Dear Dr. Ablow,
I recently moved to the States permanently from India and I must share that this is the first show that I started watching when I moved here. I must tell you that this is one of the shows that is so dear to my heart and I never miss watching one. Congratulations to you and your team to keep up this great work.

Dr. Keith: I watched your show for the very first time today. I was impressed with the professionalism present throughout the show. Your guests today were the "Psychic Twins". I was touched by your offer to have your producer help the young lady in the audience find her birth parents. Thank you for doing that. I will say that I will now begin to pay attention to your show, topics and guests that you have in the future. Sincerely, Asuncion S. Cruz

Dear Dr.Keith,
im 19 years old me and my boyfriend have been togeather for about a year now and in the beginning i used to bug him and bug him to tell me the truth on what he thought of me if he thought i was fat and ugly, (i hate the way i look) and he used to tell me that i could stand to lose a couple pounds, and now i ask him and he tells me no and that i am so beautiful to him and that he loves the way i look, i feel like he is lying to me, he is constantly trying to change himself and i feel like that means i have to change myself also for him for him to like the way i look, am i overreacting? how do i know what the real truth is???

I really love your show and i watch it every chance i get in the afternoon. Some of the story your have on i can relat to because i have been there myselfe. I been out of prison for six years and i'm struggling everday to make ends meat but i got the support from my husband and i'm went back to school and got my assoiate in parlegal and now my bachlor in criminal justice. Right now i'm haveing a re time of finding a job in my field because when i have been. I'm not letting that stopping in finding my dream job and i'm not letting prison break me either.

Comment on Kipnapped Bride:

That BRIDE should be GLAD that her parents care enough about her to want to discuss the important step of Marriage with her BEFORE she takes the leap, pregnant or not!

I, myself, was pregnant at 19 & my parents thought only to make it LEGAL, for the child's sake, never considering the background of the man I was about to marry. It took 15 years of physical/mental abuse before I had the courage to leave this nightmare!

My daughter, at 20, left for a COMMUNE (with child) at the convincing of the father - today that boy (30) is a DRUG ADDICT, unable to hold a job or relate to rational life - maybe SHE should have been kidnapped (and SAVED)!!!

Dr. Ablow,
You are one of the truly great tv teachers. Yet, at the end of today's (01/29/07) show, I saw you try to force the kidnapped UT woman make up with her disturbed mother before she is ready to move in that direction--and before the mom has had help--and lots of it! Isn't that too much of a risk to the young woman's unborn child?

Can you help us? My husband and I are desperate to have a child before it’s too late and have run into obstacles at every turn. We’ve had financial, legal, insurance and medical complications. Since we have male factor infertility, if I can’t have my husband’s baby then maybe it doesn’t matter whose I have. It’s getting to the point where I’m considering going out to bars on weekends to pick up men in hopes of achieving a pregnancy.

We had health insurance which covers in-vitro fertilization but it is about to run out. We were hoping to get in one more cycle of IVF before that happened, but earlier this month I developed a pulmonary embolism as a result of the fertility shots I was taking. The hematologist recommended waiting 3 to 6 months before trying again but if we do we’ll have no insurance coverage for it and I have no idea where we’d come up with the money. Even if we did get the money, it’s sounding like our fertility clinic may refuse to treat me as I am now at higher risk of developing life-threatening complications. Do they have a right to refuse me if I promise not to sue them? If I can’t become a mom, I’m not sure I want to live anyway. Nurturing is the only thing I’ve ever been good at. I was a nanny in school and always wanted to have kids of my own.

Shouldn’t it be my decision whether to take my life into my own hands and take the chance on becoming pregnant? Other people don’t need anyone’s permission to have kids, why should we? If terminally ill patients can elect to have do not resuscitate orders, why can’t I decide whether to take the risk of dying in the process of trying to become a parent? No one’s around to stop me from going skydiving or doing anything else that people risk their lives doing every day, like driving too fast or taking drugs or having uprotected sex (none of which I do!). There’s a high-risk pregnancy practice at a hospital in our town, so it’s not like I can’t be properly monitored. I’d like to do this with the cooperation of the medical establishment, as I think that’d be a safer bet, but I will do whatever I have to do to have a baby, one way or another.

Dear dr. Ablow;

War seems to be on many people's minds. Why not look
into WHY war is considered the
way to deal with the world .
You might invite intellectuals
like Noam chomski, Amy Goodman
or even Michael Moore.
Yes, I am a Veteran.
And against illegal wars.
Here is the chance to make the nation safer.
Peace. g.

Dr. Keith,
I am so upset with my life right now. The worse part about this whole situation is that it is not just one part of my life it is EVERY part of my life. My relationship with my father is, most likely, the worse that is has ever been. I am trying so hard to make a relationship with him work but he just continues to push me away. It seems as though if it does not revolve around him, he does not care. I even took my boyfriend of two years, the man that I plan to marry to meet him and all he did 99.5% of the time that we were at his house he was somewhere else or doing something else. He had not seen me in over a year and he chose to be somewhere else then spending time with me. Last month when I called my father to tell him that I had had a stroke (at 21 years old) all he could say to me was, "Call me when you are feeling better." Not having a father in my life has destroyed so many things for me. Everything from choices that I made to relationships with men and other members of my family.
Another part of my life that is upseting is my health. A head injury from my USMC service has caused horrible seizures, headaches and strokes. It seems as though as soon as I take a step forward in and something gets better I get knocked back down by another health problem. It has caused me to now be out of work and damaged my selfesteem so badly I can barely dress in the morning with out crying. I have to keep my medical records on me at all times because something could happen anywhere and it scares me to death.
My relationship with the man of my dreams is going down hill. I hate what is happening and I feel like I am powerless to stop it. We fight too much and love to little. He is the love of my life, he is my whole world and the only support that I have in my life and because of my depresion he feels as though he does not matter. I just don't know what to do anymore. I am at a total loss on how to fix my quickly fraying life.
Scared to death,
Amanda

Hi Dr Keith and staff,
I'm a 52 yr old grandma,I birth one daughter,she's 38,she was in prison for 14+ yrs,leaving me to raise her then1yr old&2yr old,they are 20 &21 now and both in college,my daughter has been home now for about 4 yrs,and has since then been back on drugs and off again,almost 25 yrs ago I myself used drugs and ran the street,since that time I've been in the church ,raised the kids,married a man that was on drugs,and went through all the fringe benefits of that lifestyle,I have now my second home and have finally gotten rid of all the woes from my family drama,and I think my husband too,he's currently in a rehab center for the hundreth time,and I'm alone trying to re-establish my life,its been very hard,but in the goings on of everything I gained a lot of weight and have tried everything to lose weight,I weigh 290,I've never been so big in my life,I've been very depressed for some years through and from the massive amounts of things that have been going on with and because of my family,and maybe thats what you should be asking me about its really deep and I am wtiting a book about some of the bazarr things that have taken place

Dear Dr. Keith,
I am writing in response to your about the lady in Pa. suffering with Agorphobia. I am a 47 yr old woman. I had suffered with this Panic disorder with Complex Agoraphobia, I went to therapists, tried the behavioral things, I did evreything. This began in my life when I was 22. Became housebound and saw a Phil Donohue show on Agoraphobia, decided I had to do something. SO, I got a divorce, got rid of the negative in my life, but I was able to leave the home, but did not drive, never went anywhere alone, married again, conquered my biggest fear of childbirth, but destroyed this marriage also due to not being able to do normal things. Then lived with the fact I would not drive, or ever go out alone. Then one day a friend said I am taking you to the Doctor. I was put on Paxi 10 mg. My friend had to force me daily to take the meds cause I even had a phobia of meds.! I then decided to increase my paxil to 20mg, 5mos later, I moved from Atlanta Ga. to Daytona beach, The biggest step I could have ever made with my condition. I am now on 30mg have been in Fla. now goingon 5yrs, I drive everywhere ALONE, shop and do it all, I want to conquer Flying in a plane, I did do this in 1992-1993, but havent flown since as I kinda am afraid! I still wont travel in a car out of a 30 mile raidus alone, nor will I drive on a freeway! But I do feel free of the disease and have overcome the severe depression of feeling as if I was crazy and feeling of beeing a burden on the ignorance of others that do not understand, well how can they? They do not suffer with it! I wish the lady WELL! I you want to give her my email address I would love to be a penpal of encouragement! I have been ther and am still there and would love to be a friend and an inspiration!
Sincerely, AN AGORAPHOBIC POSTER WOMAN!!!!!!

