This is for the so called “Christian” that went to Apollo. After reading the blog posted by you, I am absolutely outraged! I have been close friend’s with the mother of Erik’s son for over 15 years now. I speak with her on a weekly basis and am positive that she does not have any such disorder like bi-polar and she is certainly not psycho. In fact, she is one of the most stable individuals that I know and does not require any sort of medication therapy. She has done an excellent job raising her son for half of his life being a single mom. Since then she has been blessed with a wonderful husband and family. I find it so hard to believe that a Christian, who claims to be one, would make such statements against the mother who has nothing to do with the Erik and Claudine saga. You quote the Bible like you know it. However, how can you say before pointing out a thorn in one’s eye, yet you really you should be noticing the log in your own eye? I’m sure you know that “those who judge shall be judged themselves”. God’s greatest commandment is to love one another. As far as I can see you are doing the opposite. You should be ashamed of yourself for bringing her and her boy into this. I am a Christian and I went to Apollo as well. You really should watch how you treat others. You never know what sort of impact you have on others lives. You have greatly distressed my dear friend and I am here to stand up for her. If the Lord shall judge me for how I am responding to the Christian from Apollo, so be it. I welcome any criticism from you “you Christian” as you will only be digging yourself a deeper ditch. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. As for Erik and Claudine, I am glad that they know the Lord, but going on national television to air their dirty laundry was a mistake and it hurt a lot of others in the process. Aren’t we supposed to trust in Him as He is the wonderful Counselor? God makes it very clear in the Bible that we are to not to go to anyone before going to Him. I will pray for this Christian from Apollo, not only that God will lay on her heart but that she will see that she has been spreading these false rumors against an innocent woman who deserves nothing but praise for her wonderful job of raising a beautiful polite young man. Don’t you know that you are giving all Christians a bad name by your blogging your antics? I will be praying for Erik, Claudine and even the “Christian” from Apollo.

I have been having a sexual relationship with a married man and he is like dr. jekel and mr. hyde. I wish I could just get over this stupi fool!!!!!!!!!!

well i think iam in a bad relatsionship my boy frend gets mad when i talk to other people he thinks i suppose to be round him 247 i need some good help

this comment goes out to louis j. gastelum. where are you and vicky? we have been looking for you for years. you are very hard to find. glad you gt to see the show. yeah claudine did have her moments, especially when she would throw me out of the house and i would sit on the door step for hours just waiting for her to let me in. crazy lady. but taurean does miss you all and so do i very much so. love Nala

ok first off claudine was not a stripper. claudine won sole custody of her child against the drug addicted father who has quite the criminal record. ive known the both of them for 16 years now. yes everyone makes mistakes in their lives, and they do regret them . they cant go back and fix the past only the future. and thats what claudine is now doing. shes always been a good mom and had her daughters best interest at heart. you all saw a created version of her. "Apollo" i'd love to know who you are and where you get your information from, cause i gaurantee you that i know the two better than you. as for erik , yes he does have a son. and he did give up his parental rights for the good of his son. i'm almost positive that he regrets it now. his son's mother is a complete psycho, and suffers from bipolar disorderor something of the sort. she has done nothing with her life, and his son has had to go through intense therapy being raised by her. erik ,claudine, and taurean have a relationship with the Lord and have learned that no doctor can help anyone on this earth. only the power of Jesus Christ can take away your pain and suffering. what they learned from the show is that Jesus is who you need to turn to. claudine never abandoned her child. she was in the Navt Reserves and was transfered to Co. her daughter stayed behind to finish school. And the aunt people lives at home with her mommy and daddy. she doesnt spend any time with her niece.none. For everyones information Taurean, Erik and Claudine are doing quite well. And if you are all so concerned with Taurean , maybe you should quit saying mean things about her mother because she has a computer and reads this everyday. You are just upsetting her. Worry about the log in your own eye before you point out the speck in another persons.

