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how are u doing today i hope bythe graces of God uare well .plz im boy from Ghana and im age of 22yrs .tyra ur show is very importan to me always babe try talk more about sex felling and gay so that it can change people . and im seeking for any black woman or white woman in love from age of 20 to 30 place get me one ........and u can give my email out with any one is there i ill wacth ur show today GOD bless u babe take care ...........

hello..this show is real not ajust a simple talk show but it helps a lot of people..i'm looking for a friend who is a gay.i'm a bi .. if your interested e mail me at shalmar_5678@yahoo.com.ph..thnks.. shalmar

hello i just want to say that the tyra banks show is the best show i've ever seen. It helps a lot of people and i hope this will never end..I'm a bi and looking for a friend who is a gay also ..if your interested email me (shalmar_5678@yahoo.com.ph)..thanks
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I would love to see more shows about lesbian/gay couples; more so about lesbian relationships. Also, what about a segment on "femme/stud" fashion. I haven't seen this on The Ellen Show.

Hi Tyra, I am a lesbian of color. I watched your show that aired on 9/13/2007, about the two young women who is living in a abusive relationship. It is true that abuse is in the gay and lesbian community. I myself has been a lesbian all my life. When I was comming up it was a very hard life and not as open or except as it is today. I am grateful that I have lived long enough to see the change. I hope and pray that things will continue to go forward with the excepts of same sex relationships. And one day that we will have the same rights that a man and woman has. Even as I speak times are changing. I just want you to know that I really enjoyed your show. I also want to thank you for being so open minded and sharing our life style to the world. It greatly appreciate on my part. I am alot older then the women that you showed on your show. So maybe in the near future you will have a show with older gay and lesbians so they can share how hard and different things were back in the 50's and 60's. Thank you once again for sharing our live style. You have a bless day.

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Hi Tyra!!
I'm 17 & I guess I am in the catagory of being a bi-sexual. In high school it's easy living because we have a full LGBT Community at the school but anywhere else, thats another story. Just a short few months ago I came out to my family & they didn't take it so well & still they don't like it. Now they take me as an even bigger joke than they already did. It hurts to know that people aren't as open-minded as they think they are & it hurts even more to know that your family doesn't support you the way they should.

I'M GAY ,AND I LIKE WHAT I AM, BUT THEIR IS ONE PERSON THAT DON'T ,AND THAT IS MY MOTHER.I FEEL SHE HATE ME ,AND SHE HATES THE FACT I'M GAY.

Hi I saw your show with the three sisters the other day and I do think that is how they are thinking and that is fine. but i also think that they should never go around telling people that they are going to go to hell becuaues they like someone of the same sex. i belive in god and and every thing and yes it does say that it is wrong but it also says if you belivie in me that you will be forgeive and one person can not change who they like. it is the way you are made. you can not change that one bit. no one should have to change the way they are or how they want to live. i will say this i have not been to church in about 2-3 years but i love god and i still pray to him and talk to him and i have tons of gay friends and hell i have kissed some of my girlfriends before but i am not bi or any thing it is called life get over it you can not change who you are and who another person is but yes some may think that if you like someone of the same sex you will go to hell but i think that everone needs to love every one for who they are and not what they do or what they look like becuse if god can why cant we and all we are doing when we hurt others is hurting our self and others and god.

hi tyara..
I am a 16 year old livin in the Caribbean...Antigua to be exact.. an bein bi sexual and gay in the caribbean community is not easy.. Just walkin down the road holdin my girl friend's hands people approach us an slap us in the face.. When u go the police authorities they just ignore.. It is as hard being a gay girl as a gay ma... They struggle more than we do.. Society looks on us like if being gay is a disease... In an incident recently this gay man was beaten severely an pistol whipped by police officails an then thrown out the hospital... For what? Just cause u are gay... It husrts me to know that no1 can truly know who or what i am cause i feel real lonely.. the only person i feel for is my girl friend an we cant be together like how we want to cause is at stake... I watch ur show every night at 11 cause thats when i get a chance to watch it an this show was truly enlightennin to me..

i am truly a dera fan...
CONFUSED AND ALONE

Hey Tyra
I already posted this some where else because I didnt see this I'm sorry. But I was holping maybe you could do a segment on young gay teens like myself. In todays society many gay men are coming out in highschool I'm only 16 but I can out when I was 14 and honestly it was the best thing that I could have done it made my life easier in some ways but harder in others. I wont go on but I was holping maybe you could do part of a show on that. Thankyou so much I truely look up to you.
-Joshua LeBlanc

Well...I am a 17 year old bisexual female. Some people says that I am confused, but I do not seem to think so. People say that I'm going to hell, I don' think I'm going there either. I believe in God, and I believe he is forgiving. I ask for forgiveness everyday. When I was younger I used to tell myself that I was not gay or Bi or any of that, but now that I am a teenager I accept what God has made me to be. People tend to judge me a lot, but what they fail to realize is only God can judge me. People tell me that I am sinning and I say so are y'all...if you are having sex before marriage, you are sinning, if you lie, you are sinning, and the list goes on. That's when they tell me that being gay is a bigger sin then all the other which is FALSE...all sins are equal.

Hey Tyra, and Other Fans!
I am living in Canada, the Tyra show aired recently but I do have to say I am a big fan of the show, while I am at home doing my house work I make sure I leave the folding of the laundry and the living room for around 2ish so I can make sure I am in there and watching the show!
I am 19 years old, I am a gay male. I have been out for just over 3years now, I think everyones opinions should be respect dispite the differences. When religion is coming in to play it's more or less preaching won't change us of who we are, We're this way cause when we were born GOD himself decided that 1 out of 10 children that will be born will be Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or Transgendered.
I love myself for being who I am I even got a pride tattoo on my lower back which I just love to show people. I do count myself to be fairly flamboyant.... well I guess I have proven that (male watching the tyra show) lol but that don't matter. The thing that matters to me is that no ones coming out is easy, Honestly I have never heard a story where someones parents jumped up in down being thrilled about it. It's ok though their just in shock don't mean they don't love you any less. When I came out when I was 16(3 years ago) it was hard I was dating a girl I told her and broke it off she became very homophobic so you can imagine how fast it got around this small town I live in. For the further most my intentions wasnt to hurt her it was to help me, I've known I was gay since I was 12 I just thought It was possible to change and I wouldnt have to come out. But When they did happen my family was devestated my mothers exact words were "It's easier to accept other people for being gay but I wont accept mine" after she said that I went 'Ouch' I remember crying and crying and when I told my father you could tell his opinion of me was changing just by looking at him, we was let down and disappointed, but I wasnt going to let it get me down, I started researching it and becoming a part of the public eye, and now I am pretty sure everyone knows about me. but it dont matter! I may be young I am with my partner whom I love dearly and hope we'll grow old together!

hey tyra,
i am 14 years old and i am so confused i am gay and i know my family would not approve.
like just the other day i asked my mom what she would do if one of her kids were gay and she said she would disown them.if only she knew how sad and mad that made me. i know she would never understand and because of that i am sayd all the time i have had thoughts of killing myself so many time and i have tried it once. my friend took me to the hospital. and keeping this inside me is killing me literally.