Dr. Keith:
I was watching the episode on 1-22-07, and I can somewhat relate to the 30 something afraid to commit to anything. My boyfriend,whom I love very much,is this person. We've been together for 4 years,and I'm still waiting for him to get a job.-He's 32. I live with my parents because i cannot do it by myself.I am 24. I have no idea how to help him.No license, no work,lives with his brother and father,and the biggest thing-no ambitions. Whats a girl to do?? I've often thought about marrying this "man" but I feel as if i am the male in this relationship. What should I do?? Any suggestions?

Dear Dr. Ablow:
In regard to show today, 1/22, regarding the 13 year college student. I would like to ask that you research the subject of our society in general about not growing up - particularly men. I am 57 and had problems when I was young and dating -men wanting to be with lots of women - no marriage - constantly criticizing me and other regarding the "perfect looks". Men also keep moving on - marriage is like a long date - not a marriage. I think "not growing up" is huge in America - expecially with men. Would love to see you tackle this subject. Thank you!

Hi Dr. Keith,

I have started to watch your show daily, and I love it. I just started going back to school for my masters in counseling (community counseling specializing in pastoral counseling). It's great to watch someone who is already a professional. I love watching how you interact with your guests and how much you help them. Thanks for being someone I can look up to in the profession. Do you have any advice for someone who is going into the counseling profession but hasn't really started yet?

Dr keith,
Today on your show I seen that you was asking for people with weight issues......I guess I have a weight issue I weigh 240 lbs....and I really want to lose and be a beautiful women again.....When I got married I weighed 120 lbs....I was this weight due to throwing up everyday...everymeal.....I would eat and it would just come up after a while.....but my husband made me stop and I did....but then I started having children and packed on 88lbs...and now I am over weight by 100 pds.....I have a real issue with food because it comforts me....when I don't feel love....I eat......when I am stressed out I eat......when I'm happy ....I eat....it makes me sad.....the issue with my eating goes back to when I was a child....I lived in a very abusive home....then went on to fosterhomes, grouphomes.....and placements.....I guess I have never felt that I was good enough.....or loved.......now I live with a husband that drinks everyday and it makes my self-esteem worse......Dr. Keith I need your help please.....any advice would be helpful.....
I am pretty much a homebody.....I can't work due to my weight because I feel that I am to ugly to get a job, to fat to be anything, I want to be alive again!
Thanks,
Ann

I watched today's show (01/09/07) about the adopted girl who abused her brother. I felt that the discussion did not fully create an impact on the severity of what she did, and that Dr. Ablow did not make the parents fully aware of their indirect participation and condonation to the issue (responsibility). The adoptive parents seemed quite defensive, and that they unfairly condemned their son for the act. I just wonder if they had indeed given their then pubescent son everything he needed to know about sex, what is right and what is wrong? I feel they did not, then they unfairly sided with the adopted daughter. I hope the interaction behind the camera by Dr. Ablow and guests were not as patronizing as it seemed on camera.

Dear Dr.Keith,
I am hoping that I simply misunderstood the first part of the show. If not, why was the fact that Devon on the show Family in Crisis about a young foster child who had been adopted into a family then accused her adopted brother of molesting her, why was it not discussed further that she said she is basically a prisoner herself? I understood her to say that her every move is monitored and alarms go off if she leaves a certain area. Someone knows her every move. It's no surprise that she feels so guilty and blames herself totally for the situation. She is in jail in her own home.
Thank you,

my name is stephanie and im 18 years old when i was younger i got taken away from my mother because she needed help with her drug abuse and yes she did fix it but as a lot of things it came back and when i was 11-12 i came back home and i was not allowed to live with my mother so i had to live with my grandmother i graduated with a 3.6 on my own and im proud of myself i wish i could be proud of my mother before i got out of i school i tried to find places for my mother to get help but all she did was brush me off and now it seems like all she lives for is drugs and sometimes i feel that she pick drugs over her kids i have a older brother who doesnt want anything to do with her because of all the things she has done me being sent away isnt all her fault but its part of it because she wasnt fit to take care of me ive tried so hard to deal with it and talk to her but she doesnt want to hear it and she always says im trying to run her life or her money and im not i wrote her a 2 page letter telling her how i felt and she brushed it off like everything else i just want her to listen to me and know that im not trying to run her just help her my mother has been clean before and it was the greatest thing in the world to have her around and having a mother there for you ive giving up because i dont know what to do anymore...PLEASE HELP ME

I have lost 68 pounds since 07-2005. I started losing weight when I lost my job; I was starving. At first I felt sorry for myself and then decided to take something negative (not enough food) and use it for something positive (losing weight). I now visualize how I feel when I eat food high in sugar and instead buy peas and carrots for my sugar fix. Even my shoe size is smaller. I am 5'2 3/4" and started out weighing 225. I am now 158 and very excited. I also eat because of emotional issues. I work at a very low paying job and use every opportunity to get exercise because I can't afford to go to a gym. I start college next week and am very excited.

Thanks for the show!!!

Pat Ander

I just wanted to say that your show is great and every episode is wonderful.
I am in the US Navy and was at home for Thanksgiving when your show came on. It was the episode about the Carter Family, I can realate to the episode and I just wanted to know how to go about getting a copy of the taping or if there was any possibility of it.
Thanks

On todays show (Mon 1/7/07) I saw the struggles of the girls and saw in them my daughter. Please read and if you can help I'd appreicate it. Thanks
I have adopted 3 children. My son is special needs and has always needed alot of my time (both getting him help and dealing with the day to day behaviors). My daughter is the 1/2 biologial sister to my son. When they came to live with us she was his caretaker/support system. Foster care was awful to both of them. My son is now in a group home and working on getting his own apartment within his agency. My daughter is in a relationship that is abusive (in my opinion) and feels she has no way out. She won't come back home because she states she is not ready to stop parting and living life. I also have a 2nd daughter who is 14 years younger then my biological son and 9 years older then my other daughter. She has been struggling with her weight as a result of so much emotional turmoil in her life. She is 14 and has seen her 2nd brother be abusive, physically try to hurt me and other behavior that is inappropiate. She has seen her sister go from being a good child to being a complete opposite. She ran away from home the 2nd 1/2 of her senior year. She came back. She left again to live with a boy and came back. She would not follow the rules and had to leave on our request again. She went to live with another guy. The guy she is with now my 2nd daughter thinks is all great but he is far from it. My 2nd daughter idealized her. She has been through my illness and hospitalization. She has had to see my 1st son struggle with a wife who cheated on him and wouldn't leave and the affects it has had on his kids. She now moved out and the kids are a handfull to handle with 5 sitters each week. We keep them every Sat. to Sun and my 2nd daughter was great about it but now expresses her dislike of having them. She constantly demands my attention and has moved into our room sleeping on the floor. Her regression and her eating have become very difficult for me. Her Dr. has finally (after me telling him for the last 2/3 years that she was getting too overweight) told her she is obese (in my opinion this is coming too late the behaviors are set). I try to help her lose weight (Dr. told us she is in real danger of health problems and losing weight is not an option but a neccisity). She of course fights me every step of the way and I am at my wits end on how to help her without causing more emotional damage.
What do I do????

Dr. Ablow,

I just want to let you know how much I love your show. On one of your shows you had older women who like young men. I found the show very interesting. It really hit my heart because I am a 22 year old women and my boyfriend is 49. Most people think the young girl is there for the money, and the man is there to fufill a fantisy. That really is not the case with us, We both work, making about the same amount. He fell in love with me the minute we met. We love each more then words can say. Yes we do have our problems that come with the age difference, but we would not trade it for the world. We would give our own lives for each other. I would really like to see a show about the older men and younger women. It is not fair for people to judge with out getting to know the people. The way I look at it is love knows no color, race, religion, or age. Love is love and it is a privilage for every one to have. Not only those of the same age group.

Carol

I am married and extremely lost. I love my husband very much,but he accuses me of cheating all the time here recently. He has cheated several times and I chose to stay in the marriage and try and work things out. I believe that he is trying to change that part of this relationship,but I think he is having a hard time forgiving hisself. I have never cheated on my husband in the 7 years we've been together and married. It hurts alot because this is my second marriage and I don't want it to end like the first one did. I get very angry when he accuses me and I act out in anger by throwing things or physically fighting with him. I feel like there aren't many things I do right, but I'm not a cheater. When he accuses me I feel like he's taking something away from me. On top of that when I say anything about him cheating before, he gets an attitude like he's done nothing wrong. He cheated, not me. Yet I feel like I'm trying to keep us together more than he is and he's the one who has almost destroyed this relationship. I'm not perfect I argue and throw things up alot about him cheating but it's only because he acts as if he has forgotten why I feel the way I feel about certain things or say certain things. Dr. Keith I see us talking to each other but neither one of us can hear the other person. I don't know what to do other than pray,please help.

