was so hurt I cry cause she was like a sister to me and to hear her say that it hurt so when I got home my other friend went home with me to comfort me but I was hurt so I told her "why would you won't to be around some one as fat and ugly as me " she told me that that no matter how I look that she would always be there for me no matter what, so that made me realize that I know who my real friends are. Tyra do you think she was wrong for what she said? Do you think I should give her a second chance to be one of my friends?

Dear Tyra,
I have a problem with my friend who is also in my family one day me ,her, and my other friend were talking bout how are day was when this boy came up to her and ask her for her number after she gave it to him she told me to make sure I was watching good because that the closes I'm ever going to get to a man at first I thought it was a joke but she told me that it was time I new that I was an ugly fat girl who will never have anything or anybody.I was so hurt I cry cause she was like a sister to me and to hear her say that it hurt so when I got home my other friend went home with me to comfort me but I was hurt so I told her "why would you won't to be around some one as fat and ugly as me " she told me that that no matter how I look that she would always be there for me no matter what, so that made me realize that I know who my real friends are. Tyra do you think she was wrong for what she said? Do you think I should give her a second chance to be one of my friends?

Dear tyra whats good my name is Dez. I watch your show and I see the thousands of good things you do for women. Everything from making women feel beautiful to man problems to aids test you name it tyra has done it. BUT there is one your fine ass left out what about how the guys feel about the ladys and the things that we don't like and the things that women do that gets on our last nerve .Or did you forget men have feelings to .All a man wants from a women is to be just like his homeboy. BUT with those girlish ways . Do you know way i use the homeboy quote .Because a mans homeboy is always there for him up down with money with no money .I think this is something you should talk about on your show or one on one holla.I have thought you were fine straight bang-in for years .Oh ya I like ya little fat on ya butt. you got a fatty girl I hope i didn't disrespect.you know how the hood is .so I'll holla . hope you will peace and love Dez from queens. later peaches.

Thank you Tyra for inspiring women of all ages. I have been going through a hard time with a co-worker that I thought was a friend, but have caught her in a few acts of deceit and it is very hurtful. It is nice to know I am not alone.

Recently, on mother's day actually I ended a friendship with a friend I had known since 7th grade of middle school. She was my best friend, T, but jealousy over took her and I had to let her go. The reason, a girl, K, who we knew in highschool, wanted to be friends. We had a problem with her before with other friends, which was caused by K, lying on people. But the recent event, involved myself, T, K, and both of their boyfriends. K, had lied and said I told her that I wished my best friend had cancer, and that I didn't like her boyfriend. Which the boyfriend part was true, because of what he was involved in. I told T, what I had said and what I had not, but she believed K. My ''best friend'' called me a backstabber and a jealousy person. I had realized that I was being ambushed. I had just moved to Atlanta, to start school 6 months earlier, and each time I came back my name was in something of unimportance. I realized that I had no friends, and because I was trying to live according to God's word and do what I was suppose to do, with these friends I always had a problem. So I had to let them go. Forgiveness is hard and everyday the best friend crosses my mind but I know that maybe its better if I just let her grow on her own with out me. In the end I learned you can't trust everyone and you can't worry about what people say because you're not smoking weed, or drinking alcohol, by the way I am 21. Its not what they want its what God wants and he wants me to do his will and better myself. Forgiveness is understanding when it is time to let go and let God have his way!!

It's funny how the best of friends can turn into the worst of enemies in a heartbeat.
When I was 20 years old and attending community college, there was a girl who was much older than me decided to turn on me and turn all my friends against me.
When I tried to throw a party she made damn sure that it was non-existant, telling everybody that if they wanted to come that they had a long drive ahead of them.
It was hard for me to believe that someone could be that spiteful and vicious.
I'm 33 years old and this still bothers me a lot, mainly because I never got the chance to confront her about what she did. All I know is that I could never just forgive and forget.
She ruined my life.

I'm currently writing a book about failed female friendships and am collecting stories for my book. I hope that some of your admirers who are interested in this topic will fill out a brief survey on the topic.

To get to the survey go to: http://tinyurl.com/36swu7

If women would like to read more about the topic, please visit my blog: www.fracturedfriendships.com

My best,
Irene S. Levine, PhD
Journalist & Author

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tyra,
i had 2 friends that were closer then you can imagine. and we got into a huge argument about a guy one of them were dating. well after the argument they got along fine. me and jean worked it out but me and ambrosia were still not talking. we still arent talking. she thinks that i was trying to break up her and jeans friend ship but that was the furthest thing from my mind. she does not believe me that i want them to be friends and i want to be friends with her to. she wont even talk to me. i hate it. she wont even try to work things out. tis is driving me crazy. do you have any advice?

A friend of mine, who is much younger, left her parents house for school one day and never returned. No one knew where she was for the longest time, then she came online one day and told me she was staying with her Aunt.
She told me she didn't want to live with her mom and her boyfriend anymore because they were alcoholics (which is true) and that the boyfriend had been beating her and her sister who also left home. I practically grew up with these two and know her mom well...It was all a lie and her now neither of them speak to their mom. I tried to talk them into going back home but they insist on lying.
I don't think I could ever forgive them for the things they say about their parents and the hurt they are putting them through.

Hi tyra,
I wont stop telling you that I really, really love your show and I always watch it. I would like to share my story on when good friends go bad. When I was in high school, my close friends knew that my boy friend was cheeting on me but none of them told me.I was so hurt because I wouldnt hide such a serious thing from them. I felt so betrayed but I forgave them. We still talk but we are not so close anymore because I find it hard to trust them.

hi trya
i love your show i wish i could tell you my story.

a little less than 2 years ago, some of my "best friends" decided to turn against me. at first i didn't notice anything
but then during gym, the [four] of them went around telling everyone, but me, something. i continually asked what it was and why i couldn't know, but they said it was one of their secrets and they didn't want a bunch of people to know. i could tell they were lying but since they wouldn't tell me anything i decided to ask a few other people after class. no one would say anything, just that they couldn't tell me. finally i was able to get one girl to tell me as we walked to our next class. four of my best friends had told everyone to completely stop talking to me and ignore me for the next few days. i was shocked by this, how could some of the people i cared about most do this to me? the next day wasn't as bad as i thought, a few people wouldn't go along with it so i did have a few people to talk to. but as i would approach them, one of my "best friends" would run over and keep me from talking to them. so i was mostly alone. then, at lunch after i had begged my friends to at least tell me why they hated me, someone decided it would be fun to put me on trial. at first i refused, but caved in after much pestering. i had to get a lawyer, so two of my other friends filled in the spot. i just sat there for most of it, while everyone else seemed to think it was some sort of game. with in a day or so it became the talk of the school, students passed notes planning to go and watch it during lunch. one of my teachers found it, and it was soon known by all of them. a few of my teachers would ask how i was doing, and i would reply with an "ok." eventually i was sent to the councilors office along with the four girls who had started the fight. we(meaning mostly them) talked for a few minutes and we "became friends again." we say best friends forever still, but we all know its a lie.

hi tyra, i posted a comment on your other comment page about bullying. Well, if Halle comes back and reads this comment, here it goes. Ive been there too. your not alone, and even though your straight, they call you lesibian, thats happened to me. At least your not bullyed on the internet, are you? it can be totally frustrating and i had cried a lot and i just, i didnt know what i was even saying sometimes. and sometimes, i just wanted to stay inside, hating the outside world, and just....idk really, hide in my room. its okay and i just want you to know your not the only one who has been there. im a teen too, and its still hard, and im still learning how to put up with those kind of people. But even as adults, well put up with those people. and by the way, i love baby phat!

Hey Tyra! I watch your show every single day. Im up in the morning to watch the 10 o'clock show and im always at home for the 3 o'clock show. If imnot home i was tape it. Ive never missed a show. Well my name is Halle and i am 13 years old. About 3 or 4 months ago I go these really cool shoes that I have always wanted. You are probally fimilar with the brand Baby Phat right? Well thats what i got, a pair of baby phat shoes. When I wore them to school my "ex-friend" tried to read someting. The part that said Kimaora Lee Simmions, she read Kimaora Lesbien. Ever since she has been calling me a lesbien and I cant stand it. Tyra, she even told guys that I was one also and that really made me mad.I talk about guys all the time. I even like someone!! So now i havent talked to her for 4 months. I thought we were best friends but for that i cant forgive her.

Hey Tyra! I watch your show every single day. Im up in the morning to watch the 10 o'clock show and im always at home for the 3 o'clock show. If imnot home i was tape it. Ive never missed a show. Well my name is Halle and i am 13 years old. About 3 or 4 months ago I go these really cool shoes that I have always wanted. You are probally fimilar with the brand Baby Phat right? Well thats what i got, a pair of baby phat shoes. When I wore them to school my "ex-friend" tried to read someting. The part that said Kimaora Lee Simmions, she read Kimaora Lesbien. Ever since she has been calling me a lesbien and I cant stand it. Tyra, she even told guys that I was one also and that really made me mad.I talk about guys all the time. I even like someone!! So now i havent talked to her for 4 months. I thought we were best friends but for that i cant forgive her.

Tyra, I just want to start out by saying I love your show and you are a great role model for both young and older women. My story may not be as tragic as some but very sad. I had this friend all through high school and we were inseperable, if I was there she was too. We worked at the same deli for a while, we went out together after work, drove to school together, and everything else you could think of. After high school we even moved 2 hours away from where we grew up and lived together with our boyfriends. My boyfriend and I got a house together and my friend and I still remained inseperable. My boyfriend was unfaithful with one of our other friends and I moved back in with my best friend and her boyfriend. Eventually I got my own place, her and her boyfriend split and she got her own place. Anyway she wound up dating this very controling guy that didn't like me. He used to call me names like slut and other choice words that he didn't just reserve for me he called her these names too. He decided that I was a bad influence. Well he was not only verbally but physically abusive to her, so she left. About a month or so after I guess she found out that she was pregnant. She had the baby and they wound up back together. The got married in 2001. I was asked to stand up but told her that because he was abusive I would not stand up in support of the union. I attended the wedding and then we lost touch. In 2000 I had been married and she was my maid of honor. She was very upset that I would not be in her wedding but I just did not feel right about it. I lost my husband to violence in 2003, and she called me to give her condolences, I thought this was an attempt to reach out so I tried to call her after that but she has not returned calls. I think about her often and have heard that she has another baby and is doing well. I love her like a sister to this day, and I hope her life is all that she ever wished it would be.

hi,

I recently experienced this. She was my bestfriend for 6 years and we suddenly grew apart. I thought nothing won't ever come between us but I guess I spoke too soon. She lost the trust that I have given her and it was so difficult for me to handle that of all the people that could do such a thing it was her. But I'm way over that stage and I have forgiven her, though, she have not asked for it. I haven't seen her already. Common friends asked if there'd be a chance wherein we could still be friends. I can't say YES as of this moment, perhaps soon or in the future but I know it wouldn't be like the way it was. For me, trust is very important and once someone breaks it... it would be so hard to earn it back, sometimes... we just can't earn it back.

Hi Tyra,

I had a ex- friend who turned on my in middle school, and we were once at a time the best of friends, but as soon as we hit junior high she started ditching me. She started hanging with new people and being more interested in boys. I mean I know likeing boys is a natural process in being a teenage girl, but not hurting your friend for one isn't. well, she turned on me for him, and started acting weird around him and well wanted to pick fights with me cause she thought i wanted her man when actually he was sweating me. And years went by and she had gotten her self a nasty, slutty reputation for doing things with these guys or men. and I learned that our friendship ended over a boy she was never truly a friend after all. and I now start to appreciate my true friends.

Hi Tyra,
I love your show. But I have been betrayed by my friend plenty of times,but I still seem to call her that...friend! I was dating my ex for 5 yrs. They became friends through me, and that was cool, but they were starting to hang out together with her other friends without me knowing and she didn't even tell me! To make a long story short, she hooked him up with her other friend and they were kicking it for awhile. She finally started calling me and told me when he was over this girl's house or whatever, trying to start a commotion because she would be chilling with them too!( what kind of mess is that!) Then I left him alone and she tried to set me up with this same girl's man. What kind of friend is she right? I still forgave her, but I know what kind of person she is and don't bring my husband around her! He hate her anyway!lol

Hey There Tyra,
I have a question. I had been dating my boyfriend for about 7 months, and had been best friends with this girl for my WHOLE life. She had sex with my boyfriend. I Guess the story goes like this: they were at a party (while i was stuck home). since i couldn't be there i asked my girl to watch over my boyfriend for me. they had been drinking and i guess you know where that went for them. 3 days later HE told me what had happened at the party. shortly after he told me my friend was saying how she had wanted to get with him for the longest time and was bragging about wht she did.

I worked things out with my boyfriend and believe that he will never hurt me like that again. but i cant get myself to forgive her. i havent spoke to her since. i have dreams that huant my every night. WHY CANT I GET OVER THIS??? And WHY Is it still effecting my everyday? This Happend Durring The Month Of March, Its now JUNE! Why Do I Still Hate Her So Bad? WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?

Thank You,
Tons Of Love,
Essa

Dear Tyra

I Saw Your Show & I Started To CRY! Watching How Friends Can Do Some Of The Cruelest Things Took Me Back Not More Than A Few Short Months Ago Win I Trusted Someone More Than Any Of People That Have Been In My Life.
You See I Don’t Know If I Was That Desperate Or Lonely, But I Met Someone And We Became Friends :D I Didn't Realize That Only 2 Months Later I Would Give Him Something So Precious, My Virginity! At The Time We Had A Lot Of Intelligent Talk About Aviation, Cosmetology, The Navy, & Modeling; I Was There When He Overcame His Fear Of Water, Got His Hair Braided, & Bought His First South Pole Shirt. You Before We Took Our Friendship To Another Level I We Sort Of Made A Game About How Many People Were Watching & Being Envious Of Our Already Deep Friendship.
I Suppose That's Were My Mistake(s) First Started! He Had Told Me About The Mental, Verbal, And Physical Abuse He Endured As A Child, And I Should've Held Off Until He Had Properly Dealt With "IT" But Instead I Thought More With Heart & Not With My Head!! After He Left His Troubled Girlfriend, Who I Later Apologized For All The Hurtful Things I Said, Realized She Wasn't The One With The ISSUES.
It Would Only Take A Month After My First Intimate Encounter With Him, Before All That I Thought Was Good Turned Into Everything BAD :-( I Decided To Ask Him To Spend A Day With Me So That We Would Know Where We Stood And Where We Were Going To Go. But The Same Day Would Turn Out To Be My Worst Nightmare! Not Only Did He Not Return My Calls But Who I Thought To Be A Mere Friend Answering His Phone- Turned Out To Be His One Night Stand.
I Had Never Felt So Betrayed How Could The One I Gave My Heart To, Break My Heart So Bad? Yet After Time I Forgave Him And Took Him Back. Just When I Thought I Could Trust Him Again, He Found Another Girl To Try A Relationship With >-( How Could Two Women That One He Hardly Knew And The Other Never Met Have More Love, Importance, Just More Of Everything It Took Me So Long To Earn From Him??... Had He Always Done This & I Was Just To Blind To See? Or Was This The First Time He Felt True Happiness? I'm Not A Doctor But At Some Point He Had A Break Down And Began To Change Into Something That I Didn't Want To Be With! It Would Only Take Another Month Before He Realized The Magnitude Of The Damage He Had Caused Our Special Relationship. Yet Again I Took Him Back,... I Suppose I Thought That If I Just Kept Trying, Pushing, Guiding That The Man I Came To Know And Fall In Love With Would Return To Claim The Prize.
Ultimately It Wasn't Going To Work Out(So Much For My Happy Ending) Currently He Is Staying With Me, Till He Gets His Lights Turned On, My Mom Has A New View Of Him But Just When I Thought Things Would Be Good I Was Disappointed Again! His Search For Me In Another Woman( To Be Acceptable In Society) Had Failed, So His Next Attempt And My Last Straw Would Be Closer To Home, My Own Sister!
It Was Shortly There After I Remembered Him Telling Me About Another Form Of Abuse He Suffered, One That Still Makes Me Sick To My Stomach!! At Age Six He Was Sexually Molested By His Than Thirteen Year Old Cousin. Just When I Thought I Could Deal With Anymore, I Another Test Would Be Presented, He Showed Me His Discharge Papers Which In Short Made Him Out To Be This Angry, Emotional, Violent Person Not To Mention The Documents Claim That He Would Be Found Cutting Him Self.
From There On In I Decided There Is No Place For This Person In My Life! But How Do You Deal With Someone The Is The Best Thing, But Toxic As well? I Still Believe That Kind Hearted Fragile Man Is In There But I Can't Seem To Find Him.... Now I'm Stuck With Someone That Can Only Associate Me With These Horrid Acts Against Him.
To All The People That Read This I Just Want To Let You Know That There Comes A Point Where There Is No Resolution! You Just Have To Dig Threw & Find Your Baby Book, & Remember Who You Are And Where You’re From Before You Look To Anyone Else For A Future.
Tyra Thanks For Giving Me An Opportunity To Talk About To You And Others Who I Hope Will Read This There's So Much More That I Haven't Said And I Would Love To On Your Show, But For Now Thank You For Showing Me That I'm Not The Only One.

