Her parents should be happy that their daughter is happy...Its not about them it about her and what she wants in her life...If she wants to be married then let and let her have the family she wants...If my parents did this to me i'm not sure what i'd do but my parents support me in what ever i do and that is what they should be doing...Its not about them!!!

I'd like to address a couple of comments posted by "Carolyn" and "Maddiemae". How dare you judge this young lady...do you know her? I do! I'm one of 5 siblings of Julia Redd. I have known Juliana all of her life. She is one of the most kind, loving, and sweet girls in all of the world. I watched her grow up and she is not any of the things you accuse her of. And for the record Maddiemae, she was NOT pregnant at the time of her wedding, but that blessing came as result of her wedding. Her father has been instrumental in being the stabilizing force in this family, he is a kind,loving and gentle man, and if not for him, I don't know how these young people would have turned out. At least he had the courage to finally state the truth in this matter, that yes, it WAS premeditated, and they did take her. Her mother has extreme problems for which she refuses to seek help. It's her way or the highway. This whole scheme was concocted by Julia in effort to keep "control" of her daughter, just as in past situations with previous daughters who sought to get married but had their relationships destroyed by their mother. Anyone who dares to defy Julia, is subject to her wrath, either physical or verbally. I believe that Hardy out of concern for what could happen to his daughter alone with her mother, went along to keep things from getting out of control. Julia has intimidated and hurt many of her siblings who now avoid contact with her as to avoid unpleasant situations. I applaud Juliana for being courageous enough to stand up against abuse in any form...yes, kidnapping is a form of abuse and should be prosecuted. Juliana is doing a "tough love" approach, not see her mother go to jail, but to protect younger sisters still at home and hopefully get court-ordered mental help and medication for her mother, so her family can start the healing process. I've watched Julia get continually worse and worse, and it's frightening to see what lengths she will go to get her way. What will she do the next time? It's hurtful for all of us because we love them all, but if this was not pursued, we know she will never get the help she desperately needs. Judge not, that ye be not judged.

I AGREE w/the TELLING BODY LANGUAGE of the HAPPY couple and the HAPPY parents. this media grabbing story is just what these HAPPY people need to thrive. WOW, i'm glad i'm a happy hermit with my dogs on my farm. the world is full of UNNECESSARY DRAMA.
CONTINUED GREAT WORKS DR.K !

I can't believe the comment here, what are you people thinking? a woman at 21 years old may not Know everything but 21 years old is the key here. No person has a right to keep there child from doing anything at 21 years old right or worng. I'm sicken by the comments here.

I had to blog again, because I had no idea, until I saw this show and read more blogs, how many women lived a live like me. It's so sad to hear, but yet a bit refreshing to know I'm not alone and that others understand what it's like to live in that environment of a controlling parent! Julianna will now know she's not the only one and nothing was her fault! I couldn't agree more with Heather's blog!!! She's right when she says that you don't know what Julianna is feeling unless you have lived in a controlling home! It's true...you DO lose your own identity along the way! Unless one was raised in a controlling home it is VERY VERY difficult to understand such an unbringing and the DEEP emotional scaring it leaves on a person.

Dr. Keith did not address the relationship between the couple and his parents on the stage... remember the body language? She leaned away from his parents when they came on stage, he did not look at them at all during the show, etc... Why did he ignore this?

After seeing the show, my heart goes out to Julianna. My mother and her family are just as controlling and mean-spirited as hers. I see my life in her's so much it's scary. My mother never has approved of my husband and they've gone as far as saying he's brainwashing me. I once told my husband if I came up missing that he should look at my mother first. Luckily it never happened and we moved away to get out of the control so we can enjoy our lives. My mother and aunt went as far as to find our new address, stock me for a week and then just show up pounding and screaming at the door. I sympathize with Julianna and her husband so much. She needs to see her parents punished for what they've done and put them out of her life for good. I can tell her from experience that they will only come back and emotionally hurt her over and over again. She will never have a moments peace and will always be looking over her shoulder. My husband and I have been happily married now for over 11 years and if we could do it all over again we would have gotten away from them sooner. I'd love to talk to Julianna and give her some advice and strength. I wish her luck with the baby. We've never had kids for fear of what my mother might try and do. I wish Julianna and Perry the best of luck and hope they realize they're doing the right thing by prosecuting. It's hard to finally come to the decision to cut contact with your family, but in some cases, it's the best thing to do.