Dear Dr. Keith,
Could do a show about personality disorders? Of all of the different types of mental illnesses, P.D.s get the least amount of coverage, in the media, on television, and on talk shows like yours.
I've written to other talk shows, in the past, but no one seems to want to take on this topic. Why do you think that is?
Thank you for this opportunity to write to you. Keith Brown

I am addicted self-injury. But self-injury isn't talked about and a lot of people don't know about it so how could they ever guess that their kids or their friends are hurting themselves. And the people who try it dont know that you get addicted and can't stop even if you want to. They dont know that it just gets worse and worse or how hard it is to ask for help or how stuck and hopeless you feel. So, I think you should do a show on self-injury. Because even if it is too late for me I want others to be saved before it is to late for them. So, please do a show on self-injury and save people from getting like me and help parents and teachers to know about self-injury so they can help the kids that need help.

Dr.Keith Ablow, i really feel ihave the anger illness and i know that it has been passed on from my family.The problem is i cant deal with it i have so much stress i lost my mother dec21 four years ago icant let go please help me if at all possible i take it out on my family i have freinds that always call me i avoid any conversation unless im having a good day,what kind of friend am i to be like that, LET ALONE,my husband and children. i really feel i need help and my dr's dont seem to help much.Pleae help,....Stacy,in ohio

My family and I watched your show for the first time this morning. 12/22/06. I was very dissapointed in the response and support you only gave to the daughter. From our perspective, the mother and step-father had tried to help the "woman" not child, several times. We never heard the daughter say thank you for all the times they were there for her. Sometimes the best thing a parent or support system can do, is let the person with the addiction hit rock bottom. This may have been the only way the daughter could have pulled herself up. My husband and 14 yr. old daughter were all very surprised in your response to the parents. The daughter seemed like a spoiled child that wanted to use every excuse in the book to give herself permission for not being thankful. I provide grief counseling and do a lot of work to help people in healing. The first step, is taking responsiblity. She did not offer any responsbility for her actions. She gave an excuse as to why she had the problems. She has a long way to go. This family may not heal for awhile because you look at one side. I would imagine the list of financial support was long. That was a step. We need to be greatful for what we do have, not what we don't have or willing to give ourselves. When does the daughter begin to forgive?

Deb

The show of fri, dec 22, served as apoligist for a junkie. It was not the mother's fault. The girl made her own decision to be a junkie. she should pay for her own mistakes. the mother helped her in a number of areas. it's time to stop making excuses for the junkies.

Dear Dr. Keith, I was wacthing your show this past Thrusday the 14th of December. It was about a lady who was agpohic. I've lived aniexty for a long time I am on meds to control it or I could not leave my house. I can really relate to what this women is going through. I hope she gets well soon. Thanks Julie.

I watched your show on agoraphobia. It certainly hit home for me and I'm glad to finally see someone is talking about it. My situation isn't as bad as the woman on the show but I do live with my own fears and some do indeed affect how I do things.

For example, they could involve driving excessive miles to find the gas station that "feels" right to stop at. The same goes for a grocery store. If I find myself in a crowd the anxiety will start and I feel as if everything is closing in and that everyone is watching me. At that point, I look for the closest door out of there. I will avoid making a phone call for hours just trying to find the courage to do so. I do know that I lack self confidence and this only makes my condition worse. I rarely look people in the face and dating is out of the question. Which is sad, because life can be lonely sometimes. I often shop online and am always looking for a way to work from home so that I would rarely have to go out. I always reside in small towns partially because I can't even seem to drive in city traffic.

I don't think my children realize how much of a problem I have but they are aware of my desire to avoid people. They have always answered the phone and dealt with whomever was at the door. When my oldest child became old enough to drive I rarely had to go to the store. It was always offered and I didn't mind. It was her opportunity to drive and mine to stay hidden away. I am so glad that you did a show on this problem and I'm sure it will make more people aware. Not to mention helping those of us with any kind of social phobia to be understood.

Hi,

Thank you for having a show on agoraphobia. I am 23 and have suffered with it for 5 years now. witch feels like an eternity. It helps to hear of other people with the same problem, and what they do to cope. My boyfriend has been with me this whole time, and believe me it isn't easy. On occasion I am able to go shoppping, but this consists of taking a pill before hand...witch makes me extremly tired...making it impossible to enjoy even the little things, but at least I can get out every once in awhile with out freaking out. It's so hard being 23 and not living the life of your average 23 year old. Because I developed this at an early age I wasn't able to get my licience, so I have to depend on my boyfirend to go places for me. I have lost alot of friends because of withdrawling myself from them...thinking that I was weird and they wouldn't understand. I have kept one friend, and i'll tell you I don't know where I would be with out her, she is always believing in me, telling me that I can get better, and my boyfriend ...God bless him. I don't know how he can take it. Hopefully some day I will overcome this. untill then I want to thank all those people who have helped along the way. you are life savers. I would also like to tell anyone with this problem to stay strong, you are not the only one...even though it may feel like it.
~Arlana~

My father committed suicide in front of me. My step-mother died 6 months later. I am angry a lot. My husband tells me that I take it out on the family. I have a very stressful job and things are really rough. I am not sure if it is the anger illness or maybe just a lot of things that I have to handle. Some times I think it would be so much easier if I were alone. But I have to take care of my family. It is rough because I can't take care of me. I saw the last 10 minutes of the anger illness show and would like to learn more about it since I am told I am always angry.

Hi Dr. Ablow,
I was watching the program today on the women in PA who has panic attacks and is affraid to leave her home. I was very angry while watching the show because I felt that her husband and daughter were completely incensitive and ignorant about her situation. I have a family member who suffers from the same type of disorder that Melissa does and although I may not be able to understand exactly how she feels, I am enough of a human being to understand that she can't help it and she is truly suffering. The things her husband said to her and about her made me sick, it's no wonder she has anxiety! Dr. Ablow, I wish you would do a show on anxiety disorders so that people could try to start understanding that they are real and not made up. I want people to understand that even though someone may look happy on the outside, inside they may be struggling with a debilitating fear. Thank You! I love your show!
Sincerely,
Verity

Dear Dr. Ablow,

Re: Woman Hostage in Her Home

This woman was me. Same mother, same abandonment issues, same type control freak husband. Same daughter, an unwitting ally in her mother's imprisonment. I also had two sons who are acting outthis family play out today as controlling men. It's a heartbreak.
Thank God you spotted and commented on her husband's role in this. Although I do not know this man in particular, I do know the dynamics of a relationship like that.

In my amateur opinion, having lived through this and getting free, this woman might be unconsciously aware of his potential for violence. And that might be a part of why she is in panic and paralysis. She probably wants to leave him but realizes that she has no money, no job, no family, no support system. That was me too. She is really trapped there. He is holding all the cards.
As I took those baby steps you referred to, my ex husband used his usual sabotage button. When that did not work anymore, he got more and more insane and it escalated to physical abuse and police at the house and divorce court. The threats went from "Don't try to leave me, I'll harraass you the rest of your life" to "I will see to it you commit suicide." If you met him, he came off like that man on your show. Mr. Innocent.
I can't see this womans'husband changing but I'm probably prejudiced because of my own experience.

It might just be a matter of degree but I have seen that controlling mentality in action when they get threatened with loss of control. He will never change in my opinion.

God bless you for helping her and hugs to her too.

Patricia M

I just saw your show on the woman with agoraphobia. I have suffered terribly with agoraphobia since about 1972. I did see a psychiatrist some years ago and slowly it improved. I can go places and do things. I am down to one fear. "Being in open places". Ironically, this is where it all started "crossing a street". To this day I have to drive to get my mail at my mailbox approximately 30 steps from my stairwell. While I can shop in a store, I cannot walk in the mall area unless I am walking along the walls or windows of storefronts. As long as I can touch something/someone and I feel grounded and am fine.

Thank you for your amazing show on this topic. I know my friends and family don't understand it but they put up with it and actually they are very kind and I am a fortunate woman to have them in my life.

I feel blessed that I never got married because I pushed myself to get out of bed and take meds to get to work and stay independent. Even though I could not wait to get home and shut the blinds and cry some days. I feel I am a very strong woman and just have this one facit of my life to continue to work on.

