hi tyra ,
im just 15 years old and i fall in loved on man
that older than me of 6 years .i lossed my virginity at age of 14 years old and i got pregnant then i abortion the baby .
coz my boyfriend told me that we just finish our school
so i have no chance i abortion the baby
then next week i finally known that he have a long time girlfriend for 2 years and a half .
it's so hurt coz he cheated me and lying .
but he told me that he broke-up already his long time girlfriend coz of me?
were still together now and were far for each other
we have a longdistance relation .
i want to move-on and forget him
coz i dont want to hurt again coz
i dont believe him coz were only 6 months and he had a long time girlfriend? he said that he not tottaly forgot his girlfriend?
and it's hurt to me? but im still loving him
and open arms to be there of him even he totally hurt me
i can't beleived that he chose me coz were just only few months than his girlfriend was long tym.. and i think he chose me coz he had a responsible on me coz he's the first got my virginity? i don't feel that he loved me? i feel that he want me?

Broke off with the love of my life 2 days ago by leaving a message on his phone. He probably has no clue and is totally upset now. But I could already see what was happening: he is 47, has never been married, never lived with anyone and claims to never have had a love of his life. He simply doesn't know how to maintain a relationship and let love in. We were the cutest couple, people envied us because we were so in love ... so affectionate with each other. It was so nice, so special, and I totally miss it, miss him - love him! He called me his soul mate. It breaks my heart! For him it will be just another episode - although he told me that he loved me. But I can't change him, can I?

hi tyra!!!!well i cant get over my ex. we been together for a while, but someone told him a lie and he believed it and broke up with me. i know the person who did it. my ex and me still talk just as friends without my family knowing. my family dont like him b/c i did a lot of thing for him and he protected me from his mom also. my friends keep telling me that my ex still has feelings for me, but i dont know if i should believe them b/c if i do it will put all my hopes up and i really dont want 2 b/c i dont want to get hurt. so i really dont know wat i should do?? i get along with his dad and his brother and some of his friends.

Dear Tyra i just wanna start off with i love you and your show!But to be seriouse,i came to your website when i was looking for advise because i broke up with my boyfriend and i want him back..bad and i know i'm only 13 but i know i did love him as much as a 13year old could love someone and i let what other people might think of him like my friends and stuff get in the way of us and i want him back.I mean he is in my class (i'm in 7th grade)and let me tell you,you have no idea what it's like to have to see him every single day and a part of me just wants to go up to him and say "boy,dont you know i love you,kiss me and love me like you used to please!" But the realistic part of me knows i blew it and faceing that has been the hardest thing in my life so far and what's worse is having to hide my emotions every single day and having noone who understands what you feel for him or why you feel for him.But i guess it wont hurt ot try well i am going to go but please call me,wait who am i kidding..you wont well bye!!

Hi Tyra!I have some cheating stories for you....I was watching your show Friday Mar.7 on what to do about cheating.My husband told me he was cheating on me 1 week after our 7 yr anniversary.He had been cheating for a while.I told him just to end it and it would be ok.I was working 4 jobs and going to school so he said he was "lonely".He probably was which I forgave him.I told him to get a job if he was so lonely.So I finished school shortly after so in June I gave him money to go on a guy's weekend fishing.Well he took her with him.I was devistated!I totally trusted him again but I filed for a divorce.I met a friend of mine that I hadn't talked to in years.We talked a couple of times and he asked me to be his girlfriend.I said yes because My divorce was to be finalized in 2 weeks.He went into the Marines for training in July-Oct.Several times we wrote to each other.He asked me to marry him I said yes.I went to S.C. to pick him up.He talked to my girls as to how much he loves me and we were going to get married.He then asked my mother.Everything was great!He had to go back to traing in N.C.I brought him to the airport.He called me for money to come home for the holidays of course I sent it.I picked him up at the train station on Thanksgiving.Things just weren't right.He was asking me for money everyday for his cell.I wasn't talking to him so why was his min. always gone.Then my car was stolen from his house."babe I love you the car was stolen!"I was more worried about him than the car.We got the car back that night.He came to my house saying I love you I am so sorry we are still getting married Christmas time.Ok I said.I brought him to pick up another car from his friend.He said he loved me.I called him on friday like he told me to and he hung up on me.I called back and asked his friend if he was with someone he said yes.I got so mad!Acouple of hours later he called and smoothed things over saying it wasn't a girlfriend.I believed him.Christmas came around this was the first time I talked to him since the fight.He said he would be over the day after Christmas.He had a surprise for me.I thought we were going to get married instead I got a no call no show.I emailed him several times nothing.I found out the day before I left on vacation that not only was he cheating but he got married now mind you he left back to N.C.New Years Day!I had no idea.I am sooooo devistated!!!!