Hey!
My name is Keshia and I was watching this episode last night, and it really made me think about some of my friendships! I have this one friend whose been my friend every since 1st grade!So we've been friends for over 15 yrs! Wow...I can't believe it's been that long...but I've found our roads have changed! She loves drugs, sex, alcohol and apparently lying to me! I found lately the only time we go out in do something is when she has no one else to hang with! I mean in every conversation we have I feel it's only part of the truth!
The biggest thing that upset me is one of our other good friends try to kill herself earlier this year and I didn't know until that friend called me from the hospital and told me what she did..my other friend who took her to the hospital didn't bother to tell me...she also told me that she told my friend( the one in the hosptial) That life's a b**** so whatca going to do about it!! Like she was telling her that it was ok that she tried to kill herself!! NO ma'am I don't think so! I know she's not a good friend for me because her life might seem great but it's not a road I want to go down...but we've been friends for sooooo long and that's hard to break! I guess it's also that me and another group of friends are going our seperate ways b/c we have changed so much and I guess I feel I can't lose another friend! It's awful b/c the friendships I do have I'm scare there going to end to..but I know that's not true! Going to college and leave old friends....transfering to a new college and making new friends...has proved to be more trouble! Sometimes it feels if I could get away from it all and forget so many of them things would be better!I guess watching your show I learned that she's not a good friend for me b/c I don't want to be influnced by her...b/c inside the things she does I want too...but I know it's not the life for me..but how can you just cut a friendship that you've had for...ever!?

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Hi Tyra
Okay so I just finished up my first year of college and I did not move away and my best friend did not go away either however we are going to different colleges.

My best friend and I started having problems the second semester of our senior year in high school. I started to get stood up and she would never call me back which was werid but I over looked it. Over the summer we hardly spent any time together and I began to get frustrated but still I said nothing. But it was more apparent than ever because we would get into tiffs about the smallest things like spilling soda or what have you.

I still had hope though, I planned a huge weekend to celebrate my birthday. We went to the Kenny Chesney concert and spent the whole weekend together. Unfortunately that was our last weekend. School started up and we got super busy which I understood however it got to the point where I wasn't invited to things. One night after I had called her multiple times after an event for work I went to her house. She was there with a friend she had cut out of her life the year before. It finally hit me that she was doing the same thing to me that she did to this other girl. We got into this huge arguement the next day and we started to just communicate via email and then finally nothing. But through out this time I had things like my car egged and a political sign stuck through the top of my car happen and it all led to her. I finally just lost it and called her out and told her to get lost.

But I found myself dwelling on it. I missed her, I knew that much but I didnt know why until I watched this episode. Beth was the popular girl who accepted me for who I was, not the most gorgeous thing but not ugly either. You told that grown woman that she wasn't the person she was in high school and that the tables were turned and she was in a much better place.

Well as I listened I realized that is me. It hasn't even been a year later and I have friends who love and care about me for me and not for what I have or can get. I am not the one addicted to drugs and alcohol. I am not the one going through a handful of men every month.

Its crazy how it has taken me so long to realize that right now I could never make room for that type of person in my life... someone so needy of people's approval.
Thank You

My freshman year of high school i made a whole new group of friends. I understood at that time that it would take time for all of us to become close. As sophmore year arrived I became close with barbara, amanda, and raissa and it was a good year. We had out little drama like every group does but now im heading for senior year and its suppose to be a year of spending time with friends. Instead barbara, raissa, and amanda all betrayed me and ditched me towards the end of out junior year. Now its summer and i feel soo hurt and betrayed by how they can just drop me and the funny part is they don't even realize it. They ask me to tell them whats wrong but when i do they get mad and dont want to deal with me. Its like they are good friends but only at a certain point. We really need help in our group.

I was dating this guy for 7 years and we were a month away from our wedding when we found out I was 2 months pregnant. a week later I had lost the baby. I came home from work early because I had found out my fiance had come home because he wasn't feeling well and found him and my little sister in bed. Come to find out it has been going on for a few months. I am now with the greatest guy in the world. We have a beautiful daughter who will be 2 in a few weeks and our wedding is in 2. I was soo mad at my sister for what she did but then again I never would have met my true love.

Hey Tyra,
I watch the show all the time and something hit home when you spoke of good friends going bad. Last year, a friend of mine and her best friend were on their way home from a club at four o'clock in the morning. While driving they got into a fight. The driver stopped the car and they got out of the car to fight. The fight somehow made it to the middle of the street. Suddenly, a car came out of nowhere and hit them both. They both died. It was a hit and run accident. They would have been back to being best friends the next day if they had just kept on driving. They would have been alive. Every time I think about this, it makes me forget about pettiness in an argument. Some people blow situations so out of proportion that they can become deadly. I think you need to have more shows that inspire people to patch it up quickly, before tragedy happens. It is sad, but it occurs often. Keep doing your thing Tyra.

Hey Tyra!!

I was friends with this girl for about 9 years. We had fun times, but for the most part the friendship was really one-sided. She was adopted when she was a baby from Mexico and raised by a really sweet American couple. She had that "adopted child" syndrome that so many adoptees have - her parents gave her EVERYTHING...she's eighteen and they still clean her room, she's always had more THINGS than any girl could really ever want (clothes, jewelry, toys, you name it...I suspect her parents wanted to make up for the fact that they weren't her biological parents.) Yet, she still was always obnoxious to them. She always acted like whatever attention people (me, especially) gave her wasn't enough. We went to boarding school together and no matter how tired I was or how early my morning class was, if she was having problems with her idiotic boyfriend, I'd sit and listen to her whine about it for hours, and the one time that I didn't feel like hearing her drone on and on about herself and tried to tell her what was going on in my life, she would brush me off and say something like "Oh...that sucks....so you know what else blah blah said to me?"

She had this horribly fake sense of confidence in herself - I mean, she had really low self-esteem so she tried to make up for it by making me feel bad about myself. I know she was jealous of me - she used to tell me things like, "you and I are both nice people...why do people like you more than me?"

Anyway, I stuck by her through soooo much, even when people told me the relationship wasn't healthy and this past november, a month after we both parted ways and went off to different colleges, she just suddenly stopped talking to me. I wrote her emails, facebook/myspace messages trying to see how she was, what was going etc, and she kept ignoring me. I thought maybe she just hadn't been online in a while but saw that she had been posting notes and birthday messages to people from our old school she didn't even hang out with while she didn't even call me/email me for my birthday. So I got pissed off! I felt so betrayed and I wrote her telling her so. If she didn't want to be my friend, that was fine - people grow apart, but I thought I at least deserved a message from her after all I'd done for her - not the cold shoulder. So, I emailed and said I had finally seen the true her after all these years - the one everyone had been trying to get me to see, and I didn't ever want to hear from her again.

And, we haven't talked since before November. I miss her of course and I dunno if I'll ever not miss her, but without her around I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I don't have to worry about her trying to cut herself anymore or her boyfriend hitting her again. It's not my problem, and it never was, but I couldn't see that.

A mutual friend told me that she had been going through a hard time at school - not making friends, depression, etc and had to leave school for a while. Supposedly she only wanted to talk to her parents and this mutual friend during this time. I can understand that - I had a bad freshman year...I was depressed and almost flunked out, but I didn't block out the people that I supposedly cared about the most.

Hey Tyra!!

I was friends with this girl for about 9 years. We had fun times, but for the most part the friendship was really one-sided. She was adopted when she was a baby from Mexico and raised by a really sweet American couple. She had that "adopted child" syndrome that so many adoptees have - her parents gave her EVERYTHING...she's eighteen and they still clean her room, she's always had more THINGS than any girl could really ever want (clothes, jewelry, toys, you name it...I suspect her parents wanted to make up for the fact that they weren't her biological parents.) Yet, she still was always obnoxious to them. She always acted like whatever attention people (me, especially) gave her wasn't enough. We went to boarding school together and no matter how tired I was or how early my morning class was, if she was having problems with her idiotic boyfriend, I'd sit and listen to her whine about it for hours, and the one time that I didn't feel like hearing her drone on and on about herself and tried to tell her what was going on in my life, she would brush me off and say something like "Oh...that sucks....so you know what else blah blah said to me?"

She had this horribly fake sense of confidence in herself - I mean, she had really low self-esteem so she tried to make up for it by making me feel bad about myself. I know she was jealous of me - she used to tell me things like, "you and I are both nice people...why do people like you more than me?"

Anyway, I stuck by her through soooo much, even when people told me the relationship wasn't healthy and this past november, a month after we both parted ways and went off to different colleges, she just suddenly stopped talking to me. I wrote her emails, facebook/myspace messages trying to see how she was, what was going etc, and she kept ignoring me. I thought maybe she just hadn't been online in a while but saw that she had been posting notes and birthday messages to people from our old school she didn't even hang out with while she didn't even call me/email me for my birthday. So I got pissed off! I felt so betrayed and I wrote her telling her so. If she didn't want to be my friend, that was fine - people grow apart, but I thought I at least deserved a message from her after all I'd done for her - not the cold shoulder. So, I emailed and said I had finally seen the true her after all these years - the one everyone had been trying to get me to see, and I didn't ever want to hear from her again.

And, we haven't talked since before November. I miss her of course and I dunno if I'll ever not miss her, but without her around I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I don't have to worry about her trying to cut herself anymore or her boyfriend hitting her again. It's not my problem, and it never was, but I couldn't see that.

A mutual friend told me that she had been going through a hard time at school - not making friends, depression, etc and had to leave school for a while. Supposedly she only wanted to talk to her parents and this mutual friend during this time. I can understand that - I had a bad freshman year...I was depressed and almost flunked out, but I didn't block out the people that I supposedly cared about the most.

HEY MY NAME iS SELENE AND iM 16 YRS 0LD.i HAD 0NE CL0SE FR)M THAT i KNEW F0R LiKE 8 YRS.WHEN WE WERE Y0UNG WE USE T0 GET A L0NG VERY WELL BUT WEN JR HiGH HiT i HATED HER.. i D0NT KN0W Y BUT SHE SEEMED STUCK UP!!! SHE W0ULDNT TALK T0 N0NE 0F THE HiSPANiCS iN SCH00L, SHE WAS STUCK UP LiKE N0THiN. THEN WHEN 9TH GRADE HiT WE STARTED G0iN T0 HiGH SCH00L, WE BECAME CL0SE AFTER A PARTY i HAD.
WE USE T0 HANG 0UT EVERiDAY AND SiNCE MY M0M AND HER M0M ARE VERY CL0SE WE JUST BECAME LiKE SISTERS WE WEXPERiANCE A L0T 0F THiNGS T0 GETHER. AT THE END 0F 10TH GRADE SHE PUT ME 0FF AND STARTED TALKiN AB0UT ME REALLY i GT0 MAD BUT i USSALLY GET 0VER SMALL THINGS LiKE THAT,HER B0YFRiEND DiDNT LIKE ME S00 SHE HiDE ME FR0M HiM S0 HE W0ULDNT GET MAD AT HER.i FELT BAD BECAUSE i W0ULD NEVER D0 THAT i THINK FRiENDS ARE THERE BEF0R ANi GUY.AT THE END OF THE SCH00L YEAR WE STARTED TALKiN AGiN,BUT IT WASNT THE SAME WE JUSS SAID Hi AND BYE iN THE HALL WAYS.TWO WEEKS BEF0R SCH00L END i F0UND 0UT MY DAD HAD CANCER, AND iT HiT ME VERi HARD SiNCE ME DAD IS DA M0ST iMPORTANT PERSON iN MY LiFE OTHER THAN ME HARD WORKiN MOM. AND i DiDNT EVEN GET A FONE CALL O SEE HOW i WAS DOiN OR iF I NEEDED TO TALK, SHE CALLED ME A WEEK AND A HALF AFTER, WHEN i WAS MORE CALMED DOWN AND HAPPiER. NOW SUMMER iS HERE AND iM USALLY iM STUCK HOME CLEANiNG AND HELPiNG MY DAD.&& SHES OF PARTiN AND i GUESS SHE AND ANOTHER FRiEND ARE CLOESER AND THEY HAVE PUT ME OFF ON EVERITHiN, i JUSS FELT REALLI BAD BECUSE SHE CONSiDEREDHER SELF AS MY BEST FRiEND BUT HAS NEVER SHOWED iT. i HATE THE FACT THAT SHE HAS BLEW ME OFF AND JUSS HAS CHANGED.. WELL I GUESS U REALLI KN WH0 UR FRIENDS ARE WEN SUMTHIN LIKE WHAT HAPPEN TO ME HAPPENS..
LIKE VERiONE SAYS FRiENDS STICK WiTH YOU THROUHG THiK AND THiCK N0T THROUGH FUN TiMES..
MUCH L0VE AND RESPECT ...
X0X0X SELENE