How many criminals who commit felonies are "so sorry" once they get caught?
A middle-class Latter-Day Saint family is not exempted when it comes to living by the law of the land. I thought that the interview was slanted toward sympathy for a mother who not only doesn't deserve it, but certainly doesn't deserve a place in her daughter's life, and that includes the grandchild(ren). It is infathomable to me that these people not only took away a day that was chosen by their daughter and her husband for a reason, maybe known only to them, but their day none-the-less.
So, the mother got her desire to be in control of her daughter's most important day afterall. She stole it. How worthy are these people that should have been attending a the temple marriage of their daughter? Sorry, sure their sorry. It plays well to the public in a socio-economic fashion that is being exploited. And what a black eye on the LDS mothers who cherish their children, who live by some very specific guidelines. I am ashamed of this couple, and by the way "Mr" Redd, where is your "authority" in your home? I didn't buy a single word from the mother, but I do believe that this young woman's father was coerced, and that's his fault for not excercising his place as a father. he could have prevented the whole insident and chose to protect and preserve his daughter's wedding day. He is a coward. As far as the mother, I lived my life with someone just like her. It's always convenient to dredge up childhood. After reaching adulthood you just suck it up and take responsibilty for your own actions. "Mrs" Redd is not only a liar but an abuser. If it were me I would insure that she finally pay for the crimes against her family. Good Luck Myers family. And best wishes for your new family member.
Am I judging these people for their actions? Yes I am...but, Sorry.

I am Julia Redd’s brother. I am very close to Julia’s age. Julia said my mother had Narcolepsy forcing Julia to run the house. I never knew my mother to be incapacitated at all. She was always there. If she took a nap, she wasn’t down long and was easily awakened. I didn’t know her to take a nap each day. I knew she was always up and around looking after us.

What did Julia do to run the house? I can’t think of anything. She didn’t do laundry, dishes, cook, etc. I do know that Julia always had delusions that she was in charge. She was violent in trying to enforce this delusion. But I knew then and I know now that my mother was in charge and very alert to what was going on.

Julia has always grasped after control of others in every decade of her life. Time is not available to expound.

One last statement, Julia is not a person I can trust or believe.

I couldn't disagree with the above comments or Dr.Keith's advice more. Until you lived through this you have not idea what this girl is going through. If this was her husband who kidnapped her and was on trial, I think opinions would be very different. I turned the show on today and thought I was seeing an instant replay of my life. What some may see a "cold" is really scared and confused. When you live under such control for you whole life you do not have your own identity. Think about it this way, the people who are suppose to love and protect you more than anyone else in this world just violated you. And if that isn't bad enough now she has the guilt of the trial on her shoulders.

What a piece of work this woman is! Her parents should consider themselves lucky to be rid of her. There has to be something wrong with her to be so cold and uncaring about her parents. Let her new husband and inlaws put up with her. After all they really know what she's like after knowing her for all of 7 months at the most! Wonder what will happen to these people when they do not agree with her? Perhaps they will have criminal charges brought against them also. Wonder if her child will someday turn on her? It's certainly possible.

I can totally relate to Julianna!! It was like watching my life up there on stage! If it wasn't for my husband, his parents and God I would be a wreck! My mother was the same exact way with me and my husband before we got married. She attempted to sabotage my wedding and life choices yadda yadda yadda. My mother would manipulate me with the name calling, beatings, hair pullings, guilt and lying to gain control over me for YEARS! If that didn't work she'd go behind my back to my friends, relatives and anyone else who would listen to her drag me down. I loved me mother very much, but nothing was good enough for her, not even me. I think Julianna's mom has some deep major issues that need to be dealt with! She sounds like an unstable, jealous, controlling and manipulative woman! The ONLY difference between Julianna's mom and mine is that her mom is still alive to take responsibility for what she has done to her. Maybe prison will allow her parents the time to reflect. No one has ever said their parents have to be perfect and no one wants to see their parents in prison, but this type of behavior from parents is uncalled for, wrong and immature to say the least! I am glad to see the unconditional love and support of the in-laws and her husband Perry, because that's what will help her get through all this! Congrats on the baby and God Bless you!

Perry & Julianna have done nothing wrong!!!! These parents broke the law and are controlling, and have been for years. They broke up another daughters engagement and she's still not married. Control is of Satin, free agency is of God. Need I say any more.

I saw the show on the kidnapping. I recently got married and endured a long, hard complicated relationship with my wifes mother. My wifes mother has the same problem. She apoligizes for everthing and wants to make peace but does not change. I dont agree with Dr. Keith in that it would be ok to have the mother explian herself because it will be more excuses rather than explaining. The very best thing for the mother to do is to admit to what she did and realize that she has "a problem". No matter what the mother went through growing up, it does not explain anything but the fact that it created a problem in the way she lives. Dr. Keith did take the side of the mother to an extent even though he stated that he was not. To take the mothers side is a mistake and they will accumulate, such as the meeting planned for excuses.

Just an update and follow-up. Julianna was pregnant!!!!! I guess that the parents evidently did have problems with their daughter. What is interesting these are two supposed deeply religous families. So obviously there are some issues that Dr. Keith needs to enter into this situation. I would like to hear from others who know these families and children and their history. There is definately more to this story than we have heard. While Julianna has spoken negatively about her mother, I'm sure that the parents, Lemuel and Julia Redd, could surely have told a long story regarding a deeply disturbed teenager.

