Secret Sex Lives Revealed

Ted Haggard was a respected husband, father and evangelical preacher until his secret sex life was exposed. Amid allegations that he paid a male prostitute for sex and drugs, Haggard watched his world crumble. But it's not just high-profile people who feel the need to hide their sexual exploits; many husbands keep these kinds of secrets from their wives and families. Has your husband ever told you something that turned your world upside down?






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I was so impressed by the Reverend that appeared on the show about the gay prostitute and Ted Haggard. He spoke about the love and forgiveness and redemption of the Lord for all. He did not differentiate between the gay or heterosexual, but everybody else seemed to. Even Dr. Keith insinuated that the Reverend said what Haggard did was dirty or dirt in his soul. The reverend did not say such a thing. He was very kind and loving. I hope he got to minister to the gay prostitute later who appeared a little perplexed about the whole thing. There may be deceivers out there, but there are also true men and woman of God that love Him and love their neighbors as themselves.
Posted by: Jodi | December 12, 2006 02:01 PM
I would like to send a message to the gay man, and his heterosexual wife to whom he is still married, who were on the show today 12-11-06. First, you are obviously dedicated to living in the truth, with respect to telling your children about the husband's sexual preference,who are too young to hear such information according to Dr. Keith. DO NOT ever let a medical professional question you with their theories relative to what you have decided is best for you both and especially your children. Your reason's for telling your children were thoughtful, intelligent and wise, and clearly came through without harm to the 13 year old daughter, who was allowed on the show, while the 8 and 10 year old were not. Children are grateful for the truth and how it can enrich their lives when it is clear it is done with support and love. These parents are much better parents than many straight folks I see with all the right stuff. I wonder how much experience, NOT psychoanalytic theory, of which he espoused aplenty, Dr. Keith has had with gay, lesbian and transgender people. I suggest he have Rosie and her partner on the show to round out his textbook knowledge and how people are living in the real world, without harming children and demonstrating that lives can be lived happily and healthfully outside the bounds of theory .
Posted by: Marcia | December 11, 2006 03:16 PM
I agree first of all ! I am not gay or bisexual, but Dr. Keith you were insiting that these people were telling them about thier sex life! I think you were being very hypocritical! Like he said what is the difference if someone was a single parent introducing the child to a significant other? I feel you only said that because he was gay! Secondly, preachers now days are just horrible! People are getting so caught up in that, DONT FOLLOW THE MAN FOLLOW GOD! Anything can happen now days! So its just time to really get over it! The Bible speaks of all this turmoil in the last & evil days! So the bible is just fulfilling itself! Thank you!
Posted by: Temeka | December 11, 2006 02:45 PM
The universe does not revolve around just any one of us.It is around all of us as a whole as a human race.The dr. keith show is a great opportunity to show the world the real truth behind different lifestyles. when it really comes down to it we need to get a grip when it comes to jealousy or human emotions and i believ all people need to be taught early in life how to peacfully deal with what difficulties life can bring us. Sexuallity is a part of our world no matter what or who u believe in.Every living organism alive must do it to survive as a species.,if you lie and don't let your children know the truth behind whats going on in the world or be uneducated,then they will end up as just that.Uneducated
Posted by: Merrit | December 11, 2006 02:27 PM
As a gay man in Alabama I have struggled my entire life with strong Christian faith and the question of how to live a moral honest life.Often I thought the only answer was to marry a woman and "heal" myself. I understand why many gay men find themselves married with children. Most hope to avoid living a life they have been taught is wrong. I have always wondered what it would be like to live in a world where people were just honest. Honest about who they loved and what they were attracted to. A world where children are not lied to or "sheltered" from the truth. What harm would come from children being raised knowing that people have different beliefs and love differently. I don't understand why you would advise someone to not tell a child that some men loved men and some women loved women. The guest were not telling their children about their Sex lives as you kept implying... Merely that they still loved each other and that their father married their mother and had them because he loved them even though he loved differently than most other men.
Posted by: Paul | December 11, 2006 12:26 PM
Ted Haggard and Other Deceptions in the Church… How long will we keep these hidden?
This is getting ridicules, the Church is a billion dollar industry, they do not pay taxes, they molest the young and who gave them the authority to forgive in the name of god? …And does it count?
Now I’m not saying I believe in God, but for those who say they do, they should do a little research into their religion…
Besides all they Gay priest coming out of the closet, they break every rule
Posted by: Naomie | December 11, 2006 12:01 PM
OK, first, these ministers who are having homosexual relationships and having sex with kids make me sick! Second, the first thing the preachers need to do is get the Holy Ghost to protect them from such things.
There are preachers that say "You don't need the holy ghost to get to heaven" but the preachers who are living sexual immoral lives are amung those same ministers. Unfortunately, there are probably apastolic preachers out there who are in the same kind of sin. But I'll bet there are a lot less!