HEY MY NAME iS SELENE AND iM 16 YRS 0LD.i HAD 0NE CL0SE FR)M THAT i KNEW F0R LiKE 8 YRS.WHEN WE WERE Y0UNG WE USE T0 GET A L0NG VERY WELL BUT WEN JR HiGH HiT i HATED HER.. i D0NT KN0W Y BUT SHE SEEMED STUCK UP!!! SHE W0ULDNT TALK T0 N0NE 0F THE HiSPANiCS iN SCH00L, SHE WAS STUCK UP LiKE N0THiN. THEN WHEN 9TH GRADE HiT WE STARTED G0iN T0 HiGH SCH00L, WE BECAME CL0SE AFTER A PARTY i HAD.
WE USE T0 HANG 0UT EVERiDAY AND SiNCE MY M0M AND HER M0M ARE VERY CL0SE WE JUST BECAME LiKE SISTERS WE WEXPERiANCE A L0T 0F THiNGS T0 GETHER. AT THE END 0F 10TH GRADE SHE PUT ME 0FF AND STARTED TALKiN AB0UT ME REALLY i GT0 MAD BUT i USSALLY GET 0VER SMALL THINGS LiKE THAT,HER B0YFRiEND DiDNT LIKE ME S00 SHE HiDE ME FR0M HiM S0 HE W0ULDNT GET MAD AT HER.i FELT BAD BECAUSE i W0ULD NEVER D0 THAT i THINK FRiENDS ARE THERE BEF0R ANi GUY.AT THE END OF THE SCH00L YEAR WE STARTED TALKiN AGiN,BUT IT WASNT THE SAME WE JUSS SAID Hi AND BYE iN THE HALL WAYS.TWO WEEKS BEF0R SCH00L END i F0UND 0UT MY DAD HAD CANCER, AND iT HiT ME VERi HARD SiNCE ME DAD IS DA M0ST iMPORTANT PERSON iN MY LiFE OTHER THAN ME HARD WORKiN MOM. AND i DiDNT EVEN GET A FONE CALL O SEE HOW i WAS DOiN OR iF I NEEDED TO TALK, SHE CALLED ME A WEEK AND A HALF AFTER, WHEN i WAS MORE CALMED DOWN AND HAPPiER. NOW SUMMER iS HERE AND iM USALLY iM STUCK HOME CLEANiNG AND HELPiNG MY DAD.&& SHES OF PARTiN AND i GUESS SHE AND ANOTHER FRiEND ARE CLOESER AND THEY HAVE PUT ME OFF ON EVERITHiN, i JUSS FELT REALLI BAD BECUSE SHE CONSiDEREDHER SELF AS MY BEST FRiEND BUT HAS NEVER SHOWED iT. i HATE THE FACT THAT SHE HAS BLEW ME OFF AND JUSS HAS CHANGED.. WELL I GUESS U REALLI KN WH0 UR FRIENDS ARE WEN SUMTHIN LIKE WHAT HAPPEN TO ME HAPPENS..
LIKE VERiONE SAYS FRiENDS STICK WiTH YOU THROUHG THiK AND THiCK N0T THROUGH FUN TiMES..
MUCH L0VE AND RESPECT ...
X0X0X SELENE

Hi Tyra-
I am so glad that you did a show on "good friends gone bad". I saw about the first 10 min. of your show and i was crying my eyes out. I moved to my dads house about a year and a 1/2 ago and i had to leave my best friend behind... i came back to my moms about a month later and i went to see my best friend... she is not the girl i left behind! she used to be a church girl that was a sweetie... now she is an alcoholic and a cutter! I feel horrible... like i did this to her.. but since i have lived with my dad i have not drank one drop of alcohol and not cutt once! i am doing better... but my friend is not! my other friends say that she is a bad influence to me and that i should drop her... but alls i want to do is help? what do i do?!
-Joe*

how r u tayra well im so fine but bored and yeah its cool im in summer vacation and all but theres nothing i can do in during the day!well thats all i wanted to say!talk 2 u later!
natalie

OMG NO WAYYYYYYY TYRA WOULD NEVER EVER MAKE A SEX TAPE I DONT BELIEVE THAT AT ALLLLL I HOPE ITS NOT TRUE I WOULD BE IN COMPLETE SHOCK I UNDERSTAND IT COMING FROM PARIS HILTON AND PAMALA ANDERSON BUT NOT TYRA

hay Tyra,

My belived best friend (William) and I were best friends since kindigarten. we were always together. In later years when girls started to come into play we drifted a little bit but we were still close and promised that if we had got turned down that the other one wouldnt go out with her. then i asked him for some advice on asking out a girl (Liz) who i have told him that i liked and he gave me the advice to go for it. so i did and she told me no and the next day she asked him out and he said YES! i felt betrayed but then i got over it. i mean it is a high school relationship no biggie. well they lasted for about a month and thenall those feelings that i still had for liz came back so i gave her another try and asked her out again. she said yes and we have been dating for a little over a year. just latly Will has been spending a ton more time with liz then me. and i just figured out that he still likes her so that makes me feel worse. it isnt that i dont trust them i just feel taht they spend to much time together. now i feel like i am in comptitition with my suposed "best friend help me please!!!!

TYRA,
MY NAME IS JENNIFER AND I NEED HELP GETTING MY DAUGHTER BACK FROM MY MOTHER . SEE IT ALL GOES BACK TO WHEN MY HUSBAND DIED OCT. 29, 2005 , WELL HE LEFT ME TO RAISE OUR BEAUTIFUL (2 1/2 YR OLD AT THAT TIME) DAUGHTER (SHE'S 4 NOW) ALONE AND BY MYSELF . I KNOW THAT WOMEN DO IT ALL THE TIME BUT HIS DEATH HIT ME HARD , ABOUT 6 MONTHS AFTER HIS DEATH I STARTED USEING DRUGS TO DEAL WITH THE PAIN OF HIM NOT BEING THERE ANYMORE, WELL THAT WAS A WRONG DECISION TO MAKE BECAUSE NOW I LOST TEMP CUSTUDY OF HER CAUSED BY THE CHOICES I MADE, WRONG ONES . IVE BEEN CLEAN NOW FOR 5 MONTHS GOING ON 6 MONTHS. ANDNEVER GONNA TOUCH THE STUFF AGAIN (COCAINE AND EXSTACY) I MEAN I WAS USING HARDCORE WERE I WOULD DUMP 4 PILLS AT ONCE AND THEN TAKE A COUPLE MORE BY THE END OF THE NIGHT. TYRA PLEASE HELP ME GET MY DAUGHTER BACK . I MISS AND NEED HER AND I NEED HELP.

TYRA,
MY NAME IS JENNIFER AND I NEED HELP GETTING MY DAUGHTER BACK FROM MY MOTHER . SEE IT ALL GOES BACK TO WHEN MY HUSBAND DIED OCT. 29, 2005 , WELL HE LEFT ME TO RAISE OUR BEAUTIFUL (2 1/2 YR OLD AT THAT TIME) DAUGHTER (SHE'S 4 NOW) ALONE AND BY MYSELF . I KNOW THAT WOMEN DO IT ALL THE TIME BUT HIS DEATH HIT ME HARD , ABOUT 6 MONTHS AFTER HIS DEATH I STARTED USEING DRUGS TO DEAL WITH THE PAIN OF HIM NOT BEING THERE ANYMORE, WELL THAT WAS A WRONG DECISION TO MAKE BECAUSE NOW I LOST TEMP CUSTUDY OF HER CAUSED BY THE CHOICES I MADE, WRONG ONES . IVE BEEN CLEAN NOW FOR 5 MONTHS GOING ON 6 MONTHS. ANDNEVER GONNA TOUCH THE STUFF AGAIN (COCAINE AND EXSTACY) I MEAN I WAS USING HARDCORE WERE I WOULD DUMP 4 PILLS AT ONCE AND THEN TAKE A COUPLE MORE BY THE END OF THE NIGHT. TYRA PLEASE HELP ME GET MY DAUGHTER BACK . I MISS AND NEED HER AND I NEED HELP.

Tyra,
I have known one of my closest friends(tatiana) for a bout a couple of years now, throughout the years she has been in and out of my life. The first conflict we had was about money. Tatiana and another friend of ours,(tiesha) went to my house and the whole time tatiana was complaing that she didnt have enough money to buy a present for her boyfriend. We hung out at my house and tiesha and her were lookin through my brothers stuff and came across money. I put the money back in the drawer and went to the bathroom. Later on that day my brother claimed to have 100$ missing from his drawer! I didnt know what to do ! I called tiesha and she said she didnt see anything and when i called tatiana she blamed it on tiesha. Tatiana had all the right motives i knew it was her, we stopped talking for a while but resumed our friendship. A couple years later we went to a friends home and there was 50$ missing and the only person that could have took the money was me ! so obviously it was her, i dont know what to do i seperated myself from her because she can't be trusted so i need your help !!

Hello Tyra,

I had this great friend and then this year she started to treat me like I don't matter at all. One day in front of her frieds she came up to me and said
"I don't even get why you think that we are friends. I mean why in the world would i hang out with a nobody like you?"
then like 2 min. later she was talking to me like we were the best of friends again. The next day she went and started telling every one that i liked this guy that she knew that i hated then the next she the took a pen and now has left me with a 5 inch scar and ink poising
Now she kepts telling me that she has done nothing wrong and that i'm over reacting then a min. later she says that im a nobody and that we arn't friends... then the next day she thinks that we are the best of friends this has been going on for like 6 months

Tyra,

I am a 28 year old woman who just had to end a 20+ year friendship with my best friend.

I am having a hard time with this because I loved my friend and know I did the right thing but she is accusing me of betraying her trust when she failed to do the right thing.

My friend had another friend named Kay that I had only met very recently. Kay began to sleep with another one of my lifelong guy friends (who was also lifelong friends with my other friend) in secret because Kay was involved with a very mentally and physically abusive boyfriend.

My friend broke her confidence to Kay and told me about all the hook-ups and then preceeded to tell me that Kay had herpes. I was furious because Kay kept that a secret and did not give my guy friend the opportunity to protect himself against the STD.

I asked my friend if she was planning to tell the guy so he could go to the doctor or at least be provided with information to make an informed decision about her. She told me no.

I sat on this information for about 2-3 weeks but my conscience was eating me up. I called my guy friend and ended up telling him what I had heard, that I didn't hear it straight from Kay so I wasn't sure if it was absolute truth, but he needed to get checked out. He was very appreciative and did end up going to the doctor and everything turned out ok. THAT was all I was after. I was not out to humiliate Kay.

However, my friend was furious with me. She said that I violated her trust by telling my guy friend. Furthermore, she completely turned on me and accused me of making the whole thing up because I was jealous of Kay. Kay also denies having herpes.

There is so much more to this story as far as the behavior of Kay and my friend but not enough time to type it all out.

I think I did the right thing. Someone's health is not something to play around with. But, my friend has completely cut me off and is calling me a liar.

Bottom line is...they know the truth and that is something they have to deal with. As my dad always said...Poop floats. The truth about them will come out.

It sucks when you realize that you have outgrown your childhood friends.

hey tyra,
i live in australia and am a huge fan of the way you(one person) can inspire so many people and you captivating smile and willingness to help others. i was wondering if you could help me with my bestfriend problem, because i can not talk to most of my friends about it cause i complain to them alot and there sick of it. well things with my best friend have been really bad the past 5 months. i made alot of changes and decisions when we became best friends, for the past 5 months it has all been about her. friendships or any relationships are about give and take and latley its all take for her. well it started less frequantly with the occasional "oh i cant come out with you sorry" but then it wouldturn to "cant come out no more" just before we had plans. once it was 5minutes before we were suposed 2 meet other people. then it was most weekens i cant c you this night hows bout this night or completly leaving me in the lurch. one night i could get in contact with her for 3 hours after she was surposed to arrive at my house i thought she would be dead i called everyone even people i hate because i worried for her life. she is also a cronic lier i do not know if she knows the difference between the truth and a lie. the thing is shwe tells my other friend things and me things and when we cought on and started comparing stories we relised she was a HUGE lier. recently two things have happened that really have upset me. first thing is i met this boy and we hit things off, then i introduced him to her and me being 16 was liek " oh i relli wanna hook up with him" and her being 16 awsell sayins she would try and fix it up for me. that nite there was 4 of us 2guys 2 gals watchin a movie and the boy i wanted to hook up with and my best friend started to fool around wen i was sittin next to them. the ended up having sex. the next tim e i met up with those same 4 people we had been drinking and i told my best friend i liked the boy she had previosly had sex with i told tthat boy and we had sex. at this point she started screaming at me and left me in that house at 3am the boy was relli sweet and waited with me till i was ready to go home and he took me. i dont know what happened but we dont talk now because somthing was said that upset him that he will not tell me what it is. now him and my best friend are so close always together. he says bad things bout me to her all the time (i know because i hear) before i can look at her fone she deletes text messages. he causes us so many fights my best friend said she wouldnt talk to him so she sneaks around me knoing she is hurtin me. she has let me down on occasions to go and meet him. and the second thing was we both did a stupid thing that lost us friends and my best friend ended up in hospital (she was fine didnt have to see a doctor) i did not leave her side all night i tried to make her smile and laugh and then the next weekend she blew me off. i try and try to be a good friend to her. there is a cycle she will mess up appologies and promise it wont happen again and i forgive her and then she messes up wits a never ending cycle. i am over ebing treat liek this. i turned into the person i never wanted to be someone who lets others take advantage and walk all over them. i made a stand and gave her 1 last chance and already she is skating on thin ice. my friend think i will cave in and i dunno i think i mite even though i really dont want to!!! i love her but i need a reliable best friend. tyra if you were in the situation i am in now, what would you do? can u please give some advice and try and help me??
thank you
x.x b3k x.x

ok i donot have much comment,i just wanted say thanks for the show tyra am in uganda ever before i sleep i watch your show.am called alis.

heeyyyy tyra
how are you i'm mimi 23y from tunisia so i'm arabic.you hate arabic pepole
i love your showwwwww.
BYYYEEEEEEEEEE

I love your shows tyra

omg omg omg!! I watched that epsiode of you and your sister.I was so happy to see you guys makeup again.I have a sister that is 2 years younger than me and we are like soo close .We do everything thing together.It is amazing to have someone close to you and can understand you.

How was the taping of the Tyra Banks Show Cailean? I heard from some people who were on the show said it was scirpted , and fake?? Is that true.

Well Tyra is a real person it seems. She is such a wonderful role model.ONe day you hope to meet you Tyra!

Charlotte

Hi, Tyra.

My husband and I are are newlyweds. We were married early this year. My best friend had known him for many years, and had told me so much about him. Finally one night she introduced us, and it was practically love at first sight. We just "knew," if that makes any sense.

My friend had always told me they had a way of flirting, but that it was totally platonic. That made sense to me; they'd known one another for over 20 years, and I trusted her completely. After he and I started dating, however, she took me aside and told me she felt she should warn me about him, that he was a player, and that she was worried I'd be hurt (she'd always told me how awesome a guy he was before this). I immediately went to him with the information, and he denied it. I shared this with my best friend, and she advised me to just keep my eyes open. That sent a red flag up, and I did keep a close eye out for any signs that what she said may be true (I knew the signs, believe me). No signs ever materialized, though; he simply continued to treat me with love and respect, and never gave me any reasons to feel I could not trust him. He put me on that pedestal that before I'd only heard about, but never experienced.