I have known both Claudine and Erik for over 15 years, and trust me, neither one is innocent. Between Claudine abandoning her child and becoming a stripper, and Erik ignoring EVERY responsiblity he has ever had in his life and drinking himself into an oblivion, they both are Toxic together, you know after the show they are now living back together again....plus Erik does have a past that would make your head spin. Claudine needs to let her ex-husband raise the child (Torian) in order for that girl to have any kind of normal life. Erik will just constantly drag her down and unfortunatly take Tori with her. Claudine only cares about herself, i watched the show and laughed on how many times each of them lied about things. Erik has many assault records from previous girlfriends, one of whom had his child!! Yes that's correct Erik had a son about the same age as Tori (claudine's girl), he abandoned him just like Claudine so easily leaves her daughter for Acoholic Erik!! ...it will never end, i only hope that Dr. Keith's Show will REALLY get them help, THEY NEED IT!!

OK I KNOW BOTH OF THESE PEOPLE. FOR ONE CLAUDINE IS NOT A BAD MOTHER. SHE DOES EVERYTHING FOR TORI. THERE IS NOT CONSTANT FIGHTING IN THE HOUSE AROUND HER DAUGHTER. WHEN ERIK DRINKS HE ISNT EVEN ALOUD WITH IN 100 FEET OF HER HOUSE. AND HE SLEEPS THE WHOLE TIME ANYWAYS. YOU PEOPLE ARE SOOO MIS LEAD. CLAUDINE IS A GOOD MOM , AND ERIK HAD LONG TERM SOBRIETY BEFORE HE WENT ON THE SHOW AND HAD A FEW BEERS IN N.Y. AND AS FOR TORI LIVING WITH THE AUNT , SHE STILL LIVES AT HOME AND HAS ALL HER BILLS PAID BY HER MOM AND DAD. I DONT EVEN THINK SHE CALLS HER NIECE AS FAR AS I COULD SEE WHEN THEY LIVED WITH ME. SO YOU ALL NEED TO SHUT THE HELL UP!!

I wish that Claudine and other mothers would realize that this life is not all about them. When you have children they need to come first. My 3 sisters and I have realized that our parents' relationship was totally about them and not us at all. We just happen to be there. We are all emotionally scarred for life after our dad's alcoholism and his constantly beating up our mother. Even today (30+ years later) our mom only talks about how bad our dad was to HER! Never mind the torture that we went through. Moms and Dads get your heads out of your butts! Give your kids the best childhood they can have. Fill it with love and kindness. Everyone deserves a happy childhood. Everyone.

This is my second comment and is directly for Mary. My mother didn't start training me to take care of her until I was nearly a teen, but I learned my lesson well and spent years of my life caring for everyone but me. It is a long, slow process, but all that care you gave others you must learn to now give yourself. You'll hear voices telling you are selfish. If you do, you'll know you're doing the right thing! Do the things that make you feel good, pursue interests you set aside for decades, and learn that you can only truly care for others when you care for yourself. All my best wishes!

I was very glad to see the comment posted by Mary because I was SHOCKED by the attitude of Dr. Keith, who seemed to be enabling the codependent relationship that obviously already exists between mother and daughter. She has already trained her daughter to take care of her, and he's busy telling her her daughter will be there for her all her life. If that poor child is to have any life at all, she needs to separate herself from that infantile, narcissistic mother and be told that she is not responsible for her mother's well-being and happiness. Instead, there she is, comforting her mother and repeating her mother's tiresome refrain about her boyfriend and her boyfriend's friends. This woman is unaware of the existence of anyone on the planet except herself and needs serious help, and that help should NOT be coming from her daughter.

I really liked this show. I now wish I would have taped it or hope that they will replay it again sometime. I think the mom is only concerned with herself and not the child. I think the child should go live with the aunt because eventually the aunt saw the girl was alone is the word she used I think. She asked if she could go sit with her. Yhen the aunt had her arm around the girl the rest of the show so it seems the aunt cares more for the child then the mom does.

Claudine seemed like a narcissist playing the lead in "I am a victim, look at me, take care of me."

The most obviously diseased and repellant thing was when Dr Keith told her to put her arms around her daughter. She just was too wrapped up in herself. Instead, Tori, put her arms around her mother. It's obvious who is the mature caretaker there. Someone needs to intervene and champion that child so she has the chance to have a childhood before adulthood.

