I am 40 years old woman and my guy is around 28years old.. we both love each other and we share a very good relationship and we know how to compromise even after fights .. i would not say its a bitter fight but yes and we also try and solve our own problems.. He is a Muslim and i and a christian. We have been in this relatioship for almost about year and half and its fine.. as long as we both co-ordinate with each other about our whereabout and all other things ..

My guy is 38 and I'm 50. We have been together almost 3 years. And things are better than ever. My 10 and 20 year old kids adore him. They even like him more than their own Dad.
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I have been married for 27 plus years to a man who is 19 years younger than me. When we met he was 30 and I was 49. We have had a very good marriage, and now I am sold on the idea that women should marry a younger man. Fortunately, my family has very good genes, and we do not look our age. I get very amused when my husband and I have to go to some place where we have to give our ages. It totally shocks the person. It upsets my husband, but I get amused. So if a woman meets, and wants to date a younger man, I say, "You Go Girl."

I am a 59 year old woman. I used to flirt with a young man, 34, the same age as my daughter. When we met, he hugged me like there was no tomorrow, or like I was a long lost friend. He was very warm and I was a little standoffish. I dont mind the age different but I stopped by his office to show him that I was old and I was also fat. He has never asked me out, but I do cal him at work occasionally and he always makes a reference to wanting to be with me. I explained i am not looking for anything, not sex or a relationship. However, when I do call him he seems to cheer me up or put a smile on my face because his personality is so charming. My question is why would a young man want to have sex with an old fat lady? (does a guy want sex with anyone?)

My mother was married to my best guy friend for 15 years - it was great until he started drinking again. There were no minor kids involved, which I believe makes a WORLD of difference - my kids called him "Grandpa" even though he was my age! (me 26 my mom 47) We all got along great until the booze re-entered the picture. Now my Mom is dating another of my friends - he's 55 she's 70 - again, no kids involved, and they get along great. I APPLAUD MY MOM for refusing to settle for a guy strictly because he's "her age", and I say it is NONE of ANYONES business if you, as a child, object. My mom is a BIG GIRL now - she doesn't want or need my approval. I could never dream of being so selfish as to tell her what she should do!

Your show today was very close to my heart. My son who is 25 this month is married to my wonderful daughter-in-law who is 41 years old. They have now been together 3+ years. Married 1 year. When they first met alot of family members were talking and saying mean and unkind things. They were passing judgement on them. My parents and I on the other hand were very happy for them. In August they had a beautiful baby boy who is the love of all our lives.

And then my father who passed away last year married a lady when I was a young girl who was almost 30 years younger than he was, they were married until he died at the age of 71.

I myself have dated men in the past who have been up to 10 years younger. I am 50 years old now and do not look my age. I have always looked much younger than I am. The love of my life is 3 and 1/2 years younger than I am. He also looks much younger than he is. He is 47 and looks like he is in his early 40's. We are both lucky in that respect. We have a wonderful relationship. And would not want to change that. We have been married for 1 year now. Together for 3 years.

I think for me it is more about the people in the relationship and how well they get along and how much they have in common. Then about the ages. I am very happy for my son and daughter in law. God has blessed all of us with the love that is in our lives.

I am a 61 year old female and I am involved with a 34 year old man. The age differance makes no difference to us or to any one around us both familys and friends say we are great for eachother. We have known eachother since Feb.3,2003 and we have lived together since Sept 2003. My kids are older than him but they all love him. My grandkids adore him. He makes me happy and we laugh alot. age does NOT matter.

I'm 40, and my boyfriend is 26. He currently lives in Italy, although we ARE trying to change that. We met online 2 years ago, and travel back & forth to America & Italy for extended stays to see each other. This man has made SO MANY POSITIVE changes in my life!!! I love HIM, his family, and everything about him. I only wish I could get him to learn better English so he could take his trade here to America, and we could get married and live together here in The USA.

I only think age is an issue IF YOU WANT IT TO BE!!! Yes, ironically in Southern Italy where he is from a woman being older IS an issue, but people think I am about his age or younger anyway. I sure don't act it, that's for certain!!! I don't drink any alcohol other than MAYBE a glass of wine at dinner once in a while, I don't smoke, and I don't take drugs, so that may have a lot to do with it. Live & think young :D !!!

