Signs Your Mate is Cheating

Married private investigators, Anthony DeLorenzo & Dawn M. Ricci, used more than 20 years of experience investigating cheaters to write the book, “28 Tell-Tale Signs of a Cheating Spouse.” According to Anthony and Dawn, infidelity does not discriminate. It can affect anyone of any race, color or creed. It does not matter if you are rich or poor, where you live, or your age. Infidelity can exist in your home, and you can be its victim. If it can happen in the White House, it can happen in your house! Some signs that your mate might be cheating include:
1. Working a Lot of Overtime: this enables them to meet their lover after work.
2. Excessive Use of the Internet: a way for men to meet other women in chat rooms.
3. Hiding the Cell Phone Bill: the #1 way to find out who the lover is.
4. Saying, “It’s Your Imagination”: this is what is told to you when you’re too close to the truth.
5. Receiving Hang Up Phone Calls: the paramour calling your house to speak with your mate, or the signal used when she’s trying to get in touch with him.
6. No Longer Interested in Sex: saving their emotion for their lover.
7. No Longer Wearing Wedding Ring: a sign telling everyone “I am single.”
8. New Sexual Techniques: what your spouse learned from their lover.
9. Saying “I Need My Space”: when your spouse moves to the next stage of taking his/ her affair more seriously.
And, for those of you that are curious, this is the breakdown of the seven U.S. Cities with the highest rate of infidelity:
7. Texas: it’s a big state with a lot of money
6. New York: wealthy men go to gyms where female escorts have memberships and scout for clients.
5. Miami: every day is like spring break.
4. Atlanta: a new hub for entertainment industry, type A personalities, Lots of young executives that want their toys.
3. Chicago: this centrally based city is an ideal meeting point between the East and West coasts. There are a lot of business related one-night stands due to flight layovers and conventions.
2. Los Angeles: beautiful women are everywhere.
1. Las Vegas: it’s not called “sin city” for nothing and, what happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas!










Comments
Hi Tyra,
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2years and he has female friends that calls him and he calls them but he will not talk to them in front of me and he has a exgirlfriend that he is still friends with that lives close to us that he talks to on the phone, the first year we was having sex almost everyday but now he change his hours to night shift and we have sex once a week and it like 5 minutes he never touch me I always have to touch him in order to get him started when come in from work it's about 2:30 or 3:30 he sleeps on the sofa and don't come to bed, he say he does that so he won't desturb my sleep and so he will not over sleep for his second job. He never go out of the house when he is off but he is alway's sleeping, we may do something together on a sunday. Is this a sign of a cheating man or is he just tired like he say he is?
Posted by: Pat | November 11, 2008 7:19 AM
Dear Tyra, I believe i have
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was locked over night, and his cell phone was at home,
his phone was vibrating and it was a text saying to call
this number, so i called the
number and this chick was
saying what she wanted to do to him. I would like to try
and work it out, however i am a no nonsence person. I think i should leave him even if we have been together for five years.
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Hi Tyra,
I am 51. Have been drooled over (past), sometimes young guys. Go figure. Happily married to a guy for 7 years who is a full blown cheater. I caught him when we were dating and he talked me off of my suspicions. Well, he goes to escort services, in town and out. He and I are also Christians. Jerram Barrs , a senior pastor @ l'abri, claims 25% of the "pastors in training" are addicted to porn and or struggling with sexual sin. As a Christian, I really try not to judge. I do think the heart of Christ in us responds at times , un-naturally so, with compassion and worry for our mans salvation. Let me tell you the other part of me though feels cheapened. Yes, he has been confronted. I have been lied to each time. He currently thinks he is pulling the wool over on me but truthfully, my eyes are usually open and adding up instinctively two plus two. Unfortunately Tyra, I haven't been wrong yet. I did his laundry the other day and found stains and gobs of long red hair (head) and the other variety. No one in our home comes close to this length of hair or shocking shade. I guess he doesn't mind making his wife who loves him deeply, feel unattractive and second rate. How else can one feel. The bottom line is that I am impossible to stay sexually interested in. He hasn't been able to stop yet. In case you are wondering what type of man my husband is, he is a newly retired CFO for national Co, Hugely respected throughout the business community and doesn't seem to feel he needs to carry his Christian stewardship through to his home and woman. I am most days a shadow of the vivacious, confident, beautiful woman I used to be. This only started after the above described betrayal. He says he loves me all the time. I wonder if he means, like a sister or ugly co-worker who's assisted you forever? I sure miss what he has taken some how from me. He used to make me want him and I would feel so sexual and feminine with him. Not any more. I have sad undertones that are well disguised most days now. God Bless any of you who also feel robbed. I do love my husband but feel ashamed to let him have me sexually now. How can a very beautiful 51 year old compete with a twenty year old? Worse than this, as I continue to age his sexual choices will always be age proof and hardbodied 21. sigh.....