I had a mother like that, and now, at 57 years old, I still don't really know how to comfortably take care of myself. I went from taking care of my mother, to taking care of my husband and children. Now that my younger son passed away at the age of 35 from diabetes, I'm so at a loss for how to pay attention to getting my needs met.

this show broke my heart. i don't think that the daughter should have been kept away. she deals with their irrational and childish behavior every day on her own. at least she had her aunt to comfort and sit with her through it during the show. this woman is so wrapped up in herself and this man, she doesn't deserve such a beautiful, smart little girl. hopefully she will learn from her mother's mistake of a life and build a better one for herself, not centralized around such a sorry excuse for a man. it broke my heart when her daughter was sitting with her mother at the end of the show, comforting her, when clearly it should have been the other way around. when that woman watches herself on television, i hope she's ashamed of herself.

Many of us have been in a sick, disfunctional relationship and know the pain and irrational feelings that it creates, but to let someone humiliate herself on national television was not helpful. How painful for her child - and the woman could clearly care less about her child's feelings. Staying in those types of relationships become about winning and being right, even though every one and thing says it is wrong, wrong, wrong.

Your remarkable composure and control of the process of bringing the conflict to a peaceful resolution is to be commended. The separation of Claudine and her boyfriend is absolutely a must. I can see clearly her addiction to him and his drinking problems. Also, bringing the daughter and her mother closer together with the aunt's support is very important. I am very worried about the daughter's future stability with her mother, however. I am praying for the daughter and her future with her mother.

Not only was this Claudine goofy, the two "friends" were just as bad if not worse. They had NO business being on with this Eric and Claudine.

In case ya'll failed to notice, even the daughter contradicted herself. The tears??? Her face was bone dry.

wow... gotta tell you I just got done watching todays show about realtionships and as a recovering codependent/drunk myself, man I could see this women is classic coda I can't belive she can't see what is right in front of her face.... this guy is as toxic for her as she is for him.. they feed off each other. I haven't seen this mentioned here but what about 12 step programs??? maybe they both need to try it. I have to say watching this was hard cuz it reminded me so much of myself at one point... I hope and pray that they both get the help they need and that the 12 year old girl stops trying to "fix" mom or fix mom's realthionship cuz honey thats not reality either. Thanks Dr. Keith for another awsome show that I learn from each and every day I only wish I had heard of you and read what you had to say a long time ago. You are a very smart man.. Chrissy :)

Wow What a show. I have never seen someone so selfish. Claudine doesn't give a crap about her daughter. All she cares about is her idiot boyfriend. He needs to leave her for good. But for some reason I think she would probably beg him to stay and become an obsessed stalker. She needs to wake up and smell the coffee! her daughter needs to be taken away from her and maybe go live with the aunt.But she is so consumed with him she probably wouldn't even give a damn.Claudine you need to pull your head out of your behind or else your going to lose everything, including your beautiful daughter. And it's going to be for a man who doesn't give a damn about you. he'd rather be with his 2 girlfriends than you. GROW UP!!!

i was very disappointed dr.keith,that alanon wasnt mentioned for this woman,claudine.I have been in alanon for years and that program is exactly what that woman needs.Her life is unmanagable because of alcohol and the focus needs to be on her not him and thats what alanon teaches.Alateen would help the child also.It was like seeing myself before I started working the program,she didnt hear a word that was said and wanted only to focus on what HE has done to her.Being a maryter is a symptom everyone that comes to alanon suffers from.
I am very surprised a 12 step program wasnt mentioned for a 3 of them because if she does get rid of her alcholic(which I doubt)she will run out and get another one just like him and her daughter will grow up and seek out the same type.Trust me It has happened to me.
thanks for listening
wendy
birmingham,ala

Just so you all know they are back together. They learned nothing from the show. Also we "friends" do not stay out of it because we care. You must not be a very good friend if you could watch your best friend stay in a horrible relationship.

I personally know Claudine and her daughter Taurean and Taurean is a wonderful/beautiful girl. I have not seen them for years but she was always such a ray of light. Claudine was nice but she did have her moments.

That woman Claudine is so wraped up with Eric and all that he is; she has no use for her daughter. It is so sad too because the daughter is totally worried about her mother and Eric. I think the child should go live with the aunt so that she will have some stabilty and get away from all of her mothers toxic termoil.