the confused teen
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OK I AM CHRISTIAN AND I DONT BELEIVE THAT HOMOSEXUALITY IS RIGHT/ TRANS GENDER. I SAW YOUR EPISOD AND YOU HAD THE PHELPS FAMILY ON. AND SOME OF THE COMMENTS THEY WERE MAKING I AGREE WITH AND SOME I STRONGLY DISAGREE WITH. IT IS TRUE GOD HATES HOMOSEXUALITY. GOD DOESNT HATE THE PERSON HE HATES THE SIN. AND IT SAYS IT CLEARLY IN THE BIBLE. NOW AS A CHRISTIAN WE ARE CALLED TO GO OUT TO ALL THE NATION AND PREACH THE GOSPEL. NOW THE LORD DOES NOT DESIRE ANY ONE TO PARISH (MEANING GO TO HELL), BUT IF YOU CHOOSE TO REJECT GOD AND HIS COMMANDMENTS THAT IS WHERE YOU GO. BUT ULTIMATLY IT IS YOUR CHOICE, HE HAS GIVEN YOU THE OPPRITUNNITY TO ACCEPT HIM BUT IT IS YOUR CHOICE TO RECIEVE HIM. NOW AS A CHRISTIAN WE CALLED TO LOVE EVERYONE AND THAT IS ONE THING THE PHELPS FAMILY WAS MISSING WAS THE LOVE, I THINK, BUT I CANT JUDGE THE HEART MAYBE THEY WERE DOING IT WITH LOVE, BUT IT DIDNT SEEM THAT WAY. AS FOR TRANSGENDER SAYING " I THINK I AM IN A WRONG BODY" IS LIKE SAYING I THINK GOD MADE A MISTAKE. GOD IS A PERFECT AND HE DOESNT MAKE ANY MISTAKES. GOD MADE PEOPLE THEIR GENDER FOR A REASON, HE DIDNT MAKE A MISTAKE, I AM SURE GOD KNEW WHAT HE WAS DOING, I MEAN IF GOD COULD CREATE THE WHOLE WORLD I AM SURE HE CANT MAKE MISTAKE ON YOU. GOD DOESNT SAY OOPS I MEANT THIS CHILD TO BE A BOY BUT INSTEAD I MADE THE CHILD A GIRL, OH WELL. GOD IS NOT LIKE THAT. ANYWAY I FELT THAT HAD TO REALLY VOICE THIS NOT TO CONDEM ANYONE BUT SO THEY KNOW THE TRUTH. JESUS LOVES YOU AND SO DO I!!!!!!!!

hi tyra,
i watch ur show everyday and i love it so much....i make sure that i watch it everyday...may day is not complete without watching ur show...i love every episode every topic u've been discussing...
more power to you and to ur show...i'm from the philippines...

Hello tyra,
i am wondering when you will show the replay on Lauren Blitzer's book about being a lesbian? I feel the same way as her. I love makeup. I love shopping. I love mani-peds. And i love to look pretty. Basically if you put me in a room full of all straight people, i bet %80 of the girls will be called first before me accusing them to be the "only one" who is gay in the room. Don't get me wrong i am a very good athlete but, i just look and act so feme. If i were to compare my self to a lesbian character in film/television, i would say i see myself through the lead actress in the movie gray matters (people say i also look like her). Anyways, that girl lauren on your show is HOT. Does she have a contact info? Thanks, love your show.

Dear Tyra,
I don't really write much, but today i have to share. I watched the show a long time ago when it first aired and i havn't been able to get it off my mind. This is the thing, there is so much that people don't understand about the LBGT community. I'm 18 now, I am a lesbian. I had feelings for women since I was younger, and i came out my freshman year of high school.
Coming out was so much liberation for my soul, but that quicky turned into pain when my parents were faced to realize that i am a lesbian. As if being a young,african-american teenager wasn't already a struggle ,now i was tagged as a lesbian.To make matters worse I was what some lesbians would call a dom,A.G., or Stud( the boy-like lesbian), I looked just like a brotha, acted similiar, and dressed like them too.
Through the years I have been through more than what most would go through in a lifetime. This includes of constant arguing, and physical fights, being kicked out, leaving my home,rape, emotional abuse,Psychologist visits, family therapy,sucide attempts,forcing me to wear certian clothes and that was in just one year.
I remember having to get a job eary because my parents stopped buying clothes for me, i remember when they would listen to my phone calls secretly, would let me go anywhere, do much of anything just b/c of me being GAY, I couldn't be a regular tennager. I missed out on so much just b/c I wasn't allowed to basically live my life, relationships were kept secret unvoluntarily(i was never one to hold a secret.No lock on my door,it just swung open, and i would random have my room check mainly for anything dealing with LBGT, phone numbers of girls,pictures,etc.I lived my life with my sexuality behind bars, really with my spirit locked up.
I remember the nights i would stay up crying and hating myself, asking god why and trying to bargain, but you CANNOT change who you are. Before i came to that conclusion I found myself spiraling down a path of destruction drinking, drugs, and extreme promiscuous behavior with MEN 19+(me being under age) to try and force myself to be something i'm not,STRAIGHT. All this before I reached 18.
Now at 18 I am not afraid of anything, all of my struggles have made me the person i am, ive learned from every expierience, and grew into the open-mnded, outspoken, free, and strong-willed woman i am today. My parents have just let me be who i am, just not around them, it remains unspoken. I finally have a life, and with all of the wisdom ive gained, i try to help younger girls who are going through the same thing, and i try to involve myself in as much LBGT activity i can. I had joined the Gay-straight alliance at my school, and was they key leader in setting up the national Day of Silence in my school.I am on my way to college despite everything ive been through I had sill managed to keep my grades in tact, play basketball(both AAU and school), and be a track star.
My most recent change a obstacle i had overcome was my rape which happened around feshman year as well. I had been raped twice, two different people, both i knew, this reason both of these occured was because I'm "too pretty to be gay", and i'm"not supposed to be this way". After that I started dressing like a guy, and acting that way as well because i looked at it as "if you can't beat em join em", I didn't want ay male attention at all, and i made myself to not get any, thats when i started dressing masculine. But until recently no matter how much i thought i dealt with it and got past it, i hadn't b/c i was not comfortable with my body, so I have since finally put complete closure my rapes and now i am ready to go to college as a beautiful sassy educated feminine WOMAN. And im ready to share my story with the world.
Sincerly,
I Love Me

P.S.
LIVE FREE, YOU ONLY GET ONE CHANCE AT LIFE, AT LEAST GO OUT WITH A BANG.

hey tyra,
i am a 17 year old girl who has "been out of the closet" for about a year now... i am in a relationship with one girl who i love so much. my family on the other hand thinks she is a nice person but wont except her for being my girlfriend. she is amazing and the first girl i have ever though of this way but i definatly know i'm gay. i can see myself being with her for a really long time. the only problem is i dont know how to make my family understand all it is is constant arguing over the gay subject. i know it is not her 5 years older that makes them not like her i've dated males that much older and they loved them. i just wish that they would get over it try to understand and make my life easier and love her because she is staying around for a while. they will not even try to understand they just dont get it... i guess you dont get it, unless you live it...

I have to say that I have not watched your show. I read a rant and rave section in the local paper and had to look you up. I am a 40+ lesbian/educator who has been in a relationship for 20 years with the SAME partner. I have been out for 27 years and have seen the world change before me! I feel that having this topic talked about so openly has given our young gay population a way to express themselves. I have read the comments in this piece and hope that these young people will understand that society will except them-- we just need more time. Always remember that coming out is a hard thing to do--- but your family/friends will come around. If your friends do not except you MOVE ON-- they were not your friends to begin with. IF you are gay YOU ARE GAY. Don't hide behind that wall. Be proud but we don't need to wear a sign on our forehead. You will be someone neighbor,boss and friend. You will mow your yard and wash your clothes just like everyone else. Live your life just has anyone else. That's the biggest lesson we need to teach society.
Be well my friends!

Hi Tyra,

I been a fan of you for a while I watch your show server time. Even the one about the gay,lesbian, bisexual show. I just want to let you know that im a 18 year old gay male who not out. The only people who know im gay is the ones i had sex with and this girl that is my friend, she didnt believe me when I told her. Sometime I want to tell everybody but im scared that my family and friends want like me anymore.

Dear Tyra

im an 18 year old male dating an older male who is much older then me , i would like to be on the show and answer questions from the audience , but when my partner i knew he was the one for me and so did he , but i dont see what everyone's problem with people dating the same sex it must be that they feel insecure about about around same sex couples but they dont have to be were just like them , we just see things differently

hey Tyra,
I am 16 going on to 17, I am currently dating a girl, and her name is Emily, we have been together for a year now, and I know now that I'm gay, full on, I have no problem with who I am, I am open about it with my friends and some relatives, But for some reason, I cannot come to terms with myself in telling my parents that I'm gay, my sister and brother know, they have accepted it as another thing that makes me, well me lol but my parents, I try to talk to my mom, but she always wants to like draw away from it, like she doesn't want to hear it, should I just give up or keep pressing for her to know? If you have some advice plz help me, thanks

Hi Tyra,

Regarding "strange" relationships; there appears to be a global misunderstanding for being ignorance about reincarnation (past lives) where we have also being of the opposite sex/race than in current! And this is just scratching the surface!
I know this sound so simplistic that it might answer all questions; well maybe?
Father/Mother God is LOVE and have only one law: LOVE. So let us allow love freely as long it is with only ONE other person and strickly terminate (with no intent to persue later)one BEFORE going to next relationship!