I have been married for 21 years. I have two grown children 17 and 21. My husband has cheated on me 5 times or more, that I know of. I know I should leave him. How do I do this after spending half of my life with him.
I love him, but I do know that i deserve much much better.

Tyra
i was with my ex for about 4 years, and he was everything to me. we had our ups and downs and no matter what we always went back to each other. then one day he started going out with someone else, nothing new, but this time it was for real. he still told me he loved me but he just couldnt be with me, and after a while things got so bad that he told me he didnt love me and he didnt want anything to do with me anymore. this hurt me more then anything. after about 2 months of not talkin i started dating someone else and now we have been together for 10 months. and i love him i really do, but i still think about my ex alot. i watched your show about the 5 way to get over your ex, and i have done all that i never talk to him i dont have any of his stuff, and i even have someone great who loves me and who i love, but i dont know how to just stop thinkin about my ex. i think some part of me still loves him but i dont want to, i want to forget about him, but i dont know how i have dont everything i know to do. what do you think i should do? im lost and i hate that i feel like this.

Tyra
i was with my ex for about 4 years, and he was everything to me. we had our ups and downs and no matter what we always went back to each other. then one day he started going out with someone else, nothing new, but this time it was for real. he still told me he loved me but he just couldnt be with me, and after a while things got so bad that he told me he didnt love me and he didnt want anything to do with me anymore. this hurt me more then anything. after about 2 months of not talkin i started dating someone else and now we have been together for 10 months. and i love him i really do, but i still think about my ex alot. i watched your show about the 5 way to get over your ex, and i have done all that i never talk to him i dont have any of his stuff, and i even have someone great who loves me and who i love, but i dont know how to just stop thinkin about my ex. i think some part of me still loves him but i dont want to, i want to forget about him, but i dont know how i have dont everything i know to do. what do you think i should do? im lost and i hate that i feel like this.
thanks

Dear Tyra,
I was in a 7 year relationship and was engaged for two years. We lived together for 3 years and everything seemed wonderful. He left me 2 months before our wedding day after I had everything planned and ready to go. I was crushed, as well as my family. I became so depressed for months without any answers as to why he dumped me and trashed our wedding plans. Finally after 3 months he realized how much he hadn't experienced then asked me if I could ever forgive him. He wanted me to forget everything and get back together... At that point I was so heartbroken and all I did was wish him back, I took him back. It was a horrible mistake. I had so many questions and no answers, I was still hurting. The experience changed who I was into the woman I am today, I left him and moved on. Still after having a relationship for 7 years and almost getting married, you would think someone that loved you would never treat you in such a way to leave and just stop caring. Sadly enough it happens and I'm left having to deal with trust issues

Hey Tyra

I met this guy last summer. He's the most wonderful guy I've ever met. He understood where I'm coming from, he was understanding and he helped me with my problems. He always told me he loved me. 2 months later I felt that I didn't feel the same way for him anymore. So I decided to break up with him. 4 months have passed and I really regret having to break up with him, when all he did was love me. I blame myself every single day for leaving the most wonderful guy in the world. He now likes someone else. I know what we had is dead and gone, but I am still hopeful and I still cross his mind sometimes.

This is my biggest regret.

hi tyra,
hmmm this is really weird ive never posted on here before...
anyway here's my story i just turned seventeen this summer and it was the worst summer of my life.
i always liked this boy in my class but he always always had a girlfriend, he was the type who could never stay single, anyway i knew him since grade 5 , we never used to talk till about 2 years ago and last year we got closer when he started dating my cousin, i was happy for them.
i later found out that he broke up with her, inside i felt happy that maybe there would be some chance for me, but it didnt happen he then dated another girl in our school.
after her he went through this depressed period, we talked alot and became closer, after a month or so he asked me out! i was shocked i was surprised , he started crying saying that if i said no it would ruin our friendship and everything , so i felt like i had no choice but to say yes, i liked him i was sooo infatuated with him you cannot imagine.
we started dating , he was my first boyfriend , the first guy i ever kissed, my first everything.
we dated for about 4 months during which we were never apart, everyone was like "are you two ever apart?" i even met his mother! and his brothers and sisters .
Then i found out we where moving country, i didn't want to leave , my life was so perfect i felt like i actually had a reason to live , we were so close , i knew or i felt i knew everything about him and vice versa.
i told him , he said everything is going to be okay...so i relaxed a little , we were moving after the school year.
Everything was fine, he assured me that we could still make it work ...i then moved in the summer
then he just abrubtly stopped callin , messaging and answering my calls. i would try and try reaching him, his brother kept on making excuses...i was so dumb i didnt realize he was avoiding me . he had me soo fooled ...now its been four and a half months and i still cant forget about him i dont know what to do. i was getting better, i was forgetting him sort of , when yesterday one of my friends told me he went back to my cousin! ....and they have been together for 4 months now... i dont know what to feel ...i feel betrayed i feel like i was nothing i feel lied to . i feel like i was used. i hate myself , i hate him.
but in my herat i wish he was mine, why did i fall for an idiot. i dont know what to do im sick of having feelings for him im sick of crying myself to sleep.

