Hi my wife and myself have been married 10 years, and best friends for 10 years before we got married, we have 5 kids together. And are marriage has come to an end. My wife used to be heavy but she had lost 100 lbs. in the past 10 months. She changed 360 degrees she started to go to a friends house 1 or 2 times a week, then it became 6 nights out of seven ... I accused her of doing drugs because the weight loss in such a short period of time. She doesn’t exercise but she takes weight loss pills but I cant see losing that much weight without exercise. And her going out every night, i'm thinking that she meeting someone at this girls house. And our friends are telling me that she dating a person she works with. I don’t know if she is doing ether of these things. Our friends tell me to follow her just to see if there is nothing going on. But why should I? I have loved this woman for over 15 years, am I wrong for feeling like this? She swears there’s nothing going on its all in my head. But I had this feeling for over 6 months. There has to be something going on. All the signs are there. She has been living at her mom’s house for 2 weeks now. We are loosing are home, the kids are spilt up. I have 1 child with me and she has 4 with her. She says she doesn’t want a divorce, but yet she says she hates me, she not in love anymore and she trying to get her own place. I want our marriage to work but I can’t find a way out of this hole we are in cause when we talk it ends up in an argument. I asked her about counseling she wont go, I don’t understand how we got like this cause this time last year we were very happy together. I’m lost I don’t know what to do next do I let her go or do I keep trying? Thx 4 your time

Hi my husband and I have been married for 2 years and already I feel like I'm not the only women in his life.I love him with all my heart and we have a son together. And since my son was born I have caught him talking to his exgirlfriend on his cell phone through his cell phone bills. And he have a really big problem with the interent getting on dating websites and putting up profiles of himself as a single man looking and he has even put pictures of himself on the interent.Well about a year ago I found all of the site (I hope) And delete all of the profiles. But i'm so scared that it may still be going on and he could have a girlfriend in the other town. He is a firefighter and is always on the go or out of town do to his work. I'm just scared his going to get away with this. Our sex life is great!!!!! But I am real inscure about myself and feel really ugly and its like I'm really not that important to him anymore. Thank you

If you truely love someone doesn't trust, respect and kindness come naturaly to you no matter what you have been through? Or am I just in my own world?>

My husband and I have been married for 10 years and at first our sex life was great but over the years it has gotten real bad. I feel like I'm the man in the relationship. I've made the first moves and have more of a drive than he does. We go months and months without any thing. I'm getting real tired of the excuses( getting old, too tired,new child,stress on the job,then my stress ful job) Then last year he wanted to have another child before we got too old which was fine with me.(that would mean more sex yeah)Now we have a son with down syndrome, I'm not working and we are now filing chapter 7. And the drought continues. The more I bring it up , the more it doesn't happen. I'm feeling really low self-esteem and just not worth much of anything. I'm currently going to Weight Watchers to get off baby weight & to help myself because he doesn't seem to interested. help

For the couple thats only been married for 15 months be proactive in your own emotional recovery. to often times we want acceptance from the abusive spouce, this will only lead you into isolation and depression. The fear of rejection only exists because we base our self-worth own the opinions of others rather then our relationship with God. Most of those who are critcal of us are actually people who have a poor self image themselves.
They avoid the pain of how they fell inside by finding things wrong with other people and concentrating on their imperfection.

Hurting people hurt people. It may help you to remember this truth when you are experiencing rejection or criticism.
No wonder God tells us to pray for our enemies.

They are in much worse condition then we are(misery loves company).

He who finds a good wife finds a goods thing.
You are a GOOD Thing.

When conflict arises,
you need answers right away; and in the middle of a heated discussion,
you know that you probably won't get them from your spouse!

The first step toward resolution is prayer.

Not the two-second kind you used to recite before bedtimewhen you were a child,
but heartfelt,earnest,Word-based prayer.

Its important to step away from the situation to hear from God.

Often couple are too angry to call a tempory truce in order to seek God,
but its still the best thing to do.

To begin, step away from the situation,gather your emotioms and focus on God.

If you must leave the room or go for a walk, do it!

Then start praying,

"FATHER,show me whats wrong." You'll be amazed at how He will cut the problem dowm to size.