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hey Tyra, im turnin 17 n july n im bi but i haven't admitted it to my mother cuz i dont want her to kill me...lol i can joke about it now but im serious. i've been attracted to girlz for a while now n i've dated plenty of boyz but dey just don't excite me lik gurlz. i've dated 2 girlz n i love dem both. rite now i hav a girlfriend and she's 20 years old. i love her but i will never cum out 2 my mother until im 18 and out of her house... but itz nuthin wrong wit being gay, or bi... i like the feelin alot. i dont think im goin to stop even after i come out to my mother. i've tried sex with my boyfriend n itz very painful so i really dont think im goin to accomplish that step....lmao im not fast and a grown lil girl im just livin my life n doin wateva makes me happy.

hey Tyra, im turnin 17 n july n im bi but i haven't admitted it to my mother cuz i dont want her to kill me...lol i can joke about it now but im serious. i've been attracted to girlz for a while now n i've dated plenty of boyz but dey just don't excite me lik gurlz. i've dated 2 girlz n i love dem both. rite now i hav a girlfriend and she's 20 years old. i love her but i will never cum out 2 my mother until im 18 and out of her house... but itz nuthin wrong wit being gay, or bi... i like the feelin alot. i dont think im goin to stop even after i come out to my mother. i've tried sex with my boyfriend n itz very painful so i really dont think im goin to accomplish that step....lmao im not fast and a grown lil girl im just livin my life n doin wateva makes me happy.

hey Tyra, im turnin 17 n july n im bi but i haven't admitted it to my mother cuz i dont want her to kill me...lol i can joke about it now but im serious. i've been attracted to girlz for a while now n i've dated plenty of boyz but dey just don't excite me lik gurlz. i've dated 2 girlz n i love dem both. rite now i hav a girlfriend and she's 20 years old. i love her but i will never cum out 2 my mother until im 18 and out of her house... but itz nuthin wrong wit being gay, or bi... i like the feelin alot. i dont think im goin to stop even after i come out to my mother. i've tried sex with my boyfriend n itz very painful so i really dont think im goin to accomplish that step....lmao im not fast and a grown lil girl im just livin my life n doin wateva makes me happy.

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Hey Tyra,
after coming out to my parents I was relaved but my mom already knew I was gay when I was a freshmen in high school but it doesn't stop me from being myself at all I am out proud and I love it you just gotta live life the way its ment to be even though I am still single and gay

I saw parts of the show and I understand why the lesbian women were upset...cuz being gay is the hardest lifestyle there is becuz its like you against the world I may only be 16 but becuz I'm gay I've been shunned like crazy and I just told my family a few days ago. Its a hard life and its nothin to play around with. Thanks Tyra for taping this

I just want to say that being gay isent wrong and it bothers me to see that people still think that way.
The bible is avery old book basied on very old ways.
If any of you people who hate gays have even read it cover to cover you would also see that back when the bible was written they thought it was okay to stone your children to death if they were "acting up".
these days your not even aloud to spank your children without thinking" oh am I beating them by doing this". This whole thing is so peddy and stupid.
People are who they are, if there even is a god(s) that created us then they made some of us gay.. thats just how it is.
I ast the way my heart and brain tell me to.
How is that wrong, its not my fault I dont get turned on when I look at men,
Hating people because they are gay is wrong.
thats just like hating a black person because their black.
No race is better then another race.. no sexuality is better then the other ones.
You all need to learn how to accept people the way they are stop hating on them just because some old book tells you its wrong.
thats a stupid way to live.
no one whould have to deal with hate just because their different then the norm.
its awful the way people threat one an other these days.
Because of people like that I have to live in fear that my parents are going to find out im gay and disown me.
Its not a fun way to live and its not fair at all.
I can't help but be me, and no one should care who I sleep with.
Its unfair and just plain disgusting.
I feel deep hatred for anyone who rasies their children to hate others for something they cant change.
thats a crime.
our world has enough hate in it. it needs to end.
tyra i love your show.. you always speak your mind and I have great respect for that.

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You know, I'm not completely gay. I'm bisexual, thirteen, and NOT comfused.

Being gay, bi, or heterosexual is not really a bag thing. There's no reason to be homopobic, or hate straight people.

It's all about love. I really don't know the exact, true definition of love, but I understand it completely. I've been through more that the average teenager, and this subject means a lot to me. Getting rejected and teased everyday because you're attracted to the same sex, or both sexes, hurts a lot.

It's not ALL about sex. Being lesbian, isn't all about sexual things. Two girls CAN have just a mental relationship, they don't need a strong physical one. There's drama, emotional problems, blah blah. But that could happen in straight relationships too! Idk. Maybe I'm just dumb.

I just want to say that i feel being gay is wrong. I live by what the bible said and God created man for woman and woman for man. Its obvious it was meant to be that way because the way our bodies were designed. Its your right to believe in God and the bible. But if you do and you support Gay people you need to study the bible more and realize its a sin and wrong. Not that we should hate gays or lesbians at all we should help them realize what god made them for.

OMG!! I just read a comment that said that if you even kiss a girl just playin around then that means youre a lesbian.. get a freakin grip!! If you think that.. then im sorry but youre ignorant.

OMG!! I just read a comment that said that if you even kiss a girl just playin around then that means youre a lesbian.. get a freakin grip!! If you think that.. then im sorry but youre ignorant.

SOME PEOPLE ARE GAY!! Gosh people get over it. I am strait but I do believe in gay rights. People need to stop making such a big deal out of gays and lesbians.. I mean stay out of it. You have no idea what they go through. My BEST FRIEND is a lesbian and even her own mom makes fun of her.. she doesnt need anyone else making it worse. I understand that if youre christain, you think its wrong.. but if we wanted your opinion we would ask you. Thanks.

SOME PEOPLE ARE GAY!! Gosh people get over it. I am strait but I do believe in gay rights. People need to stop making such a big deal out of gays and lesbians.. I mean stay out of it. You have no idea what they go through. My BEST FRIEND is a lesbian and even her own mom makes fun of her.. she doesnt need anyone else making it worse. I understand that if youre christain, you think its wrong.. but if we wanted your opinion we would ask you. Thanks.

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Hey Tyra my name is Kourtney and i am an 18 year female. I am also attracted to other females. This is an hard issue to deal with because my family and close friends dont like my life style but i love it. This is hard for me because my family is very important to me. For a long time i was undercover about being lesbian because i didnt know how my family and friends would look at me. I am currently in a relationship and i love her to death but sometimes i wish i would have kept everything a sercet because ive lost my family and my friends.

Hey Tyra,

I am a gay man and I have been through all the struggles that comes along with being gay. I might not be a licensed expert but I do think that glbt individuals should be considered the experts on this topic. It saddens me in today's world that everyone under the sun who is not gay thinks they know all about what it takes to be gay or what makes a person gay. I think there are contributing factors to becoming gay but I really think it is something that you are born with. There have been a lot of shows and different topics floating around about those who are gay and I'm seeing a lot of stories pinpointing younger individuals struggling with their sexual identity. I grew up in a very Christian household. I went to church every Sunday and learned about the rights and wrongs in life. However, looking back I don't remember hearing all that much about homosexuality in the church. It's not until recent years where the gay culture became a broader scope that the church got really really involved. I'm talking about churches I have been in attendance. I don't know about other churches back in the 80's and early 90's and now. But my point is that I never knew about homosexuality and two men or two women being together and all that when I was younger. I grew up with everyone around me that were in relationships being a man and a woman. Never knew anyone else gay or anything like that. But I can remember as far back as second grade where I felt I was a girl trapped inside of a girl's body for some reason. I don't see how someone could say, "Oh, you're not born gay," when me, a gay man, know that I had those feelings at a young age and without any provoking. Those feelings had to come from somewhere. No one can tell me, "Oh, it had to be something that was done to him." Some people say that a tragic event happened to them at younger ages that caused them to become gay and I think it's just a part of coming forth about a struggle in their sexual identity. I know I had it bad way back then. I was the outdoor, scraped my knees, played with GI Joes boy. But I also liked to be cute, play with toys that girls are supposed to play with, and even hung out with girls more than I did with guys. That's chapter one.