Posted by: Leslie | June 28, 2008 3:24 PM
hi tyra i just have one question for you. everytime im with my boyfriend he has his cellphone turned off. does that mean he is cheating on me. he usually has it on but he no longer does.
Posted by: shy girl | June 20, 2008 5:08 PM
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HELLO THE QUESION I HAVE IS THAT MY WIFE DIANA HAS ALREADY CHEATED ON ME SENSE I HAVE BEEN IN IRAQ AND WENT THROUGH ALL THE MONEY, WE WERE ALREADY HAVING SOME PROBLEMS BEFORE I LEFT AND SHE NOW SAYS IT WAS ALL MY FAULT. SHE CHEATED WITH A OLD BOYFRIEND WHOM HIMSELF IS ALSO MARRIED. I DID NOT FOUND OUT ANYTHING UNTIL I WENT HOME ON LEAVE, THIS IS WHEN SHE TOLD ME AND THAT SHE WAS SORRY AND THAT IT WAS OVER WITH HIM AND SHE WANTS TO WORK THINGS OUT, BUT SHE HAS A FRIEND WHO HAS DONE THE SAME TO HER HUSBAND AND NOW MY WIFE DIANA HAS BECAME VERY CLOSE WITH HER FRIENDS HUSBAND JR, THEY TALK ALL THE TIME ON THE CELL PHONES AND ON THE HOME PHONES AND THEY BOTH GO OUT TO DINNER A GREAT DEAL, WHEN I ASK ABOUT THIS SHE GETS UPSET AND SAYS THEY ARE ONLY FRIENDS AND THAT HE NEEDS SOMEONE TO TALK TO, THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR 8 MONTHS NOW, I HAVE ASKED HER TO PLEASE STOP HANGING OUT WITH HIM SO MUCH AND STOP TALKING TO HIM ALL HOURS OF THE DAY AND NIGHT HE EVEN CALLS HER AT 3 OR 4 IN MORNING, AND DIANA HAS EVEN TOLD ME THAT HE HAS SAID TO HER THAT HE HAS FEEL IN LOVE WITH HER AND THAT SHE IS THE WOMEN FOR HIM, NOW DIANA HAS SAID THAT SHE HAS TOLD HIM NOT TO SAY THAT BECAUSE SHE IS ONLY HIS FRIEND AND NOTHING MORE THAN THIS.BUT WHEN I BRING UP THE FACT THAT THE CELL BILL SHOWED OVER 800 MINUTES OF HER AND HIM TALKING LAST MONTH IN APRIL HER RESPONSE WAS THAT I SHOULD NOT BE CHECKING THE CELL BILL, AND I SAID I PAY THE BILL SO OF COURSE I'LL CHECK THE NUMBERS, HER RESPOSE TO THIS WAS THAT SHE WOULD GET ANOTHER PHONE AND CALL FROM THAT. HOW ARE WE TO WORK ON OUR PROBLEM IF SHE CONTIUES TO ACT LIKE THIS. SHE WENT THROUGH OVER $49,000.00 AND NOTHING TO SHOW FOR IT SENSE I HAVE BEEN IN IRAQ. SO NOW I'M COMING HOME TO WHAT I DO NOT KNOW WITH NO MONEY AND MAYBE NO WHERE TO LIVE. BECOUSE THE HOUSE IS HERS, WHEN WE MARRIED I SOLD MINE. I'M A OFFICER IN THE U.S. ARMY AND I HAVE SEEN A LOT OF THINGS THAT ARE WRONG IN THIS WORLD BUT I HAVE NEVER SEEN ANYTHING LIKE THIS. IT IS HARD TO BELIVE THAT I HAVE PAID FOR HER TO ACT THIS WAY. SHE SAYS SHE WANTS TO WORK THINGS OUT, BUT HOW DOO I WHEN SHE ACTS LIKE THIS. WE ARE PLANNING A 2 WEK TRIP TO MAINE TO SEE HER FATHER WHEN I REUTRN IN JUNE OF 08, AND SHE SAYS IT DEPENDS ON HOW THIS TRIP GOES GOES IF WE MAKE IT OR NOT, I HAVE ASKED HER TO NOT SPEAK WITH JR WHEN WE ARE GONE FROM DUNNELLON FLORIDA TO MAINE, AND SHE SAYS WHILE IF HE CALLS I HAVE TO SPEAK WITH HIM, I THAN SAID IF HE RESPECTS YOU AND KNOWS THAT WE ARE TRYING TO WORK THINGS OUT THAN HE WILL NOT CALL. CAN ANYONE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE IN WHAT I SHOULD DO WITH THIS MATTER. YOU CAN WRITE TO MY ARMY E-MAIL AND I WILL READ IT AND RESPOUND TO IT VERY SOON. THANK YOUAND HERE IS MY ARMY E-MAIL.
