I'm a woman that beleive you are my friend and you are being true to your word. Then down the road you have talk behind my back and make fun of me when i'm not around. Then it upsets me. Now in my live I have 2 girl friends that I talk to. Its safer that way. I have more male friends I talk to then girl friends. My boyfriend now don't care if talk to a x-husband or go out to eat with a nother male friend. I which he be more in to me more. People walk on me all my life. I'm would give you my shirt off my back if I had a nother in my car or give you my last dollar in my pocket. I have learned in my years, its your lose not to get to know me. I'm out going friendly and happy most of the time. I smile all the time and I say hi to peolpe I see when i'm out around town. Change is not in the cards. I'm just Molly, you like me or don't and thats that.

hie tyra m 20 years old and it looks like i got e same problem that most girls have.m juss too nice and unfortunately i have never had a proper long relationship in my life. m currently single and m a student.last night i broke up w my dude on campus because he had heard some nasty lies about me n he chose to listen to them.as alwas i chose 2 hang on i still love him tho i neva slept w him.m still attached to him and i alwas tell him how i feel about him n now i feel like m bugging him.please tyra help me how r we supposed 2 deal w heart breaks and how to let go and find life?

do i have a problem??i am too nice to the guys i go out w and they take advantage of me.i have never had a propa relationship and m only 20 years old.please can u advice me on how i can change myself to get the perfect guy????

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i have a frend who always complains to me about everything, if she has a problem she wants wverything to stop so i can listen to her wven if i have my own huge problem ,the thing is im too nice to tell her to keep it to herself

I have a problem with being too nice, see my boyfriends best friend is a virgin and he always hits on me and my boyfriend doesn't care cause his friend also has a disability so one night he was feeling me up and making me do stuff to him but asked my boyfriend first and my bf said yes cause whatever made his friend happy made him happy and then asked me if i care i said no because i didnt want to dissapoint my boyfriend cause he already cheated on me once when he was loaded and he tried to kill himself over it so i know he feels bad but anyways i was tryin to be the best i could be and said yes because i didnt want him not to love me if i never and i love him so much, so anyways i done somethings with his friend, i felt easy and dirty i thought about od'ing on pills but couldnt i was too afraid. i am too nice of a person and i do let people walk all over me because i want to make people happy before i make myself happy.

This is sounds like me. I just can't say no to people i want to but sometimes i guess i'm just to "nice". And they take advantage of my niceness and they step all over me i just wish for once i could defend myself and just do what makes me happy.

datz me all da way....om 19 yrs old n stressin ova alot of things i shouldnt b stressin ova!!!!! n stead of goin off 2 college i stayed home becuz my mom is a single parent with 2 other daughters n i though i was n luv with my bf n didnt want 2 leave him.....he ended movin out of town...n found a new gurlfriend wont even talk 2 me.....we been goin out 4 7 yrs n he been away 4 a year....wen i do talk 2 him he sellz me dreams of us gettin bak 2gether...but he say he will leave her neday 4 me...but wen i asked him he told me only way he will is if i had my own place...becuz he stay wit her n her family bcuz his grandmother is n a shelter!! so i try 2 win him bak all da tyme i even went 2 minnesota 2 visit family so i could run in 2 him....he would spend anite wit me but go bak home 2 her...i luv this boi so much...om thinking about movin 2 minnesota with my cousin n waitin on him....but i need 2 b stronger...it is so hard bcuz he kno how much i care about him....but nstead he takes advantage of me bcuz he kno im not going ne where!!!! im crying now jus talking about it.....plz help me i feel lik itz da end of the world!!!!!

i need Dr. Michelle's phone number.
thanks and may the good lord bless u

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Dear Tyra,
I need a little bit of advice. I'm 21 and been married to my husband for almost 10 months. He's a marine so we got married kinda quick so that I could come to California with him. I love him to death. He is my best friend and does everything for me. I love him but I don't think I'm "In Love" with him anymore. I am always flirting with other guys, I get jealous of other chicks that can hook up with guys. I feel so horrible. I feel like I dont want to be married anymore, because I havent experienced much. My husband doesn't deserve this and I want this marrage to work. I dont want to get a divorce just to see that he was the one all along. Help!!! What do I do?
luv Desiree

This sounds like me!! I feel like I am always trying to make everyone happy all the time, when I finally say something or do something for myself, if it makes anyone unhappy i find myself trying to do everything in my power to make it up to those people. I can't ever stay mad and I forgive people right away for even the meanest things. I have about a ten minute rebound rate and i'm back trying to please people again. This effects most of my relationships including my best friend and my boyfriend. For example, my best friend hooked up with a guy i was dating when i was passed out in the other room, at my own house and didn't tell me about it. I had to drag it out of her and then when i found out i felt so betrayed and hurt but i only got upset with her for fifteen minutes and then just acted like it never happened. When my boyfriend is rude to me i get defensive, only to turn around and do things for him, like clean his apartment or buy him gifts. Whats wrong with me? Im sacrificing my own happiness for that of everyone around me.

This sounds like me!! I feel like I am always trying to make everyone happy all the time, when I finally say something or do something for myself, if it makes anyone unhappy i find myself trying to do everything in my power to make it up to those people. I can't ever stay mad and I forgive people right away for even the meanest things. I have about a ten minute rebound rate and i'm back trying to please people again. This effects most of my relationships including my best friend and my boyfriend. For example, my best friend hooked up with a guy i was dating when i was passed out in the other room, at my own house and didn't tell me about it. I had to drag it out of her and then when i found out i felt so betrayed and hurt but i only got upset with her for fifteen minutes and then just acted like it never happened. When my boyfriend is rude to me i get defensive, only to turn around and do things for him, like clean his apartment or buy him gifts. Whats wrong with me? Im sacrificing my own happiness for that of everyone around me.

This sounds like me!! I feel like I am always trying to make everyone happy all the time, when I finally say something or do something for myself, if it makes anyone unhappy i find myself trying to do everything in my power to make it up to those people. I can't ever stay mad and I forgive people right away for even the meanest things. I have about a ten minute rebound rate and i'm back trying to please people again. This effects most of my relationships including my best friend and my boyfriend. For example, my best friend hooked up with a guy i was dating when i was passed out in the other room, at my own house and didn't tell me about it. I had to drag it out of her and then when i found out i felt so betrayed and hurt but i only got upset with her for fifteen minutes and then just acted like it never happened. When my boyfriend is rude to me i get defensive, only to turn around and do things for him, like clean his apartment or buy him gifts. Whats wrong with me? Im sacrificing my own happiness for that of everyone around me.

Hello my name is Marissa and I have had me share of not only from people but from m best friends and family. I had this girl friend that was making her self sick because she did feel like she was "hot". I was the only friend that knew about this and it scared me. So I went to her parents and talked to then about this. When they went to talk to her about it they where really good about not saying that I was the one to tell and they also had some ex. of seeing her do. Like getting up after eating and more. But a week after she and some of my girlfriends pulled me aside and we where fighting about trust. They all told me that I was being to nice. That is when I started to relize maybe I am. I feel like if it where not for me she would not be here. She and I did not talk or see each other for over 3 years. To this day she does not know what I did for her.

I also used to baby sit for this family with a 19 m old baby boy. I grew to love him as if he where my own brother. I would go every day after school and on weekends to sit him. this family was not to wealthy. They kept telling me they would pay me later. after a while I said I need to get paid. The day can that I went to go baby sit and they had moved with out telling me or paying me. I was with out a job and out of over 500 $ that they did not pay me. Even with me being ok with them not being able to pay all at the same time the still shorted me out. I want to know who does that and why. I know about small clames cort. I did take them to but I felt so bad for taking there cash. It felt like I was taking food from them or close off there back.