I don't like that people throw religion into the conversation about homosexuality all the time. People are quick to jump to the bible and other sources to say that being gay is wrong and that it is a sin. I call myself a Christian but I am more of a Spiritual person than anything. I know there is a higher being and I know there are certain ways to govern your life. But can you hold the same Bible and religion argument about homosexuality in say like Africa? How about Indonesia? How about India? There are so many different religions and cultures in the world and who is to say that one is right or better than another one? The Bible is a good source for me when looking for guidance in life but I am well aware that the Bible was translated from a language many people did not understand back then, that it was written by many different people, and that it contains what people call actual words of Christ. But who in this day and time actually sat down with anyone from back then? There are so many different stories and situations in the Bible and if you study it closely some things will start to contradict other things. When looking at the Bible I don't see anything about homosexuality being wrong. But a friend of minde pointed out to me a passage where it said two men being together or two women being together is wrong when there are two brothers and two sisters. So in other words it was saying incest was wrong. But is it wrong just because the Bible said so or because incest offspring have a higher chance of being born less than expected. To end this, since people say that the Bible says homosexuality is wrong and that you're going to hell if you are, what about those individuals in other cultures and religions who don't have that notion that it is wrong. Is it fair for them to be pinpointed as going to hell? That's chapter two.

Being gay is definitely not an easy task. If I could be straight why could anyone think I wouldn't take that opportunity. I don't like having to go out and defend myself against people all the time. I don't like being looked at like I am not professional and not determined just because I'm gay. I don't like being looked at like I'm weak. I don't like people telling me I'm going to hell for being gay. Just because I have relationships with men I'm going to hell. Let's just leave out that I know the Lord, that I'm a good son, a good grandson, brother, nephew, cousin, uncle, and friend. Let's forget I try to help out in my community as much as possible. Or that I went to school to educate myself. Or that I smile to people when I walk past them on the sidewalk. Let's just leave out that I'm a good person because I date men. I think that's just crazy. But dating men. That brings me to chapter four. Why in the world is it so hard to find a good gay man that's worth the time of a relationship? I think that's the number one reason for why I should be the poster child of why it is not right to say I chose to be gay. Because dealing with gay men is the biggest headache in the world. Don't get me wrong. There are some good gay guys out there but I have not found any in my dating experience. If I could find one nice, kind, humorous, attractive, motivated, and comforting gay guy that gave me what I have always wanted in a relationship I would be so happy. I have definitely not found him yet. Do you think you could help me with that Tyra? Let me give you a little bit more of what I'm looking for. I'm more of the cutesie gay guy. I like cute, trendy clothes. I love to hang out with my friends. I love watching reality tv shows like The Hills. I tear up the Tyra Banks show and America's Next Top Model. I like all that so I do not want to date a gay guy who likes all that. I want a guy who still likes sports, who is tall, sexy, built would be a plus but not too built, has a good head on their shoulders, knows what they want out of life. They have to be fun, adventurous, loves to travel, and able to support my ventures just like I will their's. Oooooooooo... Tyra. My friends think I'm crazy but another important criteria is this. I love when a man can wear shorts, slightly past the knees but not too much, and some nice tennis shoes, preferrably high tops, and the calf and ankles look real sexy. Nice and defined. I like that. Mmmmm. Maybe that's my problem. I have high hopes and criteria. But I like what I like. Ok. I think I am done venting about the gay culture for a bit. I will have to come back and go off about the whole gay marriage debate later. I pay taxes in this darn country and I should receive the same rights as everyone else gosh darnit. Don't try to make me a second class citizen. I think the gay community should have their own civil rights movement. What do you think Tyra?

Travis

Shayna:

I'm a lesbian. I knew it before I was even old enough to know what a lesbian was. I was just more attracted to girls than I was to boys. I was born this way. Its not a disease, like many people think. Its as natural as the wind. Its not any different than you loving a boy.

Tyra,
I watched your show when the Phelps family was on, and i was greatly disturbed with their hate for "gay" people.
No, I dont believe being gay is right. or that that your born gay. I believe its a sin. But i also believe That God calls us to love the sinner and be of as much help to them as possible. "love your neighbor as yourself" The bible doestn say "Love your neighbour if they arent a sinner" I just wanted to make it clear that God doesnt hate gay people and that he calls us to love them even if we dont agree with there lifestyle.
Thanks

"urrgh!!! ppl u arent gay! please dont get me wrong im not hating on u or anything. but think about it...dont u have a emptiness in your life like maybe if i just do this one thing then ill have true joy. that emptiness is Jesus. please dont just pass over this. listen, and try not fill that emptiness with sin fill it up with the true God. he loves you and but hates your sin. I hope you understand what im trying to get cross. God Bless!

Posted by: Shayna | April 26, 2007 08:36 PM"

I grew up in a Christian family. I prayed and basically spent every day at church asking God to help my stepfather overcome alcoholism. I can honestly say I was innocent. I loved Jesus. But after praying and hard work didnt help my step father at all, I decided that the "emptiness" as you call it was not my need for Jesus in my heart, it was something else. Jesus never helped me or my family. What I needed was another person to love. I always thought I'd love a man. I grew up in small town Ohio where a man and a women was the norm. But I moved to Florida and I found the love of my life and my soulmate is definitely a girl. I dont believe in religion. Actually, I think Christianity is a hoax to keep weak people in order. Only weak people need someone to tell them what to do, whats right and whats wrong.

Tyra i hope after you stopped interviewing the the Phelps family they were kicked out of your studio. I cannont believe that that "christian" mom said that the people in 9-11 were preverted and deserved what they got. That was horrifing to watch. Being a christian is about walking the walk not talking the talk and helping others...and yes that does mean homosexuals. People like the Phelps family give christians a bad name. I honestly don't know how people can get away with saying something like that. I'm still in shock.

I am completly horrified by the Phelps family. To begin with, as a christian, I was taught that we are not to judge. The only person who is supposed to judge is God himself. Secong of all there is nothing wrong with being gay, God is the one who made us and i dont believe he makes mistakes. And lastly who the hell in their right mind would ever say the people in 9-11 deserved to die. Each of them where innocent. I am ashamed and embarressed for them and may God have mercy on them.

Tyra,
Girl I just watched your show with the "FagiHater" Phelphs family.. LoL.. I am so outraged from what the mother said about 9-11.. That was so uncalled for.. I wanted to just smack her.. Honestly, I don't see how you didn't.. People are just not attracted to the opposite sex.. I myself am an 18 year old Bisexual female.. We can not help who we love.. God made us the way we are for a reason.. Who is she to judge.. God loves everyone gay or not..
Tiffany Cooney

hi tyra i just want to say dat being a homosexual is not bad because some guys are beig born into it . due it sounds crazy but dats it n i think guys shud b allowed tu xp0ress dem selves because it a free world.they are still normal people and they all got feelins .dey shudn't b cast away but shud be luved.

I watched your show with my aunt the other day, and this was the show that I saw. What the girls om your show were saying was not right, who are they to Judge? That is why there are so many people in this world today who do not believe in Jesus, because of "Christians" like this. God loves all of His children, all we have to do is call upon the name od the Lord and we shall be saved( Romans 10:13). If a person repents of His sins then he is forgiven, and life goes on. All sin is judged in God eyes the same, the only sin that can not be unforgiven is blasphemy. I just want those girls to know what fools they made of themselves. Tyra, you are very beautiful and I hope God continues to bless you. Oh and if there is any way you can, Id like to get in contact woth these girls and talk with them to and get these things straightened out. Gay people are people too!! And it just hurts me to know that as a Christian, my brothers and sisters in God are pointing fingers when we are not worthy enough to do so. Well take care Tyra.

