Hi.my comment is about at home moms,wives.homecare provider.I am married for over forty years and yes i to was,and still @ that 24/7 do=all the only way i could manage to get some selftime was to let my husband rest on his day off and just go up stairs while he took the girls to breakfast.For some women it only takes a few minutes to get a repreve. posted by dee

Hi to all, I have posted to almost every story in here. Weird. All the things we see on the show are just like us. I am sure I am not the only one. Well my husband works I do not and we have a 2 year old son, cameron. I watch him 24/7, do the housework, do the cooking and cleaning and my husband says when he is upset. YOU DO NOT WORK ALL DAY I DO! I just ask for a little Sleep and a little help. Our son has reflux, wakes up 3-5 times a night and I never get much sleep. My husband will not really help me take care of our son. He works swing shift and is not home until 2am. I need a break. I never get one. I feel like it is ruining our relationship and stressing me out more and more everyday. My husband I have told and I am sure all you mothers especailly will agree that watching the children ALL DAY is WORK a 24/7 job. My husband doesn't feel the same. What does our future hold? I wish I knew. All I want is to be happy and have a great mirrage and husband that helps me out. If I were single, I would want someone who would help out more. That is my wish. But I am not, so I have to do with what I got for now. Who know's if it will get better worse. Anyone feel the same way? MOMS any advice. Dr. Keith any from you? LOL!

Tina
Oregon

Dr.Keith my home is very Chaotic. My parents hit a big financial difficulty about a year ago, and to me thats when everything went down hill in our famliy we used to do ALOT of things together as a family. But since they're always working and too tired at the end of the day and we have low money we get no time together and this causes my parents to fight NON-STOP! My older brother just got into jail and my other one is going through HELL in a different state with work and girlfriend drama speaking of that my mom and dad dislikes my BOYFRIEND who i love very much. I feel like why dont we get a break were a good loving family we just been on a year of back luck, and its tearing us apart its been my mom and dads dream to buy a house, and thats even more stress on them, that we have a HORRIBLE Land-Lord, hes a total jerk. What do i do? is there anything i could do to make the family chaos GO AWAY?

I only have 3 children (ages 8, 5 & 1) and until about 1 month ago my husband & I both worked full time jobs and the kids were in childcare until 5:30 every day and we struggled to take care of the homework, baths & dinner each night in the 2 hour timeframe we had left.
Then we made a lifestyle change and moved to Oregon. While my husband had transferred with his company I had not, so my job was setting up the house, enrolling the girls in school, taking care of the baby, buying cars, etc. I have basically become a Household CEO instead of a Sales Manager or Event Planner. Now I spend every moment of the day accompanied by my only son, Morgan, and get to greet my girls as they get home from school at 3pm. I really enjoy being a 'stay at home mom' - it doesn't pay in dollars like most jobs, but the hugs and kisses will last longer than any dollar I've ever held!
Ever since I became pregnant with my first child our priorities changed and we knew that the kids would always come first - that's how it should be. If you don't feel that way you have no right to have children in the first place. Children are vulnerable and trusting and they from the moment they are born, and put their faith in you that you will care for them completely and love them and feed, clothe and shelter them as they need until they are old enough to do that for themselves.
My house is still in some chaos, but I call that job security. ;-)

I agree with you Terri. If spanking is done biblically, it is effective. It must be done in love, not anger.

my home is chaotic, I was a fire fighter injured in the line of duty, the fire dept. fired me due to my injuries. I was hurt 1-6-04 now I am being treated for my injuries I had my ankle reconstructed on 5-31-06 my Knee is going to have to be replaced and the back doctor is doing more tests I have nerve damage, that is not the chaotic part. My wife and her parents seen to think I am out of work too long and need to return to work or get disability and settle with workers comp. We are probably going to loose our home after christmas ms wife found out she is pregnant and our 3 year old does not want to listen. My mother has been passing out because of the medication her md put her on and she never told us. My father-in-law is going to hit the roof when he find out my wife is pregnant. I guess other wise thing are normal. A politician said in a news paper artical written about me that if I died in the line of duty my family would have been taken car of and I would have had a great funneral, but I was only injured and there was nothing they could do, too bad I lived.

Wow, Terri. You're training your kids to be abusers and to live with abusers. Hit, ignore you were hit, then kiss. That's sick. I was spanked, and to this day, I don't trust my parents nor do I have the bond with them that I would have if they had not spanked me. You need to read books by Alice Miller on the effects that spanking really has on a child's self-esteem and on our greater society. You really don't understand the damage that hitting your own child has. Think about it, are you 100% when it comes to self-esteem? Or do you think little of yourself and doubt yourself? Have you ever really considered how spanking affected YOU? Did you ever feel belittled? Did you ever feel like you were not loved? In your marriage, does love = hitting?? Then why should it be that way with your child? Typically, it's used as a short-cut to doing the real work of teaching your child right from wrong. If you just hit them, you believe it will teach them a lesson more quickly. In actuality, you're teaching your child to fear you and to be submissive.

I watched your show today on chaos in the home. You made a comment about spanking that I disagree with. I was spanked as a child and so was my husband, and we are thankful that our parents loved us enough to spank us. Spanking IS an effective way of disciplining children IF it is done correctly. The video clips that you showed of the family with 7 children was a pretty bad example for you to say that spanking does not work. All I saw the mother doing was swatting the child one time on the bottom. That gets no respect! We have 3 boys, ages 12, 9, and 6, and we spank them when they disobey us. But spanking is a process rather than a quick reaction. We explain to them WHY they are being spanked, then we spank them, then we talk about what they need to do to correct their behavior, then there are lots of hugs and kisses afterwards. We discipline based on Biblical principles. Our children obey and respect us much more than I have seen other children with their parents who do not spank. Spanking is not just a slap on the butt....no wonder you think spanking is ineffective if that's the way that you view it. Spanking can be as effective as other methods of discipline if done in the right manner. The most important part of discipline is having a relationship with your children to begin with. If that's not there, then NO form of discipline will work.