I have been with husband for 22 years and have been married for 20. He has been having and affair for @ 3 years. He told me about it right away. We fight about it all the time. I don't know if it is stll going on, he says no? We have no children and not much property to fight over. He says he wants out marriage to work. Help!!

My husband cheated on me shortly before our first anniversary when I was 8 months pregnant. I don't know what to do. He says he's sorry, but I think the only thing he is sorry about is my finding out.

This girl is one of the sweetest people I know and her husband is the lowest of low lifes......He acts as though she owes him something....he lost her trust the moment he cheated on her....trust is a beautiful gift and it will take a lot to regain it again, which i doubt he will.....because he is a weak piece of crap..Most men who beat women are..........i hope he does move on, it would be the best thing to ever happen to her.....She deserves so much more out of life than what this guy can give her, which is nothing but a broken heart and a whole lot of grief.......kick him out.....ugh...what a loser this guy is.....he makes me want to puke!

My husband has been going to strip clubs in Windsor, Ontario,and Detroit, Michigan for more than 5 years.I am not sure if that is where he encountered prostitutes, but he uses them,too. He has emotionally abandoned his family because of the false sense of importance the strippers give him; he is addicted to his new lifestyle. It is important for women to know that it is a man's insecurities, selfishness, and immature need for self-gratification that causes him to visit these places/people. He may use the wife as an excuse, but even the nicest, most beautiful wives get cheated on. Take heart, wives, and take action. My husband brought me home an STD, and I am divorcing him. Get health check-ups, and get strong; you don't deserve a cheater!

please tell me who the amanda is that grew up with me.

I just wanted to say that if my husband cheated on me, I would never be able to forgive him. For me, infidelity is the ultimate deal breaker.

Personally, I am not sure how anyone could stay with someone who has cheated. I mean even if I had been the one to be unfaithful, I wouldn't expect anyone to stay with me eithier. I realize that it is a personal choice,but I know that I would be so completely broken that I would have to leave.I feel so much for the first woman, I wish her strength and the ability to see that she is worth so much more.

Jeff sounds like he could be a sex addict. This story is very similar to mine. Maybe an intervention is possible. Jeff's wife probably needs some support through counseling herself.

hi... i'm the person the husband has cheated with for the past 21 yrs... we have had an on again off again the whole time hes been married... until recently i thought he was mr wonderful but finally realize after all these yrs of hoping he would leave her for me i decided i wanted more and he wasnt it... i can only imagine how she feels.. cause i'm sure someone else will be there to take my place shortly

I would have prefered if you could have gone into more detail about the background and childhood of the first couple rather than rush along to the second couple. That was a very interesting story with what seemed like a lot more left to explore that could have helped the family. It's amazing how generations repeat the same mistakes over and over again. Sheesh....I think we need more Dr. Keith's in the world to help set us straight.

Kess

The sister-n-law nailed it when she called Jeff a low-life. What a LOSER!

I watch the show as much as possible. If I may say, I agree with the wife's sister and son-the husband is doing what he wants-it does not matter what the wife needs or wants. I know what an abusive relationship is like-I have been there for many years. It is hard enough to hear about someone cheating-BUT-in their own bedroom with the wife right there. I know I bring up things that happened in the past-not so recent past, also. Supposidly-my husband says he will never treat me like he did before. It is hard to believe-I am still here-I am not sure what I want to do. Not that this matters-I do not think he ever cheated-but-that does not make up for other things. I feel that I am just biding my time-I have talked to a couple different lawyers already. Thank you for letting me post this.

I grew up with Jeff and I remember his "charm". We all knew he was harmless but when I saw this story all I could say to myself was "what are you doing to these children Jeff"? I was on the cheater side in my marriage so I know what kind of pain I caused my family...I know it's "harmless flirting" in high school, but marriage is obviously not high school. Where is the fun loving, sweet, "harmless" guy I knew way back when?