I was with my ex-boyfriend for almost 4 years. Off and on that is. I was 15 and he was 21 when we first met. We've been through alot together, We have 2 amazing kids. A little boy and a little girl, our little boy has a "Complex Heart Defect" he's had 4 open heart surgeries and he's only 19 months old. That's was a huge expierence for the both of us. Not too long ago I was pregnant yes with his 2nd child. I could of sworn things were going great, he did whatever he wanted when he wanted while I stayed home on bedrest due to my pregnancy. But when I was about 8 months out of no where I all of a sudden blew up and got real swollen, that's when I started to notice he was coming home much later and started showing me less love. The weekend came and it was Friday the 13th and he decided all on his own that he was going out to party. It upsetted me that he'd rather be out partying than with the mother to his kids. For some reason he broke up with me, he says he wasn't ready for a commitment yet. So I thought he didn't want to be with anybody..... A couple days later he starts denying my unborn baby and had already ended up getting another girlfriend not to mention has a son already from someone else. Till this day I'm still a little confused and curious to why he left me. It can't be that he doesn't want a commitment because he's now involved with another girl n her little boy. I constantly question myself "What could I've possibly done to make him up and leave me like that?" "What did I do wrong?" It obviously had to of been me, because not even a week later he was with someone new.... I sit in wonder what did I do wrong for him to leave me wondering with a broken heart. Still can't figure it out...

I was with him six years. We celebrated our six year anniversary and a week and half later he broke up with me. He was my first in everything. He left me for another girl. I now know he doesn't love me, but I always felt he did. So now, I wonder, when did he stop loving me? Why didn't I see it? It's been three months and although I'm moving on, I miss him so much. We had lived together for five years and we had to close bank accounts,break our lease, change car titles, etc. I feel helpless because while he is enjoying his life with a new person, having the time of his life, I'm still thinking about him and missing him. I know even if he came back, I wouldn't be able to be with him again. It would never be the same, but at the same time I don't feel ready to date or see anyone. I'm working on personal growth, but sometimes I feel like giving up. I don't know if I can trust anyone anymore. His new girlfriend lives 5 minutes away from my house. And he works 2 minutes away. I'm afraid to run into them. I lost my job also, and I'm forced to live with my mom while I get back on my feet. When we first broke up I wanted to die, that's all I could think of. I'm 26 years old, but it's been 3 months and although I don't feel like killing myself anymore. I feel very sad and lonely. I feel in a way numb, and selfish. Many good things have happened in my life recently, but all I can think of, it's the one who left me.

hi tyra
I am 18 years of age and just began college all over again. I live in the Philippines and have been in 8 relationships over the past 4 years. I got really heatbroken when I my boyfriend that time borke up with me from one day to another. I started to feel really bad and didn't know how to get over all the pain that was inside me at that time. he was so special to me.
I fell onto the bad side of the street and began to smoke cigarettes and was drinking the pain away with my friends almost every day. I just didn't know what to do anymore. But I really got my heart broken when I saw him with another girl. She was so different from me, and so didn't come close to what I did for him back when we were still dating. I changed my hairstyle and did everything he told me to do. When I saw that girl, I just went crazy and began drinking around 2pm in the afternoon and finished around 8pm. I had my friends with me, but I was driving as well. I got lucky that I didn't get into an accident. I finally went into my bed that night with the thought on my mind that he wasn't the right guy. But when I saw him the next day, everything came back to me.
That happened a year ago. I dated guys afterwards, but never felt complete. Now I am 18 years old,almost 19 and I am starting college all over again. I moved away from my own family in order to get well. My dad came up with that idea.
Now I am living 100km away from him, but when I see his face the memopries don't come up anymore. I am getting engaged with my present boyfriend. I know that it's early, but I am happy with him.
As of now, I am in Hamburg, Germany. I am taking a vacation before I go back to school. I stopped all my bad habbits and I am so glad that my ex and I are friends now. We cleared up everything, but we will never be close friends again. Just acquaintances, that's it. We both have o0ur lives and I don't want an explanation anymore.