After a short time we moved in together. My best friend started acting really, in my opinion, overly "close" to my then-boyfriend. I told him it made me uncomfortable, and we both decided to put a little distance between she and the two of us, thinking that would work. The problem was we both still cared for her; it was the behavior that was at issue. I obsessed over it more than my husband did; I just could not understand why, with words she was saying she considered him just a close friend, but with her actions she told everyone who looked that she wanted him in a more-than-friends kind of way. Its been an issue ever since, and has culminated in my not trusting her. I want to be her friend still, but when the three of us get together she acts so provocative toward my husband that its disturbing. He never responds in kind, by the way. The former best friend is acting like the wounded bird in this situation; no one understands her is the message she's sending out. I feel so conflicted over this. I feel guilty for hurting her by drawing away, but at the same time she has been told how her actions disturb and hurt me. She apologized and said she would never do anything to hurt me, yet the inappropriate behavior hasn't stopped. She is aunt to my husband's grown children, so if I made a big deal out of it, it becomes a family issue (I'm the new kid on the block).

I miss my best friend, but I don't feel I should have to stand by and watch her antics. No one else we know acts this way. My sister is flirtatious by nature, and she flirts with my husband on occasion. He comes right back at her with a silly come-back, and there's no issue with that. That's fine with me, and just normal and funny. There's just something unseemly about the way my former best friend does it...

By the way, my husband has never given me a reason not to trust him throughout all of this. Its come to the point where we just don't talk to her and see her as much now as we did before we became a couple, all because of the way she acts around us. In my head, I sometimes wonder if what she's doing is showing him what he could have had, if that makes any sense (she's tall and thin, with legs a mile long. I'm average height and curvy). I don't know where the reality of the situation ends, and my neurosis begins, though... I mean, am I being overly sensetive and jealous and fearful? Who's wrong here?

Anyway, that's my dime.

S U

Hi Everyone! I'm Cailean and I was on this episode of good friends gone bad. This show changed my life completely. My sister and I are best friends now. We spend all of our time together and we even started working as a team on a fashion section of a local magazine. The Tyra Show gave me the opportunity to open up to my big sister and tell her how I was feeling at that time. If it wasn't for Tyra, I'm not sure where we would be right now. Our bond is stronger than ever and all those years of not speaking are just a memory. My life with my sister is so perfect. I can't imagine being without her:) Thank You Tyra! :)

O yeah, he also made me miss my Prom! I got a red, lacy, $200 dress and beautiful shoes. He was supposed to pay for the tickets, but got the money to me too late, so I couldn't buy them. I had to leave school and meet him at the bank so he could give me the money the money. He was supposed to bring the money to my school, but didn't wake up in time( the senior class was released early that day). By the time I went back to the school to get the tickets, the "ticket lady" was gone!!!! I was soooooo mad at him for that. But, even after that he was supposed to take my out to eat or whatever anyway, and I would wear my Prom outfit. That didn't happen. He hadn't booked a limo(his license was suspended)...he wasn't even dressed when I called him and it was 5:00 pm!!! I got mad at him and he said he didn't care that I was mad, and that I act like he's supposed to treat me like a princess. What a jerk. I ended up having to find an affordable limo. When I called him to tell him that I had found a limo, he said we might have to do it the next day because he wasn't ready, and he wanted to get his hair braided. He said that that day was the only day he could get it done because it was his only day off. He is so self-centered! Then my grandmother called to speak with him and he said he would call me back, but didn't. My "Prom" night was ruined. I didn't call him for a week and he didn't call me. When I finally spoke to him, he said he had sent my a 4-page text message instead of calling me since we were so angry, but I don't get text messages, so I didn't get it. He said that he would take me out still, but it's been now, and I know he's already talking to other girls, so I know I'm definitely not a priority of his. And it hard talking to him because he works all day everyday, and doesn't get home until about 12:00am. And most of the time, when I call him he's busy...at the club, talking to someone, etc. It just hurts so bad, I don't what to do. I loved him more than anything and I feel that I may have really wasted my time. But now I can't get over him.

To add to my previous comment....I'm 18 and my ex-boyfriend is 22...just in case you were wondering.

I met my ex-boyfriend last june and started dating him in october. A month later, I got mad at him because he hadn't called for 3 days(I was used to him calling me every day several times). So I went outside of the relationship, just that one time, and I felt so awful. I told him about it..he was angry, of course, but forgave me. To apologize, I bought him a stuffed animal, a 4-fold card(which I wrote all over about how much I loved him),drew his portrait, and made him some brownies.Even after that, he became controlling and didn't want me talking or looking at other guys. Then, shortly after that, he tells me that he has an STD, but it was curable. I was so upset, but I forgave him. He did nothing but cry on the phone to apologize..no flowers, chocolate, nothing...he never mentioned it again...But, everything was great...we met each other's families at both of our thanksgiving celebrations, etc. He was wonderful to me. Then, 3 months later, in February, he got a well-paying job at the airport(he had been jobless until then). He broke up with me because he says he was paranoid that he didn't know where I was, and I might be with another guy, and just couldn't get over it. At first, he was confused, and didn't know if he wanted to be with me or not, then, about 2 months ago, he finally started seeing other people. I feel so depressed now because I really loved him unconditionally, and would've done anything for him. I guess there is nothing for me to do but move on, but I have no desire to see other people...I know, it sucks.Is there anything I can do?

Hey Tyra,

I had a good friend of 13 years. I just ended our friendship this past Sunday. The friendship became toxic because she was never a social person, she was more into her family and other things. When we became friends, I taught her how to get along socially and how to trust people and get comfortable being friends. In the beginning she wanted to monopolize all of my time and smother me and I allowed because she didn't have any friends for a lack of trust but now that I have shown her as I would any friend, now I am the bad one, she has turned on me and everyone else is now her friend and now I am the one that she doesn't trust. She talks about me in the presence of the new friends and we constantly argue in front of the new friends and I am hurt and sad but what can I do, I can't continue to get hurt by her foul mouth and nasty accusations, the friendship has now turned TOXIC.

hay tyra i am samira and mt bff went out with the boy i like and now we dont talk to each oter and she dident even said she was sory!!!! so what shold i do pleas pleas pleas pleas help !!!!!!! love samira

hey tyra, it was not my best friend but it was my real moms.
my mom marge was firneds witht his girl michelle, which is also my mother midwife, she helped gaive birth to me. well they were firneds forever, and then years later, my dad and mom divorced and it really hurt my mom. but michelle was there for her until about 8 years later and then she, michelle married my dad!!!!!!!! my mom has never ever forgiven her,michelle knew my mom still loved him! and now they are not together any more, my dad is now with a 24 year, but she is cool, and i love her so much, she has always been there for me.... well thanks for listening

heyyyyyyyyyy tyra
i'm mimi 23 years i'm from tunisia so arabic.i know you hate arabic pepole but i'love you. tyra the best
byyye

Hi Tyra, I was just wondering about a show that my sisters and I attended about self-esteem in Febuary.Jessica Weiner was on this show. Are you ever going to air it? If so, When??? and if not, WHY???

I am just releived that im not the only one going through the pain of losing a close friend. Anyway im still trying to cope with it eventhough im not the one who was wrong. She believed an outsider whom she didnt even know rather that me whom she have known for years.

Tyra I am a proudly south african who is just so crazy about you. You rock girl.

Can I just get an e-mail from my fan please.

I love you and Thanx

hey tyra...
I just wanna tell you how much of a inspiration you are to me and such a good role model. You have giving me confidence in myself. I am 16 and I recently found out who my real friends were. I dont have many friends to start off with but I lost a really good close friend to me. For 4 years we talked and spilled our guts to eachother. I dont want to trash her on here but I probably wont be talking to her she made poor decisons. I feel very confident i wont go down that path and i am mainly upset now but i am holding my head high. I really dont want to help her but i think i should.. any suggestions.

Hey Well I am a twin and my sister and I had a lots of bad friends in are life. We are only 16 years old and we had a lots of so called friends. We are not fast girls who are not boy crazy. At that time are friends loved boys and we didn’t. we cared less about them. They had told other people not to talk to us or be are friends. That hurt so bad. They had slept over are house and we feed them. We thought we would be friends for along time. It hurts so bad that it still hurts until this day. Its sad that people will go out of there ways just to make sure that you are hurt. It was so bad that a lots of people wanted to fight my twin and I. we would go home crying everyday saying mom we cant do this anymore. We both just wanted to die. We really did! It was that bad. We both wanted to stop eating. It hurt so bad hearing people talk about you. Calling you a snitches and calling you the B word. We would get cuss out almost everyday. We don’t cuss. So we didn’t know what to say back to them. It was more then 10 girls who didn’t like us. Even boys didn’t like us because the girls had told them not to talk to us. We would walk down the hall and boys would start making fun of us too. It was so bad. We would cry and know one had known beside are mom and god. We had talked to god almost every night asking him for help. Well it has been two years since that had happen. It was so bad that we had to change school. Things are ok. By the thanks of God and my twin sister we both made it through. Just watch out for your friends. If your parents say I don’t think he or she is a good friend for you. You should believe your parents because they where here on the earth before you and almost all the things you had gone through they had gone through it too. And also pick your friends wisely. don’t try to fit in be yourself.

Hey Well I am a twin and my sister and I had a lots of bad friends in are life. We are only 16 years old and we had a lots of so called friends. We are not fast girls who are not boy crazy. At that time are friends loved boys and we didn’t. we cared less about them. They had told other people not to talk to us or be are friends. That hurt so bad. They had slept over are house and we feed them. We thought we would be friends for along time. It hurts so bad that it still hurts until this day. Its sad that people will go out of there ways just to make sure that you are hurt. It was so bad that a lots of people wanted to fight my twin and I. we would go home crying everyday saying mom we cant do this anymore. We both just wanted to die. We really did! It was that bad. We both wanted to stop eating. It hurt so bad hearing people talk about you. Calling you a snitches and calling you the B word. We would get cuss out almost everyday. We don’t cuss. So we didn’t know what to say back to them. It was more then 10 girls who didn’t like us. Even boys didn’t like us because the girls had told them not to talk to us. We would walk down the hall and boys would start making fun of us too. It was so bad. We would cry and know one had known beside are mom and god. We had talked to god almost every night asking him for help. Well it has been two years since that had happen. It was so bad that we had to change school. Things are ok. By the thanks of God and my twin sister we both made it through. Just watch out for your friends. If your parents say I don’t think he or she is a good friend for you. You should believe your parents because they where here on the earth before you and almost all the things you had gone through they had gone through it too. And also pick your friends wisely. don’t try to fit in be yourself.

Hey Tyra,

That's good that you are going to have a topic about good friends gone bad. Well I'm a twin and our friends had gone bad. One day when school was let out for summer we had lots of friends but when we came back from summmer break we had lots of kids telling us that our old friends wants to fight with us. That girl had into high school and we were still in middle school. We kept telling them yeah right we might with her over the summer. But it was true we were so afaired to go to school because she wanted to fight with us.

Dear Tyra,

I am writing to you regarding your 4/11/07 talk show. I found it interesting that your "expert" in body language is Dr. Lillian Glass. She is a speech pathologist,( a person who deals with communication disorders) who MINORED in psychology...not really an expert in the body language field...she is a speech therapist who took a few classes in psychology and now has parlayed that into this giant career as a body language expert. I have a B.S. in Speech Pathology and I know my limitations...The irony of it is that I also knew the participants on the 4/11/07 show and Dr. Glass was DEAD WRONG in her observations...Go figure, such an expert and she missed OBVIOUS common sense observations, such as it could have been that Simone was blindsided by her "friends" and attempted to be a true friend by not calling them liars on national TV? I write this because Dr. Glass has annoyed me over the years with her abuse of education, intentional deceit as to her area of expertise...be careful who you use next time...Make sure they have a Ph.D. in PSYCHOLOGY!!!

I wathced your show today (6/25/07) and thought it was unfair for Queen Latifah to use the opportunity to talk about elections and take a jab at Bush, using the AIDS issue to mislead the audience into believing that the Bush administration has a bad record on AIDS research and funding. For any of it's failings, the Bush administration has budgeted, proposed and participated in domestic and worldwide funding and help to AIDS victims, especially in Africa. Just Google the obvious words. In fact, I recall reading in the Times that spending is many times more than the previous admin and that gives Bush good marks. I hope someone will make this correction on TV and give Bush the credit he deserves on this issue.

Learn to love yourself and your spirit will not allow you to share your time with friends who are unreal.
A true friend would never hurt you, even if that meant putting your feelings before their own at times. I am 35 years old, and it took me some time to recognize my real friends from my acquaintances. More importantly, during this time I have learned to be a better friend to those deserving of my friendship.
Giving without expectations, that is what a friend does. Caring and sharing even when they don’t always have time for you, that is being a friend.
So clear your life of these people who break you down and make you feel bad about who you are, people who do not support your dreams, who really do not want to see you happy at all, find some people deserving of the friendship you have to give!!! Be Happy!

I am at a place in my life that I have so much to be thankful for, as an editor for VassarMagazine.Com, I am delighted to share my stories with you. Why don’t you visit us on the web, and share your stories with us!!
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I just recently learned that my so-called "best friend" had sex with my first love at some party. This guy gave me my first broken heart and Ive had a hard time getting over him. The worst part is that even though him and I havent spoken in months, she was one of the only ones that knew how much i still cared about him. I dont look at either of them the same now but it still hurts me so much and i feel that she doesnt even care. We used to talk several times a week and we now havent spoken once in weeks since she found out I knew. She wasnt even the one to tell me herself so i dont feel like shes even sorry. I havent even confronted her myself about the whole thing because I was waiting for her to call but she hasnt. I always feel the need to work through and talk about problems like this but maybe I should just let it go and hope it was for teh best. Maybe this is what it takes for me to get over him for good.

i hac a friend like that. i confronted her straight up. i said ever sense ... came uv been 2 faced . at first she had an atitude with me , but then my friend"" got into it and said that it is true and now after that we r still friends. even when i notice that she goin back i confront her and she say ok.

Hi Tyra,
I love Punk, Metal and that kind of music. And i like to express myself with my clothes and make-up. All my life i was a person who my friends wanted me to be. Every night we had alot of fun! We smoked, made stupid jokes and just laughed alot. But two years ago i started to be me. And they didn't like that. So they laughed at me, hit me, kicked me and embarresed me. Because of that i started cutting. I'm still not cured of the cutting. But the point is.. I don't need them. I've got my family and they're all that i need.

Love, Cynthia

My friend and I used to be the best of chums since 1999. We did EVERYTHING together. I invited him to EVERYTHING. So, this kept on going with him inviting me in return because we were friends. But one day, his birthday had come after mine did. I invited him to my party, yet after YEARS of loyalty and friendship, he didn't invite me because he thought that I wasn't "popular" enough and he hung out with the others.

hi tyra, my name is candace. in august of 2003, my sons father and i of 3 1/2 years split up. he was physically abusive from the time my son was 3 months old up until we split up in august. approximately 3 months before we split up, i had went and "rescued" my best friend of close to 7 years from her abusive relationship and allowed her to live with us in the brand new home we had just bought. well, time went on, no problems, still the best of friends until the night of august 2006. i had left for a week, came back so my son and his father could see one another and all hell broke loose. he tried to make me leave without my son, which was not, no way:no how, going to happen. my sons father then got furious and pushed me down the front stairs, kicking me, punching me, anything physical. well to make a long story short, i called the police to come out to have him arrested and I WAS THE ONE THAT WENT TO JAIL. my no longer "best friend" had told the police that when i threw the object that i threw at my sons dad, not only hit him, but also hit my son. she lied, made up a story that my sons dad wanted her to tell to protect him from going to jail. she totally hurt me in the worse way. the only reason she felt she had to take his side and lie in the worse way to have me put in jail, is because she felt threatened that her and her son, if they were kicked out of our home, would be left homeless. she had no one but me. its been almost a year now, and we are still yet to speak to one another. because of all of this, i have been treated for manic depression and for having severe signs of anxiety. but on a better note, this past may i married my best friend of 4 years and am now 13 weeks pregnant...and in the process of starting all over in buying our new home in less than a month.

hi tyra,what is the ultimate purpose of life?
is money a solution to everything?
why are some people born poor?and why are some born rich?is God unjust?