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Posted by: DamionKutaeff | March 22, 2008 1:26 PM
hi tyra i wanted to know what going on with my mate.we been together ten years, and have 5 kids three are by him and the others are by sombody eles.i think there somthing going on we dont live together so he come and go when he wants. i talk to him swometime weeks at a time.then he tell me that he didnt think i wanted to be bother with. and he always think im messing around with somebody i tell him no im not and then it turn into a arugament or we fight.he always say i can do want i want, is it because he doing wha6 he wants or what.. i dont know what to think whats going on anymore. tyra please help me.. call when u can..
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my husband and i have been marry for 7 years and we do nothing together he reather spends his time with his guy friends we have sex 2 or 3 times out the year could you please tell me what is my husband trying to tell me
Posted by: debbie | March 16, 2008 10:59 AM
WELL, I'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR 9 YEARS WE HAVE A 1 YEAR OLD SON TOGETHER. WELL I HAD NOTICED MY HUSBAND ACTING VERY UGLY WITH ME I MEAN JUST CUTTING ME DOWN WITH ANY THING I SAY, I'M WRONG JUST ACTING AS IF HE IS JUST FUSTRATED WITH ME. I NOTICED THIS ABOUT 4 WEEKS AGO. AND I WAS QUESTIONING MYSELF SAYING WHAT'S UP WITH HIM. ONE MORNING HE DECIDE TO GO INTO WORK A FEW HOURS LATER HIS CELL PHONE RINGS. THE PHONE WAS CLOSER TO WHERE I WAS SO I PICK IT UP TO GIVE TO HIM NOT EVEN LOOKING AT THE NUMBER BUT, FOR SOME REASON I JUST GLANCED DOWN AT THE PHONE AS I WAS GIVING IT TO HIM AND ON THE LAST RING I NOTICED ON THE CALLER ID IT WAS A FEMALE NAME SO I SAID TO HIM IT'S A FEMALE SO HE LOOKED AT THE PHONE AND HE HURRY AND SAID OH JAY CALLED TIM CALLED FOR ME AND I TOLD HIM NO WHAT ABOUT THIS FEMALE HE SAID NOTHING REMIND YOU SHE WORKS WITH HIM. SO LATER THAT DAY HE CALLED ME FROM WORK I WAS AT THE STORE I HAD FORGOTTEN MY CELL PHONE IN THE CAR SO WHEN I NOTICED I WENT AND GOT IT OUT THE CAR I HAD A MISSED CALL FROM HIM HE SAID WHY AREN'T YOU ANSWERING THE PHONE. I SAID WHAT DID THAT FEMALE WANTED WITH YOU EARIER THIS MORNING HE SAID SHE WAS CALLING BECAUSE SHE WANTED TO KNOW WHERE WAS SOMETHING AT WORK WHEN THERE IS ABOUT 200 OTHER WORKERS THAT WORK OUT THERE THAT COULD HAVE ANSWERED WHAT QUESTION SHE MAY HAVE HAD. AND WHAT HE SAID SHE ASK HIM ABOUT IS SOMETHING THAT HE TOLD ME THAT HAD HAPPENED ABOUT THREE WEEKS AGO YOU SEE HE FORGOT THAT HE AHD TOLD ME THAT ALL READY. BUT MY THING IS WHY COULD'NT HE ANSWER THE PHONE WHEN SHE CALLED WHEN I WAS IN THE PRESENTS HE WAITED UNTIL HE GOT INTO HIS TRUCK ON HIS WAY TO WORK TO CALL HER BACK. LATELY HE WOULD TELL ME HE HAD TO WORK A FEW HOURS LATE TO CATCH UP ON SOME WORK BECAUSE THEY ARE TRANNING HIM FOR A NEW POSTION HE USE TO CALL ME ON HIS WAY TO WORK AND CHAT WITH ME BECAUSE I AM