No matter what if some one is so mean to me I all was forgive them. I am starting to have a problem with this because every time I get hurt. One of my EX's had told me that we will have a chance but he wants to get to know me better before we date. I found out 2 weeks after this happen that he was doing stuff with his roommate. I was friends with him and her but to hear it from some one else hurt so bad. Then they start dating and he is bad mouthing me so bad. Not to my face but to friends. Trying to get the friends not to like or talk to me. It did not work. But once they broke up he is back at my side like nothing happen. I like him as a person but i just cant trust him after hurting me so bad.

Hi i hate being nice. evey time i get a boyfriend i do what ever he want's me to b/c im scead that if i dont he will lefem me

Hi Tyra! First off I want to tell you I love your show and I watch it every day! I am a 23 yr old single mother of 2 girls, ages 3 1/2 and 4 1/2. They mean the world to me. Their dads are not involved in their lives by their choice. I have been single for quite a while but I have been in a friends with benefits relationship for the last 6 months. He tells me he doesn't want a relationship but his actions speak differently. One minute he will tell me he has no feelings for me, then the next minute after telling me that making me cry that he dont like to see me cry and be upset while rubbing my back. Im so confused. I might be pregnant with his child right now and Im not real sure what to do. He told me that if I got pregnant he wouldn't run but the question is, will he be with me? I love him so much and I would do anything to be with him officially. Right now I think he's just scared to be in a relationship. What can I do to help him change his mind or make up his mind?

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I'm a normal and nice person but I have a real issue breaking up with guys. I got into a relationship where I knew it was a bad relationship within a month...but it took me 6 months of breaking up to fully break up. I've been fortunate to only date nice guys which makes breaking up with them even worse. They always ask what they did wrong...and i can never tell them. Then they sometimes convince me to get back into the relationship. What are some good strategies to break up with nice guys with the potential of remaining friends with them?

Hello Tyra, I am a 24 year old single mom of twin girls. I have no help from the father.I have no real friends to talk to about what i am going through.But when my fake friends come and ask me for money i give it to them I know i don't have money to give away but i give it to her anyway because thats what kind of person i am. I have always been a nice person. As for the guys i know i let them take advantage of me when we first meet i thought they wanted to be with me but they didn't they just wanted to have sex with me. I will never be a man's wife just a sex object.

Hey Tyra
I am so glad to hear i am not the only one to fit this profile. I am just too nice you see i have let me friends walk all over me they tell me what to do where to go and i am starting to get tired of it. It doesn't even just end there i have always been afraid to date becasue i am afraid anyone i would date would try to take advantage of me and go to far. But it has come to the point now where i dont know what to do.How can i get friends good friends who wont take advantage of me and how can i find a good guy to not take advantage of me?

Hello Tyra, I am a 22-year college student entering graduate school this fall. I attend school in a small city in Hattiesburg, MS and once believed that I could never find true love. I've dated people out here but never quite found that special one for me. As soon as I had given up love came into my life. That was an emotion that I have never experienced before and it felt so good. The guy that I fell in love with had just came out of a serious relationship and told me from the beginning that he was not looking to start a new one as of yet. I didnt care at that time because again, I thought there was no love for me in MS anyway. When I realized that he was the one that I wanted to be with I began to be extremely nicer than usual. I allowed him to take advantage of me and my feelings. There are things that he has done to me and things I have done for him that I would never allow in my life. I am too nice to this guy and cant help it. I didnt realized that he voodoo'd me so bad until I found myself thinking about him all day everyday. My world revolved around his phone call or text message that I rarely received. When he did call, if he said jump... I said how high. I hate the fact that I am doing this to myself. My kindness is being taken for weakness and I dont want to play anymore. A broken and kind heart doesnt deserve this. I've lost weight, fell into deep depression, allowed the situation to affect my classwork as well as athletics. Help me please Tyra...I dont want to be like this anymore.

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Hello Tyra and Dr. Michelle,

First of all I am so happy that I am able to go on line and read up on things that I have missed on your shows I'm a single mom and I work constantly so I miss your shows alot, I have just now been able to have a computer and it's been a big help. Now I used to be a very nice person,(I feel I still am) and I constantly have ones taking that as I'm a pushover, reading some of comments and hearing about the show really made me sit and think about all the times I've allowed ones to get away in doing me wrong, I won't ever change who I am cause that's how I was brought up, but now I'm more out spoken on things if I feel it aint cool, I don't hold my tongue if someone gets out of pocket with me cause of how they think that I am, I really try to avoid conflicts and arguements but if I feel that I'm right and noone is listening to me I speak up and speak my mind and it's all becauase of the advice of you two, thanks so much for letting me feel that just because I'm a nice person I don't need to have ones take advantage of me and use me I can speak my mind and still remain the same person that I have always been.

Thanks again,
a nice person with a new perspective

dear tyra, i am 30 yrs. old, a single mother of four, and was raised to be a kind-hearted person. i am homeless right now with my children staying wherever there's room for us. all because i chose to open my home up to my sister and her children because she had nowhere to go.i supported all 8 of us for about 6 months, mind you i was unemployed at the time waiting on my disability to go through.needless to say i was the only one worrying abut anything how the bills were going to get paid, rent, and everything else. I did my best and i had to do somethings for money that i would never do because i respect myself.well i got my disability and paid off a $700 utility bill and paid back rent and bought a vehicle because i had no transportation and i have alot of Dr.'s appt to go too. all along my sister was collecting her welfare checks from where she moved from never saying anything or offering any money for bills. she just sat around watching me stress about the bills and rent plus the things the kids needed.how could she just pocket her money?well the utility bills got way outta hand again and now she has her own apartment and me and my 4 are trying to find a home and even if i domy bills are so high i wouldn't be able to get service in my name until they are paid.i keep trying to tell myself GOD doesnt give you more than you can handle but i have been going through some serious issues and i feel like i am going to end up taking my life soon because i continue to let my children down as well as myself.please help me.

dear tyra, i am 30 yrs. old, a single mother of four, and was raised to be a kind-hearted person. i am homeless right now with my children staying wherever there's room for us. all because i chose to open my home up to my sister and her children because she had nowhere to go.i supported all 8 of us for about 6 months, mind you i was unemployed at the time waiting on my disability to go through.needless to say i was the only one worrying abut anything how the bills were going to get paid, rent, and everything else. I did my best and i had to do somethings for money that i would never do because i respect myself.well i got my disability and paid off a $700 utility bill and paid back rent and bought a vehicle because i had no transportation and i have alot of Dr.'s appt to go too. all along my sister was collecting her welfare checks from where she moved from never saying anything or offering any money for bills. she just sat around watching me stress about the bills and rent plus the things the kids needed.how could she just pocket her money?well the utility bills got way outta hand again and now she has her own apartment and me and my 4 are trying to find a home and even if i domy bills are so high i wouldn't be able to get service in my name until they are paid.i keep trying to tell myself GOD doesnt give you more than you can handle but i have been going through some serious issues and i feel like i am going to end up taking my life soon because i continue to let my children down as well as myself.please help me.

dear tyra, i am 30 yrs. old, a single mother of four, and was raised to be a kind-hearted person. i am homeless right now with my children staying wherever there's room for us. all because i chose to open my home up to my sister and her children because she had nowhere to go.i supported all 8 of us for about 6 months, mind you i was unemployed at the time waiting on my disability to go through.needless to say i was the only one worrying abut anything how the bills were going to get paid, rent, and everything else. I did my best and i had to do somethings for money that i would never do because i respect myself.well i got my disability and paid off a $700 utility bill and paid back rent and bought a vehicle because i had no transportation and i have alot of Dr.'s appt to go too. all along my sister was collecting her welfare checks from where she moved from never saying anything or offering any money for bills. she just sat around watching me stress about the bills and rent plus the things the kids needed.how could she just pocket her money?well the utility bills got way outta hand again and now she has her own apartment and me and my 4 are trying to find a home and even if i domy bills are so high i wouldn't be able to get service in my name until they are paid.i keep trying to tell myself GOD doesnt give you more than you can handle but i have been going through some serious issues and i feel like i am going to end up taking my life soon because i continue to let my children down as well as myself.please help me.