Tyra you are great and swit. We need to see the tape. You are so open. Keep it up.

i cant believe what i am seeing is all of this true, i know this might not be the correct place to post and ask this but what are all these tabloids saying? "Tyra Banks Sex Tape? According to our friends at Concrete Loop, someone is set to release an intimate video of Tyra Banks. Yep, Tyra Banks and some Italian guy reportedly get down and dirty for the video camera.

Sources say, the video is grainy and you can hear the two of them talking to each other - among other things.
"
what is this? is it true???
i also had read that message tyra sent a while ago about driking wine ans stuff but now look they way people are saying it!

Tyra Banks does not like wine, but orders it in public to look sexy.

The American talk show host thinks that the alcoholic beverage tastes nasty, but she likes to hold a glass of wine in her hand to appear more attractive.

Tyra wrote on her Internet page: "I recently went to Napa, California, and I learned how to pair wines with certain tastes, how red wine tastes good with salt and bitter things like lemon. So, every now and then I'll order some wine at the table. I'll only take two sips, but I'll keep holding the glass cause it makes me feel sexy, but I still don't drink it because it still tastes kind of nasty to me."

WHAT IS HAPPENING TO TYRA LATELY NO ONE KNOWS!!
it hurts so bad when you love a person so much when they dont even know you exist. for the daytime emmy awards i paid 150 bucks to be a member of the kodak theatre to get onstsage tickets then a paid 127 for each ticket. and the reason why i did all of that was jsut to see tyra. the whole time i was waving to her and waving ans stading up and not once would she wave to me. i was onstage while she was in front row, it hurts to see your role model the one you adore the one where i almost fainted at the awards when i saw here and hearing about a sex tape and her drinking wine to be sexy!
i dont knwo what to say
yara sabri

Tyra,
For the past 9 months, my social life has been hell. On the night of my homecoming dance, my boyfriend and I broke up. I decided that even though I had never felt worse, I was going to go to the dinner and dance. I figured that being with my best friends would beat laying in bed crying all alone. At dinner my now ex's and my mutual best friend tells me that I am uninvited to girl's night at her house. She couldn't even look at me. She said she was mad at me for what I had done to our best friend. In the past 9 months, she hasn't said more than 10 words directly to me. I know all the "living well is life's best revenge" and "forgive and forget" but it really isn't that easy. In one night I lost my two best friends, one of whom was a boyfriend as well. As if that isn't enough, she goes around telling people she hates me. At her birthday party she told people she only hates 3 people. The first two were with good reason. Then she didn't say a third name. Instead someone asked if it was me. She looked at them and said "why did you have to say her name? You just ruined my entire birthday."

I am passed the boyfriend. But her...I can't deal with how much she hates me. And she even gets other friends to hate me. She controls people and I don't know what to do anymore.

Tyra,
For the past 9 months, my social life has been hell. On the night of my homecoming dance, my boyfriend and I broke up. I decided that even though I had never felt worse, I was going to go to the dinner and dance. I figured that being with my best friends would beat laying in bed crying all alone. At dinner my now ex's and my mutual best friend tells me that I am uninvited to girl's night at her house. She couldn't even look at me. She said she was mad at me for what I had done to our best friend. In the past 9 months, she hasn't said more than 10 words directly to me. I know all the "living well is life's best revenge" and "forgive and forget" but it really isn't that easy. In one night I lost my two best friends, one of whom was a boyfriend as well. As if that isn't enough, she goes around telling people she hates me. At her birthday party she told people she only hates 3 people. The first two were with good reason. Then she didn't say a third name. Instead someone asked if it was me. She looked at them and said "why did you have to say her name? You just ruined my entire birthday."

I am passed the boyfriend. But her...I can't deal with how much she hates me. And she even gets other friends to hate me. She controls people and I don't know what to do anymore.

All my life i had a hard time letting my ppl in , especially after my mother death at the age of 12. But i had over it and began trusting ppl , evening after relatives stab my dad,brother n my self in the back. After i attened the university of ontairo there was girl that i knew and adored. We did everyhting together. The point is i like this guy for 2 years, and we finally making process. That was until i had asked her to move in with me . I didn't understand but he started showing up more n more, she made it seem llike nothing was going on. So i accepted it.But anyway she had known all along that i cared deeply about him. But they were sercertly going behind my back and doing the dirty dirty for month , at that time i was very sick . She later told me which i was doing a kidney treatment (dialysis ) that she also like him ...i taught it was a joke but she never did tell me the whole truth of it. Anyhow ...it was later that week , that i came home early from school n i saw her butt naked in my room sucking on his ..u know what .From that day on , i was in tears that why would a good friend do that do me , lie and then try to cover it up like that . And the worst part i caught them in the act. Then another good friend that i went to and cried to told the friend that was sleeping with my crush.So not only did i lose 2 friends this year..ok the friend sleeping with my crush left me for me ..To be honest i don't care. And the friend that told i found out she was only jealous of me and wanted to make me suffer and same with the crush . All this brought back emoitons of pain from my childhood.Noe it's a matter of how do i move on from this and start a new life.

HI Tyra
This is my storie about me and my friend.The first thing that happened is she told me that she thought she was pregnat and not to tell anybody so I kept my promise and a few months past by and one of her friends found a note saying that she was pregnat and she thought that i wrote the note and so she wanted to jump me and i tried to talk to her but she wouldnt so i just left it alone and i had to talk to the princable so we can solve this problem and we did but we never talked like we used to she would just talk about me.Everybody has an enemy but friends who go bad arent your true friends and you need to move on.They just try to put you down because there down those type of people are nothing they have nothing in the future.I LOVE YOUR SHOW SEE YAU ON TV SAY MY NAME IN YOUR SHOW

Hi Tyra well im 15 and well i have been trying to figure out what is up with my home girl.she was my bestfreind. we first met when we both had lost a good freind in our lives that had past away. witch made her my bestfreind now.My new best freind had been getting deprested when i switched to hang with poular teens at my school. I started not to hang with as much but even before she never had time to hang out. so i wanted to make new freinds that had fun all the time.i switched with the most poular girl in school.witch made her my new best freind. so now that had happen she wonnt talk to me she wont even say hello. I wounder why. So i get a call over the summer when i really didnt talk to her any more. that she trryed to kill her self. I cryed and cryed wundering why she would do that?? So i found out it was because of me not being her best freind any more that i made her go sikoe. Thing is it hurt me bad that i do blam my self that what if she really did die that i would been the one to blame.Tell this day i try to work it out with her and hang with her again but she does not want to. She was a girly nice person before she try to do this. Now she is a goth she only calls me crying witch makes me sad. i do not know what to do tyra i just want her to know what did i do that was bad?and to hang out again like we use to.

Hey Tyra the first thing I would like to say is that you inspire me a lot. I mean your so beatiful you have a great personaliy I want to be just like you. let me tell you about myself my name is Chelsea I am 12 years old about to turn 13 in september my mom is putting me in auditions for modeling and acting I have a pretty nice voice too so everybody says im talented and when i becom famous the first thing i would like to do is go on your show so i want you to know to look out for the greatest actress alive and if i ever get to come on your show make sure you have LLcoolJ or lil wayne because I love them so much i would be so excited i would do anything write me back please oh and could you see if you couldget me soom free tickets to you show before i become famous that would make me and my mother and grandmother love you they say hi but until then please write back and you tell them haters "dont dislike me get like me" shouldent nobody hate on me or you but i watch your show everyday but girl lil wayne is mine you can have LLCoolJ bye Tyra

Hey Tyra the first thing I would like to say is that you inspire me a lot. I mean your so beatiful you have a great personaliy I want to be just like you. let me tell you about myself my name is Chelsea I am 12 years old about to turn 13 in september my mom is putting me in auditions for modeling and acting I have a pretty nice voice too so everybody says im talented and when i becom famous the first thing i would like to do is go on your show so i want you to know to look out for the greatest actress alive and if i ever get to come on your show make sure you have LLcoolJ or lil wayne because I love them so much i would be so excited i would do anything write me back please oh and could you see if you couldget me soom free tickets to you show before i become famous that would make me and my mother and grandmother love you they say hi but until then please write back and you tell them haters "dont dislike me get like me" shouldent nobody hate on me or you but i watch your show everyday but girl lil wayne is mine you can have LLCoolJ bye Tyra

Hey Tyra the first thing I would like to say is that you inspire me a lot. I mean your so beatiful you have a great personaliy I want to be just like you. let me tell you about myself my name is Chelsea I am 12 years old about to turn 13 in september my mom is putting me in auditions for modeling and acting I have a pretty nice voice too so everybody says im talented and when i becom famous the first thing i would like to do is go on your show so i want you to know to look out for the greatest actress alive and if i ever get to come on your show make sure you have LLcoolJ or lil wayne because I love them so much i would be so excited i would do anything write me back please oh and could you see if you couldget me soom free tickets to you show before i become famous that would make me and my mother and grandmother love you they say hi but until then please write back and you tell them haters "dont dislike me get like me" shouldent nobody hate on me or you but i watch your show everyday but girl lil wayne is mine you can have LLCoolJ bye Tyra

Hey Tyra the first thing I would like to say is that you inspire me a lot. I mean your so beatiful you have a great personaliy I want to be just like you. let me tell you about myself my name is Chelsea I am 12 years old about to turn 13 in september my mom is putting me in auditions for modeling and acting I have a pretty nice voice too so everybody says im talented and when i becom famous the first thing i would like to do is go on your show so i want you to know to look out for the greatest actress alive and if i ever get to come on your show make sure you have LLcoolJ or lil wayne because I love them so much i would be so excited i would do anything write me back please oh and could you see if you couldget me soom free tickets to you show before i become famous that would make me and my mother and grandmother love you they say hi but until then please write back and you tell them haters "dont dislike me get like me" shouldent nobody hate on me or you but i watch your show everyday but girl lil wayne is mine you can have LLCoolJ bye Tyra

It is so interesting to me that when people are trying to do good, there are always people in the background trying to discredit them. Why is someone talking about a sex tape when the blog is about friendship betrayel? People, you can't believe everything you read or hear.Stick to the damn topic and stop trying to make trouble. Tyra I love ya girl! Keep your head up, just another rumor trying to get you down, but I got your back!! Be blessed

To make a long story short Tyra.My best friend start messing with my babby daddy,behind my back.When I found out about it all she can say is she was sorry and she was never to mess with him again,but a year later she was pregnant by him.And all she can say then was that wasnt meant to happen.But then again the still mess around.He has two kids after her.He has two by me and one by some else.I have his oldiest daughter and his youngiest daughter.I dont want him tho and all his little females knows that.We just mess arond when we want to.Becuse I know he has all these other femles.So I do him when I want to.Hes a hoe and he knows it.But he takes real good care of my children.And that matters.Thanks Tyra

To make a long story short Tyra.My best friend start messing with my babby daddy,behind my back.When I found out about it all she can say is she was sorry and she was never to mess with him again,but a year later she was pregnant by him.And all she can say then was that wasnt meant to happen.But then again the still mess around.He has two kids after her.He has two by me and one by some else.I have his oldiest daughter and his youngiest daughter.I dont want him tho and all his little females knows that.We just mess arond when we want to.Becuse I know he has all these other femles.So I do him when I want to.Hes a hoe and he knows it.But he takes real good care of my children.And that matters.Thanks Tyra

Hi Tyra~

Well here is my story... My ex-bff stoped talking to me...(for a stupid reason i think).. We were friends for almost 9yrs and she ended it because i told her worst enemy that my friend didn't like her and well she found out and she stoped talking to me i mean it hurt more because we were friends for so long.. And also her worst enemy was my cousin.. And i tried telling my ex-bff that her man was trying to mess around with my cousin and she didn't believe me. So i think thats where it all started.. But then i tried telling her that i messed up and i apologized but she did'nt want to hear it.. And i still think of her because she was a really good friend.. I know i messed up but i did my part and apologized maybe i hurt her but believe me that was not my intention..I'm glad you have these kind of topics on your page. Well I LOVE YOUR SHOW!!!!!!!!! ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD!!! XOXOXOXO

Mah friends sumtimes talk about each otha and tatz so fake but ii mean tyra ii really dont want 2 write yoo because yo neva write back gud bye!

Mah friends sumtimes talk about each otha and tatz so fake but ii mean tyra ii really dont want 2 write yoo because yo neva write back gud bye!

Mah friends sumtimes talk about each otha and tatz so fake but ii mean tyra ii really dont want 2 write yoo because yo neva write back gud bye!

dear tyra,
im soo sad and i need ur help my supposivly BFFL stopped talkin 2 me and i want to be her friend again we used to go every wher 2gethr now she dont even look at me. and it hurts my friends metion it so much ex.( oh youn not her frien no more?) theyll even asker right in front of me (ur not isabels friend no more huh).so tyra can u give me a tip plz

I think tyra did make a sex tape.. I am really sad and depressed..

Tyra dosen't want to tell anyone to dissapoint her fans. But she really made me cry. i cannot beleive she made a sex tape. I used to look her to her and always dreamed of meeting my insperation.But I am soo confused right now. I knwo other people wrote about this.

some said they found this about tyra making a sex tape on t-banks.com? Check it out guess ... ppl are soo disspointed

What's up with celebrity's making sex tapes???too show what theey got or to show how desperate they are?
Laura

I recently ended a friendship with my best friend of 10 years. We began talking in kindergarden. Her mother and mine became friends as well. Eventually, she began dating boy, after boy, after boy. She couldn't be single. So then, her attitude started changing, she would make plans with me then change her mind last minute. Many times, I was left hanging. Anytime I said I wanted something, she would get it. Eventually, I began to get into designer fashion, which (not to bad talk her) she couldn't afford it. So, she would talk bad about the things I go, ex. "That Tiffany necklace is ugly." "Louis Vuiton is trashy" (I found that one the best!)

Soon, she began ignoring me. I had dealt with the death of a boyfirend, and I would call her, and cry. She would change the subject and talk about the things her and HER boyfriend did. That always made me feel even worse.

Then, she began telling people both true and false things about me. It grew very annyoing.

After many chances, and many tries, I told her I just didn't want her friendship anymore.

One of the best choices I have ever made.

I know that my situation may seem like nothing compared to these other stories, but my personal anguish is tremendous. I recently lost a friendship. I still do not know the exact circumstances, but apparently she didn’t mean for it to happen. Seriously... how do u single handily destroy a 14 year friendship without meaning to do so. I have not made any attempts to reconcile our relationship for the simple fact that, it wasn’t my fault. Why should I be the one to take the blame over something that was totally on her? I do admit I miss her. I wish she was still in my life the way she use to be. We were supposed to grow old together and our children were supposed to become friends. I guess its just one of those things that happens as you grow up. You search for yourself and find you are at a different path. The younger me would never admit to the feeling I have just expressed. I suppose I have grown emotionally and so has she. How can we form a new friendship without me having to take all the blame?