Dr. Keith, On your single mom's show and the woman who had twins. When are women going to stop having babies without a commitment from the man that father these children (you know, like marriage). Women control the morality of the world and women's standards are below street level. Women, wake up and smell the coffee. Keep your legs closed and you will not be single mothers. From a woman who is very disappointed in the way women behave and blame the men.

watching today's show on the agoraphobic woman, that was me 12 years ago. I was in my house for 15 years. I finally went on prozac and I cannot tell you how much I wish I had done it far sooner. I ended up getting divorced after 20 years of marriage. But, I am doing well now. If I can do it, she can do it. I honestly thought I was going to die, obviously I didn't. You get so caught up that it takes you over. It can be done!!!! Please do it now before you lose your marriage. Good Luck, Ruth

dear dr. keith,
hi...well i don't live with my dad sort of....really my grandparents but he's got custidy of me...but i hate him...i want to live with my mom but i'm scared to talk to my dad. He just dosen't understand me....i have theise problems you see. i have bad thoughts about THINGS....i need some help....my mom is always in jail though but my dad is never there, and when he is we don't speak.....i dont even know.....i really do need help!!!!!!!!!!
Who should i be with?

Dr Keith
I THINK I SUFFER FROM THIS ANGER ILLNESS I AM SCARED FOR MYSELF I CANT EVEN STAND MYSELF WHEN I ACT LIKE THIS I DONT KNOW Y I AM LIKE THIS I TAKE EFFXOR XR 150MG I GET SO IRRITATED WHEN MY BOYS EVEN ASK ME A QUESTION I JUST SEEM SO HATEFUL AT TIMES I AM NOT LIKE THIS AROUND OTHER PEOPLE LIKE AT WORK, ITS JUST HOME I DONT KNOW HOW TO CONTROL MY ANGER I DONT HIT MY BOYS OR CALL THEM NAMES, I JUST DONT TALK I YELL ALOT AND FEEL FRUSTRATED.. AND NOW I SEE MY BOYS ACTING LIKE ME WITH EACH OTHER. ITS SOMETHING I NEED HELP WITH AND FAST ITS OUT OF CONTROL THE YELLING, SHORT TEMPER, JUST PLANE IRRITATED!! IT REALLY MAKES ME SICK THE WAY I ACT I NEED SOME KIND OF HELP I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO PLEASE HELP ME I WANT TO BE A BETTER MOM I FEEL LIKE I AM JUST LOOSING IT SOMETIMES I AM JUST PLIAN MEAN AND FOR NO REASON MY BOYS LOVE ME AND I LOVE THEM AND WOULD DO ANYTHING FOR THEM AND THEY NEED A MOTHER WITH A BETTER ATTITUDE PLEASE HELP GET ME BACK TO BEING A CHILLED OUT MOM, FUN AGAIN I DONT KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO. I AM SO GLAD I SEEN THE SHOW I DIDNT THINK ANY OTHER MOTHERS ACTED LIKE THIS I AM EMBARRASED FOR MYSELF AND FOR MY BOYS WHEN I ACT LIKE THIS, GOSH I NEED HELP!! THANKS FOR YOUR TIME IN THIS SERIOUS MATTER

A MOM THAT NEEDS TO CHILL
KATE ~~

Dr. Ablow-

I have a comment regarding what you call "Anger Illness". I think it's a load of crap! My father is a VERY angry man and has been all his life. He has all of the signs for this so-called "illness" and all it does is provide him (or anyone) an excuse for this behavior. He continues to behave badly and violently because nobody has made him accountable for his actions! People need to take responsibility for how they conduct themselves! Why would you want to give someone an excuse for their behavior instead of making them accountable for their behavior? As I watch the people on your show, they are nothing more than big bullies! I was raised in a very abusive family and hated it, but I NEVER used that as an excuse for my behavior. When my daughter was 4 years old, (she is now 20) I spanked her and left a bruise on her butt. (that was the 1st and last time I ever left marks) When I seen that, I swore that I would never lay another hand on my children again and I NEVER did again! That was 16 years ago. I took responsibility for my actions, without excuses and made myself aware of my behavior and changed it! I refused to bully my children anymore and I refused to use excuses! The only thing you have provided for people, is to give them a reason to put blame something else for how they act. This is the age of pointing fingers and you are adding to problem! SHAME ON YOU!!!! You should know better!

Recently I've been keeping up on the "Anger Illness" shows and I'm a young mother of a 3 year old with another child an the way! I've always had the "anger Illness" I got it from my dad. It's cost me friendships and respect! Recently, my dad's illness sent him over the edge thretening my mom with a gun and dragging her up the stairs. After coping with this, I realized I needed to change myself, I dont want to be that. My dad drinks and that flairs it. Anyway, I yell at my son and I yell at my husband, I flip out on my family. It stinks! I was on medicine but wasn't myself, so I've chose to try to keep myself calm with support from my family, because my mom understands that it is an illness. I'm still struggling and it breaks my heart to see myself act like a monster to my son. He's only 3! It was shocking to see that there are LOTS of people just like my dad and I!

I think that Dr. Keith is really cute! I would love to meet him!! Please have him e-mail me

Dr. Ablow,
After watching your show about the Bunny Ranch, I have reached my limit of dissapointment.

Your willingness to listen to your guest without judgement is a wonderful asset to your ability to help them and help the world understand how the prehaps came to be who they are today. Unfortunately, your interest in validating your guest' life experiences completely overshadows your ability to shine a bright light on the issues that plague them and many of the rest of us.

Yes, people need a listening ear. In fact, it is extremely important in helping someone to lend them that. But you are not just a friend Dr. Ablow, you are a doctor. If I went to my medical doctor with a pain, and he said to me, "Ah yes, I hear what you are saying" and did nothing more, he is useless to me. If he said, "Ah yes, many people have that pain-here, take this pill so that your brain forgets about it", he has still done very little. A true doctor, commited to really helping would say, "Ah, I hear you have a pain. Many people have that pain. You could take a pill to help your brain forget about it, but it's best that we find out why your brain is sending your body red flag signals in that area of your body. I want to do some research to find out what the true problem is. It could be medical, it could be psychological, but eitherway, pain is your body's way of asking for help, and as a doctor, my job is to provide that help."

Dr. Keith, you seem to be only listening to your guest, but rarely helping them. I applaud you on your "Anger Illness" campaign. This is true help. Although, I think you may be missing the mark as far as helping the public understand where the anger illness comes from. With a culture of throwing kids into daycares at age 2, divorce, single parenting, and all other things that detach human infants from their natural state of dependency-it is no wonder that emotional detachment, anger, and adult dependencies are plaguing our country! In addition, you seem to be anti-spanking, but I have yet seem you describe to the public how angry spanking makes children, and how spanking is typically just a transfer of anger from parent to child.

Dr. Keith, I love your ability to get in touch with your guest. But you have an opportunity to make some real changes in society. The public needs you to get much deeper. Help us understand. Attachment issues plague our society, and yet most people in our country are more than likely unaware of the utter importance of infant attachment! People don't understand the severe detriments of spanking, yelling, screaming, and belittling of our most defenseless citizens. People don't understand that it is these very things, coupled with detachment issues beginning in infancy, that breed angry, emotionally starving adults! When your guest says, "oh my childhood was great-and I'm selling my vagina for thousands to a man that I look to as my daddy" you have an obligation to open their eyes and the rest of us. Being non-judgemental is great, but it is not helpful if that's all you are willing to give.

I would like to comment on the episode about the Bunny Ranch. It was surprising to me to see Dr. Keith ask Dennis, ‘If he were one of his patients’- the idea of children were brought up as a way of ‘changing him for the better’, seeming a positive reinforcement. Well I am a mother of 3 beautiful children and I do believe that they are my biggest accomplishment. Yet however- that is NOT the case for all people. Children are not always the dream or the fix all for all people and for Dr. Keith to make that seem to be the ‘life changing- this is what will make you a more accepted and better person’- well I find that outrageous! Good for Dennis to KNOW that idea is not for him. It’s just too bad many other people don’t think that way and so many children are abused or the proper attention is not give to them. Dr. Keith, as a professional Dr. you should realize this! Dennis’s business is not your typical / conventional 9-5, but at least it is safe, legal and he’s responsible enough to know that children wouldn’t make him happy- one less child to be raised as a burden.

-Melissa ,NY

Dr. Ablow:

On November 29, I watched your segment on the Bunny Ranch. It was entertaining but one comment you said on your show requires me to send you this note.

During your interview of the owner, you made the comment of why doesn't he have any children. Dr. Ablow, not everyone should be a parent. I came from a very happy childhood but I have never had the need to procreate. I love my nieces and nephews as well as the children of my friends but I've never had the desire to be a full time parent. I think it was wrong for you to give us the impression we are less than complete without children. You keep saying you are a non-judgmental individual. Please remain that way.