Well first off Tyra I love you and your show.. See Tyra I've always know to be nice to people and thats my BIGGEST problem yet is being so nice and then having the person or people run over me like a dog and I'm tired of it I'm very kind hearted and I've tried to say no but temptations start to give in and just give in so much.. I'm the same way about loving I've told myself that I'm going to stop Loving and being So Kind Hearted to people that really dont care how I feel...
Thanks Tyra

hi tyra,
my name is tiffany and i am 17 and i have a baby on the way its due in november. and i cant wait...the guy that got my pregnant told me to get rid of it, so i got rid of him first...theres no way in the world i would do that.i am not going to school anymore i am getting my GED now so i can help support my baby on my own....i have always thought that if i ever get pregnant i would just get an abortion.. but sence i found out i was pregnant i have never been sp happy in my life... i did have a guy that said he wanted to be there for me and wanted to adopt my baby when i have it... but i found out all he ever did was lie to me and go behind my back and do bad things... its hurts like crazy bc i loved him more then anything in this world i wanted to be tehre for him... but the last time i talk to him was last week and he told me a lie and i caught him in it and he broke up with me... i consider it as his lost... bc i bet he wont find another girl that loved him like i did in this world.... but i am pretty sure i am doing the right thing right now in my life i guess all i can really do is just be strong...but i think you are great tyra i watc h your show almost ever day... and i think your on of the prettiest women in america.. if not the prettiest...thanks for inspiring me to do the right things..
love always,
tiffany

hi tyra,
my name is tiffany and i am 17 and i have a baby on the way its due in november. and i cant wait...the guy that got my pregnant told me to get rid of it, so i got rid of him first...theres no way in the world i would do that.i am not going to school anymore i am getting my GED now so i can help support my baby on my own....i have always thought that if i ever get pregnant i would just get an abortion.. but sence i found out i was pregnant i have never been sp happy in my life... i did have a guy that said he wanted to be there for me and wanted to adopt my baby when i have it... but i found out all he ever did was lie to me and go behind my back and do bad things... its hurts like crazy bc i loved him more then anything in this world i wanted to be tehre for him... but the last time i talk to him was last week and he told me a lie and i caught him in it and he broke up with me... i consider it as his lost... bc i bet he wont find another girl that loved him like i did in this world.... but i am pretty sure i am doing the right thing right now in my life i guess all i can really do is just be strong...but i think you are great tyra i watc h your show almost ever day... and i think your on of the prettiest women in america.. if not the prettiest...thanks for inspiring me to do the right things..
love always,
tiffany

HELLO TYRA,
Hmmm is it wrong to be too nice like is it too nice to let someone get away with things with just an apology such as them backstabbing you is it okay cuz i really don't know it happens to me a lot and i guess i feel hurt and upset at the moment but as soon as they say sorry it's like okay and the backstabbing can be extreme !! i can mean trust me tyra but should i have forgiven them that easily for what they done???
thank you for the time
love,
Tanya =)

HI TYRA, THIS IS LEEKEITHIA OUT OF DESOTO,TEXAS. I WATCH YOUR SHOW ALMOST EVERY DAY IF IM NOT HELPING MY GRANDMOTHER TAKE CARE OF MY TWO LITTLE COUSIN SEE MY GRANNY HAS BEEN HAVING THEM THEY WERE IN THERE MONTHS BECAUSE THEY HAVE AN UNFIT MOM AND THERE FATHER IS IN JAIL, SO BODY ELSE WAS LEFT TO TAKE THEM IN EXCEPT MY GRANDMOTHER AND I REALLY BELIEVE THATS UNFAIR, MY GRANNY IS GOING SIXTY JANUARY 15 ITS REALLY NOT HER RESPONSIBILITY TYRA. SHE WORKS TWO JOBS AND AFTER THAT SHE HAS TO TURN AROUND AND COME HOME AND TAKE CARE OF SOMEONE ELSES CHILDREN SO REALLY TYRA ALL IM ASKING FROM YOU TO HER (IS A BREAK) PLEASE SO THINK ABOUT IT BECAUSE SHE DESERVE IT AND I KNOW SOMETHING GOOD WILL COME OUT OF HER HARD WORK

THINK YOU FOR READING MY LETTER LOVE YOU TYRA.

HI TYRA, THIS IS LEEKEITHIA OUT OF DESOTO,TEXAS. I WATCH YOUR SHOW ALMOST EVERY DAY IF IM NOT HELPING MY GRANDMOTHER TAKE CARE OF MY TWO LITTLE COUSIN SEE MY GRANNY HAS BEEN HAVING THEM THEY WERE IN THERE MONTHS BECAUSE THEY HAVE AN UNFIT MOM AND THERE FATHER IS IN JAIL, SO BODY ELSE WAS LEFT TO TAKE THEM IN EXCEPT MY GRANDMOTHER AND I REALLY BELIEVE THATS UNFAIR, MY GRANNY IS GOING SIXTY JANUARY 15 ITS REALLY NOT HER RESPONSIBILITY TYRA. SHE WORKS TWO JOBS AND AFTER THAT SHE HAS TO TURN AROUND AND COME HOME AND TAKE CARE OF SOMEONE ELSES CHILDREN SO REALLY TYRA ALL IM ASKING FROM YOU TO HER (IS A BREAK) PLEASE SO THINK ABOUT IT BECAUSE SHE DESERVE IT AND I KNOW SOMETHING GOOD WILL COME OUT OF HER HARD WORK

THINK YOU FOR READING MY LETTER LOVE YOU TYRA.

HI TYRA, THIS IS LEEKEITHIA OUT OF DESOTO,TEXAS. I WATCH YOUR SHOW ALMOST EVERY DAY IF IM NOT HELPING MY GRANDMOTHER TAKE CARE OF MY TWO LITTLE COUSIN SEE MY GRANNY HAS BEEN HAVING THEM THEY WERE IN THERE MONTHS BECAUSE THEY HAVE AN UNFIT MOM AND THERE FATHER IS IN JAIL, SO BODY ELSE WAS LEFT TO TAKE THEM IN EXCEPT MY GRANDMOTHER AND I REALLY BELIEVE THATS UNFAIR, MY GRANNY IS GOING SIXTY JANUARY 15 ITS REALLY NOT HER RESPONSIBILITY TYRA. SHE WORKS TWO JOBS AND AFTER THAT SHE HAS TO TURN AROUND AND COME HOME AND TAKE CARE OF SOMEONE ELSES CHILDREN SO REALLY TYRA ALL IM ASKING FROM YOU TO HER (IS A BREAK) PLEASE SO THINK ABOUT IT BECAUSE SHE DESERVE IT AND I KNOW SOMETHING GOOD WILL COME OUT OF HER HARD WORK

THINK YOU FOR READING MY LETTER LOVE YOU TYRA.

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Hi Tyra,
First of all I want to say that I love your show and how you are always empowering women and now that I am out of school for the summer I will have more time to watch. I am a 21 year old single female. I am accused of being to nice all the time. However, in my mind at times I feel like Im mean if I assert myself. I have a guy friend (not a boyfriend but I do like him a lot) in my life who is always pushing the limits with me and I have told him time and time again that I want him to respect me. It's just really hard sometimes to express things to him with out him thinking that Im being to mean but at the same time he tells me that the reason he treats me this way is because he knows that he can get away with it. Is that right for him to do? It seems wrong but he tells me "I only act like this because I love you" and then I feel horrible for telling him how I feel. Please help me!!! How do I stand up for myself but keep his friendship and respect?

Hi Tyra,
I've watched your show numerous times and I was so inspired by the way you've reached out to women by tackling REAL issues. I've recently just came out of a relationship which left me devastated and hopeless. I've since then decided to launch my own website in the hope of reaching out to other women in similar circumstances. Here, my story is told : http://www.revelationsofmyheart.co.za
Thank you for your inspiration!