Is Tyra really coming out with a sex tape? Apparently with some Italian basketball player?

Hello everyone. Well...I'm the one that did a not so nice thing to my friend. I hurt her real bad. I didn't steal her girlfriend (she's a lesbian) or anything but what I did sucked. See, she lived in Florida and I had her come up here with the pretense that I was goign to move out with her. In fact, that was my intention when she moved up in March. Well, my boyfriend and I got pretty serious and, well, we decided to move out together. I did ask her how she felt and if it was ok, but she lied and said "sure, that's great! no problem." On the day that I moved (she helped me) she confessed to me crying that she was really hurt and not okay with it and how I ruined all her plans and now she's going back to Florida. I know what I did wasn't right, but in the same token, she should have told me what she really felt. I guess she did ot realize that my relationship with her is more important than ANY guy. I would have told him " sorry hun, but I asked her to come up here and move out with me, so your just going ot have to wait". I didn't lose her, but things are defenitly different between us. It really kills me to know that I hurt her so much.

HI TYRA,
I LOVED YOUR SHOW TODAY HOW GOOD FRIENDS TURN BAD. I HAD A SIMILIAR EXPERIENCE WHEN MY BEST FRIEND STOLE MY PARTNER (WHEN I WAS PREGNANT) AND ACTED AS IF SHE DID NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH IT. WE HAD BEEN FRIENDS SINCE THE AGE OF 9 AND SHE KNEW EVERYTHING ABOUT ME. THE THING THAT KILLED ME THE MOST WAS THAT MY PARTNER IS HER FIRST COUSIN. YUCK!!!!!! I LOVED HER SO MUCH AND MY FIRST FEW YEARS WITHOUT HER I FELT I COULD NOT TALK TO ANYONE. MY DEPRESSION BECAME WORSE AND WORSE. WHAT A BETRAYAL!!!!!!!!! I THOUGHT. I LEFT COLLEGE, DID NOT TALK TO FRIEND OR FAMILY AND JUST WANTED TO BE BY MYSELF. SINCE 1993 SHE HAS INSULTED ME, PUT ME DOWN AND HAS EVEN HAD MY EX PUT ME ON SPEAKER WHEN WE ARE TALKING ON THE PHONE. I WAS IN AN OUT OF COUNSELORS THINKING ALL THIS TIME IT WAS MY FAULT. MY SELF ESTEEM WAS SO LOW I WANTED TO KILL MYSELF AND NOT DEAL WITH THIS EMBARRASMENT (ESPECIALLY FOR MY DAUGHTER) HER FATHER DATING HIS FIRST COUSIN. I DID NOT DATE FOR 7 YEARS, I FELT LONELY AND CRIED EVERYDAY. IN 1998 I DECIDED TO TURN MY LIFE AROUND. I WENT BACK TO SCHOOL AND EVEN THOUGH THEY WERE BOTH AT THE COLLEGE I ATTENDED I KEPT STRONG. I STRUGGLED THROUGH MY CLASSES MY FIRST YEAR AND ONE HALF. IN 2002 I GRADUATED FROM COLLEGE AND IN 2004 I REMARRIED. THAT WAS A BIG STEP FOR ME BUT I KNEW I NEEDED TO CHANGE MY LIFE FOR THE BETTER AND FOR MY DAUGHTER. ALL TOGETHER IT HAS BEEN 13 YEARS LATER AND TODAY SHE STILL THINKS I AM GOING TO STEAL HER HUSBAND/COUSIN AWAY FROM HER. I HAVE LEARNED ENOUGH TO KNOW THAT WHAT DOESN'T WORK WE NEED TO PICK IT UP AND THROW IT AWAY. I HAVE LEARNED THAT MY BIGGEST HERO IS GOD AND MYSELF.

I know how this feels..My best friend back stab me by lying to my face for the 3 months. What she had done was kissing my boyfriend and for the 3 months in my relationship she lie to my face everyday and look into my eyes calling me her sister and her best friend. I felt so hurt and I went through a breakdown. Because of her my relationship ended!! But I know how it feel when you BFF turns your back on you

LOSEING A FRIEND...........
me and my sister will always be freinds we did all kinds of dumb things to each other.......but through it all thats still my sister and even though im 12 and shes 13 she spoils me to death no lie im so spoiled that i wont drink coffie unless she makes it for me!!!!!!!!!!
yah i love my sister
shes the best

LOSEING A FRIEND...........
me and my sister will always be freinds we did all kinds of dumb things to each other.......but through it all thats still my sister and even though im 12 and shes 13 she spoils me to death no lie im so spoiled that i wont drink coffie unless she makes it for me!!!!!!!!!!
yah i love my sister
shes the best

LOSEING A FRIEND...........
me and my sister will always be freinds we did all kinds of dumb things to each other.......but through it all thats still my sister and even though im 12 and shes 13 she spoils me to death no lie im so spoiled that i wont drink coffie unless she makes it for me!!!!!!!!!!
yah i love my sister
shes the best

Losing a friend is a very difficult thing to deal with.
When I learned to love myself, truly love myself; that is when I fell in love for the first time in my life. At the tender age of 35, I have had relationships, but nothing as wonderful as the one I have now. It makes perfect sense, how can you expect someone to love you, if you do not love yourself?

During the process of finding myself, love and just following the path to living my dreams…I lost a very dear friend. Not completely, but we went from having the kind of friendship where you talk daily, to talking only once or twice a month.
In the beginning I was hurt that our friendship had fallen by the way side, but what I realized is that I will always love her and she will always be a friend of mine, just not the same kind of friend she was before.
There are other things in my life that need my undivided attention right now and if that means some of my relationships have to change then that is what has to happen. If someone is truly your friend, they will always be, no matter how often you hang out!!

I have a brand new journey I am embarking on in my life. Not only in my new relationships, but in my life as a whole… I want to share this with you….

My involvement with Vassar Magazine has already enriched my life. Vassar has made a commitment to cover and talk about everyone's lifestyle and to do what we like to call cross READERLIZATION.
To see what it is all about go to
http://vassarmagazine.com

OK TO WHO EVER IS SAD OK MAD OR DISSIPONTED ABOUT WHAT THIS LAST GIRL HOLLY SAID!!!! THAT IS DUMB!!! IF YOU ARE GOING TO SUPPORT TYRA OR CALL YOURSELF A FAN YOU NEED TO BE BEHIND HER ALL THE WAY...DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU HEAR ABOUT PEOPLE!!!! FAMOUS OR NOT YOU NEED TO GO TO THE SOURCE!!!! TYRA IS A GOOD PERSON!!! I LOOK UP TO HER AND I DON'T THINK SHE WOULD GO THAT LOW AND REALESAED A SEX TAPE!!! AND IF SHE DID OR DOSE THEN YOU KNOW WHAT THAT IS HER BUSINESS!!! NO ONE ELSES!!! WE AS ON LOOKERS ARE TOO MUCH IN THESE PEOPLES LIVES!!!!! CELEBS ARE PEOPLE JUST LIKE US THEY SHOULD BE ALOUD THERE OWN TIME AS WELL!!! LIKE I SAID IF YOU ARE TRUELY A FAN OF TYRAS YOU WILL BACK HER UP IN ANY THING SHE DOSE!!!! I AM A PROUD FAN OF TYRAS AND I LOVE HER NO MATTER WHAT IT IS SHE DOSE!!!!
LOVE ELIZABETH

OMG OMG OMG TYRA!!

TYRA FANS I AM SORRY TO DISSAPOINT YOU BUT...

TYRA MADE A SEX TAPE IN 2005 WITH HER ITALIAN BOYFRIEND. IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE REALEASED SOON.THEY HAVE PICTURES OF TYRA AND HER EX-BOYFRIEND.

TYRA TYRA WHY DID YOU HAVCE TO DO THIS?? YOU WERE MY FRICKIN ROLE MODEL. I REALLY SAD RIGHT NOW AND ALMOST CRYING.

HOLLY

Hi Tyra,
I am watching your show right now! I want some girl advice! I am in a fight with my bff. I am very mad at me because she was making fun of my grades and she got all A's and I got all A's and 2 B's and my friends were saying that it = a C! Then, you know how there is that friend rule where if you bf has a crush on a guy then you shouldn't even think about liking him, well I have liked him sensce 4th grade and she is just now liking him and the funny thing is that I told her this year and she is just now starting to like him! He asked her out and she said yes and I was so mad! I told her and asked her to help me get him to like me and it seemed like it was working and Alex didn't tell me she liked him but it seemed like everyone else knew but didn't tell me and then she stole him! HELP!!! What should I do? Everyone thought I was crazy because I liked him at 4th grade and now every girl likes him! No one pays attention to who I like and they don't try and set me up but when they found out my friend liked him by other bf was like her crushes coach and then he asked her out! I am soooo mad at her and now we solemly talk!

Hi Tyra,
I am watching your show right now! I want some girl advice! I am in a fight with my bff. I am very mad at me because she was making fun of my grades and she got all A's and I got all A's and 2 B's and my friends were saying that it = a C! Then, you know how there is that friend rule where if you bf has a crush on a guy then you shouldn't even think about liking him, well I have liked him sensce 4th grade and she is just now liking him and the funny thing is that I told her this year and she is just now starting to like him! He asked her out and she said yes and I was so mad! I told her and asked her to help me get him to like me and it seemed like it was working and Alex didn't tell me she liked him but it seemed like everyone else knew but didn't tell me and then she stole him! HELP!!! What should I do? Everyone thought I was crazy because I liked him at 4th grade and now every girl likes him! No one pays attention to who I like and they don't try and set me up but when they found out my friend liked him by other bf was like her crushes coach and then he asked her out! I am soooo mad at her and now we solemly talk!

Hi Tyra,it is me Precious Tippens again and I would like to tell you about my ex-best friend.Well it all started over a little fan in my room,@ my mothers house.Now she(Candace N. walker)is living with me because she had no other place to go, so my mother aloud her to stay with us.the altercation started of something so very petty, and escalated into the end of our ten year relationship.to make a long story short we almost got int into a phisical altercation,but my mom held me back because I was five months pregant, and she did not want me to fight, so my mother sent her on her way. Later that night I went to her job and keyed her car.Now true enough I was very wrong, but at the time I was so angry that i felt that I had to do something to get back @ her. Anyways about a week or so later she shows up at my boyfriends, house to "talk", I was tring to figure out why she needed to talk to my man.so I follwed them outside and of course we got into to it again. My boyfriend made her leave, so we though she was leaving and I was posted up on the back of my boyfriend truck,on the tail gate and she was parked behind him in the driveway,sowe thought that she was prceeding to leave, but insted she put the car in drive and had me pint between both her car his truck for about one minute that seemed like ten minutes.I just want to know tyra if you think this friendship is over, and can it be once again. i have tried to forgive her but it seems like she just wants to use me for her charges being drop, because I told her that I wolud drop all charges, because I know the situation she is in and she was attending colloge that is why i droped all charges that were pending aganist her, because i still love her and wish we can start over again.Precious-Kimberly tippens

Hi Tyra:

Congratulations on raising another important topic for women to discuss and think about.

I'm currently writing a book about failed female friendships and am collecting stories for my book. I hope that some of your admirers who are interested in this topic will fill out a brief survey on the topic.

To get to the survey go to: http://tinyurl.com/36swu7

If women would like to read more about the topic, please visit my blog: www.fracturedfriendships.com

My best,
Irene S. Levine, PhD
Journalist & Author

Tyra~
Why can't I seem to keep any of my girlfriends? I need someone to honestly tell me my problem. I'm 29 and you would think that I would know by now how to have a friendship. I tend to be more of a private person and like to have one or two really close friends than lots of superficial ones. I haven't had any blow-outs with past girlfriends but I can't seem to keep them either. I would love to find out what I am doing wrong. Help!

Me and my Best friend (ex-best friend)had been friends since our freshman year of school. We were BEST friends, like nothing could come between us, at least thats what we thought. I introduced her to one of my good friends, thinking that was ok. Long story short my good friend was really not a good friend at all. In fact the total opposite and she backstabbed all of her friends, so we stopped talking while they didnt. While my best friend and my relationship start struggling, mostly my fault, but it would always manage until once she told me we shouldnt be friends. Well we havent talked for a while now, i guess because of nervousness of what each other might say. I truely miss her and have not clue what to do. I hope your show can help me. Thanks Tyra.

Okay, so now you just got done dealing with the two girls from elimidate. Handled all wrong, and I don't blame you, I blame your producers. You showed the clip of the fight and then expected brunette girl to suddenly to all the blame for "attacking" blondie but never addressed the fact that blondie was provokinge brunette. The footage leading up to the fight is what should have been addressed. Think about it, these "best friends" are in a heads up competition for a man. How often do bestfriends do that. I mean admittedly do that. The enviroment was already competitive and contentious and both girls wear trying to win. I saw it a long time ago so I don't remember who started it, but I remember that they started telling personal things about eachother. I do remember the brunette girl getting amotional and the blonde one was drawing attention to how emotional the brunette girl was getting. Emotional outbursts are obviously the brunette girls weakness and the blonde girl was trying to expose her for it in front of that guy.
If you would had taken them through the footage on the way up to the fight, you would have gotten the closure you needed by the end of the segment.

Jealous was the wrong angle to start with. It's best to start with hurt, people are more willing to admit they are hurt or angry at something then they are to admit jealousy. Jealousy has such a negative connotation in our society that people try to deny to themselves that it's a natural emotion.

You know how when someone does something that bothers you and it builds and you snap on the person. We tell ourselves that what's causing that tension to build is the person's repititive act. But that's not it. What's causing the tension to build is us lying to ourselves that it's not bothering us even though it is. That's why you hear people blow up and say stuff like "It didn't bother me at first!" or "At first I let it go!" That just means they tried to convince themselves at first and it worked, then it stopped working and now I'm snapping.

Tyra.
While watching todays show about bestfriends betraying each other, and listening to the two sisters, I knew I had to write.
Iam currently dealing with the only sister I have left, our family has endured such hard times and heartaches over the years, losing our Father to alcholism, then losing our oldest sister due to complications from diabetes, and now losing our beloved Mother to Lung cancer.
I had always known the hate my sister held for me, I am the youngest with 11 and 13 years difference between me and my sisters, so I was the baby. Me and my oldest sister Debbie were extreamly close, doing everything together, sharing our family life together and were bestfriends as well as sisters. during the times when things were hard, the middle sister was never there, She had divorced and her husband had her children, so we were fortuntie enough to spend time with them while she was out in the world doing her own thing.
The hatred my sister feels for me became more apparent when our Mother was diagnoised with terminal lung cancer christmas eve of 05. After our Mother endured the suffering of chemo, and radiation and was told nothing could save her, I moved in with her and my step father to spend the remainder of her life with her, to care for her in her final days that we knew were limited. I never left her side for over a month, seeing to her every need, I will never regrett the time spend with my momma, I was able to talk to her about things that needed to be said, and I was with her when she passed.
since her death, my sisters hatred for me seems to have intesified. I have had many phone calls from her screaming telling me how much she hates me, how she is sick of hearing how I was a good daughter by taking care of momma, even how I was allowed to place a mothers ring on moms hand in the casket! She has also done everything in her power to destroy my relationship with my step father. So my question is what do you do with an evil sister such as this? I have brushed her off and moved on with my life with my kids and grandkids, I have dealt with the greif of losing mom on my own without the help of my sister or step dad. I feel so alone now in this world. if it wasnt for my children and grandchildren I would be lost, But I cant endure any more abuse from her. Its a hard situation knowing you have a sister who is so jealous it prevents you from having a realtionship. I pray no one ever knows this kind of hurt.