ALWAYS UP WHEN HE LEAVES THAT STOP I WOULD CALL HIM WHEN HE'S ON HIS WAY FROM WORK JUST TO SEE IF HE'S OK. IT'S ALWAYS I CALL YOU BACK I'M ON THE PHONWE WITH THIS GUY FROM WORK I'AM TELLING HIM SOMETHING ABOUT WORK ARE SOME TIMES HE JUST WANT ANSWER ME AT THE TIME AND CALL ME BACK 20-30 MINUTES LATER. HE HAS CARD FROM A JEWRLY STORE HE GOT ME SOMETHING FOR OUR ANNIVERSARY HE PURCHASE IT ON THE JEWRLY CREDIT CARD. HE HAS HIGH LIMIT ON THE CARD SO HE HAS A LOT OF CREDIT LEFT ON IT. I HAVE THE ABILITY TO GO ON LINE AND MOINTER OUR DEBIT ACCOUNT HE ALSO PURHASE SOMETHING ELSE FROM THE JEWWWRLY STOR BUT HE USED HIS DEBIT CARD HE HAS NOTHING AT HOME TO SHOW FOR THAT PURCHASE HE DON'T EVEN KNOW THAT I KNOW THAT. HE DON'T WANT ME TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT THAT CALL HE GETS FURIOUS. STARTS TO SAY I WORK HAED AND THAT'S ALL YOU WANT TO TALK ABOUT I'M STRESSED AT WORK AND NOW I HAVE TO HERE THIS FROM YOU I DON'T KNOW HOW MUCH MORE I CAN TAKE FROM YOU AND ONE POINT HE TOLD ME HIS JOB WAS LAID BACK NOW ALL OF THE SUDDEN HIS STRESSED OUT ON THE JOB. AND HE DON'T NEED ANY LIP FROM ME. HE'S A BIG MAN HE LOVES TO EAT I COOK ANYTHING HE WANTS HE HAS GOTTEN TO THE POINT. ALL OF THE SUDDEN HE'S NOT REALLY EATING AT HOME ANYMORE BUT I STILL COOK I HAVE MY CHILD HERE ALSO HE USED TO TAK E LUNCH EVERY DAY NOW HE DON'T TAKE LUNCH AT ALL. I ASK HIM WHAT DO YOU EAT AT WOEK HE SAYS HE BE TO BUSY TO EAT REMIND YOU HE'S WORKING 12 HOURS A DAY. BUT SAYING THAT TO SAY THIS NOW HE'S NOT SPEEKING TO ME. HE'S MAD AT ME BECAUSE HE SAYS I JUST WANT TO PICK WITH HIM HE CALLS ME JUST TO GET INTO IT WITH ME AND THEN WHEN HE GETS HOME HIS MAD ALL NIGHT. I'M NOT SUPPOSE TO SAY NOTHING BECAUSE I DON'T WORK I SUPPOSE TO BE JUST HAPPY EVERYDAY IF HE ASK HOW WAS MY DAY I'M SUPPOSE TO SAY JUST GREAT EVEN WITH ALL OF THIS GOING ON HE CALLS HIS MOM AND SAY TO HER HIS STRESSED I GUEST I'M STRESSING HIM OUT. (THAT'S JUST A GUILT TRIP)OH HE ALSO TOLD ME THAT IF NOT HAPPY JUST LEAVE. BECAUSE HE WORK TO HARD FOR THIS AND HE CAN'T TAKE THIS.OH AND I ALMOST FORGOT IT'S THE COMPANY PHONE AND SINCE THEY WORK TOGETHER HE HAD TO PROGRAM HER NUMBER IN HIS PHONE.
Posted by: lynn | March 14, 2008 4:55 AM
I been with this guy for 9 years we have a kid together. Our relationship was falling down in 2006. He was driving home and he didn't know that his phone was on and he was talking to this female on the phone. When i approached him he said oh she was just a co-worker. Month down the road i would sneak and look at his cell and her name was in it. Now i will pull up his account and see that when i be trying to call him he says his phone was not charged, but i know differently that he was talking to her. As soon as their conversation ended he called me but i know its a lie. Do you think he is having sex with her she lives by his job. They constantly talk, KNOW I FEEL LIKE I WANT TO MESS AROUND I NEVER MESSED AROUND ON HIM.