Well my boyfriend says im too nice, and my friends say that im too nice to him. I love my boyfriend, but somtimes i will catch myself doing anything for him, even when i know he doesnt deserve it. somtimes he will be so mean to me by critisizing me, putting me down this makes me cry for days, and even makes me sick to my stomach. One time we broke up and i lost 15 lbs in a course of 1-2 months.He alwayshas this way of drawing me back, still i went back to him after all he did to me Its a huge struggle for me. in my everyday life, i never see a problem with being nice, but somtimes people tell me it gets to a point when i need to stop being so nice and stand up for myself, and i know thats true. I have a problem with speaking up for myself and im always afraid to hurt somones feelings or say the wrong thing. It hard for me to just be mean to someone...

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HiTyra,
I am to nice for my own good. Every sinc I have been growing up people have been taking advantage of my.It is like the word No does not exsist to me. I feel that if I tell them no and something happen then I feel like I am at fault and if only i would have said yes then maybe it would not have happened. I laso feel if I would have put my standared down my ex would not have took advantage of me. because I never complained because I felt that it would change nothing. Please give me some advice on how to say no without being guilty.

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hi tyra im a 28yr old female and im always to nice i have problem with men because i always feel like i have tono say no.even if i say no its like i didnt because i smile all the time.but now ive goten to my so what stage so what if i dont make everyone happy so what thanks tyra i feel so much better

hey tyra my name is erin im 23. after readin this i couldnt believe that im not the only one out there like this. my whole life ive never gave to me but gave everything to everyone else. i never understood y i do this and still dont. i still try to make everyone else happy. im a very fun kind hearted person that just wants to find love. i feel so out of place. if u could help me.

It's too easy for the truly nice guys to make all the right moves and still find themselves in a bad spot these days.

We can put ourselves 1st when it's right to, embrace conflict when honor allows, set boundaries and not cross lines, speak honestly, identify and communicate our needs, protect our families and do dozens of things that any "nice guy" should do... but this world either lost its need for nice guys or overpopulation has taken its toll & the oil/water result is in full effect.

It's enough to make a nice guy not so nice -- distrusting, reserved, defensive & whithdrawn. Maybe too many people have taken kindness for weakness. It's probably the truly nice guys that have the resolve & character to stand for the good.

I am tired of trying to make everyone else happy. I do not like conflict. I avoid it at all costs, my happiness. I really is my fault, because I feel like I am the one that started all this. I waited on by husband, hand and foot. He has never, NEVER had to worry about how the bills got paid, food was bought, clothes, gas, ANYTHING. He never worked overtime to help get ready for vacations. It was all on me and I DID IT! WELL, I am tired! I am still working and he took an early retirement. It is soooo hard on me, mentally and physically. I resent him, but I don't say anything, I JUST DEAL. Help me! before it's too late.

Hi
I didn't see this epiosode but i read it. Let me just say it hit me. I'm to nice. I let people walk all over me for years. I'm 29 And i'm tired of it. I even let my boyfriend do it. We've been togeather for 9 years. I want to stand up to him but can't don't want to come off as the B@@ch If you know what i mean. So i lit all kinds of people take advantage of me. Just so I want come of as one. How do I start taking my life back with out being MEAN? I hate beeing so nice it's not nice anymore, but i can't stop. I can't say no to anything. Even if I know it's not right. Please tell me how to sop. Thanks so much

my name is nikki,
my friend tido is really cool well some times.but he tends to take advantage of me because i like him and also because he knows that im a nice person. many times guys try to take advantage of my kindness.i'm not a hateful person but at times i find my self trying to impress or gain the approval of guys.so i tend not to speak my mind i let things go when they ask me to do work for them or if they say little sly comments to me. i fear that i could end up having a problem...not just with that but with everyone..i stress my self out trying to make everyone happy doing wut everyone wants me to do. i dont want to be mean and just brush them off, i dont like when people are mad me.i would hate to a disapointment.
i dont want to be mean but i dont want to be a push over either. being nice is the key through life i think because when your not the hottest girl in school atleast people talk about your pesonality.

Hey im 16, and i believe im to nice and sweet lil girl who everyone like to make fun of. it doens disturb me one bit i acutally laugh and go with the flow only becaue my parents raised me that way. at times i can loose my temper if i had wake up in the wrong sode of the bed but the only people who seen that side is my parents. why is it that the people you love and lived with for your life get it worse? i beleive thast one day i might take them for granted and the day i need them there not gonna be there for me i mean im not moody or mean all the times maybe rarely but with my firends im one of the nicest girl who laughs and smiles all the time and the find it hard to beleive that i never lost my temper called anyone out. i dunno i find it hard i am a push over people do take me for grante for times but i deal with it i don like ot pick fights and i have no problems with people there is people that i dislike but i guess its consider being a two face i communicate with my parents therefore i dont lie to them i always spend time with my parent some of my friends like to talk aobut me and i apppreciate to hear the negative comments aboiut myself so i can accept what i cant chnage sometiems i find it hard to say no or to make a bad judgement abotu a person because i don want ot lower their self esteem

Okay, I've always been the "nice girl" all of my life. Recently I babysat my friend's kids and she didn't pay me. I told another friend about it and they were like "oh, you didn't know that's how she is". I don't even want to be bothered with her anymore, even though I love kids and I don't want any bad blood between us. It's a shame grown people have to be like that when you're the one doing them a favor.

Hello,

I'm definitely this person. I've heard this ALL my life. "You're too nice." "You're too easy." I have started to stick up for myself lately, sometimes I feel guilty but I'm working on it. I find that people do not listen to me when I speeak. They view "nice" people as weak & that's further from the truth. It's a process but when one gets tired of being ignored or walked over, you learn to speak up. It's like "Madea" said.."It's either you or me." People have to understand that it's not what you say but how you say it. Nobody initially wants to see the nice person speak up. They like the door mat but you know, us nice people want respect. If you can't respect me, why should I lay down and let you wipe your feet on me? I've already put some of this to use and it does work and the attitude from that person, totally changed..It may not be that way always but everyone is not going to like or love you and that's something one has to learn to accept. You can bend over backwards and that person can pretend to love or like you all day, only because they are using you..So in the end, you still don't have that love and respect. You have to learn to love you and set boundaries and stick to it..That's the only way.

Im a 32 year old mother of 2 who has been married for 6 years in a realationship with my husband for 15 years. The last year my life has just been turned upside down. My husband has basically walked out on us and insits on it not being another woman. My self worth has just been torn down felling like i deserve what is going on. I have to hold every emtion in because i feel as thoug I have no one i can confide in. I just want to feel confident again and no that is not my faut.

Hello Tyra...I am guilty of being too nice as well. I do not understand the concept of why people would hate others, be ignorant, and just be right out mean to people, especially if they don't know them. I am a nice person. I have recently begun attempting to stick up for myself in the effects of people walking over me. Recently I was jumped by two other females in an attempt to get respect in my own home because of this. I am tired of being walked on and feeling like I am not loved. I am a beautiful woman who desearves to be treated with respect and love. In the process of trying to stick up for myself though, I get frustrated and upset with an end result normally becoming either an argument or a physical fight. I am a United States Soldier. I have done two tours in Iraq and served in the Army since 2000. I have fought for my country to give people the right to be mean to others, something I do not understand. The racism, hatred, murders, and all the negative things in this world frustrate me to the point where I cry myself to sleep sometimes. I am old-fashioned. I believe in the golden rule. I believe looks, race, gender, nationality, and all the other things should not be factors of whether someone desearves respect and kindness or not. Its whats inside, not outside. My question is, why do I always get hurt and taken advantage of when all I want is respect and to be treated fairly.