I watch your show because you deal with good topics. This topic for example I thought was particularly insightful. But in dealing with the sisters, you allowed the older sister to sit there and victimize herself. She also kept trying to hold her younger sister to the past, because she was using those past actions to victimize herself. The older sister has issues with her own ego because she couldn't emapthize and understand that while her sister did bad things, she was allowing outside influences to affect her choices. The same way the older sister is allowing the past stealing to affect her choices.
Nobody ever considered that the older sister is now in her own mind this put upon woman who had her sister ruin her life. She gets the approval of sympathy from her sisters action and she's very reluctant to let that go which is evidence by her unwillingness to think things through logically. She'd rather be hurt, afterall isn't that why she's own the show? I'm not saying the younger sister isn't wrong, but people are allowed to evolve. The only reason she's holding her sister to that time in the past is because she herself hasn't grown past it.
It is not human nature to stay stagnant, physically, mentally, emotionally, or otherwise.

I watch your show because you deal with good topics. This topic for example I thought was particularly insightful. But in dealing with the sisters, you allowed the older sister to sit there and victimize herself. She also kept trying to hold her younger sister to the past, because she was using those past actions to victimize herself. The older sister has issues with her own ego because she couldn't emapthize and understand that while her sister did bad things, she was allowing outside influences to affect her choices. The same way the older sister is allowing the past stealing to affect her choices.
Nobody ever considered that the older sister is now in her own mind this put upon woman who had her sister ruin her life. She gets the approval of sympathy from her sisters action and she's very reluctant to let that go which is evidence by her unwillingness to think things through logically. She'd rather be hurt, afterall isn't that why she's own the show? I'm not saying the younger sister isn't wrong, but people are allowed to evolve. The only reason she's holding her sister to that time in the past is because she herself hasn't grown past it.
It is not human nature to stay stagnant, physically, mentally, emotionally, or otherwise.

Dear tyra, I am from Singapore and i love your show. However, the shows that are shown are always 3-4 months late. I really wished I could meet you. I can't receive emails from you due to the need of a postal code. I have a lot to ask you. You are THE true inspiration.

llloves,
diana

Hi Tyra,

Recently me and my now X bestfriend have went through a very terrible experience. We have been best friends for over 10 years now. We are both college students but the diff. between us is she's into popularity and reputation but I am not. A few months ago me, her, and another friend went to a club...furthermore, a club that was in a bad area. We were having fun when I see the guy I use to talk to and I start to hide from him. I stopped talking w/ him because he liked to go to the club and fight and drink. My other friend whom knew this, grabbed his drink from his Corona bucket when. He thinks its a guy in front of him trying to take his Corona and throws 2 bottles at him. He misses and hits my bestfriend in the face. Unfortunately, HONESTLY i did not see the whole thing. When I looked up I was the last one in the area and all the glass and alcohol hit me, and I got cut on my legs and feet. I lose both of my friends but immediately knew who threw the bottle. 10 min later I find out my best friend's head was busted open from the glass. The story only gets worse and she wont speak to me. It was not my fault but she has told lies and committed slander in order to find reasons to hate me. PLEASE TYRA I need to confront this tragic situation. U wouldnt believe all the things that have taken place..shes involved a million people in our relationship they have blasted me on the internet too. And the story just gets deeper...

Hi Tyra,

Recently me and my now X bestfriend have went through a very terrible experience. We have been best friends for over 10 years now. We are both college students but the diff. between us is she's into popularity and reputation but I am not. A few months ago me, her, and another friend went to a club...furthermore, a club that was in a bad area. We were having fun when I see the guy I use to talk to and I start to hide from him. I stopped talking w/ him because he liked to go to the club and fight and drink. My other friend whom knew this, grabbed his drink from his Corona bucket when. He thinks its a guy in front of him trying to take his Corona and throws 2 bottles at him. He misses and hits my bestfriend in the face. Unfortunately, HONESTLY i did not see the whole thing. When I looked up I was the last one in the area and all the glass and alcohol hit me, and I got cut on my legs and feet. I lose both of my friends but immediately knew who threw the bottle. 10 min later I find out my best friend's head was busted open from the glass. The story only gets worse and she wont speak to me. It was not my fault but she has told lies and committed slander in order to find reasons to hate me. PLEASE TYRA I need to confront this tragic situation. U wouldnt believe all the things that have taken place..shes involved a million people in our relationship they have blasted me on the internet too. And the story just gets deeper...

Dear Tyra,
One person that I really thought was my best friend turned her back on me. When I was already down she brought me down lower than concrete. Everytime she would get in trouble she would bring me down with her. Once I got two new bestfriends she told me that I was wishy washy because I never backed her up anymore. I thought that we would be bestfriends forever until I heard that she talking about me behind my back. I was devastated when I heard! We are no longer best friends, we are just friends and I dont talk to her as much as I used to. I decided to move on with my life. Now I can meet new people now that I know that she is not a true bestfriend because she cant stop me anymore and tell me who not to talk to just because she doesnt like them.

Hi Tyra,

Recently me and my now X bestfriend have went through a very terrible experience. We have been best friends for over 10 years now. We are both college students but the diff. between us is she's into popularity and reputation but I am not. A few months ago me, her, and another friend went to a club...furthermore, a club that was in a bad area. We were having fun when I see the guy I use to talk to and I start to hide from him. I stopped talking w/ him because he liked to go to the club and fight and drink. My other friend whom knew this, grabbed his drink from his Corona bucket when. He thinks its a guy in front of him trying to take his Corona and throws 2 bottles at him. He misses and hits my bestfriend in the face. Unfortunately, HONESTLY i did not see the whole thing. When I looked up I was the last one in the area and all the glass and alcohol hit me, and I got cut on my legs and feet. I lose both of my friends but immediately knew who threw the bottle. 10 min later I find out my best friend's head was busted open from the glass. The story only gets worse and she wont speak to me. It was not my fault but she has told lies and committed slander in order to find reasons to hate me. PLEASE TYRA I need to confront this tragic situation. U wouldnt believe all the things that have taken place..shes involved a million people in our relationship they have blasted me on the internet too. And the story just gets deeper...

Hi Tyra,

Recently me and my now X bestfriend have went through a very terrible experience. We have been best friends for over 10 years now. We are both college students but the diff. between us is she's into popularity and reputation but I am not. A few months ago me, her, and another friend went to a club...furthermore, a club that was in a bad area. We were having fun when I see the guy I use to talk to and I start to hide from him. I stopped talking w/ him because he liked to go to the club and fight and drink. My other friend whom knew this, grabbed his drink from his Corona bucket when. He thinks its a guy in front of him trying to take his Corona and throws 2 bottles at him. He misses and hits my bestfriend in the face. Unfortunately, HONESTLY i did not see the whole thing. When I looked up I was the last one in the area and all the glass and alcohol hit me, and I got cut on my legs and feet. I lose both of my friends but immediately knew who threw the bottle. 10 min later I find out my best friend's head was busted open from the glass. The story only gets worse and she wont speak to me. It was not my fault but she has told lies and committed slander in order to find reasons to hate me. PLEASE TYRA I need to confront this tragic situation. U wouldnt believe all the things that have taken place..shes involved a million people in our relationship they have blasted me on the internet too. And the story just gets deeper...

One person that I really thought was my best friend turned her back on me. When I was already down she brought me down lower than concrete. Everytime she would get in trouble she would bring me down with her. Once I got two new bestfriends she told me that I was wishy washy because I never backed her up anymore. I thought that we would be bestfriends forever until I heard that she talking about me behind my back. I was devastated when I heard! We are no longer best friends, we are just friends and I dont talk to her as much as I used to. I decided to move on with my life. Now I can meet new people now that I know that she is not a true bestfriend because she cant stop me anymore and tell me who not to talk to just because she doesnt like them.

One person that I really thought was my best friend turned her back on me. When I was already down she brought me down lower than concrete. Everytime she would get in trouble she would bring me down with her. Once I got two new bestfriends she told me that I was wishy washy because I never backed her up anymore. I thought that we would be bestfriends forever until I heard that she talking about me behind my back. I was devastated when I heard! We are no longer best friends, we are just friends and I dont talk to her as much as I used to. I decided to move on with my life. Now I can meet new people now that I know that she is not a true bestfriend because she cant stop me anymore and tell me who not to talk to just because she doesnt like them.

Dear Tyra,
Today's show is something I have been dealing with for the last 7 years. My best friend has not spoken to me for the last 7 years, and I don't know why, wish I did so that I could make ammends. I have lost so much sleep over this, and my family is getting tired of me talking about it, and they are always telling me to let it go and don't bother with her anymore, but SHE was my best friend we became friends back in 1989. We were the best of friends, became pen pals.. She was there for me when I felt no one else was. My family considered her family. When my father wouldn't let me drive the car, he would let her drive hahaha..(Sometimes I would be a little jeolous, cause of that) Even when I was getting into trouble growing up, she had a way of making me want to do better for myself. I am not a perfect person, but I try to learn from my mistakes. I would do anything to get her to talk to me, even if only to tell me to get lost. Believe me I have relived my last times with her over and over and over again, just trying to find what I did that was so wrong. I don't want to die with out her in my life. Even if only a phone call now and again. I have called her parents, her sister even asked my family to plead with her to call me to let me know what I did wrong. What is wrong with me? Why is it so easy to drop me out someone's life.. (this has happened before.. People vanish out of my life) Truthfully i don't know why.. I am happily married with 4 beautiful babies, going to school still, Karaoke DJ.. so my life otherwise is fine, but friends are a treasure and hard to find for me.. My trust is hard to give, especially since I have had so much loss... I could go on and on.. Like you send things are not always tied up in a nice sweet little bow... I love your shows I seem to always be touched by the subjects you cover and admire you and am greatful that you exist.. Thank you for what you do.. Pray for me that I will someday be able to let this go and move on..

Dear Tyra,
Today's show is something I have been dealing with for the last 7 years. My best friend has not spoken to me for the last 7 years, and I don't know why, wish I did so that I could make ammends. I have lost so much sleep over this, and my family is getting tired of me talking about it, and they are always telling me to let it go and don't bother with her anymore, but SHE was my best friend we became friends back in 1989. We were the best of friends, became pen pals.. She was there for me when I felt no one else was. My family considered her family. When my father wouldn't let me drive the car, he would let her drive hahaha..(Sometimes I would be a little jeolous, cause of that) Even when I was getting into trouble growing up, she had a way of making me want to do better for myself. I am not a perfect person, but I try to learn from my mistakes. I would do anything to get her to talk to me, even if only to tell me to get lost. Believe me I have relived my last times with her over and over and over again, just trying to find what I did that was so wrong. I don't want to die with out her in my life. Even if only a phone call now and again. I have called her parents, her sister even asked my family to plead with her to call me to let me know what I did wrong. What is wrong with me? Why is it so easy to drop me out someone's life.. (this has happened before.. People vanish out of my life) Truthfully i don't know why.. I am happily married with 4 beautiful babies, going to school still, Karaoke DJ.. so my life otherwise is fine, but friends are a treasure and hard to find for me.. My trust is hard to give, especially since I have had so much loss... I could go on and on.. Like you send things are not always tied up in a nice sweet little bow... I love your shows I seem to always be touched by the subjects you cover and admire you and am greatful that you exist.. Thank you for what you do.. Pray for me that I will someday be able to let this go and move on..

Hi Tyra! I got married last August and asked my "best friend" Sam to be my maid of honor. She was really excited at first and I thought she would be awesome for the job, well last spring when we were finalizing our plans, she stopped returning my calls. Not only did she stop returning my calls, but she didn't call back the other bridesmaids (who were planning the shower and bachelorette party), the best man, or even my mom! There was absolutely no reason for this and after not hearing from her for a few weeks, I assumed she wasn't coming to the wedding so I cancelled her trip (we were getting married in Jamaica!), and sent her an email telling her how I felt about the situation and begging her to please at least give me a reason for these actions. Well I didn't hear a thing from her for about a year! Last month, she sent me a message via myspace on the internet telling me congrats on me being pregnant and saying she misses me! Can you imagine? Her headline was "remember me?" so I wrote back "yeah I remember you, you were suppsed to be standing next to me when I got married." I couldn't believe that she'd try to contact me after a year and still not apologize! She replied "I didn't want to bring up bad memories..." Needless to say I did not reply to this one. Obviously I do not need a person like this in my life at all! I can't believe that someone would actually act like this and then expect that I'd just forget about all the stress that she caused me and my friends and family during one of the most important times of my life! Some nerve...I hope no one else has to deal with anything like this.

hey tyra i am in the middle of watching your show, and i cant help but notice how this is totally me! my fiancees sister has hurt us so bad in the past. she has stolen my cell phone clothes tried to break us up stole a pearl ring of mine. what did it for me was when he mom told me that she sent some pictures of my daughter to an old friend of hers and told her that was her baby. i was so upset that she would do something like that. we dropped all contact with her for about four months. well we are getting married this sunday and my future father in law told me he would not be attending our wedding since she was not invited. it made me so mad that he could do that to his son when we did nothing wrong. well we had to make things right with her. i really didnt think i was ready until i saw how bad she was hurting. we gave her once last chance.she has no trust with us but i hope she will earn it. i feel a real weight lifted from my shoulders i love her so much but she needed to be shown how bad it hurt us. no one has ever done that to her i think its really what she needed. please pray for me tyra that this wont happen to me again i dont think i can take it again.

Hey Tyra,

This is mainly a comment on the show but I'll also share a story too. I'm 23 years old and had a similar situation happen to me that happened to the last group that was on the show. My girlfriend couldn't understand why I spent soo much time with my best friends and she started to feel neglected.
I was working 2 jobs at the time and she had already gotten on my case about not spending time with her, so she just added the fact that my little free time was split between her and my best friend. Well needless to say that me and her don't see eachother anymore but I still hang with my best friend.
I realize that if the situation were reversed then the guy would probably be looked down upon because he's trying to come between his girl and her friend (that's happened to me too). I felt it wasn't right to portray the 2 friends in that light, and the boyfriend probably felt like most of the audience was trying to drive a wedge between him and his friend. I've seen and been in many a friendship that have ended because some third party felt as though they wern't getting enough attention. And it's not right. He should have dumped her for someone who would understand the connection that hhim and his bestfriend have, and not try to come between it but try to join it.
The saying "Bros before...." can be used for both genders. Girlfriends or Boyfriends come and go but bestfriends (who are really bestfriends) will last forever.