Robert

I watched your show with my aunt the other day, and this was the show that I saw. What the girls om your show were saying was not right, who are they to Judge? That is why there are so many people in this world today who do not believe in Jesus, because of "Christians" like this. God loves all of His children, all we have to do is call upon the name od the Lord and we shall be saved( Romans 10:13). If a person repents of His sins then he is forgiven, and life goes on. All sin is judged in God eyes the same, the only sin that can not be unforgiven is blasphemy. I just want those girls to know what fools they made of themselves. Tyra, you are very beautiful and I hope God continues to bless you. Oh and if there is any way you can, Id like to get in contact woth these girls and talk with them to and get these things straightened out. Gay people are people too!! And it just hurts me to know that as a Christian, my brothers and sisters in God are pointing fingers when we are not worthy enough to do so. Well take care Tyra.

Robert

I watched your show with my aunt the other day, and this was the show that I saw. What the girls om your show were saying was not right, whoare they to Judge? THat is why there are so many people in this world today who do not believe in Jesus, because of "Christians" like this. God loves all of His children, all we have to do is call upon the name od the Lord and we shall be saved( Romans 10:13). If a person repents of His sins then he is forgiven, and life goes on. All sin is judged in God eyes the same, the only sin that can not be unforgiven is blasphemy. I just want those girls to know what fools they made of themselves. Tyra, you are very beautiful and I hope God continues to bless you. Oh and if there is any way you can, Id like to get in contact woth these girls and talk with them to and get these things straightened out. Gay people are people too!! And it just hurts me to know that as a Christian, my brothers and sisters in God are pointing fingers when we are not worthy enough to do so. Well take care Tyra.

Robert

I can not believe the posts I'm reading about homosexuality as a sin. As a straight female, the closed mindedness of this is really disappointing. I didn't grow up in a religious household, and I may just have to thank my mom for letting me think on my own. But, if your going to quote from the bible what about "For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord." a sin is a sin, a person who says "god damnit" is just as guilty as one who murders. What about "Judge not lest ye be judged." or even "Let He Who is Without Sin Cast the First Stone"

oo i almost forgot to say that some gay people can still repent and get saved and go to heaven...and God thinks differently then us..so He sees homosexuality as the same sin as lying. sin is sin, but we all need to repent for it. In John 3:16 it says For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life. What thats saying is that God loved us so much even if we sinned and did wrong he loved us so much that he gave his only Son to die on the cross for us so we could go to heaven for eternity. The next verse after states, For God sent not his Son into to condemn the world but that the world through Him might be saved. SEE!!! God doesnt want us to go to hell, but he wants us to be with Him in heaven. So u see Jesus Christ loves you. but u need to get ask Jesus into ur heart and repent and thank God for dying on the cross for you. tyra i hope u and others understand wat i am saying. I also think the girls on the show could have stated what they meant in a more compassionate way. Cause they can be a stumbling block for others. i am actually sorry to be grouped with that family on the show. but i also think they had some really good points.
-Shayna

urrgh!!! ppl u arent gay! please dont get me wrong im not hating on u or anything. but think about it...dont u have a emptiness in your life like maybe if i just do this one thing then ill have true joy. that emptiness is Jesus. please dont just pass over this. listen, and try not fill that emptiness with sin fill it up with the true God. he loves you and but hates your sin. I hope you understand what im trying to get cross. God Bless!

Hey Tyra,

Im 17 years old and Im in a good relationship with my girlfriend Alejandra.We've been together for about a year and 9 months...but one big problem with this is that her parents still dont accept her being with a girl.My parents are ok with the way i am because we come from different types of families.My girlfriend was told to stay away from me as the tried to ground her for everything.She wasnt allowed to talk to me,not even on the phone,and she wasnt allowed to see me.She eventually just left with me and is living with me and my family.We are in love and wish people can just accept us and let us be together.

I have struggled my who life being ashamed of who I really am. I saw your show today and I can say with pride I am Bisexual So What.

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Ok so it only posted the i love you katie part and io had like a lot more but it didnt show it. Im 17 and im a lesbian and PROUD of it! Last year when Katie came out to her mom her mom told her we arent aloud to be anywhere near eachother because i 'turned' her gay. We go to the same school and thats the only time we can really see eachother and its really hard to have a relationship that way. i know that she loves me and that i love her and thats all that matters.

I LOVE YOU KATIE!!!

Hey Tyra!

I am 16 years old and I believe that I am a lesbian. When I was 13, I met my best friend Michelle my freshman year of high school. About a year after being friends, she came out to me that she was a lesbian. I was ok with it, and just told her to be herself. A few months later she had told me she was in love with me. I had been feeling a little attraction towards her and decided to give it a try. I love her so much, to this day! We have had many struggles and out continuing to have them. I came out to my mom last October and she didnt take me seriously. She thought I was 'gay' because Michelle was. Before Michelle, I had, had a little attraction to women. Recently, I have been trying to be 'straight' and my emotions are going crazy. Be who you are and don't worry about it. All of these people who say 'you're going to hell', etc. are just ignorant. I have been Catholic all of my life and I have strong faith in Jesus and God. They will be the ones to judge me in the end. I am going to try to live my life to the fullest, appreciate every moment, and be myself.

My mother is a lesbian but she hates bisexual women and frequently makes comments about how much she hates them which bothers me a great deal. I feel somewhat pressured to not associate myself with bisexual people because of my mother. But I have friends who are bi and I feel as if she wouldn't except them. I myself identify as a lesbian and i'm 17. I just feel like my mom shouldn't have hatred within the gay community because there are already enough straight people out there who do. But she will never listen to anything positive anyone has to say about bisexuals.

I mean to be honest, being gay isnt easy, easy isnt even the word. I had this firend who i began to have feelings for and she and i were very close.And my mother had no problem with us being around each other. But when i came out to her everything changed. The best friend tht i had then became like a stranger on the streets. Over night she just started looking at me wrong like i was a disgrace. I dont know what to do. Is being my self? worth losing my mother and my best friend? Help!!! and thanks TYRA!!!

Hey,

I'm a 17 year old lesbian, and i've figured that out basically when i was old enough to know what being attracted to other people meant. I'm so sick of people saying it's a choice, because it's not what so ever. Straight people are just automatically interested in guys or girls, they don't choose it, just like WE don't choose to just automatically be attracted to girls (or guys if your a guy). It's a choice to persue being gay and coming out. It can be scary so alot of people live with it secretly and i feel horrible they have to live that like. The reason there weren't so many gay people decades ago, which i read in someone else comment was because it was frowned upon. But come on people... grow up, it's 2007, be open minded and come live in the real world. Lesbians and gays aren't going to hell and being homosexual is not sin at all! For today's show..also being that i live in new york so i know people who lost their husbands, wives, brothers/sisters, friends in 9/11.. those people definitely did not deserve to die, they were amazing people, maybe the mother and her daughters should of been in there instead.

I'm tired of about people thinking homosexuality is a choice, and that it can be fixed. I'm tired of having to listen to people complain that homosexuals are put on a pedastool and are everywhere. It is not a choice, it is something that you are born with. I was born a lesbian, and i knew taht i was a lesbian when i was in second grade. The reason why statistics say there are more homosexuals than before is because people are finally comfortable with coming out of the closet and telling the world that they are who they are and can admit it to the world. The issue with the military not allowing gays in the military is a stupid policy. The "Don't ask, Don't Tell" policy is a mockery of the countries laws giving citizens freedom of speech, religion and all that. Especially now, when there is such a troop shortage because the president wants more soldiers out in Iraq to fight, and the whole war situation. I find it idiotic for Bush to uphold the policy and make sure that it is put into place when there is such a large troop shortage. In 2005 10,000 troops were discharged on grounds of homosexuality, and most of the soldiers were not even homosexual. The policy is also giving women in the military more reason to fear reporting sexual harrassment. I had to do a research paper on the situation, which is why i know so much. But either way, all this hate against Homosexuals is stupid, why set your mind in such a place where nothing else matters except making sure no one is gay, there is more to life than that.

coming from a religious background, I some what agree with what the family said against gay people. However, they were being very hateful. Even though God is against homosexuality, he still wants us to love them and treat them as our fellow man. I would never committ a hate crime against gay people. What the mother and daughters said was totally over the edge. I love all people, they just have to learn the laws of God and obey him.

