I agree with Dr. Keith. Marla should not be trying to live her life through Evan's. I also believe that Evan still needs a structured life at the age of 16. Unless she becomes emancipated through the courts she is required to follow the guildines her parents set for her for the next two years.

My oldest daughter is 26 1\2 and she still stays at home. There isn't much communication between me and her. She sleeps late even up to 6:00 PM and hangs out all night. When she gets up early to go to work, she is very grumpy and will not talk to anyone. Recently she got a DUI and will probably loose her drivers license for one year. She wants and expects me to take her to work after she looses her license. I say no way. My wife is usually more sympathetic and this may drive a rift into our marriage that I am not responsible for. Do you have an opinion?

I'm responding to the Too Close for Comfort Episode. I think that Dr. Keith was too easy on the brother and sister who lived at home. The brother is extremely controlling and spoiled. It seems as though the parents never taught him that he is not the most importnant person in the family. And that it is not ok to act condesending towards his sister. I feel that if he had been taught to have respect for the likes and dislikes of others and that it is ok for his sister to not be interested in everything he does, he would be a much better person. He came off as a spoiled brat who thinks he knows everything and wants everyone to pay attention to him.
I think instead of handling him with kid gloves, Dr. Keith should have told him that his behavior is extremely disrespectful towards his sister and that the mother should not be so impartial and stand up for her daughter more. I think the brothers behavior is dangerous because he seems like the type of man who would treat his partner the same way he treats his sister.