Your husbands human nature tends to cast blame others namely you; and denys any personal guilt.

I know this to be true because I'm livig the situaton as you reads this.I know this reads like a novel but;

Real-life marriages consist of two people coming together and being made one in the spirit and body-but not quite one in the soul!

It is a relationship where there are two people with differing opinions, outlooks and backgroungs; all the while they trust God to help them face the storms of life together and plesures too.

Having said that,you can see that even the best marriages will have conflicts. So you had better train yourself on how to resolve them!(Remember be incouraged today. If He's ABUSIVE.
Do What The Devil wouldn't Do LEAVE His Behind A LONE ! ! ! Your Children Need You MORE...Dr.Ablow can help
P.S. PROVERBS 4:7" IN All Thy Getting Get Understanding
Signed: LIVE OUT LOUD IN Dumfries Virgina

For the couple thats only been married for 15 months be proactive in your own emotional recovery. to often times we want acceptance from the abusive spouce, this will only lead you into isolation and depression. The fear of rejection only exists because we base our self-worth own the opinions of others rather then our relationship with God. Most of those who are critcal of us are actually people who have a poor self image themselves.

They avoid the pain of how they fell inside by finding things wrong with other people and concentrating on their imperfection.

Hurting people hurt people. It may help you to remember this truth when you are experiencing rejection or criticism.

No wonder God tells us to pray for our enemies.

They are in much worse condition then we are(misery loves company).

He who finds a good wife finds a goods thing.
You are a GOOD Thing.

When conflict arises,
you need answers right away; and in the middle of a heated discussion,
you know that you probably won't get them from your spouse!

The first step toward resolution is prayer.

Not the two-second kind you used to recite before bedtimewhen you were a child,
but heartfelt,earnest,Word-based prayer.

Its important to step away from the situation to hear from God.

Often couple are too angry to call a tempory truce in order to seek God,
but its still the best thing to do.

To begin, step away from the situation,gather your emotioms and focus on God.

If you must leave the room or go for a walk, do it!

Then start praying,

"FATHER,show me whats wrong." You'll be amazed at how He will cut the problem dowm to size.

Your husbands human nature tends to cast blame others namely you; and denys any personal guilt.

I know this to be true because I'm livig the situaton as you reads this.I know this reads like a novel but;

Real-life marriages consist of two people coming together and being made one in the spirit and body-but not quite one in the soul!

It is a relationship where there are two people with differing opinions, outlooks and backgroungs; all the while they trust God to help them face the storms of life together and plesures too.

Having said that,you can see that even the best marriages will have conflicts. So you had better train yourself on how to resolve them!(Remember be incouraged today. If He's ABUSIVE.
Do What The Devil wouldn't Do LEAVE His Behind A LONE ! ! ! Your Children Need You MORE...Dr.Ablow can help
P.S. PROVERBS 4:7IN All Thy Getting Get Understanding
Signed: LIVE OUT LOUD IN Dumfries Virgina

For the couple thats only been married for 15 months be proactive in your own emotional recovery. to often times we want acceptance from the abusive spouce, this will only lead you into isolation and depression. The fear of rejection only exists because we base our self-worth own the opinions of others rather then our relationship with God. Most of those who are critcal of us are actually people who have a poor self image themselves.

They avoid the pain of how they fell inside by finding things wrong with other people and concentrating on their imperfection.

Hurting people hurt people. It may help you to remember this truth when you are experiencing rejection or criticism.

No wonder God tells us to pray for our enemies.

They are in much worse condition then we are(misery loves company).

He who finds a good wife finds a goods thing.
You are a GOOD Thing.

When conflict arises,
you need answers right away; and in the middle of a heated discussion,
you know that you probably won't get them from your spouse!

The first step toward resolution is prayer.

Not the two-second kind you used to recite before bedtimewhen you were a child,
but heartfelt,earnest,Word-based prayer.

Its important to step away from the situation to hear from God.

Often couple are too angry to call a tempory truce in order to seek God,
but its still the best thing to do.

To begin, step away from the situation,gather your emotioms and focus on God.

If you must leave the room or go for a walk, do it!

Then start praying,

"FATHER,show me whats wrong." You'll be amazed at how He will cut the problem dowm to size.