HRY TYRA,
I'VE ALWAYS HAVE THE FEELING THAT I'M A SOFTSPOKEN GIRL. I NEVER REALIZED THAT I WAS TOO NICE UNTIL PEOPLE BEGAN TO POINT IT OUT OR AFTER THE OBVIOUS HAS BEEN POINTED OUT THAT I WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF. I WANT TO TAKE A STAND FOR MYSELF AND HAVE THE DRIVE BUT WHEN IT COMES DOWN TO STANDING FOR MYSELF...I BACK DOWN. IF I DO STAND UP FOR MYSELF, IT TAKES EVERYTHING IN ME TO DO SO. I WANT TO STAND UP FOR MYSELF WITHOUT GUILT, WITHOUT DOUBT AND MOST OF ALL-WITHOUT HESITATION.

PLEASE, ASSIST ME IN STANDING UP FOR MYSELF WITH EASE. I AM 17 AND SOON WILL BE A GROWN WOMAN. I WANT TO BE INDEPENDENT AND STRONG.

HAVE NICE DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

why are being nice to them in the first place?

hi there tyra,i have the same problem as eveybody. i live in university rsidence in south africa.i tend to be nice to everybody that sometimes they would come to my room,and overstay their welcome sometimes it is even hard for me to learn,i can't just chuck them out because i do't want offend them.i'm ashy type,what should i do?njabulo in south africa

I'm always trying to make my freinds happy but I end up making me sad. my freinds seem happier though is this good or bad?

Hi Tyra,
Yes I too am way to nice. For instance there is this one guy in perticular who I was dating about three years ago.We ended it because, I wanted to be "officially" girlfriend and have the title. This was the one time I stood up for myself. Anyways it ended the relationship because he didnt want that. We stayed friends after though we occasionally mess around. The only thing is I recently messed with him and woke up the next morning feeling used. We are not anywhere close to a relationship, and its almost like I accept being a jump off. How could I let this guy take advantage of me? He knowws that I really do like him, and uses it as a way to score. This embarrases me, but i find myself in the same perdicatment over and over with this guy. Help Im too nice!

Jasmine

Hey tyra
you probably wont get this one, but I think I remember seeing this show. Anyway, lately I have been waiting for a show on a topic of this type. My best friend kim can be a total push over sometimes. She had a boyfriend for 4 years. Got pregnent and had a kid. He's not mature enough to raise a kid but thinks that no other girl will ever want him so he keeps trying to get her to take him back. She took care of him for like 5-6 monthes. Just because she conveniently believed his lies. when I say 'convenient', I mean she would believe his lies to aviod conflict not because she really had faith in him. She's too nice. The girl needs to tuffin' up a little.

Hi Tyra, I didn't get to watch this show but I just read what it was about and I read what some of the other ladies were saying on this blog. I feel compelled to encourage these women that they are stronger then what people around them perceive to be and even themselves sometimes. I use to be one of these types of women, I was entirely too nice! But I began noticing that when I put aside my fear of what people thought or would say and started to speak up, people respected my opinions. Now, I am a leader not a follower, because if I don't agree with something I speak up and my friends and family normally agree with me! So, to the women out there that feel they are to nice it's not about being mean it's about taking a stand for yourself and voicing your own personal opinions. And to stop letting people walk on you. Don't continue to be the door mat any more be the door and when you don't agree or some one uses you close the door and take a stand for yourself!

I definately fall into the category of 'too nice'. It has gotten me nowhere really. It led to me being abused by ex's, cheated on, and I forgave, and when I felt like I couldn't please everyone I got into a major depression. I went to counseling and as put on antidepressants, and realized that I wasn't a doormat and deserved better. Needless to say I divorced my husband at the time. When I started to date my current husband, and he treated me like a queen, I didn't know how to react, I still didn't feel worthy. It has become so imbedded in my system to put me last, it frustrates my husband. There have been times where he noticed that i haven't gotten myself anything, whether clothes, shoes, or any little splurge for myself, my husband has literally handed me money and forced me out of the house to go do something for myself, and, if I brought something home for him or the kids he was going to return them. It is not easy to not be the 'doormat' because the happiness of those i love is so much more important to me than my own happiness. I still can't explain why I dont feel "worthy" and I cant totally put myself in front of anyone. Even my job. How can I do things for myself without feeling guilty and selfish? I don't know if there is a solution. Am I too old to change old habits? (i am 37)

i think being too nice makes people think that they can take advantage of you.

Hi tyra. I loved this episode because i guess i fall under the nice girl category. I've been too nice to a guy ive been seeing for almost three years now and for some reason he wont commit to me.. he is always lieing to me about other girls, and once he gets caught it seems its always my fault for ruining everything. I've tried to walk away from this unhealthy relationship however it doesnt seem like hes willing to let me go, he always finds his way back into my life, i suppose its bc im to nice and i forgive him easily, or perhaps im so in love with him im blinded by all the negitivity. I found naked pictures of him and other girls on his camera i read emails and confronted him about it and his excuse was... thats not me, shes not naked.. i didnt do anything... then to make matters worse he always makes fun of me, he points out all my flaws all the time puts me down by calling me fat and im not even fat! i am about 5'1 and weigh about 126. he says im ugly which i dont think i am but its come to the point where im starting to believe it. Be has broken me down so much to the point that i dont have confidence in myself as the way i use too.. and what hurts the most is, to other people he says that we are just friends. He calls me names for no reason, is demanding, controlling and most of all has no respect for me. I wish i could get some advice, i for some reason have the notion that he can change but then again i never see progress. i want out but its really hard for me. i tried but i always go back maybe im addicted to the pain or just maybe i just want what i cant have. i dont know what it is but i sure know that i need help. :(

Hi Tyra, This show really really hit home with me. I work at a stressful job where we deal with difficult people pretty routinely. I often don't have the chance to speak up for myself without fear of losing my job. That same attitude also effected my relationships. Watching your show helped me not only to respect myself more at work, but also to stand up for myself when a jerk boyfriend came back looking to take advantage of the "doormat" he left behind. (I actually told him I wasn't a doormat =-D) Thank you!!!

HI Tyra,
First of all I love your show and they way you just love life to the fullest.We'll about the too nice part,we'll mine is a lil diffrent,I'm to forgiving.I've only been married 4 months now and i just found out AGAIN that my husband cheated on me when he was deployed in Arz.THis is a marry go round,we have a gorgeous daughter together and I find myself lost.What should I do TYRA!Please get back 2 me,Sonya...

Hei Tyra,
Wel I havent watched the show but it kind of hit me when I read abt it on ur web,... I can say that am way tooooooooooo nice for people,.. I some times come accross people who do some bad thing to me needing some favour from me and I just do whatever I can to make their lives easy and I always got in a fight with my friends about this. Even I couldn't stay for long in my relations cus I care and do too much while the other party dont do much and I kind of feel un loved and am starting to feel like am looking for me out there u know the one do thing with out being told the one who cares too much ,.... am really afraid I will end up lonely,.. am 26 and I havent been in a long relation, since people took everything I do forgranted and I hate that,..

Hi Tyra,

I haven't ever done this before, but I felt that I should after watching "You're Too Nice". It was wonderful -- hitting me right where it counts. I have always been a doormat, and even now, if I get knocked down--I have advanced Parkinson's--I apologize for being in the way. I will try to find some guts.

Hey Tyra,
I have not seen the show, but I have been told that I am too nice. I finally came to the conclusion that I am. I'm always trying to help other people. I am the one that tries to help someone make their lives better, I assume it is because I am not where I want to be and it is easier to help someone else. I was seeing a guy, who I know now is a looser, and I did a lot for him. I really liked the guy, let him stay with me for a little while, "loaned" him a few bucks, and it got me no where. He didn't even appreciate it how much of a friend I was trying to be. Now it will be hard for me to do the same for someone else who actually deserves my kindness. My friend tells me I give people too many chances.