I am tired of people empowering gays. Then, have the nerve to compare it to minority rights, women rights, etc. We are born into a race and sex. You CHOOSE to be gay. Just a few decades ago there was not nearly as many gays, but because of soo many people empowering it, the numbers have escalated. I'm sorry bur homosexuality is a sin just like any other. I am a sinner also, the difference is that I recognize what I'm doing is not right, pray about, and work towards getting it out of my system. Gays feel like what they are doing is right and others should accept it. I don't ask anyone to accept my sin and they should either. They need to have these spirits cast out. Just because it is more exposed doesn't make it right now. What's next? Will we accept brothers marrying sisters or mothers to their sons? The same standard (the BIBLE) that says those things are wrong as say that GAY IS WRONG and the punishment is DEATH. Even moreso, GOD calls is an abomination. For every other sin God sent someone to that area and told them to change, but when there was homosexuality, he gave them no warning just destroyed it all leaving no one.

hello, i was watching your show today [ thursday april 19th ] and i am 20 yrs old and i live my life very free and i am a lesbian, and when the Phelp's came on the show, i must say they have some STRONG oppions and i Don't agree with ANYTHING they say, saying all gay people will burn in hell..there words did hurt a little bit but i respect the fact that they have a belief, i don't belive in god, i belive in carma, but for a family to sit there and poke fun a someones life style, that just down right rude, gay people don't sit around adn make fun of stright people, so they should not do that to the gay people.. its fine not to accept what we do. but doesn't mean you don't have to not be our friends so all i have to say to them is . "what goes around come around"

Hi trya,

I would like to say that i think there is aboustly nothing wrong with being gay. I have friends who are and they funny and fun to be around, they are just normal humans. We are supposed to be a country of freedom. Who cares if your stright,gay or whatever.So all i have to say is everyone has different opinions on what the world should be like but gays are not hurting anyone. If they dont like it than to bad for them.

Their just normal people like anyone else. Even if your gay doesnt mean you will not go to heaven. God loves all this children no matter what path they may take.

hi tyra,
let me first say, that myself and my son love you, I am a mother and my is now 20 years old,I had never thought of having a gay son, actually, i was totally against this behavior, because this is what i was taught growing up, tyra, i almost lost my son, because i couldn't accept the fact of him being gay, it was always about me, i was selfish, not thinking of how hard this must be for him, to even tell me this, and then all the pieces started to make since. See tyra when he was about 15 years, i knew already, but denied it. I love my son dearly, he still needs help, because he still have trouble with people we know, he pretends to be someone he is not. I want him to be free, free to be the person God made him to be, his name is Keith, all I can do is pray that he is self assurred through God's grace. Tyra please keep us in your thoughts. He really needs a break, sometimes he saids he feels locked up, but i tell him, the world can only lock him up in his mind, if he let them, I want him to love himself totally, and it won't matter what the world thinks.

I can't believe the stuff that came out of the Phelps' mouths. Being a homosexual is something you are born with. God loves us no matter what our sexual prefrence is. Do you really think he hates homosexuals more than the man who shot all the people at Virginia Tech?

Tyra,

First off I love you and your show!!! I'm sadden to say I didn't get to see this show in fact I have not watched t.v. in like two months. Anyway back to the point I am 20 years old and I'm bi. I just learned for myself what and who I am. I like some have not told my parents, yet! Some of my family and all of my freinds know. I'm not scared to tell my Dad but I'm terrified to tell my mom. I mean she had a gay friend when I was younger but for me to be bi/gay that is out! I don't know what to do. I'm very comfy with myself but I can't take her judging me. Please if anyone could help I would like that alot. Tyra keep up the good work! love you!

hello Tyra
Interesting show![I only got to see about 5 min of it unfortunatley]First of all I am an 18 yr old girl that considers herself "bi". Atleast that's what I think because,I've developed a very sexual attraction for girls the past 3 yrs ...I am CONFUSED though.. I don't know if its my age and wanting to experiment?The truth is that I think girls are gorgeous in and out[most]and they make me fancy being in a lesbian relationship. I've kissed 3 different girls throughout my life and I truly enjoyed the experiece...but then again I've never had sexual relations w/another girl before so I don't know if that makes me bi curious,bi,or what!...Pervert boys in school,and just pervertMEN in general[the majority]REALLY make me want to be with another woman instead...

Tyra, thank you for posting this. I'm 15 and I discovered I was bisexual at 14. I haven't come out to my parents yet, but I think, with reading this and a little bit of time I'll be able to do it.

Thank you, once again. My friend Danielle and I absolutly look up to you. You're a great rolemodel.

-Rachel

hey tyra gurl,
im a 18 year old soon to be 19 in a few days.i am in a relatoinship of 3 years with my partner.we constantly go throught it with other people putting their 2cents in about us being the way we are.Im kink 2 everyone i meet and people are still rude to me wanting me to respond in a negetive way like them but im bigger than that.the world need to mature on a whole nother leavel when it come to gays,bisexuals,lesbians,transegendered,transsexuals,dragqueens,transvestdikes,and all other sexiual orientations and preferences.this is now a life i chose.god made me this way and i cant chang how i feel about my lover (men)in general.i came ou t when i was 15 years old got into fights cause i was gay but i didnt let that get inbetwine me and my partner we hope to get married someday hopefully.its even harder cause he is deaf and people dont understand him like i do.other deaf people yes but most people dont.he is very kind to people who is kind to him.when they are rude to him he goes off lol.im more of....just a nice ass person.i have straight friends lots of them they like being around me ...im just like them just i dont date girls.i want people to kno about the life of a person...gay person tyra is tough,stressfull,fun,and its me this is the way i am people can accept it or not but ima live my life and let noone bring me down cause im like this ...hate it or love it!
from your num1fan
moses

hey I'm a lesbian that hasn't come out to my mom yet, but i don't know if I'm a part-time or what, I think there's only one guy that i react to when he touches me, but he's my best friend, so does that count as an attraction?

Tyra,
I missed the show but I feel the need to comment. I am a gay woman married to a very kind, loving, and gentle man. I was in the process of going through a very bad breakup with my ex girlfriend of 4 years when my husband and I started dating. He was the friend I needed and he offered a shoulder to cry on, in the process he fell in love. I love him unconditionally but I am still in love with my ex girlfriend. I've tried to brek it off with my husband before we got married but he always asked me to give him a chance and I did... My mother was elated when she found out I was engaged to a man, my ex and I planned a commitment ceremony before and my mother wasn't too happy about that... I love my husband but I can't love him like he needs to be loved and as much as he says he's in love with me he can't give me what my heart desires... and that's to be with a woman... I wrote this to say to all women or girls that feel in their hearts that they should come out, be truthful with yourself, don't make the mistakes that I did... Love yourself before anyone else, you are not in this world to win approval from another human being, I've been there done that... My family couldn't and would not accept my lifestyle because they perceived me as the perfect daughter, you know the prototype, cheerleader, honor roll, dance team, athletic teams, etc... my mother felt like she lost her little girl, I feel like she lost her daughter when she pushed me and my lifestyle away... Our relationship is mended now but it's under false pretenses...

i am a parent of a 16 year ols who has told me she is a lesbian. I was watching tyra show and felt the same way the mother of the girl on the show. I feel like it takes time for the girl to figure out what she is and so they should know that it will take their parents time to get use to their lifestyle. she was not brought in the envirnoment of lesbian lifestyle and it was hard for me to hear it when you have so many thoughts of how their life will be. marraige,children etc. I have enrolled my daughter in counseling and we have looked in the bible to read about the way to live your life in a rightous way I believe the bible is a guide in which we should live our lives. In the bible it says we should be fruitful and multiply. The way to do that is to get married and have children and how can two people of the same sex do that. I just thinks that my daughter is confused and that's the word i used when she told me of her lifestyle. She just wants for me to understand her and accept her and I love my daughter very much and i want her to understand me and love my opinion too.