Third, people need to put a lot less faith in people and a lot more faith in christ! People will let you down, and disapoint you all the time. But Christ will never disapoint you. He may not answer our prayers as fast as we think he should, but his timeing is much better than our timing.
Jesus will always be there for us. And he loves us. He may not love everything we do, but he always love the people!
Fourth... there is a big difference between sinning and living in sin! Haveing a single act of sexual imorality I am much more inclined to forgive, rather than living that kind of lifestyle for months or years.
That minister that was on the show with the male prostitute said that the preacher who had sex with the male prostitute had just sinned and was not gay... I beg to differ. He did not "just sin". He was living in sin, and yes, he was gay!
Posted by: Sara Nash | December 11, 2006 11:46 AM
I am surprised that Dr. Ablow has not remembered Dr. Kinsey's work! There is a sliding scale for sexuality and people move up and down that scale in life periods. It's a RARE case where it's an off/on switch of total homosexuality. People who "STRUGGLE" with it are NOT homosexual! Go back and reread your text books! This all or nothing mentality is wrong and not reality. It is this incorrect/unreal ALL OR NOTHING thinking that has ruined more lives than youcould ever know.
This being said, I'm against infidelity in a covenential relationship IN ANY FORM, 'gay' or 'straight'.... the BEHAVIOUR of lies and infidelity is the 'SIN'...
Posted by: Joanna | December 11, 2006 11:35 AM
I totally understand not wanting the children on the show. I do have to disagree though on not letting the children know about their fathers sexual orientation. Do to the situation it is a bit hard to argue but if they were divorced I believe it is only the correct thing to explain to his children about his orientation. I hate when people say that children aren't ready to understand, thats only societies fault for discriminating against gay people. No we shouldn't talk about our sex lives with our children but they do need to understand what it is to be gay. I am a lesbian, and am going through a divorce with my ex for 3 years now, and had been fighting for custody of my daughter who is 11 now. Last year when she was 10 I sat down and explained to her about my girlfriend. No sometimes she still doesn't get it. I don't harp on it, but I did introduce it to her. I am in a stable relationship and that is most important. Most children are smarter than we allow them to be, and if I decided to have another baby....with my girlfriend....I would teach her about what it ios to be gay. And by the way my child is attending a christian school. Imagine how hard that is.
Posted by: Evelyn | December 11, 2006 11:07 AM
Being a professional lesbian I am appalled by
Dr. Keith's homophobic
attitude about not "exposing" the young
children to their parents whose Dad happens to be gay. This hiding and protection is what keeps the world a dangerous place for gays. I am
very disappointed in you.
Posted by: connie | December 11, 2006 10:58 AM
What Dr. Keith did was not to address the issues of a family exposing their children to many new people, possibly causing instability. What he did was to address the issue of homosexuality, shing a negative light upon it and promoting intolerance in a society that struggles for equality.
I agree that it's not healthy for children to be exposed to all kinds of extra partners, unless it's ABSOLUTELY necessary. As a single parent, gay or straight, I would stay single throughout my children's youth and only date when they were old enough to understand, if that.
But it doens't matter if it's a heterosexual parent or a homosexual one. Telling your children "You'll have two daddies," will not traumatize them for life. It would only traumatize them to be ostricized and terrorized by a society that believes that homosexuality is an abomination.
Dr. Keith didn't bring on the second and third children because he didn't want the positive reaction he got from the first one. He wanted angry, crazy homosexuals, sobbing, broken children, and general chaos as a result of someone being gay. He didn't get what he want from them, so he ended the show.
Posted by: Jessica | December 11, 2006 10:30 AM
The prechur that has been confronted by having a secret life and condemned gay marriages has me really p*ssed off.
I am a leasbian and I do believe in the marrage of 2 people that love one another. Weither it be man and man or women and women or even heralsexual.
If you weight the odds of a hedersexual marriage to a Gay marriage the odds are that the Gay will be more solid.
Posted by: Gail Martinez | December 11, 2006 10:25 AM
I am finding it hard to understand why you were so cautious about bringing the children of the couple whose father had come out of the closet. I think that you were too cautious, and in fact, that's an understatement. I found myself becoming quite angry with you for letting your paternal instincts interfere with your professional duties. You have a duty to expose every single perspective that comes your way, and you interfered with their perspectives.
By not letting the children come on, and let the children share their perspective, you didn't let the audience see the whole picture, and that is unacceptable. Please have this couple back on and let their children come on and give their side of the story, so that the audience has the ENTIRE story. Otherwise, you're doing the family and the audience a disservice.
Posted by: Eric | December 11, 2006 10:01 AM
I wonder why you would be so closed minded to actually let the children of that gay man voice how they feel about their father and his sexuality. I figured you would be open minded as a physiciatrist, but no you are just broadcasting your views and judgement on these people
Posted by: Sookie | December 11, 2006 09:58 AM