Dearest Tyra

Because of employment obligations I have not viewed your show in some time. My loss cause seeing you do anything is a thrill (yep I'm a straight guy LOL) Anyway I saw the show with the two friend s who faught on national TV. Though we guys love seeing a good catfight I was shameful and never should have happened. The one girl who attacked should seek counseling and the other should take up Brazilian ground fighting cause she seemed to have a natural talent for it .
The only fight on TV between women that should have ever occured would have been between you and Naomi ;-) For that I would have robbed Fort Knox payed you both and done the time .
Alas it never happend but if it did it probably would have gone a lil som' like this:
Psych! Email me and I will send you the story ;-)
Deacon

Dear miss Tyra,

I was best friend with a girl since we was 6.. She always used me and treated me bad and every time we had a fight bcz of her i ended up apologising to her.. She acted like my boss and she always told me what to do..
I was so shy as a child that i didn't do anth about it.. Until 2 yrs ago when i woke up and i realised all that! So 1 day i stopped talking to her and ignore her like she did those 8 yrs that i was "BFF" with her.. I forgot 2 tell u the 1 thing that was getting on my nerves every time she did it.. everything that happened to schl or in the class she used 2 run to her mother after and tell her everything with details! OMG! Even when i stopped talking to her she told her mother 2 call me and ask from me the reason why i did it.. After that i was 100% sure that i did the right thing for me..!! We haven't spoken for 3 yrs now and i feel great about it..!! Now i’m BFF with a girl for almost 5 yrs and we r doing fine so far..!!

Love,
Raf

A few Years ago my friend Brianna and I were the greatest friends in the world she would shower me with gifts and take me on shopping sprees but on november 22,2005 she came over for the night and would not let me sleep.I hit her because i was so mad.and after that she turned the whole school against me they were calling me a slut,whore bitch and all sorts of names i can not say without getting upset finally i could not get through this without hurting somebody or hurting myself so i took a razor and just started cutting myself and i didnt tell anyone about what i was doing or what brianna was doing.Also she was telling her parents that i was the one doing that to her and after that all happened all my other so called friends stabbed me in the back and just left me basically in my self destructive state.All the rest is history

Your show on good friends gone bad really touched me. I was especially effected by the two sisters who haven't spoken in three years. My older brother was always "the bad seed" in the family. I loved him very much and tried my best to look past all of his indescressions. When I was younger he stole my bike from me and got arrested. The police almost didn't give it back to me. Later on in life he started smoking and doing drugs. It was at this point hat things got really bad between us. He began stealing from me, borrowing money never to pay it back, and (the worst part) hitting me. His temper only got worse and worse the more he got into the drug world. He would get upset about something and before talking things out he would do things like hitting my face against a wall with the palm of his hand, smashing my head through drywall and swinging knives at me. The last straw was one night when an argument started, over the phone of all things, before I knew it this simple argument turned into a huge deal and he threatened to kill both myself and my mother. after that day I was too scared of him to see or speak to him. My parents kicked him out of the house. He tried to contact me a few times afterwards but it never seamed to be for the reason that I wanted him to. I always hoped when I saw his number that it would be to appologize and tell me that he had gone clean and that he wanted to have me in his life the way a sister should be, but instead every time it was to borrow money, get a ride somewhere, or to get my grandmothers phone number (most likely so that he could beg her for money). I finally got a few calls in one day while I was at work and I picked up the phone and told him never to call me again and that I didn't care about him anymore. This was about 4 years ago. I get updates from people who knew both of us now and then but all I know now is that he stil lives in the same area as me and that he has a baby with his girlfriend. Seeing those two girls reconcile really hit home for me but I don't know that I can do what they did. What he took from me is so much more than $40.

And as an aditional comment I think your show is great the way it is. There is enough emphasis put on politicians in the news. I watch your show to get away from politics and world issues. I want to see what real people are experiencing.

Ok, I'm 17 years old and this is my story!!!! Ok I was talking to this guy that I had met in the 8th grade we talked and to me we were going together because I had the HUGEST crush on him or whatever. So I get to high school, I went to a high school away from all my friends that I had known in middle school to start new and fresh because like all schools theres drama and I HATE IT!So anyways I meet this girl (ex bestfriend) and we know they same little people like the guy in 8th grade so we start talking and become bestfriends my freshman year.And she's dating the guy from when I was in the 8th grade.In the meantime I'm dating boys in our school or whatever even someone she used to talk to! I didnt know that though but I'm guessing it was ok, because I didnt find out til afterwards. So 10th grade in dating my brother's bestfriend and we break up and my ex bestfriend and that guy was starting to break up so we start to not like each to much because it's rumors that I was talking to 2 of her ex boyfriends that I guess she still liked!And she talked about me in school or whatever. And I'm thinking to myself 1st off I wasnt talking to them!! Then when rumors became more and more! I started talking to the 2 boys that I was rumoredly talking to. Which was the guy from 8th grade and another guy that I had met in high school. But me and the guy from 8th grade really started feeling each other so we were dating! She found out and wanted to fight me! So we fought!!!!! WE WILL NEVER BE FRIENDS LET ALONE BESTFRIENDS AGAIN!

Ok, I'm 17 years old and this is my story!!!! Ok I was talking to this guy that I had met in the 8th grade we talked and to me we were going together because I had the HUGEST crush on him or whatever. So I get to high school, I went to a high school away from all my friends that I had known in middle school to start new and fresh because like all schools theres drama and I HATE IT!So anyways I meet this girl (ex bestfriend) and we know they same little people like the guy in 8th grade so we start talking and become bestfriends my freshman year.And she's dating the guy from when I was in the 8th grade.In the meantime I'm dating boys in our school or whatever even someone she used to talk to! I didnt know that though but I'm guessing it was ok, because I didnt find out til afterwards. So 10th grade in dating my brother's bestfriend and we break up and my ex bestfriend and that guy was starting to break up so we start to not like each to much because it's rumors that I was talking to 2 of her ex boyfriends that I guess she still liked!And she talked about me in school or whatever. And I'm thinking to myself 1st off I wasnt talking to them!! Then when rumors became more and more! I started talking to the 2 boys that I was rumoredly talking to. Which was the guy from 8th grade and another guy that I had met in high school. But me and the guy from 8th grade really started feeling each other so we were dating! She found out and wanted to fight me! So we fought!!!!! WE WILL NEVER BE BESTFRIENDS AGAIN!!!

Hey Tyra this comes all the way from South Africa and to add on the part of when good friends go bad i can really say that it is one of the things a person least expects from the person that they call a best friend b'cos ive been in the similar situation several times when i was still in high school its a very long story guess we will have to save it for later peace !! by the way its the best show ever although here in South Africa we get i t after a few episodes have played but hey it still comes as good much luv :later:

Taguma,
Add family values,good morals, Integrity, against divorce and the benefits of homes headed by both parents.

Taguma,
Add family values,good morals, Integrity, against divorce and the benefits of homes headed by both parents.

Hi Tyra,

It would be nice if you did a show on preserving ones virginity until marriage-or is that not important to you? How about all the horrid lyrics from people like L.L.Cool J,N.W.A.,Wu Tang, Tu pac,Jay Z, etc,etc and how their lyrics have had such a negative impact on our society especially young people. How about having role models like Obama Barack, T.D. Jakes, Hillary Clinton, Oprah, Nelson Mandela etc on your show. Or maybe they are too boring for you? How does knowing Janet Jackson`s most bizarre place for having help anyone? Or if sex is better for her now than in her 20`s? Tell us Tyra do you really want to help people or do you do all this to promote the latest craze or humanities more obscure thoughts and ideas? Do shows that will change a people, a nation with positive things not just how to cook or have better sex. Finally I do appreciate a few of your shows like than one on beggars.

I had this one friend, we started hanging out in the 8th grade, she had just moved to our school and another girl and I went up to here and said she could sit with us at lunch (because lunch is the worst part when you are new!!) and we became best friends after that. Then, freshman year, I began to like this guy, but she hated that I liked him. I dunno if she liked him before I starting going out with him, or if it was some thing she had about me being with someone when she wasnt. She spread all these nasty rumors about me and told everyone that I was nasty and I slept around with all these people when I was (and still am) a virgin!! I am still with this guy (gonna be 5 years in September and again YESS!!! I am in a very long term relationship and am 19 years old and AM STILL A VIRGIN!! w00t w00t!! waiting until my wedding night!!) anyway, we made up after the first time, and the second time, and for some reason shes still crazy about it!! Just 3 weeks ago she took this tiny little thing my guy said and blew it all out of proportion and made it seem like he was trying to make out with her! I know that shes a compulsive liar and he would never EVER lie about that, and shes just one of those people who puts you down to make you hate yourself. I dunno why she hates that I am so happy. Shes really self destructive and goes for the wrong guys for love because she cant love herself. She also goes for a bottle too. Theres no reasoning with her, and its sad because I want to help her so bad but I can't anymore because when I am around her I hate myself because of how she speaks to me!! All 4 of my HS years were tainted by her jealous and back stabbing behavior and I finally just had enough. It's really really sad for me. All my "friends" are here friends and they wont even talk to me now because shes said all sorts of horrible stuff about me again. Its really awful to only have 1 friend, thank goodness she never got to me and made me break up with my guy, otherwise I would be completely alone.

I have a bestfriend that knew I was digging this person and then they started hanging out, then they had the nerve to tell me at the person house that they messed around. I was so hurt I thought I would die, but I got over it. My advise to everyone that have a bestfriend, don't bring your eye candy around your friend til your relationship is solid.

Hi tyra.
Ohkay First.

Holly what the heck are you doing? Are you trying to be cool and think your gonna start something on this blog. well your not. and i HIGHLY doubt that tyra would do ANYTHING remotly close to that.
and Second for my Story.

Im 16 years old and have had the same best friend since i was about 11 or 12 we have known each other forever, and thats not even a understatment, i moved out of my home town freshman year and moved away from her. i was determined to stay best friends with her && i did, up until a couple weeks ago when i ment this boy that she knew. I gave him my phone number thinking nothing of it, I was nice to him we would chat on the phone a couple nights a week and he would text me sometimes, well my friend found out and COMPLETLY flipped out on me. He had a girlfriend that WASNT her, and she didnt tell me she had a thing for him. I was just talking to him, not hooking up talking, i mean just general talking and then comes to found out that he told her other crap that wasnt true, and stuff that i would never even say out of my right mind. What hurts me the most is that she has known this guy for a couple months, and has known me for a long time. and she believes him over me!?! i just dont understand. and now she wont even talk to me anymore. personally i feel like there is a spot that is missing out of body, because she has been there for me for SO long and all of a sudden shes not. all over stuff that isnt true. and honestly i dont know if i keep on fighting the battle or just let the battle takes its own course.

Hi Tyra,
Okay first off I have to say that I'm Bi and this the whole reason I possibly may have lost my best friend since i was in high school now that you know that I can tell you what happened. Okay so I was sick of lying to my friends face and I had to tell someone so I told her that I was BI and she gave me the "your going to go to hell" speech and now I'm lying to her to try to get her to talk to me but she ain't I don't no what to do anymore.

Hey tyra im morgan and i am 14 years old. this show might help me alot but im not very sure there is this girl who i have been having trouble with keeping a good friendship with for over a year now. she has started stuff at church with me and i have no idea what i did to her. we were friends for like im going to say 10 to 11 years. i have tried praying for her and talking to her and tried to work things out with her but she always ends up yelling at me. i was coming home after church in tears and i told my mom i did not want to go to church anymore up there on wednesday nights and i begged her for weeks to let me do it and she finally gave in. now i have so much anger towards her and sometimes i have flashbacks in my mind of what she did to me and i have gotten so depresssed about it that sometimes i dont even want to get out of bed in the morning. and now i am to the point of a break down i have bottled up my anger inside of me and i dont know what to do anymore.

my friend and i got into a argument...it was about this boy name lee..he was going with another friend of mine..and so this friend called lee and ask lee did she look better then my friend he was going out with.she was also talking about her to..so i went to my friend that lee was going out with and told her that some body was trying to go with her boyfriend so she gussed the name and called her then..that outher gurl called me and ask me why i told lee gurlfriend that she was trying to go with him.. and i told her i did not say any names she gussed and got it....that was the and of our friendship..

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TYRA FANS I AM SORRY TO DISSAPOINT YOU BUT...

TYRA MADE A SEX TAPE IN 2005 WITH HER ITALIAN BOYFRIEND. IT WAS SUPPOSED TO BE REALEASED SOON.THEY HAVE PICTURES OF TYRA AND HER EX-BOYFRIEND.

TYRA TYRA WHY DID YOU HAVCE TO DO THIS?? YOU WERE MY FRICKIN ROLE MODEL. I REALLY SAD RIGHT NOW AND ALMOST CRYING.

HOLLY

speaking of friends i had this BFFL we both made each other different in a good way i found who i was when i was around her we would have hours and hours of conversations about ....life and how sometimes life sucks she made me feel like im not the only person who can get soo fustratted see im a type of person who can get soo angry but not show a thing on the outside and put a "fake" smile on but inside i just break down especially when im alone but my EX bffl was in the same positions one thing that got us realy close was the fact that our parents were both SPLIT apart which realy sucks we were both in the same class and when you put us together it equaled TROUBLE and my teacher didnt like it she called her mom one day saying how horrible of a student i was i broke down and cried ever since that day it seemed my so once called bffl dissapeared and things got worse and worse so do you know what i do now just write to myself and let out my feelings its what people do so they can feel better im not saying im going crazy because im not but when your so sad it hurts and you dont know what to do but for anyone whos lost a realy good frined make sure you treasure every moment you guys had and find a way to get over it well not get over it but sort of move on because theres always other people who can make you happy the way we split up doesnt seem like it was a big deal but theres lots of more details but right now life is just mean at this moment

My ex-bestfriend and I were bestfriends for a little over four years (primarly our high school years) until after we moved together a little after graduation. Shortly after the move I got pregnant...To sum it all up she has been dating and is now engaged to my now daughter's father. I feel not only did she stab me in the back but she left me hangin at my most vulnerable point

My ex-bestfriend and myself met and became friends back in 1999 our freshman yr in high school. This came to an extreme halt when I got pregnant in 2003. Her and I got an apartment together in like Oct 2002, another friend (who is now my daughter's aunt) moved in, in January of 2003...shortly after the guy who I was messing with at the time (which is now the father of my child) moved in too. After I found out I was pregnant (which was in March 2003) things took a turn for the worst....I didn't get along w/ anyone in the house and ended up moving back home with my mom. I'm not to this day sure why my ex-bestfriend and I even fell out in the first place. It was a point in my life that I was extremely vulnerable and that should've been a time she should've been down the most. Looking back I honestly think she wanted the guy I was dating back then so when he and I were at odds about the pregnancy she put herself in our mix as well. From then on her and I have not gotten along. Since my daughter has been born I've gotten along pretty well with him and his family, she is still in the picture...in fact she is engaged to the father of my child (I guess thinking back it all makes sense...) We've almost come to blows when we see each other out but it's never actually happened. I recently had to stop and ask myself why I'm not over the situation and I've come to the conclusion that it partly has to do with the fact that she's marrying my daughter's father but it's mostly because I know that if the shoe were on the other foot I would've have never left her in the state she left me in....In our yearbooks we wrote BFFL (bestfriends for life) but she stabbed me in the back instead.