Seriously, I was just screaming at the tv watching this show, its a rerun though but I just had to comment. WHAT!?!?!!?..LOL(laugh out loud)...The lesbians on the show that were offended of the parttime girls that kiss girls need to shut up. I want to know what they have to with the part time girls..If they are being upfront about how they are whats the problem. Its a totally different thing to be lied to pero they are ebing upfront its just fun and they are in hetero relationships. What happens when a lesbian hits on them? what happens when i guy hits on you? That was so ridiculous just shut up and grow up. You know that being a lesbian was a struggle so why be mad at someone else for living out there sexual preference...its not about sex its about emotions well they are upfront so if you choose to get involved with someone like that its on you...OMG that is all that just totally erked me...and Tyra great accomplishments pero damn you talk about yourself so much you always have to put your Iwas doing this or when I was modeling or "this one time at band camp"...lol no but seriously i remember i did this movie one time..like shut up omg you guys saw that..this is me when..like shut uppppp...talk about yourself in your blog ifyoure doing the show to help people and talk about topics that the other shows dont then do that..it gets sooo annoying thanks..that is all

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Hi! Like alot of other ppl, I was unable to watch this particular segment due to my personal schedule, truth be told I don't watch the show religously but this particular commercial ad sparked my interest and stuck in my head for awhile.

As TWISTED as it may sound I don't feel like I can EVER come out because I have been with the same girl for SEVEN years,AND my brother is gay also. Maybe you should do a segment on lesbian/gay siblings?

I'm Aa 15 year old lesbian.It was kind of hard telling my family.My mom had a feeling that I was gay.She just didn't want to believe it.She wasn't happy about the fact that I like girls but she eventually got over it and excepted me for who im and is very supportive of how i'm living my life.Her twin sister is gay also.Everyone say i'm too pretty to be gay.What is that suppose to mean.This the way I want to live my life.I go with girls who dress like boys.My bestfriend is gay, she is a butch, so she dresses like a boy.I love the way i;m living my life.God put me on this earth to be happy and thats whai i'm doing.It use to hurt my feelings when my twin brother call me gay bithches but now I have accepted myself for who i'm!!!So i'm happy for all the girls who came out the closet.I miss the show because I was in school.But i'm glad you did that show.My Auntie still dont know i'm gay but when she find she will get over it. I love you Tyra you is my role model and also I want to be a model just like you.

Tyra,

I really enjoyed the show Monday and watch your show every day and have it recorded on DVR. The only thing that I thought would have improved the show was to have a guy's perspective that is also gay. Not one guy was on the show. I am a Gay filipino in Texas and I did agree with the author stating that it is about being yourself and you should not have to label yourself and that do what makes you feel good. It would have been great to have a guys perspective.
Love Ya Tyra

Jay

Tyra,
I just recently seen your show on same sex in the city. I was so glad to see women that identify the way I do. Women who are not sure and afraid to come out. This show has helped me to realize to be true to myself no matter the consequences. It helped me to be confident with the decsion that I have made and decide to live with good and bad.

TYRA,I HATE I MISSED YOUR SHOW MONDAY, BUT I WAS DOING SOMETHING IN THE KITCHEN AND I HEARD YOUR VIOCE ON THE TV SAYING SOMETHING ABOUT LESBIANS AND I DROPPED EVERYTHING ONLY TO MISS THE ACTUAL SHOW, DUE TO WORK. BUT I GOT RIGHT ON-LINE AND GOT CAUGHT UP WITH WHAT THE SHOW WAS ABOUT AND I AM DEFINITLY A LESBIAN AND IN THE BEGINNING I COULD NOT FIGURE OUT WHAT THIS ATTRACTION FOR OTHER WOMEN WAS ALL ABOUT BUT LIKE I FEEL "TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE" AND I WENT FOR IT AND I HAVE NEVER FELT FREE IN MY ENTIRE LIFE. I AM SO GLAD SOME ONE HAD THE NERVE TO TALK OPENLY ABOUT THE MATTER BECAUSE THIS MATTER IS A "FACT". LOVE YOUR SHOW AND THANKS FOR BRINGING IT AND KEEPING IT REAL!!!!!

Dear Tyra

I watched this episode last night with my girlfriend and it was ironic that I seen this segment at this point in my life. I am a lesbian and I have been out for three years. It was hard to tell my father that I was attracted to girls and even harder to deal with the idea of him not approving. This among many other events led me into a state of depression and I did not know exactly what to do. I am a strong believer in God and Jesus Christ, but I am not big on religion and church. Don’t get me wrong I do have a relationship with God but I don’t belong to any particular religion or church. Now with that said many people would call me a hypocrite, but I am not I am a sinner. I am a sinner who is trying to find her way in life and who asks God everyday to help me make sense of my feelings and what is right. Women are beautiful especially on the inside, but it is hard for me to comprehend why being with another woman is so immoral. Everyday I strive to improve myself, but I don’t see homosexuality as a flaw, that is just one of the many beautiful components that make who I am. I love my family, I love God, and I love myself, I just want to live my life and be happy, but my happiness is defined by what makes me happy and part of that happiness is being with a woman. One phrase that I hear often is “You can do what makes you happy as long as you are not hurting anybody”, now if we really lived by this mind set then many people would not have accomplished the many goals that may have changed the world good or bad. Take for instance Martin Luther King Jr., he was a man who stood for equality and justice, but coming from the mindset of someone who believes in separation and injustice such as the founding fathers of the country, King was viewed by these individuals as a trouble maker instead of a peace maker. So we can not live our lives according to what will please others because at the start of the day and at the end of the day all we have are ourselves.

Hey Tyra I am a 21 black lesbian and the show you had I think will help a lot of people. Me myself my mother dose not have a problem with me being the way I am. Not sayin she happy or anything but she not all crazy like most mothers are. I came out to her when I was 16 yrs old so I guess she had time to get use to it. But off that what I want to talk about is the whole part time lesbian thing I never did understand why some women think it's a game or its ok to be that way. I dont care I am more of a to each is own type person but that is just wrong. I go through so much every day about being with another woman and men think its ok to say or do what they want cuz so many women make it seem like o its just a game its all fore fun or somethin but whatever women that dose do it it's not coo be who you are it you want to do that do it at how...... Thanks

I am the "horrible mom" of Chelsea on the "Am I A Lesbian" episode. I've just read all the comments. Amazing how people think they know you after a 10-minute spot on Tyra. I have never stopped loving or supporting my daughter. The fact that she's gay took some getting used to, as anyone who has a child would understand. Tyra was gracious and beautiful, but it's impossible to tackle this subject and all it's complexities on a 1 hour talk show. Tyra, thanks for the experience. Chelsea and I are OK now. I'm sure there are still deep feelings on both sides, but we're talking and working thru it.

Well, first off I missed this particular show but I did read about it on the website. I am a 29 yr old lesbian. It has taken me a while to be able to say that out loud. Not only am I from a Catholic family, but from an old-fashioned Mexican upbringing too. I didn't choose to be gay, but I did choose to hide it and play straight for fear of dissapointing my family. I have struggled with this inner conflict for years and to be honest it upsets me when "straight" women kiss and grope each other, or us... especially to satisfy a group of guys at a bar! I take offense to it just for the simple fact that they are exploiting themselves by doing something "taboo" that is natural to us. Don't get me wrong, I do understand that some women are struggling with their own sexuality and may experiment to really see if they are gay or straight. I'm just sick of girls/women exploiting an act that is sensual and meaningful to real lesbians, like those idiotic Girls Gone Wild videos. To me personally, it's as insulting as ethnic sterotypes. For any of those younger women and girls that are going through this struggle, keep your head up it gets better once you accept yourself... everyone else will follow.

I JUST SAW THIS SHOW AND WANTED YO COMMENT ON CHELESE AND HER MOM.I'M HAVING THIS PROBLEM I WANT TO WARN HER MOM ABOUT.ALL MY LIFE I'VE BEEN IN THE SERECTIVE ABOUT BEING A LESBIAN,CAUSE I DIDN'T WANT ANYONE TO BE MAD AT ME.NOW I HAVE 4 GREAT CHILDERN,AND I'M SUFFERING FROM DEPRESSION,I DON'T THINK CHELESE'S MOM IS READY FOR THAT KIND OF HEARTBREAK.MY MARRIAGE SUFFERS BECAUSE INSIDE I STILL LOVE WOMEN.