I am to nice. That's why people take advantage of me. From my friends to my family people always ask me for stuff and I don't say no because I don't want them to get mad. I really want to stand up for myself but just don't know how.

Hi Tyra!! I learned from this show. I considered myself as being too nice but as I grew older I learned not to be afraid to say no.

hi Tyra...
my name is nina...i just want to tell you.."too nice for your own good" is the show that hit me and I started to think "yeah, I am a door mat"..I'm from the Philippines..I'm a high school student turning a 3rd year student this upcoming school year..
I just finished watching your show..and I want to say thank you for having a topic like that coz if you didn't I may not yet realize that I'm a door mat and also for all those advice that you gave..especially Dr. Michelle and Ant..well this all the time that I have..tnx... mwahhh ;'*

- Get Your Own

tyra, i missed that show but it should come on oxygen in a couple days im one of those people for sure. it got so bad with me always trying to please people and always wondering what people were thinking of me that i would have really bad panic attacks. Come to find out i have a anxiety disorder that i now take medicene for . Cant wait to see that show.
Love, Josianna

Hey Tyra,
I loved the show you did on Your Too Nice and I must say that I am definatley one of those people girlfriend. I get soo tired of people taking my kindness for weakness. I have a good and pure heart but I just allow people to walk all over me. What should I do?

Hey tyra,
I have to tell you i have been way to nice for my own good i try and say no but then i feel really bad i need help!!! I get yelled at by my family but its hard to say no i think its a consuming my life. I moved out of my house and still paid for it cause me and my boy need a place but i let this guy stay with me for 6 months and he never paid me nothing and my son did not like him so i stayed with my mom cause i didnt want to feel bad for him he just used me really bad my family does and its really a big problem for me if you couls help me please thank you love always amie!

hey tyra!
i havent seen this episode yet but i cant wait to watch it.... im one of those nice girls who lets ppl walk all over them! i dont want to hurt ppl nd i dont like ppl bein mad at me! latly i have been becoming better at standing up 4 myself but i think that this show will really help a lot more. thanks tyra!

~**jennifer**~

I have no idea if this will ever get to the powers that be....I have never written in to a show, magazine or anything but while preparing supper i had the show on in the background and heard the subject matter. The people you had on and their situations happen all too often and the solutions seems to be no brainers. The situation you did not bring up is when your boss asks you to do a favor beyond the regular parameters of the job. Eventually it becomes a regular occurance. It is a small business, one boss and the employee involved does not want to mess with her job, does not want confrontation and keeps getting taken advantage of. Then what?

Hi Tyra,
Thank you for doing this show. I have always been too nice to people and recently it has been causing REALLY BIG problems for me. I am in medical school (a really professional setting), and have allowed a colleague to make sexual comments and harrass me for 5 years. My boyfriend always ends up speaking up for me, and has been trying to get me to stand up to this guy for years. After watching your show I've decided to do it. It's going to feel really good!! Thanks!!!

hey tyra
i was watching ur show today about 'r u to nice for ur own good?' and tyra i have to emit that im way to nice to people. i always think about how they will feel bfor i say anything. i never say anything that is on my mine and if someone wants to do something or go some where and i dont want to do it, i dont say anything bc i dont want to hurt them or something so i just do it. like this one time i was shopping looking for some new pair of pants and the lady that worked there came up to me with a pair of pants in her hand and she said 'hi i noiced u were looking at pants and i saw these ones and i think they will look sooo good on u. here put them on and c.' she handed them to and put me in a changeing room. so i tryed them on to be nice and i did not like they look soo bad i hated them. when i came out and showed her she said omgosh they look so good on u u have to get them there on sale for $80 here came wiht me and u can pay for them. so.... i went with her and ya i got them :)i just dont no how to tell people no. i dont no how to say no. HELP TYRA! HELP ME SAY NO TO PEOPLE! plz i need ur help

love dena
xoxox

hey tyra
i was watching ur show today about 'r u to nice for ur own good?' and tyra i have to emit that im way to nice to people. i always think about how they will feel bfor i say anything. i never say anything that is on my mine and if someone wants to do something or go some where and i dont want to do it, i dont say anything bc i dont want to hurt them or something so i just do it. like this one time i was shopping looking for some new pair of pants and the lady that worked there came up to me with a pair of pants in her hand and she said 'hi i noiced u were looking at pants and i saw these ones and i think they will look sooo good on u. here put them on and c.' she handed them to and put me in a changeing room. so i tryed them on to be nice and i did not like they look soo bad i hated them. when i came out and showed her she said omgosh they look so good on u u have to get them there on sale for $80 here came wiht me and u can pay for them. so.... i went with her and ya i got them :)i just dont no how to tell people no. i dont no how to say no. HELP TYRA! HELP ME SAY NO TO PEOPLE! plz i need ur help

i have always respected tyra as an intelligent woman, so i was appalled to hear her say her favorite place to shop is wal-mart! i challange her to educate herself on the corporation wal-mart and to use her influence to make changes for the poor. a good source is co-op america. also, today i was watching the "too nice" show and was horrified at how you "spoofed" these low self-esteem women! putting them in a vulnerable position (alone in a room with a MAN when they are naked!!??) what the >?!# us funny about that!!!!! you should be ashamed! i bet 2 out of the 3 are victims/survivors of some sexual crime! again, i challenge you to educate yourself! i am sorely dissapointed in the tyra banks show. sincerely, siobhan

Hi tyra,
Im kidn of a nice person. Kind of scare to say what i want to say. People talk over me, and im getting tired of that. But watching your show, at least help me how to stand up.

I would like to say to all the nice people in the world. I am 42 years old, and I am still nice and kind. I always ask GOD to order my steps. Do not stop being who GOD designed you to be. I am also a person who has been victimized for being to nice and kind hearted. I was victimized by my husband, so to be ex, my family and so called close friends. But, I realized why should I alter who I am just because, someone else has a negative hidden agenda. As older people will tell you, what goes around comes around. So, in my own personal opinion, keep being who GOD made you to be, and just ask GOD for guidance in any decisions or steps that you make in your life so you are not set up to fail because you are nice. Remember, how people treat you is how GOD is going to treat them. Have a blessed day.

hi tyra me and my girl friend were watching your show of the girls that were to nice well my girl said that remind her of those times but it also helped her to. thanks

hi tyra,i like watching your show because i was also one of the nice people too.this show really hepled me. by the way i also see next top molde

hi tyra,i like watching your show because i was also one of the nice people too.this show really hepled me.

Tyra,

Today's show was MUCH appriciated and needed! You have no idea how many girls I HOPE watched that show.
I still am too nice sometimes but I used to be wayy worse. I moved away 15 hours away from my hometown and spent a year re-thinking what I want and who I am..it was sort of like a "personality rehab". I learned a lot and when I saw today's show I was thankful you took the time to show others they aren't alone and that it CAN be treated.
By the way, your show has become one of my FEW favorites. I love what you do and how you really make women out of girls, that is a huge goal in my life, something I have and still want to do, help young women through the peer pressures of this world, and your show is a motivation and a HUGE help in taking those steps.
Keep up the good work!!
Tanya, 22, Canada

Dear Tyra,

Im so tired of being so nice all of the time. It's true when u think about others all the time and not about yourself, people seem to just use you, but then when you tell them "no" and think about yourself they wind up not caring about you. For Instance, my whole Spring Break has gone from good to bad.It was good that i had fun with some new friends, but then i made the mistake of letting one of them drive my moms car and she backed up into a dumpster.She didn't even care that she put a dent in the car. Then she went off talking crap about me and she still PRETENDS to be my friend and im just tired of it. I've read the "Too Nice for Your Own Good?" and it has moved me.From now on im going to set boundries and im not going to let anyone else or any of my friends use me again. I want to thank you for everything.