Sincerely,
Edd Waldo

I am a 41 year old psychotherapist in private practice. I have a 2 1/3 year old beautiful little healthy boy, a 12 year old step daughter, a dying mother and a 35 year old husband just diagnosed with epilepsy 3 weeks ago.
In March 2006 my 79 year old mother had 2 strokes. I packed her up and moved her from Florida to an assisted living facility close to me in Ct. I have been running back and forth to Florida to pack up her house and put it on the market, as well as sell her car and other belongings. Since she moved here she was diagnosed with dementia, heart failure, a blood disorder and now breast cancer with mets to chest, shoulder, spine, ribs and leg bone. I drive her to all medical apt, usual 3 to 8 hours worth per week, stay with her, fill all her meds, call her daily to remind her to take them, pay all her bills, and provide the only social contact she has with the world. In addition my husband had a Grand Mal seizure while sleeping next to me 3 weeks ago and now can not drive for 8 weeks. I have been taking him to all his medical appointments, EEG’s, MRI’s, neurologists, ET...Driving him to and from work, hosting holiday family get together, treating 20 to 25 patients a week, now frequently till 9:00pm at night. I try to play with my son, who does not understand why mommy is gone a lot and has recently become clingy due to the stress and changes in our home. I have patients calling at all hours feeling suicidal or just sad, and truthfully I have not had a second for my self in months. Not a hair cut not a shopping spree, girlfriend time, vacation or any other off time. My husband who is an aerospace engineer took 15 days off of work after the seizure and any free time I had was spent with him. I feel like I can’t breath, and need a vacation or a pick me up for me. My mother is only getting worse, they say she will have about a year to live, my husband has agreed to start anti convulsions meds at end of the week and will be able to resume driving in 4 weeks, but the needs are never ending. I love my family, my son is truly a gift from God, and I am so honored I can give my mother love and acceptance and make her feel happy and safe at this time, and it is my belief my husband will proceed to live a long healthy life, but what about me? When is it my time? All my money is being spent to provide a loving Nanny for my son, to take my husband out to eat, to buy my mother fun things I spend nothing on myself, I do nothing for myself. As a psychotherapist I understand that to not replenish the well will make it run dry, I know I need to be kinder to myself and not keep pushing me to do more for others, but it is true that if I don’t do it NO ONE else will.
So I guess I am asking for help-advice, a pick me up or a suggestion on how to do this better and have something left over for myself. I know people survive worse things, I see it in my practice every day, but I am just too stressed for words and thought well I will send this email out and see what comes back.

RE: EPISODE "BUNNY RANCH"

A great follow-up to that segment would be an interview with wives and children whose lives were destroyed by a husbands "visit" to the den of pleasure. Sadly this is the worlds oldest profession. The biggest victims, I believe, are the families that are torn apart because of prostitution. These woman at the "Bunny Ranch" are beautiful and can afford to be so. The woman at home that have given birth to children, and served their family by giving of herself does not always have the means of looking like a "bunny", and why would they want to? Prostitution is something that will never go away, but please tell the heartbreak of the result of straying husbands....the woman on your show and the owners made it look to glamourous. Interview men who have gone and wished they never had. Back this story up with some hard real results of going to a place like that. You need to tell the reality, which is ruined marriages, disease and death.

Hi Dr. Ablow,
I watch your show almost every morning and I love it! I am a third year doctorate student in psychology and greatly admire your style of engaging guests, offering real advice and having really interesting topics!
Keep up the great work! Thanks.

I haven't even finished watching your show about the Bunny Ranch and I am absolutely disgusted. When Brooke was taking you on the tour and said that the clients could buy sex toys there and use them and maybe even take them home to their wives I was completely appalled. Do these women not understand that their clients are cheating on their significant others when they go to this place? Brooke also said that they get cultures weekly and blood tests monthly. I wonder how many of these girls wind up contracting an STD and perhaps ruin their lives being promiscuous.

YOU HAVE A SMALL GIRL ON YOUR SHOW TODAY THAT LOVES HORSES, (I JUST TURNED ON THE TV) SHE IS ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL. I LOVE THE ATTITUDES OF ALL OF THESE GUEST. THIS IS A GREAT SHOW.

i want to thank you so much for the topic of your show today on dwarfism.we have a dwarf son he is 14 1/2,freshman in high school.so much of what was said hit home,the public can be a cruel world,but our son is strong indiviual.i loved to hear how the parents cope with their everyday life.please do this again.but there is alot of everyday struggles for the little people,that the average size public would never understand.my husband and myself are of average height.thank you again!

Dear Dr. Ablow, I just finished watching your show today on little people I am a mom of six average size children three girls and three boys.My oldest daughter who is 17 has a best friend who is a little person and who has been a real blessing to her and our whole family. She is very shy and it took awhile for her to be comfortable with us, (a family of eight) can be overwhelming, and to be truthful we sometimes did not know if certain things might offend her. I remember having her over for dinner once and was not sure if I should put a jar of midget pickles on the table.All of that has now past and she knows our hearts and that we love her.It is now normal to joke with her and in turn her feeling comfortable enough to joke with us, whether it be about her size when a challange comes up like her reaching for something,boys,just about anything. We have instilled in our kids the Golden rule to treat everyone in a way that you would have them treat you. With Angela being with us so much they have seen how hurtful people can be when they do not follow that rule.One thing that troubles me is Angela's home life she is being raised by her very over protected Grandmother who does not allow her to go and do the things teenage girls do.Basically she goes to school, then straight home, and is allowed to visit our home and one other friend.I understand the fears the Grandmother is going through and wish I could talk to her about some of the things Ang has expressed to us. At times she seems very down she can't go to the movies football games, dances etc. but I know if I address this it would cut her off from being allowed to visit us,at times I know my daughter is stiffled socially because of there friendship but I applaud her loyalty and Ang seems to be OK when Cait does want to go with other friends. I taped your show for Ang. to see others like herself leading such positive lives. Hopefully her Grandmother was watching or if Ang thinks she would be ok watching the tape.Thank You for blessing me with your uplifting show. God Bless, Mary Jo Fite

I'm nearly 46 & divorced from an abusive man. I had 2 abusive boyfriends since my '93 divorce. I've turned to speed dating & electronic dating to try to find someone who is productive & non abusive. Those families with little people/dwarfism seem much happier & warmer than my not so warm home. I have my home paid for in a progressive suburban area & make a good living, yet my life is alone. I'd bet those dwarf families are probably happier than me. I hope they can see this message for taller people who are healthy bodily, spiritually & business wise may not be as happy as they appear.

Do you have a superiority complex? Why do you need to have a different (and larger) chair than your guests? I feel if you are trying to help them you should make them feel equal to you. I don't see any other talk shows where the host has a different chair than the guests.
Sue

Today was the first time I watched your show. The episode's premise was great and I liked the point you were making about how unreal life is on these shows. Life in a fish bowl is never a fair assessment of reality. One observation I would like to make, and has become a factor in whether I will tune in again, is the segment with Christopher Knight. That was pre-recorded and your editing team still allowed Adrianne Curry to boldly cry out Jesus Christ, very succinctly in a derrogatory manner. The entertainment industry you are trying to call on the carpet is allowed to use that as a form of venting, but poo-poo it as a relevent part of some of a large part of America's population's belief system. Help uphold and protect the religious freedoms of this country's Christian population as much as the muslims, buddhists and wiccans and any other belief structure I am forgetting. The reality show that is the American media against the Christian majoritiy, is fodder for these poor editing judgement calls. The unfair situation for American Christians is that while a choice, high-profile few put their foot in our collective mouths, we all get dragged into a smear campaign which demonizes a legitimate belief system, just because it's been the core structure of our country longer than these others.

My name is LouAnn Summers.I have 4 children,3 wonderfully beautilful girls and awesomelly handsome son.My girls and I are so proud of my son,Jon,that we need your help.At the age of 13 he became the man of the family when my husband, their father, passed away suddenly.Jon homeschooled himself thru high school.After graduating he join the Air Force.He's been serving for about 4 years.He has been deployed 4 times,to Ballad(sp?),UAE,to Louisiana to help the victims of hurricane Katrina,and now is in Kuwait.A few years ago he asked his girlfriend, Jenifer,to moved to Florida where he was stationed.She did and shortly after he was deployed.When he returned to the USA they flew home to visit.While on the plane home Jon asked the Flight Attendent if he could borrow the intercom and explained why.The Flight Attendent then announced that there was an important message and handed the mic to Jon.He announced that his girlfriend Jenifer was seated on the plane and because of his job taking him away from her for several months at a time he wanted her to know he loved her and asked if she would marry him.He got down on his knee in front of her and awaited her reply.She said yes and the plane cheered as he placed the ring on her finger.On their return home to Florida they went to the Justice of the Peace to get married.This they did during Jenifer's lunch break from work and they returned to work after the ceremony.A year later on Aug.2,2006 Jon and Jenifer gave birth to their first baby.Sept9,2006 Jon was deployed to Kuwait leaving behind his wife and new baby.He will be returning back to the USA sometime between Jan. and Feb.Please help me help them have a wonderful honeymoon when he returns. I am so proud that he is my son,my hero.