I am a 59 yr old woman married to a 52 yr.old man we have been married for 30 yrs and its all good. Its not for everyone, he happened to be very mature as a young man ..we have two daughters and three grandchildren..I never tried to be younger or live up to any standard of youth..and he never tried to be older, we just are and thats good enough ..

i hate this topic so much because i have a hard time finding a girl who isnt immature. im 16 and i like older women who r like 17 18 19 even into EARLY 20's but you know what just because im 16 they turn me down right away and go for someone who is older then i am who treats them like shit and i just cant help but think of how stupid they are for going for those guys vs. a younger guy like me who is very mature for my age and will treat them with RESPECT.

Oh Bethany divorce is so complicated. I know how you feel and where you are coming from. Boy and if the habits are the ones I faced they are a Numbing divise. Anyways that is how I used my habits. I do not know if I was happy to be divorced, or if I was happy to be free. I married young and had 4 kids by the age of 25. Did I live my life the way I was suppose too?...I have no clue. I lost My Mother in 1993 OH man that was and is still one of my hardest things that happened to me. Then the drugs and Booze came into play harder. I did that for 6 years 6 YEARS! I know have so many issuses that are so deep I at times do not know if I am coming or going. Bethany I had what counselors called the cinderella syndrome. I could not be without a man. And boy did I end up with some losers. As I have had my EX to many times tell me I was and I am a loser. But he made me that way I believe or should I say I let him make me feel that way. I was down I mean down hard and went back to my EX thought all would change. OH right he was still that man that I married when I was young. He just did not hit me anymore. I was unhappy as all get out what was I thinking. I know I am addicted to Zanax and I need some help. So I married for his security. I left I mean left three years later. He will not speak to me about our children which the youngest now is 22. But they still need Mom and Dad for issuses. And I know I could use him at times for just to listen to what is going on with our Childrens lifes. He no way will talk his new wife tried to have me arrested for criminal charges. Because of letters I wrote him about our kids. I am so frustarted. I am the one above that married the younger man. Oh it was great and NO it is not great. Cause of the children I have a hard time as you have seen above. There are times I just wanna walk away and never be found. Please all I can say is seek help get counseling does not hurt everyone. I would seek it now but affording it is what stops me or us. I try to say life is what ya make it. But i never intended to make my life this way NEVER. I want my life back and be drug free. Sorry I ramble...

I was married for 24 years. He was mentally and physically abusive through out those years. Not only did he abuse me me but his children. I stayed for the security. I divorced him got into drugs and drinking. I am now clean and have ruined my ability to have a healthy life. I rely on Anti-depressants and I am addicted to them. I do not like being addicted to them, but have NO way out. I met a younger man and lived with him and 2 small kids now for 2 years we married in August. I am having a hard time cause my kids are grown and I have grandkids the same age. I at times hate it when they call me Mommy. They have not had a Mommy for 2 years she left them. They are mentally challenged girls. I need help to get through alot. I feel alone and desperate. I am a stay at home new Mommy and have always been a stay at home Mother with my own 4 kids. I just have troubles with all of this. I knew what I was getting into but never realized it would be so hard.

I am an older woman and married to a man 10 years younger than I am. We lived together for close to 4 years and we've now been married 17 months. We have a wonderful relationship in every aspect. We communicate wonderfully with each other. We rarely fight simply because when a problem arises we take control of it in the beginning and openly discuss things. We've learned the art of compromise without hurting each other or holding each other back. I think our life together is fantastic and he tells people openly that I'm the woman he plans on spending his life with. I'm his lover, his wife, his best friend and his partner for life. I feel the same about him. These relationships can work if you look over the age difference and look at each other as humans with hearts and feelings. My in laws even think I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him. Life and marriage are great.

Bethany-
I got divorced after 20 years of marriage, I invited the divorce and now 4 years after, I'm still in a mist of what to do. I work and I am struggling also, financially and emotionally. Probably a lot of guilt still lingers with me about divorcing my ex. However, I keep myself occupied with my job and try to do things around the house, I have horses and dogs. I always felt they would fill the void, but don't really. I do take an anti-depressant. I guess my mainstays are my friends. I think companionship is important in humans and not necessarily a relationship with a significant other, but a good relationship with a friend. It's not easy and it is still a constant struggle for me. I've dated 2 people since then, neither worked out, but remain good friends. Hang in Bethany! Attitude adjustment is the key. I work out and that helps the frame of mind! Ellen

I could use advice on starting over after divorce. I'm happy to be divorced, but changing lives is difficult, and there are some obvious voids. In my case, I'm also dealing with habits that during the struggle seemed like survival strategies, and now are simply bad habits. No, it's not a huge crisis, and no one is suicidal, or homicidal, because of it, but it's a real for me, and I have to deal with it.
Thanks,
Bethany