I've had my share of bad relationships that took me time to get over.....The last one was so bad, it ended when he physically attacked me, and it took me almost 2 years to get over him.... But now I have a wonderful boyfriend, we've been together for a year, and I have one piece of advice: Be friends first!!!! Don't meet someone and rush into something.... My baby and I had been friends for 12 years before dating, and a year later, it's the best relationship that either of us has ever had!

Hey Tyra..... My girlfriend broke up with me a couple days ago and she just keeps telling me that she needs to know if its the right thing to be with me... i told one of her friends that she means the world to me and she told me that i need to show her that she dose i tell her all the time... and i was wondering if u could help me out.....
Thank you, Joe

I am johann, from africa. i am here may be i can find love,a long lasting relationship that can last into marriage.I only need awoman who appreciates commitments family and children...

hi, i suffer from borderline personality disorder and although i have dealt with this illness for as far back as i can remember....i don't think that i have ever experienced the true affects of this disease until recently. I recently met the love of my life and i tried to be as honest as possible about my illness to him but it all became just too much for him. I became very very emotionaly abusive towards him and started questioning and doubting his affection for me. This illness is so crazy because even though all i ever wanted was for him to love me and want to be with me....all i ever did was push him away and make him feel like he wasn't worth having me. I look back now and i realize that all he ever did was try and help me with my depression, insecurities, and anger. I know now that a lot of the things that i'm batteling on the inside is not only from my BPD but is a result of not having a father in my life. I think about him all the time and i wonder if he can and will ever find it in his heart to forgive me. I have had boyfriends before but i have never had someone so amazing in my life, and it's sad that i have destroyed even the possibility of us being friends. I'm asking that if there is anyone out there that can give me some advice i'll gladely take it. Also i'm asking that everyone keep Christian Carnevale in their prayers cause he deserves to have any and everything great that this life has to offer, cause he has a heart and a soul that doesn't even begin to compare to most people...he's pretty damn amazing and i miss him in my life but i know that if anyone can heal our hearts and mend our friendship it will be GOD. So please pray for him and me!!!! GOD BLESS and thank you

Hi Tyra,

My name is Anastacia, it's been just over 2 years since my break-up with my fiance. I'm still not over it!!! I was just 18 when Christoph asked me to marrie him. He himself was just 21. I have no doupt in my mind that we both were truley inlove. It's funny that the one guy who never touched me or kissed me othere than in a frienship way is the one who still holds my heart. He is German and I am South African, we met through a mutual friend at the church I used to attend. I remember every detail from the day we met to the day he got on that plain to leave back to Germany. When He was in South Africa I refused to admit my fillings for him but I was in tears all night before he left, didn't cry infront of him but cried again while leaving the airport. I was just a child what did I know about love. We kept in contact and finally one day I told him how I felt and he atmitted he felt the same but was just as afraid to say anything due to the fact that he knew he'd be going back home someday. He then asked me to marrie him over the net it started iut as a joke from my side until he said he seriousley would marrie me. WE planed everything but getting the correct papers in South Africa is close to impossible and we wanted to do everything rigt so we would not have any problems in future. The paper took forever to come though and we both got impatient so much so that we started to argue. Not too long ater that when i had almost everything I lost the papers I had (well mis-placed them) I was crushed and tried to end mylife. Not long after that I called everything off for many reasons then suddenley the papers appear out of no where, he doesn't know I found them coz when i asked him if we could try again he said he didn't see himself going through all that again. I have still not stoped crying and tried ending mylife 3 times since but somehow keep surving. If i can't kill myself then I'll hurt myself by purging and this only started this week. I don't want to live without him or atleast want closure but how do I tell him I still Love him? If you had to sit down with me just to chat you think I'm a normal happy "intelegent" young woman with not a care in the world. That's how easy it has become to pretend eveything is ok. My story is far form over but if I had to continue i'd have to write a book, by now you should have noticed that my spelling is just not top notch. I miss him and love him and want to be with him... If he only knew how much.