Your husbands human nature tends to cast blame others namely you; and denys any personal guilt.

I know this to be true because I'm livig the situaton as you reads this.I know this reads like a novel but;

Real-life marriages consist of two people coming together and being made one in the spirit and body-but not quite one in the soul!

It is a relationship where there are two people with differing opinions, outlooks and backgroungs; all the while they trust God to help them face the storms of life together and plesures too.

Having said that,you can see that even the best marriages will have conflicts. So you had better train yourself on how to resolve them!(Remember be incouraged today. If He's ABUSIVE.
Do What The Devil wouldn't Do LEAVE His Behind A LONE ! ! ! Your Children Need You MORE...Dr.Ablow can help

Signed: LIVE OUT LOUD IN Dumfries Virgina

For the couple thats only been married for 15 months be proactive in your own emotional recovery. to often times we want acceptance from the abusive spouce, this will only lead you into isolation and depression. The fear of rejection only exists because we base our self-worth own the opinions of others rather then our relationship with God. Most of those who are critcal of us are actually people who have a poor self image themselves.

They avoid the pain of how they fell inside by finding things wrong with other people and concentrating on their imperfection.

Hurting people hurt people. It may help you to remember this truth when you are experiencing rejection or criticism.

No wonder God tells us to pray for our enemies.

They are in much worse condition then we are(misery loves company).

He who finds a good wife finds a goods thing.
You are a GOOD Thing.

When conflict arises,
you need answers right away; and in the middle of a heated discussion,
you know that you probably won't get them from your spouse!

The first step toward resolution is prayer.

Not the two-second kind you used to recite before bedtimewhen you were a child,
but heartfelt,earnest,Word-based prayer.

Its important to step away from the situation to hear from God.

Often couple are too angry to call a tempory truce in order to seek God,
but its still the best thing to do.

To begin, step away from the situation,gather your emotioms and focus on God.

If you must leave the room or go for a walk, do it!

Then start praying,

"FATHER,show me whats wrong." You'll be amazed at how He will cut the problem dowm to size.

Your husbands human nature tends to cast blame others namely you; and denys any personal guilt.

I know this to be true because I'm livig the situaton as you reads this.I know this reads like a novel but;

Real-life marriages consist of two people coming together and being made one in the spirit and body-but not quite one in the soul!

It is a relationship where there are two people with differing opinions, outlooks and backgroungs; all the while they trust God to help them face the storms of life together and plesures too.

Having said that,you can see that even the best marriages will have conflicts. So you had better train yourself on how to resolve them!(Remember be incouraged today. If He's ABUSIVE.
Do What The Devil wouldn't Do LEAVE His Behind A LONE ! ! ! Your Children Need You MORE...

Signed: LIVE OUT LOUD IN Dumfries Virgina

For Sheliah....I hear that wearing red underwear helps when feeling down on yourself.

But, I'm amazed that he hasn't had sex for 14 years. I mean, do you think he's being faithful? If not, then you have to face that.

You have to deal with whatever is making you feel this way about yourself and find out what works for you to make yourself feel better. You deserve it! You have this one life....don't waste it feeling miserable. If the marriage isn't working, then get counseling and work it out, or move on. You deserve to be happy.

9 months ago I lied to my husband and broke his trust. It has devistated him. He told me that doesn't think he can work on rebuilding his trust in me. We had a great marriage and even better friendship and I ruined it. All I want is for him to give it time so that the trust can be rebuild. We both know that it isn't going to be easy or overnight. But I am just so afraid that he is going to leave before we can work on rebuilding.
I think I've ruined the most wonderful relationship that I could have hoped to have in my life.

For Sheliah....Any husband that's not having sex with you for 14 years means he's getting it elsewhere. Boot him to the curb and do yourself a favor.

My marriage hit a bad patch about 14yrs ago. My husband has not wanted to, and has not had sex with me since then.
This has caused me mental anguish, physical problems. I also feal ugly and I have even gotten to where I can rarely leave home.

Me and my husband have only been married for 15 months. We a 14 month old son and I have a 4yr old daughter from a previous relationship. I love him so much but he wants a divorce. he wont even talk to me. I dont know what to do.