I watched the show today and it broke my heart. I am a single mother myself and would rather be alone than be with a man who hurt me and my child. Claude is such a selfish "mother". Some people should not be allowed to breed. Animals take better care of their children than many men and women do today. As a parent your child's needs should always come before your own. This woman like many parents do not know the true meaning of love for their child/ren, others or themselves. Love means to give of yourself to the other person. Love is NOT a feeling or an act. Love is not about you its about the recipient. If she cannot give of herself to her daughter then how will she ever be a good mother. This not only applys to parenting but to any relationship.

I was very disturbed Dr. Keith that you exposed that child to her mother's instability. She could have remained off stage for a portion of the show. The mother is not stabble enough to nurture and provide a safe environment for her child. That is emotional abuse and should be reported to the dept. of childrens services. She needs to be removed from her mothers care until extensive family therapy (include the father) has taken place. The mother's only concern (and you don't have to be a trained prof. to recognize) is for a toxic relationship. The mother does not possess at this time the ability to recognize her behaviors and their consequences.

Oh, my goodness! I can't take it! Why are you letting that woman rant on? It is not getting anyone anywhere! I am totally stressed out! She needs councelling, she is clingy and immature. He is an alcoholic, they blame everything on everyone else. He is not taking responsibility for anything. His "friends" need to be told to shut up and stay out of their life, he needs to be told to quit whining to them, even her brother and sister don't stick up for her! Her poor daughter needs councelling, there is a lot of junk that has affected her life. They all need councelling. We don't need to listen to them anymore! GET THEM SOME HELP!

I found this show interestesting but yet disturbing. The mother is not stable and needs intense counseling. But Dr. Ablow, her daughter had no business being in the audience. Do you have children? Would you have put them through this? I certainly wouldn't have put any one of my three girls at that tender age there to watch their mom get upset like that, and to see the friends of that guy is another topic in itself. To me that was uncalled for.

I always get so heart broken when I see innocent children suffer from their parents bad choices. I hope this woman's little girl developes a closer relationship with her Aunt- and possibly lives with her- while her mother get counselling and finds some stabiltiy. The daughter may start "acting out" as her teenage years approach and that would be sad.

OMG!!!! This lady is completely CRAZY!!! Out of her mind! She just doesn't get it and it is beyond depressing. I found myself screaming at the television, trying to tell her to go to her daughter and aplogize to her and tell her it's just going to be "you and me from now on" and she just kept screaming up there on the panel like an f-ing teenager! She needs serious, professional help Dr. Keith and I hope you are willing to give it to her. Otherwise, someone should look into taking that poor child out of that household or she might grow up maladapted just like her mother. An absolute shame...

I really enjoyed this show, I am a 31 Year old woman that has been in a relationship with my sons father for almost 11years, my son is almost 7. He is verbally abusive and always puts me down in front of everyone.I have never worked in my life i think its because i have very low self estem we constantly fight about that and about how i dont help him that im worthless and i take up space. He hasnt worked for almost 7 months and oh yeah did i mention that i live with his mother for 6years now , and they all dont like me i guess its cause im not dominican. all he does all day is sleep and all night all he does is talk to woman online till 5 in the morning and when i ask him to go to bed he puts me down till i cry. He doesn 't even give me money for our son his mother and my family help feed him. I can understand how a woman can put themselves in that situation and i can understand how you can still justify everything that men do to woman and still love them , because iam in that very situation it is hard , so thank you for that show but i feel that more needs to be done in order for woman like me to wake up cause im still in a deep sleep.

Unfortunately, this mother doesn't get (or as all addicts behave, everything is about them) what she's doing to her child and her addiction is just as toxic as her boyfriend's drinking. More so, because she is damaging her daughter. I have hope that her boyfriend will step up to the plate and do the right thing by leaving the relationship.

My conern with how fragile her child seems, is that she will take the position if I wasn't here my mother could be with this man.

Lady, you need a wake-up call and I hope this was it. I also can't help but think that this child did not need to be a part of this show and the Doc should have considered his motives for including her

This woman Claudine is a total moron. You keep trying to talk to her about the effects relationship has on her daughter and it's like she doesn't hear a word you've said. Did you notice each time you bring up what she is going to do to help her daughter out of this situation all she does is keep talking about herself and bringing up arguements with the other two woman. What a self absorbed idiot. What she is doing is emotional abuse clear and simple!