Thank you Charlene, as a parent I felt the very same vibes from this situation as you. I previously quickly gave my point of view only to read your response as well later. This girl to me seemed to be hell on wheels during her teen and pre-teen years probably making a great deal of bad decisions. As far as not knowing what occurred with her eldest sister? Where was she during this period of time? In general this information is discussed and known by various family members and friends at the funeral. This could have been the parent final attempt to correct a long life of bad decisions. She is clearly calculating and has surely filled inlaws and others with lies and schemes of her own. He husband is calculating and controling to say the least, let alone the inlaws who seem to have some money and are probably along with their son the true controling figures in this scenario. I question her age, and just has mature, actually immature she is. Again, who is it exactly that has told her she is unable to have contact with her parents? How long has she been pregnant as well? Have the inlaws possibly held taking this child from her in an attempt to further control their daughter inlaw with their money?

I don't believe this girl what-so-ever. Nor am I even slighted to believe that these inlaws are good or OK entities.

This husband is truly a control figure. Both his parents and he are controlling this entire situation. I think that this entire wedding was planned and controled by the husband's family. Just as she states, "she's still not allowed communication with her parents"? My whose rendering? The husband and inlaws? This is too strange. She the bride is not in control and being if anything controlled by the inlaws and husband. Sorry, there is more to this guys story than the prim proper looking young blonde haired man. He is far too fake and to me looks as those and acts as tho he could be abusive.

It's very disturbing to see this woman with her husband on National TV. It's seems like she's under some sort of mind control or brain washing by her husband. Her lack of emotion is very telling, as is his.

Boy oh boy, I hope the child this young woman is carrying turns out to be nothing like her/his mother. She's a cold hearted ----- that is being controlled by her husband.

a comment on the alleged kidnapped bride. What kidnapping compared to a real kidnapping this was a walk in the park. I think this ungrateful child,and yes she is a child mentally, is just spoiled rotten and didn't get her way. She basically stabbed her parents in the back!!

I do agree that she does have controling parents. I do believe that a chemical invalanced is happened in her house hold. My concern is her youngest daughter is stil living with them. Is there anyone out there who worries the way I am.

What a piece of work this woman is! Her parents should consider themselves lucky to be rid of her. There has to be something wrong with her to be so cold and uncaring about her parents. Let her new husband and inlaws put up with her. After all they really know what she's like after knowing her for all of 7 months at the most! Wonder what will happen to these people when they do not agree with her? Perhaps they will have criminal charges brought against them also. Wonder if her child will someday turn on her? It's certainly possible.

There is no justification, excuse,or rationalization that can be made by ANYONE who resorts to kidnapping and have it seem right. Only mentally challenged people would resort to kidnapping to keep control on someone. If we continue to allow people(even loved-ones)to treat us a certain way, they will. The parents need professional help and need to take what's coming to them. Period. Compassion, you say? What about consequences? There definately seems to be a lack of both here.

Dear Julianna: My daughter is like your parents. This will be hard for you. I hear your words that you hope they step up to the plate, you hope for a reconciliation. They never will. You and your family will always be an insignificant pawn for them. When you are tempted to believe they have changed, step back and think what they have done. They cannot change. I know this sounds unsupportive of you, but believe me, as painful as it is, it is the most supportive advice you will receive.

I think her mom has control issues and has a problem "letting go" of her children aggravated by the death 5 years ago by one of her daughters. The parents-especially the mom needs couselling and possible medication to help her make more stable descisions and be an happier person. Also, she has to admit she has a problem which a lot of people who are like this deny and blame the other person or people. The young bride needs Juliana and her husband need to go forward with her life seperate from her parents because she will always worrying about this kind of thing happening again. A little scarier now because there will be a child involved. I've had to seperate myself from my unstable mom and step dad. My family has benefited greatly from this descision and it hasen't always been easy but our family life would not be what it is today had I not-with the help of my husband made this choice many years ago. I've been married 18 years next month to a wonderful mom and we have 3 beautiful daughters. My children have had many surrogate grandmom's in their life. There lives are happier because they have had a mom who is more content, confindent and strong as a person and who won't tolerate abuse from an mentally unstable relative. Guilt comes because it's your "mother". It would be more acceptable socially if it were your dad, sister cousin that you have to seperate from. But you have to listen to your insticts and see how this person is with others because chances are they have issues with many people as well. God bless any child who has to make this hard choice but you and your family will be happier in the long run.

I live in Utah and I can tell anyone who is unaware of the LDS church that it is a very controling church. We moved to Utah 6 years ago and it is a shell shock. They have buildings built next to the Jr High schools and have the LDS kids go to Seminar during the day, this is not a credit class, but they are in groups and they keep an eye on the behaviors etc... good in a way but very controlling.

comment to the kidnapped daughter. sure her parents made a wrong decision, yet I very much get the feeling this girl is being controlled by her husband and his family more than her parents. It is subtle but they are certainly influencing her. she should drop this and just go on with her life. time will definitely tell what kind of control this husband has on her. she would make a good stepford wife.

We obviously don't know the history behind this family, but as a mother I can only say that it is obvious this girl has some real emotional problems of her own. She seems so defiant and cold. She showed no emotion whatsoever regarding the death of her sister only five years ago. She appeared to really be enjoying the situation. She's just a very cold and callous person. With the attitude she displayed, I can only imagine what her teenage years must have been like and have a feeling her parents were driven to inappropriate actions out of overwhelming frustration. Her inlaws appear to be real pieces of work, too. I feel sorry for all involved.