Hi Dr. Keith. I love your talk show. You seem to be the only one who gives real psychiatric advice. Stay real.

Dear Dr. Keith,
I have a son who desperately needs help from drug abuse. I don't know how to help him, I have exhausted all avenues. He is 32 years with a 5 year old son. Will you help him to turn his life around please?
Thank you

I would enjoy seeing a show on the emotional trauma and social stigmatism of the HIV/AIDS epidemic.

could you do a show on ADHD and romantic relationships? what challenges to people with AD/HD face in marriages? how can the non-AD/HD partner deal with it?

I watches your show today, as i do everyday. I was so happy to see that i am not the only person not wanting to be touched by my partner. and i so look forward to your next show about control. but it would realy be nice to see something more on baby blues, post partum

I am a 25 year old single mother and I was watching your show about anger Illness. I was unaware that anger can be a form of depression. I know that due to recent news I recieved about my back I have an out of place disc. I do not have the strength or will to move sometimes due to my constant pain. What keeps me going is my 6yr old son, I realized while watahcing your show that I had anger Illness. I lash out when it isn't really called for and to those that don't deserve it I immediately called my mom and told her about this show, She felt that I was depressed already. I am unable to work and can barely take care of my son I've worked since I was 13yrs old and at times have had 2 jobs It is hard for me to except help from others because I'm use to doing things for myself and my son, Because of my ever worsening back pain and depression I feel Trapped. I'm having an internal war that I feel I'm loosing. I have 3 siblings that look up to me. The fact that I am not working and can't help them when they need me just kills me inside. I don't know where to turn or who to turn to. I'm wondering how long I can continue to live my life when I'm so angry and unhappy.

Hi,
I want to applaud your effort in trying to help people's sex lives to be better. I agree with everything you said except one part about the pornography. I disagree with the fact that you encourage the spouse to support their spouse to watch pornos. I promise you, through years of research and seeing relationship fall apart, it all starts with pornos. It starts to become an illness and they do not respect their spouse in the long run and leads to adultry. It is a surefire way to break up a marriage and it is degrading to womens. I know because I speak from experiences and had to go to counseling for help in saving my marraige. I understand that your opinion may be different but I would encourage you not to encourage others to believe that it is ok when in fact it isn't ok. Study them if you can or willing.
Thanks for listening and again, you are great in doing this because it sure does help alot of people.

I just finished watching your show "Save Our Sexless Marriage". This is the absolute worst sex advice I have ever heard. "Let him watch other women"? Encourage him to lust after other women? Do you have any understanding of man and woman? Ever heard the fable about the young man who asked his wise father, "Father, there are two wolves fighting with in me and I am afraid of which one will win." The father replied, "The one you feed the most will win." I feel sooooo sorry for the couple you just had on your show. There are on a road even deeper into the hell they are already in. A living hell right in their marriage.

The answer to every question is what is the way of love? You have set before you love and lust, life and death... choose life. The antithesis of love is not hate, it is lust.. to use another person for your own selfish pleasures. True love is absent of lust even married love. It is the peace of the interior gaze. Please I beg the world if you want to know the truth read the Theology of the Body by Christopher West.
Dr. Keith,
I challenge and dare you to read the Theology of the Body Explained by Christopher West all the way through with an open mind and listen for the truth. You would help millions more by understanding the Theology of the Body. Your guest sex-pert said that going outside the marriage in order to spice up a relationship is the easy and lazy way out, well the Theology of the Body is not the easy way but it is the only way; mutual respect for eachothers fertility, mutual sacrifice, mutual self-giving.
You will be in my thoughts as well as the couples you had on your show today. I wish you all true peace and happiness.

agape

I am almost 50 years old and straight I watch your show everyday and today was a great show, I love plus sized Women they seem to be more confidant about themselves however I love Women that are not plus size also but for some reason it seems like they are confidant but not as much as the plus sized Women, I feel that Women should be confidant with their bodies plus size or not.

dear dr. keith,

I am a mother of two wonderful children whom I absolutely adore !! my daughter is 6,along with my step son who lives with us full time who is also 6. I lived solely for my daughter until I met my boyfriend and almost from day one helped him take care of Logan, until it very soon became me trying to get him to help me!! Logan has attention deficite disorder and I started to realize that this whole set up had become an aweful lot for myself and then I realized that he could bring out the worse in me !! i have had anger problems in the past. but Never with a child!! i scream as if another life form has come out of my body I sware I call names I absolutely hate the person this makes me. I've known I had to see some one . Your show came on as if it were a blessing to me.this has gone on for three years and now it is obviously affecting both kids!! logan is more shut down about it !! my daughter yells at me to stop being mean to her brother! the other night I went into check on her and she was silently crying her self to sleep!! I want my home to contain better memories than what I grew up in !! I don't want my children to fear me and the worst part is when I am like that I scare myself!!This anger also targets my mate and I fear if I don't get help although I love my boyfriend and his son I feel for both kids it would be better if we were not together and I do truely love these two boys with all of my heart and do not want them to go anywhere!!please help!!

Im commenting on the show about the "anger" disease. I think that Dr Ablow is being entirely to understanding of alot of these "mothers". He's making them feel like its okay to act like a out of control nut because they have a "anger" disease. The lady who almost hit her daughter in the face with a can of Ravioli should have had charges pressed against her. I believe this was the same woman who was punching her son in the leg uncontrollably she should be locked up or at least have her kids taken away for their protection. I think these so called parents need alot more than to sit on some talkshow and let somebody explain away why their angry. Everybody get in a bad mood but most people dont abuse their kids because of it. I think that one of these women are going to end up seriously hurting one of there kids.

I have had the opportunity to watch your show as I was in a car accident and have been out of work for a couple of months. I really enjoy watching the show and I am very impressed with your take on really helping people. I just watched your show on teens having sex and I am so shocked and disappointed in the state of our youth. I can really relate as I have a 13 and 17 year old daughter. We have a very close relationship and they do talk to me about these issues. My 17 year old has a boyfriend but swears she has not had sex. None of her friends believe her and neither do my sisters. My sisters think that I should take her to an OB/GYN. I am concerned about forcing that issue because I don't want to break the trust we have. I am positive that there has been some sexual contact but I am uncertain if she has had intercourse. I am scared. My 13 year old is very impressionable and that concerns me because I am afraid she will be pressured and it will be hard for her. I divorced 5 years ago and my kids father isn't in thier life. I think it definitely has an effect on the children. I do have a live in boyfriend who is great with the girls and tries to give them affection but it's not the same as their father giving them attention. I was 14 when I had sex and I was sexually molested on three seperate occasions from the time I was 8. I also have two sons who are on their own. I am glad that you brought this to national T.V. I think this is so important. These are our babies. When do they get to be children?? This needs to stop. We are in a sad state.

My second time watching. GREAT SHOW!!! Thank you, Dr. Ablow, for dealing with the number one reason for school violence and gangs, which is anger stemming from children not having their needs met at home or not being affirmed, loved.

I am currently seeking counseling services for domestic abuse that happened 10 years ago. I did not receive counseling then and have always felt that I didn't really need it. However, now I am going to school to be a social worker to help other women in the same situations. After taking my first domestic abuse class, I started feeling like I needed to talk to someone about what happened. I am in a very happy marriage now and could never ask for a more wonderful man. I finally told him everything that happened but I still felt like I needed to get some professional advice. I did not want to get into my career and then find out that I hadn't come to peace with what had happened in my life. Watching you sympathize and help others daily also inspired me to see someone. I'm on my third and last session and I'm still not sure that it has helped. Do you have any advice? Or is this just something that I'm going to have to get over? I know that my experience has made me the woman that I am today and I'm grateful for that, especially if I can help others. However, I do not want to work hard for this career and then 6 months into it realize that I can't face these emotions on an everyday basis. I also wonder if I can be objective when a client wants to stay with her/his abuser and try to work things out.

Dr. Keith

I have Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome due to a car accident of 1990. The doctors said I would never walk again, and I have proved them wrong: as I am walking just fine. After my car accident in 1990 I was bed ridden for years, and suffered from panic attacks only when a friend would drive me to my doctors appointments. I did not drive from 1990 until 1993 at all. Now from 1993-until May of 2004 I was panic attack free. One day in May of 2004 I was driving on the freeway and had a full-blown panic attack and they have not gone away since. Yesterday I drove 12 miles and it took me a little over an hour to get to where I was going because I had to stop the car/get out and relax before getting back into the car in fear of having another full-blown attack. What is wrong with me? I am also extremely fearful of flying or being in closed in spaces. I was never like this until after my car accident.

