I can't believe some of the above comments. Supernanny is right, that is evident by the improvements that you see on the show.

Treat your children with the same respect you show to your husband or wife. Speak to them in the same tone of voice that you use with each other.
Do not treat every 'D' on Social Studies as if it were a motion that had not passed at the United Nations.
Positive reinforcement is so valuable I wish you could bottle it. Children are going to give you what you expect of them. Better to make it success rather than failure

i watched the show on if you had suppernanny andallthis time out stuff and dont spank i think that is a croch of bul because i was spanked whipped and grounded and when i was grounded it relly didnt do much for me and when i got my but whipped it woke me up and made me relize that if i didi it again the same things going to happen and i whip my kids and they listen to me and all that and if i where to but hthem into a naughty corner or whaat ever they will think that its a game because i dont have the time to put them there over and over agian

I came from a very hard childhood. I was hurt to the point I was in the hospital. My mother told me she should have had a abortion. Plus so much more. I am a mother of three and we are having one more soon. You have to change the way you were treated. Stop the endless cycle of abuse. I wanted my children to grow up happy. Not to see or feel what I feel every day of my life. I understand how Jennifer feels. I have the same anger and hate inside me. When your children drives you to the point where all you feel is anger you need to leave the room. Take a five minute breather and remember what you felt when you were in you childs place. You are the only one that can stop all of the pain.

YOU GOT TO BE KIDDING ME. SPARE THE ROD OR SPOIL ,MAYBE THIS FAMILY LOST HALF THEIR BATTLE FROM THE BEGINNING, BUT TRY THAT NOW SPANKING MESS WITH KIDS FROM THE HOOD. OUR JAILS ARE ALREADY CROWDED AND IF YOU ASK THEM THEY ALL SAY THE SAME THING " IF I WOULD HAVE BEEN DISPLINED MORE I WOULDN'T BE HERE"

Some parents make the mistake of not "checking" their kids from day one when they talk back or use a disrespecting tone. Parents teach their children how to treat them, and others. My advice would be to stay mentally and emotionally strong to command respect from your children. They are like little radars of weakness, especially when they haven't been given the boundries that they need.

You have got to be kidding me with all this ho-hum timeout ways to raising children.
Me and my sisters had our mouths washed out with soap and therefore never uttered another profane word in front of parents ever again. We still practice that forty years later.

Children need and desire discipline, my three daughters were at times disciplined but their actions were defined and at times they picked the form of discipline they chose to take. My oldest took away her own privileges, my middle daughter would rather have licks from a belt. My youngest would give up her doll and doll house playtime.

I'm shocked at how some of these Mothers treat their children. At first I couldn't even bare to watch or listen as I was that horrified. Each of these women obviously need help and healing, but my God, I couldn't even live with myself knowing that I could do something like that to my child.

Wishing all Mothers that are dealing with these problems the very best in finding help. Please do find it.

Kess

Thank god someone finally said it on tv "kids do not come out of the womb bad", "spanking your kids is a sign that you have run out of a proper way to communicate to your kids" Thanks Dr Keith!

Mother of 2 boys

Thank you Jennifer and Thaddeus for sharing your story. I had an abusive childhood like Jennifer and have struggled with not hitting my sons. I feel your pain and am thinking of you. You can control yourself, it's just a work in progress!