Well I started dating my ex my junior year in high school and fell head over heels for him. Which I knew I shouldnt because I knew his past and that he cheated on every girl he was ever with. But we were a perfect match. We did everything together.He asked me out January 13th after his basketball game. But soon after I found out that he was still with his girlfriend and he had been lying to me about it. But he promised that he had broken up with her. I constantly heard rumors that he was messing around on me but I didnt want to believe it at all. We were always together so I thought it couldnt be true.But too my suprise it was. A few months into our relationship I was to the most shocking news...he wsa going to be a father. He had cheated on me with his ex and got her pregnant. But, as stupid as I could be I promised I'd stay thru everything. He swore he didnt want to be with her. Soon after, I decided I couldnt handle and I left. But, a few months later we were back together fighting to make things work. I was constantly threatened by his baby's mama and his mom. We'd break up for a few days and get right back together. But, I found myself staying because I fell in love with him and we had planned on marrying eachother. SO, no matter what I was going to stay. Things were off and on for awhile. I just wanted him to be with his baby girl but he said he wanted us both. I finally made the decision to just forget about him. He had a baby and his girl swore she'd take his rights away if he was with me.But I find myself struggling to get him off my mind. I see him everywhere. And people still tell me to this say that he loves me and misses me. But, I just cant go back to things. I will always care and love him but things cant work out for us. I mean I found someone else now but that pain is still there and that jealousy.

Hey Tyra,
Well me and my last boyfriend, when we started we were a match made in heaven. we were together all the time, and just haveing a good time. Then 3 months he left, moved away, so we went on break. Then 3 months later he was back, n things just werent the same, it was like he just wanted to say he had a gf. so we broke up. Time went on, we remained friend, and then he askes me out again, and being the girl i am, i said yes. Big mistake, 14 days later he left me for another girl saying he didnt feel the same for me but wanted to remain friends. At this point i was devestated i cried for hours and such. But again we remained friends, had some bumps where i went to him for help and comfort and such. 6 months go by, its 3 days before my grad, and he askes me out again, and he says hes sorry and that he will never leave again, he cant find someone who makes him as happy as i do, Blah blah blah. SO i again i say yes. Its good for the first week, and then all of a sudden he stops talking to me and such. So i ask him, whats going on..and he says he doesnt think he can have a girl friend right now.(but he wasnt breaking up with me, but i thought he was) so 2 days later...i see him somewhere else with another girl.and now they are dateing, and its killing me tring to figure out what she has that i dont. And what i did to lose him. Like i do have a new boyfriend now, but its just not the same, like it feels wrong to be with someone else, I just dont know what to do.

Well i broke up with my ex but now i want him back which i think is to late because he has another girlfriend and he be cheating on her with me and i know he still likes me because when he huggs me he does it like never before. I cried for him and i tried getting him back all the time and i think he's afraid to leave her because he's dating he's friends cousin and he's probably scared he might say or try to do something to him. All i want him to know is that i ♥ him.

theres this guy.. so we stared and getting really close like bestfriends. at first when we met he had a secret crush on me but i never knew.... we would e-mail each other throught out the day talk all night on the phone and watever. he confessed to me his secret crush but at the time i didn't feel the same way so i turned him down. we still remained friends then all of a sudden his friends got involved spreading all type of rumors about us and all this crazy stuff went down but we brush it off still remaining friends. then i started to realize that we were getting a lil too close and some of the stuff they wer sayin was true so i ended are friendship. it's been three months now and seems as though now that we aren't friends and don't talk i realized how much i really do like him and want him but the things is now he in a intimate conversation with someone else.... wat should i do???

I met this guy at a trade school, i thought he was great and everything, i ended up giving up everything for this boy. my schooling, my family, my friends, dropped it all for him. for a minute, i had me a nice little job and all and had given it away all to move up to Michigan with him. we were together for a little bit over a year, and every month that went by, at least 2 times a week, he would always lie to me and say that he was coming down on a bus and would ask for me to go wait for him at the bus station. i usually waited for about 6 or 7 hours, he never showed. one time, i took my girls car and drove it all the way upsate to get him out of "Jail" it turned out that he was sitting at home the hole time. when i went up there to live with him, he starved me and kept me cold, unloved and beat me. and all i ever did to him was love him. we broke up a little bit ago, but i havent talkd to him since, i would like to know what went wrong

OK I am currently dating this guy named Matt. He's pretty much obsessed with my "top half" and keeps trying to get into my pants, which I'm not ready for. He's a good guy, but that's not my main concern. I also like this guy who likes me back and I dated him once. His name is Travis. The thing is, he lives in Tennessee. I'm in the middle of liking both. What do I do? Please e-mail me!