The story is long however as to cut this short I just want to know if you can have a show on Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome and maybe have someone on your show with extreme fears of driving or flying.

Thank you
Joanne

I watched the show today about Sara Evans and her nanny and I got so mad I couldnt even watch it anymore! First it makes me mad that Dr Keith was so one sided its ridiculous I wanted to scream! Sara Evans was not there to defend herself and there is ALWAYS two sides to every story so for him to be so agreeable with this woman infuriated me and also for her to say that she believed Sara was making that internet porn up was ridiculous she might have thought she knew him but everyone has secrets and just because he was so nice to her doesnt mean anything and for him to make Sara Evans out to be some crazy jealous person really pisses me off from now on he needs to make sure that people know that the other person is not there to defend thier selves and quit sucking up to the guest!!!! Also that woman played such a pitiful role of her self and I think shes pathetic come on give me a break the way her and her mother were being so dramatic they need to go somewhere else with all that!!! I wont even watch this show again if he continues to suck up and not be fair!

Dear Dr. Keith Ablow,

I saw your show Monday Nov. 6 with Alison Clinton. Before this I enjoyed watching your show and thought it had a good purpose but seeing this type of sensationalism really didn't make your show look good in my eyes.

I don't know if Alison Clinton is guilty of having an affair with Craig Schelske or not and I shouldn't really care. But I believe that people are often able to beat lie detector tests so the one given to Alison on your show doesn't convince me that she is innocent. Her mother and her went on and on about her medical troubles and how she is so fragile etc. but to see her on the show she did not appear fragile at all - if her mother is so worried about her and her anorexia and now heart condition which they are acting like Sara caused then maybe they shouldn't be on national TV airing their lives - that will open them up to way more media and publicity than before. The picture I am seeing is of a Nanny who is guilty of something and now she is going on TV to try and cover for the political minded man whom she is supposedly tangled up with. For someone who says she is innocent she sure appears like she is trying to cover something up.

Airing the dirty laundry of people who make their lives in the public eye and those who work close with them is Enquirer type coverage - it is tacky and unbefitting of your show which I had respected as a legitimate, caring psychology based show before this. I do hope you skip airing slop like this in the future.

Best Regards,
Christen

I was just watching the segment on Sara Evans' former friend and nanny. I had to change it because I was SO disappointed to see her and her mother bring their comments and concerns to public TV. I honestly said to myself, "Give me a break! Stop feeling sorry for yourselves." Sure, Sara's alligations may have been made public but we don't know NOR do we care who this nanny is! Additionally, we don't care that she has an eating disorder. If she was so concerned of a relapse, she wouldn't be adding pressure to herself by going public on TV. Sitting on your show, in front of a national viewing audience has got to be added pressure. Heck, she may go home feeling like "Oh my God, the TV REALLY does add 10 lbs and I better starve myself!!" If that isn't pressure, DING DONG!!

I have a real issue about me and my daughters relationship It is not the way I want it to be It seems that she is always mad at be and has no repect for me I want my daughter to be able to come to me about anything like I am with my mom. I love my daughter very much And I need help to make her see that I do love her Please help.

I just caught the last of your 11/3 show on men shaving their head. I started shaving my head (daily) in 1997, when I was 39 years, well before the current craze. I have not looked back on the decision. It is a much better (and younger) look than "the monk" and certainly the "comb over". Keep up the great work and here is to "no bad hair days". Good luck in your quest to have others join us.

I am not much of a TV person, but your approach to helping people is very refreshing, and with very little personal pronouns "I" in the mix...unlike Dr. Phil, whose entire show is about himself (or a covered-up infomercial.
Nice job!!

Dr. Keith,

I just got done watching the show on "Bald and Sexy with 'Deal or No Deal' Girls" and loved it! We need more shows on TV that show that being bald is sexy so that more men will embrace it and stop doing the dreaded combover. Keep up the good work.

Tyler
Founder of SlyBaldGuys.com

On your show today, there was mention of parents with anger directed toward their children. You mentioned depression, stress, etc. as the cause. I thank you for bringing this topic to light. I have a lot of guilt from rearing my children. I loved them dearly but sometimes, I would become so angry and upset that I would yell at them and discipline them when it could have been handled in a different manner. However, I have a problem with depression and I also worked at a job that was time consuming and stressful. I would be exhausted by the time I arrived home from work and my patience all spent. I hope you can help young mothers and fathers so they will not have regrets and also have well adjusted chilren . I question my self all the time--was I a good mother or not? I have cried many tears.

I am a 40 year old woman with surgery induced menopause. I have lost nearly half of the hair on the top of my head and nothing will grow it back.

What else am I supposed to do but comb it over?

I think most bald men are sexy, especially at my age... around 50 yrs old!!!

Are bald men sexy? What a waste of a show! I felt my IQ dropping. Come on Dr. Keith, you can do better than that. Maybe you should stick to writing if you're going to do shows like that.

Kess

Hello! I've watch your show many time and allot of it is very good information, but here is a question that I have for you how in the world do you ever get over your own family member having oral sex with you? which I have to say that it has been done with me which I have to say it is very hard to get over, and in ways I don't know if I will ever get over what he has done to me. here is a nother question is back in 2004 I got the double pneumonia and in ways I should of died what had happen to me I had MRSA which is a staff infection, four chest tubes, colostomy and illostomy bag, feed tube, and many other thing that I should of died in way, and now from what has happend to me I have headaches all the time, if I am not careful I will trip and it looks like I am about to fall flat on my face, just many other thing that is physically hurting which in ways I just want to be normal as posible, because I feel like I am never going to better I just want to have a normal life and never to be sick again. will I, I don't know. in ways I just want to be well from sick and my emotions

Hi!! I'm becoming a fan of the show -- the more I see, the more I enjoy, specifically how Dr. Keith leads with his heart!

Yesterday (Nov 1) I saw something that I felt was uncharacteristic of Dr. Keith -- at the very end of the show, Dr. Keith asked one of the guests (older woman) in what nursing home she would be residing in 20 years from now so he could come visit her (assuming for romantic reasons?) -- I felt a pang of dismay for Dr. Keith's wife -- does he think she will not be around by then? I wonder how that comment made her feel . . .

Thanks!

Dear Dr. Keith,
On the subject Deal or No Deal: Are Bald Men Sexy? You bet some are! Here is an ego booster for you. If I were not married and you weren't, I would go out with you. You have very pretty eyes and a very pretty smile! My husband has beautiful thick light brown or dirty blonde hair
that I used to love to run my fingers through. However, since we have been married, he takes the clippers and buzzes it off.
And he, like you has very pretty eyes and a pretty smile.

I'm watching your show about younger men and older women, and I thought I would comment a little, but in a way what I have to say will probably open an entirely new can of worms. My mother is a 45 year old women who has spent until recently her entire life with a man, leaving my sister and I out to dry. In the last couple of years though, she has left my step-father, and decided that she is a lesbian. Her girlfriend of almost 9 months is only 2 and 1/2 weeks older than me. This bothers me, I don't think it's so much the age, but I just kind of feel like, "hello!" how can you have such a good relationship with a young women my age, and have virtually nothing at all to do with your daughters. I can already tell you without a doubt that I have a lot of issues with my mother that I am trying to overcome with the help of therapy. But how can you let go of the fact that you never really had your own mother emotionally? This is made much more difficult by the fact that I now have a 15 month old daughter, and I don't feel that she should be subjected to the feeling that grandma isn't really a grandma. She (my mother), apologizes time and time again, and I always hope things will be different, but it never is. I guess deep down I'm jealous of the attention that her girlfriend gets, and maybe in a weird way, I'm jealous of my mother, because she has the great parental contact, but is too selfish to pass it on. Does this make sense?