Sincerely,
Jessica

Tyra,
I have watched your show almost everyday and have been moved by so many, but today I am sitting here crying so hard because being to nice has destroyed my life and selfesteam to the point it takes everything in my power to get up in the morrining and function. people are lauphing at these young girls and dont understand all that will happen if these girls dont stand up for themself. But its not so easy to do after years of being taken advantage of. Its like the person who has alot of money and tons of friends till they dont have the money anymore. When your nice and do anything for anyone your the greates and athey love you, then as soon as you say no more your a bad guy and you find out no one in your intire life ever realy cared about you just what you can do for them!!!! I think you have opend a door you should look closer into. If younger girls would learn earlyer to find that fine line between nice and bitch it will save them a whole lot of heartach. Great show it realy hit home. Where were you 30 years ago?

Tyra,
I am watching your show about being too nice. I honestly have to say that I fall into that category. Watching the show helped me realize how "too nice" I really am. I let it take over my whole life, as in work, friendships, actually any type of relationship! Even my dog knows how to walk all over me. At work one of my co-workers actually has a "Sorry Jar" that I have to put a quarter in every time I say the word "sorry". She got so tired of me apologizing for everything that I have to actually pay. After watching the show I have realized that I need to actually make a conscious effort to watch how I react to things in my day-to-day life. I am also planning a wedding for September and this show couldn't have come at a more perfect time. I was beginning to stress myself out because I was worried about other people and whether or not I was going to hurt their feelings. Now, I am going to take into account that I need to be assertive with my decisions and not worry that I am stepping on toes. Thanks!

wuzz good tyra, this is oscar..and well i just finish watching your show. its a great one i like it alot.

and well in my case..my girlfriend says that i am too nice..and that me being all over her makes her wanna pull out of the relationship., but i like her too much to brake up with her..so my question is..should i stop being nice and just ignore her for a while? cuz what i have notice over the years and based on my friends relationships and what my father told me., is that some woman dont want that much attention and prefer to be ignored sometimes.., but then again..if u dont pay attention to the girl, u girls think that one is cheating on u or that we dont like u anymore, and if u do pay attention., they say we are too nice.,

so what is ur advice? please reply back ok.

aight then. i know u know a lil spanish., so here:

BESITOS :D

YOURS TRULY,

OSCAR G

Tyara I just got done watching your show and it really made me think....I realized that when people tell me that I am to nice that they weren’t kidding. I never really though about it till now I do let people walk all over me...I just hate letting people down and I always have a smile on and I ALWAYS think of other people first and then me...I'm 15 and I’m a sophomore in a Taft union High its in a little town like 1hour and 30 min. away from l L.A. well when I go out to lunch on our lunch break everyone always wants to go with me and I just realized that its because I pay for them if the don't have money... my dad gives me 30 dollars on Monday and that’s supposed to last me the whole week but it only lasts me till Tuesday...another thing is that over the summer I was talking to this really cute boy and I really was starting to like him after talking for about 3 months school was going to start I saw him at registration and introduced him too my cousin she said he was cute I didn't think anything of it I saw it as a complement a few days latter he stopped talking to me and I always wondered why I didn't try calling him so I was just like whatever ...so on the first day of school I was walking to my fourth period class and I see him and my cousin making out I got soooooo mad but I just acted like i didn't see them I hadn’t talked to him since but I did tell my cousin that I didn't mind when I really did! they are still dating to this day they’ve been dating for7 months now... if you could really help me out on this I would really appreciate it!!!! I just need some good advice -Karely

I am a stay at home mom and was watching "Are you too nice." And I realized one thing. There was two guests on it named Seth and Dawn. Now I don't know about anyone else but I am a talk show junkie. and those two were on the Greg Behrendt show as well. I Just thought it was funny that they were on two talk shows. :D Nicki

Hi tyra,
First of all i want to start off by saying that i like watching your show. I am 15 and the show on nice girls describe me. I am too nice and i try not to let people walk over me but it happens anyway. You are a inspiration to me so thank you.

Tyra,
you're totally right about people being too nice. i have a boyfriend that i love very much, and to tell you the truth, he's way too nice. He's always going out of his way for other people, and they always screw him over. He even gave one of his "friends" money to get him out of a bad situation, and that "friend" broke into his house a few weeks later and took all of his stuff ! it's ridiculious. if you have any advice for my boyfriend and I, I would greatly appreciate it.

I would LOVE to be able to follow these reminders, however from the time I was a kid it has been my family that has walked all over me. I'm 22 now, living in my own apartment with my boyfriend, and he is constantly telling me to stand up for myself, and quit letting people walk all over me. My parents are divorced, my dad is in jail, and my mom is more like a friend than a parent- she calls me all the time to borrow money and even has several of HER bills on MY credit report [without my knowledge until I recently checked my credit report online]. My point here is that I've never been taught any different. I don't WANT to let people walk all over me [I really don't think anybody does] but when it's all I've known for 22 years I don't know how to take the first steps in stopping people from treating me like that. Any advice?

All my life i've been a people pleaser. Its always been hard for me to stand up for myself-even at the age of 20. I'm constantly thinking of how i can please this person -without hurting their feelings.At my job i'm the ''first'' they call esp. to do an unwanted job. It's hard for me to say ''no''. You know your a people pleaser when you can't say''no''. My family often refer to me as being ''too nice''. I never thought that being ''too nice'' could be so emotionally draining.

Hello Tyra...OMG..firstly i luv yur show and u...ur very real, and amazingly pretty dispite all the overweight comment...yur gorgeous...well neways...i think that my niceness is really not a good thing...people walk all over me and right now im in a big dilema...there was a guy that i really really liked...and he really did to..u could tell but hes really shy...so as im just waiting for a great future with this guy im like in love with...another guy whos really nice to me...but i never really considered him that way, asked me out...and me being dumb and not wanting to hurt his feelings said yes...but now not only did i just break my own heart...the guy i love wont even look at me...i ruined everything just because i was to nice!

Hey there, Tyra you couldn't have described me better. I'm 15 and am told honestly at least once a day that im " too nice " . I don't really see anything wrong with being nice and all that but i just hate being mad at someone because i won't tell them even if it's for a good reason. I just don't ever want to be the "bit&ch" so I just ignore any anger. I find i can normally laugh most things off or just let them slide. I'm a very laid back person and i don't like to cause any drama, but at the same time i have a hard time standing up for myself when i really need too. I kind of rely on my friends to do it for me, which isn't exactly the best way to handle the situation. Is there any advice you could give me? I would really appriciate it.
i love your show you're such an inspiration!
xo , courtney

I used to be nice and forgiving. Now I find myself angry and disappointed In people. I find that people took my nice personality as a weakness and used it to their benefit. I used to think that being angry was such a sin, now I think it's a weapon for me. My boyfriend doesn't seem to understand me at times, so I get angry and impatient. I know it's not healthy but I do it anyway. I feel like sometimes I have no allies. and everyone else is my enemy. For the simple fact that I was being nice and giving my all to people. Now I have put a guard up and I don't know if I'll ever come around to being nice fully again.

Hi Tyra, I love your show you are amazing!!
I just wanted to say that I am way to NICE I have the hardest time saying no to people my kids, my mom and dad, my whole family takes advantage of me and I continue to let it happen because I dont want to hurt anyone or dissapoint anyone but I am constantly on the go ... I want to sit an relax for a change since I dont work people think that all I do is sit at home although I have 5 kids that keep me busy I am just TIRED !!
ANGELA

I am queen 'let them walk over you,' my parents do it, my siblings do it, and the guy that i am seeing now does it, but i never blame them, after all, they can only do it to me as much as i allow them to.......

hello Tyra, you are amazing...i believe iam way too nice. recently i started helping a friend out who is a single mum , but it has gotten out of hand and she never thanks me she only calls to find out when iam free so that even worse she goes on to ask me if i could try and finish work early. iam so fed up i want to tell her but she has such a manupulative character.Tyra iam tired what should i do she my only friend but i want to do so much with my life i feel so stupid. what should i do pls help....God bless u

Read some of the comments of all these (suppose) nice girls. The problem is nice guys finish last because since most nice girls want the bad boy that is what they end up with them and what is left for the nice guy is nothing but bad women and the nice guy then gets frustrated and gives up or becomes the guy that women hate for that is how they are treated so he learns to hate for that is what had been done to him. For those who are looking for the nice person must for learn to appreciate the nice person no matter who he is, how much he has, or where he comes from. Don’t blame or question why you only end up with the wrong guy if you only look for the bad boy type that if your fault and your fault alone. There are plenty of nice guys out their if women only knew how to look, treat and appreciate them they could probably find them till then stop complaining for the predicament you (women) place yourself in.