Hi Tyra,I was watching the show about the parttime lesbains.I really needed to be on that show. I am a 25 yr old single mom and i've been a lesbain for 6yrs,I love women.Do that make me a part time lesbian b/c I have children?My mom is so great and my family was very supportive my mom said she already knew b4 I told her.I really felt bad for the young lady that was on your show who mom doesn't except her.I don't know how I would've dealt with coming out and everything else if i didn't have the support of my mom and my family.My sister told me i'm too gay b/c I have a rainbow tattoo on the back of my neck,i have my right eyebrow pierced,i have alot of rainbow stuff(all of these are signs of being gay).I just love me b/c I was so unhappy for so long b/c I was scared to come out.

Hi Tyra,
I am a 18 year old female and I have been questioning my sexuality for almost 3 to 4 years. I am in serious need of advise and support because although my mother is a lesbian but my family is very unaccepting of the issue and I am scared that if I come out of the closet to them they wont talk to me anymore because they are so religious. But I have already had a relationship with a female and I already know what kind of female I like!! So what should I do?

~Tyra~

Unlike many people that have posted on this topic i am a Christian that struggles with homosexuality, despite my temptations i believe that homosexuality is wrong. Like anything else i work everyday to better myself. Many people wonder why i am Christian if i struggle with lesbian tendencies, and some even believe that i have been taught to hate myself. Despite many peoples beliefs i hold strong to Christianity, not growing up in a Christian household has changed my views a little. My mom has supported me no matter what my convictions have been and because of that i believe that i have found truth for myself and made it personal. As a Christian i want to say this: Heterosexual people are no better than homosexual people, just as alcoholics and addict are no worse of people than sober people. The Christian church as portrayed within society is greatly wrong to convict the homosexual population of sin when they too are sinful. I am still very young, having just turned 18, but i have learned a lot in the 9 years i have known i am different. For all the Christian teens that struggle with homosexuality and still call Jesus Lord know that you can overcome this if that is what you want, that you are never alone and that nothing is new to this world. I do hope that this is taken with the utmost sincerity and love, a love for human kind despite sexual-orientation.
Be blessed.
alex

Tyra,
I'm not a lesbian, but have thought about it. I have some friends that are lesbians or bi. I find women attractive sometimes, but i also find men more attractive. I don't know what that means. I believe you can think someone of the same sex is good looking and not want to date her. I think this is great that you are encouraging people to come out and willing to have a show expressing their feelings. I missed the show, but I read about it on your website. Very impressive.

what about gay men? How come you havent done a segment on them yet?

It's crazy to me that this topic is up for discussion right now because I have been battling with myself over this same issue.I am very happy with my own thoughts now and thought maybe I could help someone else in the same position. The only two things in life that are for sure is that there is a beginning and an end.And if in between point a and point b you don't find happiness in yourself all the rest is pointless.The amount of money you make or the number of "friends" you have don't amount to anything if those things don't bring you joy. No two people are alike therefore no two people think alike. With anything you choose to do with your life take a moment to ask yourself if you are doing it to make you happy or somebody else. Because if your living for someone else, you are not living. Smile, be happy, and most importantly accept yourself for who you are and not for who you aren't.

Hello Tyra

First off i like to say im a 49 year old lesbian , I have known I was a lesbian from being a very young child although I didnt take the risk of coming out until i was 21 , i always knew. I seen your show and totally appalled by these so called women who play around just to perform for men, its all fake and giving real lesbians a complex due to the fact that lesbians dont want a man. lesbians dont think about men and sex is never an option with a man, lesbians do not have desires to perform for men the way these so called foolish women are doing, why they are calling themselves lesbians is totally stupid, and disgusting. as you notice in order to do the things that they do they have to be drunk, I never had to be drunk to desire a female or to even kiss them, its something that comes naturally, like being a straight person, homosexuals and straight people know what they want, they dont go around playing with both sexes. that is one reason i dont have relationships with so called bisexual females cause they arent really about the emotional side of it. it really is sickening to see these women make fools of themselves just to perform for men, and they are to stupid to realize how much of a fool they are making of themselves, at least a true lesbian knows what the hell they want and theres no mind games involved. and i wish these so called actors , fakes, would stop calling themselves lesbians when they arent. they need to face the real facts and get with the program. you need a group of real lesbians on your show to really let out their true feelings cause honey your show would be one for controvery that day, and those so called actors or fakers would be put in their place. man if i was there that day, I would of had those chicks in tears cause im sick of what they display and label it lesbianism, lesbians do not sleep with men. just the thought of sleeping with a man is totally discusting. Ive seen pornography with 2 women being intimate and they didnt know what they were doing... they called it lesbians, then in the next scene you see them with men, then men think that lesbians with men, being a lesbian is a lifestyle, its never gonna change, you cant just one day say im a lesbian and the next day say im straight. that person actually knows inside of them what they are, as that woman said in the show, she wouldnt leave her husband nor would she deal with a lesbian so why do what she does, cause they are just looking to get a rise out of men, lesbians dont give a damn about pleasing a man, and i wish these stupid ass chicks would stop doing it, better yet STOP CALLING THEMSELVES LESBIANS cause they arent.

thankyou
Rhonda

im so proud of all of the girls here that actually came out of the closet, i dont even have the guts to tell my best friends im lez and the thought scares me cause i do want them to know, and what they also dont know is im in head over heels love with one of the but they dont know!!!help me please!!

Hey Tyra
First of all I love your show and everything you do for those who don't think they're heard. Well, your show was interesting and I thought so much more about what I thought was a phase. I have had a best friend since 4 years ago. We have been friends through the good and the bad. Well about a year after that, I started having feelings other than friendship. And she did too. We were both really scared since we both had been in opposite sex relationships. I did not know if the feelings were actual love or a fondness that had grown much more than expected. About a year ago she told me that she loved me and I knew I did too. I don't know what I would do without her. Even if our feelings for each other fade, I know I would still count on her for anything. Thank you Tyra for being brave enough to have controversial shows and being a voice for us.

Well I think there's absolutley nothing wrong with being a lesbian because I am one myself

Hey Tyra,
Thank you for doing the show it was great. I think that you should do more shows like that because many people (including myself)don't or should i say didn't know what i was feeling. One day i would be sure that i was a lesbian then the next i would say wait no cause i'm still attracted by guys and i would conside my self bi. Up to this point i know that i most surely be a bi, but the problem is that i had a baby when i was younger and well right now she is going to be 4. I'm currently with the father of my daugther but there have been many things that have been happening that i don't know how to let my love ones and him know what my true feelings are. That's the reason why i would like for you in the future to do more shows like this cause alot of people get oriented and it helps US see that we are not the only ones with that issue. Thanks

Tyra, what your doing is simply amazing, and completely revsersing my expectations of certain talk shows. You bring up really important, divisive issues, but with none of the ranting and raving aking to Jerry Springer, just in a very humane environment, which is what's really important. Sometimes we forget that it's not about the big impressive words like evil, or deviant, or freedom etc, but just about common humanity.

Some of the posts reveal a lot about the world today. It's great that even the people who do find homosexuality unnatural do not hate homosexuals, though how thye'd respond to active homophobia, I don't know and can't say! Nonetheless, thank you: only a personality like yours could encourage people to talk about something like this in a comparatively calm manner.

I guess I have to put my oar in: I'm glad that you decided to expunge the view of the medical authority ie that homosexuality and indeed all sexuality is perfectly natural (including bisexuality - that garbage about bisexuals not 'knowing' which they prefer is a bit ignorant, though understandable. I think that bisexuals do know what they like, and it happens to be both!) To the religious people who think it's wrong, something being natural doesn't make it 'right'. Words like 'wrong' and 'right' are inappropriate inthis sort of discussion, I think. Anyway, It's up to the person how to deal with the feelings. Different people do it differently. Some attend therapy and succeed, others fail. Others live their lives to the best that their conscience will allow. As long as we are all being completely honest with ourselves, all is well.

God bless all of you who find it such a struggle. So long as you are honest and mindful, then I can honestly say it should be ok.