I have been dating this gurl for 11 months now. She likes to go through my stuff like my yahoo messanger messages. But when I ask to see hers she gets really mad and throughs a fit.

I AM 24.I WAS MARRIED AT 19 HE WAS 21. WE BOTH WERENT READY FOR MARRIAGE. I WAS PREGNANT WHEN WE MARRIED HE WAS OUT DRINKING AND PARTYING AND DOING DRUGS. LITTLE DID I KNOW HOW BAD HE WAS. HE WAS ABUSIVE AND I COULDNT LET HIM GO. WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 5 YEARS NOW AND WE HAVE TWO CHILDERN AND ONE ON THE WAY. HE HAS RECENTLY AMITTED TO CHEATING WHEN WE WERE DATING AND IN THE FIRST COUPLE MONTHS WE WERE MARRIED. YES IT HURTS. HE HAS PUT ME THRU ALOT. BUT HE HAS SOPPED USEING DRUGS AND WERE WORKING ON QUITTING THE OCCASIONAL DRINKING. HE WANTS TO START OVER WITH A CLEAN SLATE AND BE A NEW PERSON. I HAVE NEVER SEEN HIM FEEL SO GOOD, HE HAS GOALS FOR OUR FUTURE AND I WILL ENCOURAGE HIM LIKE I ALWAYS HAVE TO BE A BETTER PERSON FOR HIMSELF AND OUR FAMILY. NO HE HASNT BEEN A GOOD HUSBAND BUT I HAVE NEVER GIVEN UP ON HIM. I HAVE GROWN TO LOVE HIM MORE AS CRAZY AS IT SOUNDS EVEN AFTER ALL THE THINGS WE HAVE GONE THROUGH TOGETHER. MEN CAN BE JUST AS WEAK AND SENSITVE AS US WOMEN JUST IN DIFFERENT WAYS. BECAUSE HE ADMITS IT I WILL GIVE HIM A CHANCE TO RENU HIMSELF AND I WILL ENCOURAGE HIM LIKE I HAVE ALWAYS HAVE TO BE A BETTER PERSON.

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I'm in a bit of an awkward situation. The boy I love (and whom loves me) is currently dating someone else. He's waiting for his boyfriend to become comfortable with where he is before he breaks up with him. He says that he wants the break to be as clean and simple as possible, while sparing his boyfriend's feelings as best he can. He spends most of his time with me and we very often talk for hours when we're not together. My friend has brought up the idea that this is emotional cheating. My question is, is this emotional cheating and does it really matter if he's breaking up with his boyfriend soon anyways?

I'm in a bit of an awkward situation. The boy I love (and whom loves me) is currently dating someone else. He's waiting for his boyfriend to become comfortable with where he is before he breaks up with him. He says that he wants the break to be as clean and simple as possible, while sparing his boyfriend's feelings as best he can. He spends most of his time with me and we very often talk for hours when we're not together. My friend has brought up the idea that this is emotional cheating. My question is, is this emotional cheating and does it really matter if he's breaking up with his boyfriend soon anyways?

Tyra,
This e-mail is not about me being cheated on but about one of my best friends. We all know the signs of if we are being cheated on but what if she is the "other woman". She is only 21 and he is 32 with 2 kids. I want to be happy for her but something is not right. One when ever they go out he pays in cash and if the spend the night they go to a hotel. She has never been to his house or meet any one from his family. Not only that but she is lying about him and other things to her best friends now. And it is not that we did not want to get to know him, but how can you get to know someone when she is lying about him. I am the only friend that has meet him and from what i sow he was ok till i got a really mean e-mail from him. I showed it to her but she just said it was a "joke". Now all she does is sit at home and wont talk to any of her friends any more. every one is telling me to give up on her but i cant i dont want to see her get hurt. i really dont know what to do.