Hey Tyra,

Great advice! I wish i would have followed that advice three months ago. My now ex-boyfriend and I both lived together then he moved his family into the house then kicked me out after getting me to pay all the bills, buy the groceries, pay the car insurance plus give him spending money, they used me in every possible way they could because thet knew that i love my boyfriend and would go to no limits to make him happy.Then he turned on me. but i went to church and i forgave him and his family for what they did and then i forgave myself.I figure the lord saw all the good that was in my heart and he will bless more than any human being could do!

Hey Tyra and others,

I agree being too nice can really make people take advantage of you more than they respect you. I have always been a real given person to where it got really bad. When I was younger I had some females pretending to be my friends when they really weren't for me. One day they were cool with me, and the next I was buying my friends. Went through all that trouble asking my mother to buy these things for them and they still weren't my friends. I would even give people my last if they asked for it. I've been through this my whole life until I decided to make a change. I had to eventually cut everyone off and start off fresh. I'm still a sweet person I just don't take any crap from anyone. My advice is still be nice but not too nice. It's ok to give to others and do for others ,but make sure when you need they will do for you as well. The most important thing is to take care of yourself first.

One LOVE to all India

I really don't know how to start this though this topic caught my eye. I'm 21 years old and since I was about 16 I have always took care of my mom and sisters always forgetting about me. When I was 17 my mom took my older sister and younger sister to miami with her, I was left behind to live with my best friend, Leosha, though while living with her took off alot of stress it also add more on. See my mom and sisters in Maimi had no job no home and I had to support them but also pay rent where I lived. At that time I was working at McDonalds and also starting my senior year at high school. I started to hate life then and ever since then.

Well just recently I had to get my mom and she is currently living in my one bedroom apartment wtih my boyfriend and myself. Though now instead of only supporting my family I have my boyfriend to support. I can say in all my relationships I always felt used. Everyone always tell me to say no and get what I want though they turn around and ask me for money or things they want and need. In the last past two years I have spent about less then $100 on myself. My boyfriend dosen't realizes since we have been together I have been the one paying all the bills. Since he has not held a job for longer than two months with me. The part that gets me though is that since we have moved in together we have not had an empty apartment. First I let his cousin move in with us because he had no where to go then I had his other cousin and his cousin's daughter stay with us and now I have my mom staying with us the sad thing is No one has ever asked me. I feel everyone believes they can walk right over me and I have just given up. What can I do?

tyra i watch your show everyday and wonder if there is anyone in the world that can help me and my family for the past 15 years i have not had a life i am a single mom of 6 childrens with custody of my 13year old niece due to drugs my family was in ahouse fire a year ago and we are not stable i find myself in closets and rooms locked up cause i dont wont my family to see me cry cause they think im strong i dont know what else to do please help me

Hi Tyra,

I am so nice that my ex-husband called me a door mat. Now that's pretty darn nice, a little too nice. I have learned from my mistakes and now I stand my ground. I no longer let people walk on me. I need a little help getting past the little ache I feel in my heart when I say "no" to certain things. Can you help me with that?

hi Tyra,
I didn't see your show, but I guess it was interesting. People who are only nice will suffer all their lives, myself I was nice but what happens is people don't respect you, I feel empty when I give myself away, in the end people are not happy they want more.

One day I changed, I became more tough, one word "boundaries" helped me a lot, now people think twice before asking something. It does not mean we should be rude, but to be both nice and less nice.

Hi Tyra,
i believe im too nice. People take advantage of me, and ive gone so far to being nice to even boys, that they have put there hands on me n bad ways.And i am talking about them abusing me. Im also too nice to girls.I think its jealousy that gets to them, to where they wanna fight me too. Tyra, i dont know what to do anymore. PLease, please help me. I believe if i keep letting ppl get away with things ill end up getting hurt

Hi tyra I like to watch your show and i think its terrific how you are helping womens around the world if you can help me with my problem I try to be nice all the time but its not good for me now because of that i'm getting divorce and my ex wants to take advantage of me because of that he does not want to pay childsupport,alimoney and because i always try to be nice and feel kind of guilty if he doesn't pay and as a result of that he is going to jail. thanks for your time

can somebody tell me why when you are nice to a guy they always have to take it too far?if you like me than say it and go dont stalk me !!!!!!

I used to be a nice person. I suppose I still am, but only sometimes now. I used to actually try to get people to like me! I would have people that I didn't like, like me! It was horrible! But I recently moved up here to WA (I married into the Army) and met a couple of girls who work with my husband! I thought they were all nice and whatnot until my real friend (I have 2 up here...joy.) told me that they talked about me and called me a b****!! I couldn't believe it because I had been MORE than nice to them!! So now I just don't care about them anymore. People can like me if they want to, but I just wish they could be brave enough to confront me instead of acting like angels to my face! I'm still nice...I just watch out for people!

c amber u did it u stood up for wut u believed in & others too congats

Hi Tyra, I care about what people think of me sometimes, but there are also times when I just say I don't care. Sometimes, I ask myself why do people really have to be so mean, but I guess it's the lifestyle they lived, or is that just an excuse. Tyra, I just don't know. Well, the only thing I have to say is I must live for me because nobody will ever be able to do that for me. At least I found my new best friend, and that is me myself and I. I love you Tyra to be honest you have taught me a lot and when some people say that they don't like you, I feel that they are mad because they can't be you. You are the sweetest person beside my mom and Our Father God, I've ever known.

Hi Tyra,

I used ta always worry bout what ppl would think if I did da things I wanted ta do so...i wouldnt do em!!! BUT, then i realized dat those same ppl will always find somethin negative in da things ya do so...I do what I want n if i mess up then itll b ma mistake dat only Ill learn da consequences 4m!!!

Hi Tyra, my name is Susan Ndahiro. i live in the uk, but i'm a ugandan.A would like you to do me afavour so that afullfil my dream to help children in my country, i would be very greatful if u could connect me to anyone who would help me. all i have at the moment is a land, but if i get any help i would like to build ahouse for the homless children in Uganda. thanks in advance, And God bless you

Hi Tyra

On da topic of being too nice for your own good, am one of the type but always have guts to say no to people who are doing bad stuffs, atimes am too good i go out of ma way to do things to other like Tyra who goes out of her way to help and advice people wid their probos n know God do all the da rewarding coz humans beings atimes dont appreciate da reason Tyra is growing stronger and stronger everyday.she a real beauty in out. Keep it up gal. Blessings

hey! I am one of those people that you were talking about who are too nice for their own good but I have been trying to work on it because after a while I tend to get tired of being taken advantage of but let me tell ya it's really hard!

Hi My name Is Amber I was a guest on the show about being too nice & I want to say that it was a great experience...I got some great pointers from Tyra and Ant. I would do it all over again if I could. I have definitely learned alot about being too nice. I know how to say "No" now and not to feel bad afterwards. It definitely feels good!I just want to tell Tyra that she is truly beautiful inside and out. I truly look up to her as an African American women. She's very smart, respectful, and well rounded. I wish I could of gotten some pointers on modeling ( because that is want I want to persue) but she is a very busy lady I understand, and that wasn't the topic of the show. But once again I enjoyed being on the show,and Tyra is beauti