Hello. I am a (now) single mom of 3 young children, 39 years old, and facing an issue that is very heartbreaking and difficult. I have a 5 year old who was just recently diagnosed with Aspergers Spectrum Autism, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, possible ADHD & possible Bi-Polar disorder...needless to say, my life is chaos. Would you ever consider a show on Autism and the spectrums, and offer advice for parents for helping these children & coping with the stress involved? The public school here constantly sends my son home, even called the juvenile officer on my little 5 year old. Everyone wants to blame the parents for childrens behavior, I want the world to understand that I do the very best for my son, and that it's NOT the parents fault these children have violent and "out of control" behavior...
I know there are many, many parents out there who would be overjoyed at hearing "it's not your fault" by someone like you, Dr. Keith, and would welcome your input! Thanks so much for listening...Shelia

Dr. Keith, I was watching your show on older women and younger men this morning 11/1/06. I have to tell you. Im married to a man 12 years my junior. We meet on line in a local chat room. He said that he saw me in the room and looked at my profile and that I had the nicest eyes. He desided to IM me. I vagely remember him tring to chat with me but there where always so many guys that would try to talk to me that often times the IM boxes would stacked one on top of the other and they would get lost in the crowed. So,it wasn't til he IMed me and said that he has tried several times to talk to me and something always happens that we never get very far. I counldn't remember at that point, ever having spoke to him so I looked up the past conversations in my archives, and sure enough he had IMed me on several occastions. I then responeded and apologized. I told him that I notice that he's only 26(at the time, and that was 4 years ago)and looking for a serious relationship. He said that he was. I told him im 38(at that time)and didn't feel that a serious relationship could come from a age difference that large. I was dating younger men because they chaced me and kept the persute up til I said yes. Younger men view life in a different way than older men. Older men that I dated had one foot in the grave. They are boring,don't want to experiance new things or to have fun ie. go to amusment parks,go to the beach. Just things that younger people like to do. Well, we talked on line for a while and then we exchanged cell numbers and about 2 months later he asked to meet me face to face. I said I would come up there to D.C.. I was always cauious about anyone knowing where I live and my safty. So, Hotel arrangements were made and We meet. He was so handsome and sweet. He was such a gentelman. We hit it off so well that we took turns every weekend going to see one another. As time went on he wanted to get serious. We talked about the cons of a relationship with this kind of age difference. After another 3 months he asked me to move to D.C. with him. Dr. Keith I have to tell you I have a son that at the time was 17 . I reminded my now husband of that. He said that my son was part of the package. I spoke to my son about all of this and my son said it was ok with him. So we moved. The realationship has just been awsome and my husband Jon is just as sweet today as he was the day we meet. He tells me every day that im beautiful and that he thinks im more beautiful today than when we first meet. We got married about 2 years after we meet on Valintines Day 2005. I have never felt like I was babysitting him. Never had to remind him to comb his hair or brush his teeth. In fact he is studing for his masters degree. He is very much my eaquel and my best friend. We have so much fun together. This is truely a macth made in heaven.

Hi, I was just watching your show of older woman dating younger men. I am a 23 year old woman that is engaged to a 45 year old man. Our age difference is not even visable. We both have the same views on life, and live it to the fullest. I would be lost without him. Age is just a number. I wish people could see that. Thank you for playing your show!
-BreAnne

You assured a young boy that he is safe from his father's murderer who is in prison for life. My daughter's murderer was given 2 life sentences in Texas 32 years ago but I am assured that if we do not continue to ask that he not be paroled, he will be so because of lack of space and cost of incarceration.

This keeps the murder fresh in one's memory forever!

Linda, yes indeed. Have had the pleasure of meeting the doctor in person also. He was sweet enough to come on over and sign a book for me. I wish I had the nerve to ask for a hug but I think that would have just about pushed my luck. I think the producers were getting annoyed with me anyway. But yes, he comes across as a wonderful person in many ways. His books are the best....both entertaining, thoughtprovoking, and insightful.

Aside, if the make-up person ever wishes to have a day, week, year, lifetime vacation....just give me a buzz. I could powder his head just as well.

Smiles.

Kess

I would like some help with a friend of my who's with a bad man. At frist he was nice then he did a turn around on her. his beenobsesive in keeping her away from her friends. But she dosen't live with him anymore. and I would like the tape on FatalAttraction:obsesivelove. thank you very much Kim

I watch Dr. Keith regularly and I think its great that he wants to help people. But I recently saw a show on marriages today. It included a couple that had recently gotten married and talked about a husband who looks at online porn. The wife stated that things weren't great before with their sex life but now that he's watching the porn its great. Well have you stopped to think that its because he's imagining that he's having sex with someone else. That can't be a very healthy marriage if your signifigant other is wishing he was with another woman. A real man wouldn't do that to his wife. Take heed, he probably just went on the show to buy himself some time. A healthy marriage doesn't include lying about anything and surely if you love the person then you would be attracted to them and not need porn. Bad habits are hard to break, not impossible... but perhaps he doesn't think of them as a habit and just normal. If so then I feel sorry for you.

I just watched your show on newly married couples. I have been married for going on 4 yrs. The past year my husband and I have been seperated and had filed for divorce. He had been in a 8 month relationship with someone else and was even living with her. They split up and I found myself giddy thinking maybe we could work it out. I called him and asked him to reconcider things. He later called me back and wanted to meet in person. We talked and are working things out taking it slow. He is living with his mom and I am with my parents we also have a 3 yr old daughter that is living with me. I am so worried of losing him again I'm trying really hard to work on the things I need to, to make it work. And I cant tell he is too he is a lot more effectionate with me than he ever was before and I am falling in love all over again! But the fear of failing of going through the pain all over again is killing me driving me crazy. My mom was a big part of our problems I'm at a stand still with this becasue he litterally hates her. She used to call him names and yell at him and tell him to leave me so she could be happy again. It was hard because the entire time we were together we lived with my mom and dad. The tension was hard to handle and I dont blame him for leaving I couldnt take it as long as he did if I were him. I dont know what to do though because I love them both I know how my mom is though and I dont see her ever chaning the way she is. I'm worried she will try to do this again and he wont stand for it. I dont want to lose my faily twice. Do you have any advice for me or us in general? Thank you.

Wow ... your show aired on Oct 31 about wedding disasters??? get a clue people...My Dad DIED 1 1/2 hours before my rehearsal dinner, 18 hours before my wedding. THAT is a disaster. Every time I see this subject on any show, it's always a rediculous reason that they are SO upset. PLEASE!!! Get real.

I have been watching the Dr. Keith show for a month or so now and think he does a great job being sensitive to his guests. He has a very compassionate yet poignant way of getting through to people that holds the guests to a standard of being honest and forthright with their thoughts and feelings that is very refreshing. He has a way of encapsulating feelings and giving a voice to those who feel unable to speak their truth. I look forward to the show every day.

I watched some of your show about husbands killing their wives and themselves. How do you try to deal with all the feelings that contradict each other when this happens and when everyone around you has their own take on what happend, especially when the person who has done such a thing seemed so levelheaded. I would also like to say people dont know what is happening behind closed doors.

Dr. Keith:

I watched your show on Monday October 30 about how people are affected when some one they love dies. My youngest son committed suicide on Sept. 18, 2004 6 months after my mother passed away. He did this in retaliation because his girl friend would not give up the drugs. The last person he talked to was her and told her that he could not go on and was going to kill himself. She did not call the authorties so that they may have intervened. She called and left a message on my phone but failed to let me know where he was. By the time they checked to see if he was there he had already killed himself. This death has left me devasted and not sure what to do with my life since my children have always been my life.

Kess, Dr. Keith is totally as nice as he seems.

I went to the taping on Friday. He is so calm and cool. And he has a great sense of humor. He came over to the audience to chat. He was very sweet.

He tapes 2 shows a day. I was there for the 2nd show. The taping lasted until after 6 pm, he had to redo some segments from earlier in the day, and some promos. He remained calm and quiet the entire time. I'm sure it was a frustrating situation, but never rasied his voice to anyone. He was courteous and polite the entire time.

He does have a make-up person who comes out between each segment, and she pats the top of his head with powder. There is also a wardrobe guy who comes out and brushes the lint off of his jacket. It's kind of funny to see them in action.

It was definitely a great experience to see Dr. Keith in action. He is a genuine and caring person. It's not often that you see that on TV.

Now, if I can just figure out how to get an appointment in his private practice, I'll be all set.

I watch your show daily.One of the things that really gets to me is the addicts that use their addiction on being treated for pain by their doctors.This is such a LIE.I am on pain management and the things that I have to go through to get the medication that I need it is impossible to be addicted.
I only take what I have to have daily to stay out of bed.And I know that I am not going to take all the medication when I first get it and then do without the rest of the month.
My pain dr.does a drug screen every month.And this I completely agree with.Every doctor that has chronic pain patients that use narotics should be drug tested monthly,before given there medications.
When I go in every month my medication is counted to see that I have the correct amount left.And I can be called in at any time of the month and I had better have the correct amount.
I always do and so should every chronic pain patient.
We have a very hard time being in chronic pain,and our doctors are under a microscope.
The people that use chronic pain as an excuse to be a legal addict should have to be under the same rules as the rest of us.
Don't go to a regular doctor for pain management,go to paim management clinics only.
You're great.And GOOD LOOKING 2

On Oct. 27th, your show discussed, "Teen Pregnancy", during the first segment of your show, you made some valid points about the mother's lack of responsiblity with drug and drinking usage. I felt there were two entirely different topics being discussed. One was mother's addiction and the other was teen pregnancy. I completely agreed with the mother which stated her daughter could not stay over her