Posted by: tanika | March 13, 2008 12:58 PM
I been with this guy for 9 years we have a kid together. Our relationship was falling down in 2006. He was driving home and he didn't know that his phone was on and he was talking to this female on the phone. When i approached him he said oh she was just a co-worker. Month down the road i would sneak and look at his cell and her name was in it. Now i will pull up his account and see that when i be trying to call him he says his phone was not charged, but i know differently that he was talking to her. As soon as their conversation ended he called me but i know its a lie. Do you think he is having sex with her she lives by his job. They constantly talk, KNOW I FEEL LIKE I WANT TO MESS AROUND I NEVER MESSED AROUND ON HIM.
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Posted by: | March 11, 2008 8:14 PM
Me and my boyfriend have been together for alomst ayear and now i'm 7 months pregnant and he's cheated twice. We haven't been intimate in a month and 5 days is he cheating.
Posted by: Quindara | February 17, 2008 4:37 AM
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Posted by: anita | February 7, 2008 10:24 AM
hey tyra :( i just wanted to ask u if it's right to stay with someone whom yes..i have caught chattting with and webcaming with..in extremely innapropraite ways:( it really upsets me because to top it all off i'm supposingly his first!! he's 26!..now i don't even believe that even, but i can't, NOT, believe it either!:( so...what i'm trying to say is ..j and i have been together for 6 months ..i'm a single mom with one little girl..i'm 22 years old...i met him through facebook which i guess isn't the best way to meet someone but we knew ALOT of the same people so i gave him a chance... well everything seemed like it was fine all along , sure we got into little spats but who doesn't right?:P..well i never thought for one second i would catch him doing this sort of thing:( the day after x-mas i was at his house, and he had to go to a hockey game with his cousin..so i stayed at his house till he got back..well i never usually am the type to go looking through peoples personal things but!!, i trusted him up till this point so, i thought, what could i possibly find that would make me upset??:P right!?? WRONG!..i checked his history on his comp while i was checking my e-mail:P..and found out he had been going on adult friend finder!! and was interested in meeting 4 a few different and sadly to say NAUGHTY reasons!!:(..well he had a ton of responses and i know he had responed back aswell, but that isn't even the topping on the cake just yet!!!!:O..he used his messenger to talk to different girls from everywhere..including our own town!!!, i read his saved messege logs and found probaly about 15!! different girls he was conversing and WEBCAMING with:(:( TYRA:( if u could of read some of the things he was telling these girls...ur heart would probaly stop 2:(!!!!!, i fell hard 4 this man and this is how he repays me!!?? why?.. i don't understand why men have the need to be sneaky:(..they find a girl that will do nething to make them :) and they blow it:(!!!if u can in anyway please help me here cuz im stuck...he says he hasn't done nething for a month and swears to it!!...and i want to believe him:( i love him alot and he did tell me he loved me first to begin with!:), he cried for hours when i confronted him!!!:( and apologized numerous times:( he actually told me he doesn't know why he was doing it!! but that he'll never do it again!!:(..what do u think, should i stay and see if he's gonna be true!?? or do i leave:(??..help please, my heart can't handle no more tears:(
Posted by: Tiffany.R. | February 4, 2008 11:41 AM
Hi Tara,
My name is Mia and I have a serious problem. I love my man (I think) but he's hurt me so much. My boyfriend is a very handsome guy and he's cheated on me several times. Now I'm not the one to be insecure If he wasn't so abusive and possesive I would leave because I know I can find me a man in a heartbeat. My problem is that I've become obssessed with the women he cheat on me with. I become there friends,I mean going out the whole nine yards. I've even made out with one. He hates that I become cool with them and I dont care. I dont know what's wrong with me. at first I thought I did it because I wanted to know what he liked about them what they do what made him attracted to her but then I thought I did to throw in there face how much he loved me and everything he do for me and to let them see how he wont let me leave. What's wrong with me?
Posted by: MIA | December 10, 2007 8:31 AM
hi
i just wanted to say i was on this show a little over a year ago. (for cheating). look under recap jan 25 2007. i just have to say i hated at the time it was out i was so embarrassed but it really helped us.i can honestly say i have not cheated on my husband again and we are the happiest we have ever been. I had alot of problems that were not talked about on the show that are not my excuses but contributed to my problem. and its kind of weird i have had so many people talk to me about their cheating or wanting to and i barely know them and they are girls. I tell them dont do it unless they are sure they are going to leave who they are with. The only i wish was different was that Tyra was nicer to me. I really looked up to her and was so excited to meet her and be in L.A. (I'm from MI and our problem had happend 2 years ago at the time) I was really nervous too and for some reason i smile alot when i am. But anyway i do think people can change and if you really want it to work it can, no matter what other people say.
Posted by: melissa | December 6, 2007 10:38 PM