My fiance and I seem to be having a problem getting married. When I first got pregnant we wanted to get married right away. But after a little thought I decided to wait a little longer I didn't want to elope and neither does he. The only thing is now when I know we're ready to get married and can afford it I get the feeling that he really doesn't want to get married. He says he does, but everytime I go to start planning it he spazzes out and doesn't want to talk about it. I'm afraid we'll be like those couples that have kids and have been engaged for years and will never get married.

Dear Dr. Keith Ive been with my boy friend for three years.During those three years weve had three children a two year old and a set of fuor month old twins. He says he wants to marry me but never wants to make the first step. Everytime I try to make the first move he says that we should wait. Lately his mother has been bugging about marrying me but only because of next years tax refund. Now hes been talking about us getting married but i dont want him to marry because a tax refund. I dont know what to do cause ive been waiting for so long to marry the love of my life but im not sure if he thinks the same of me.

Dr. Keith I've been dating this fantastic man for eight years now. August 15, 2006 was our eight anniversary. His name is Demetrius we talk about marriage and he states we're going to get married. Three years ago it was going to happen soon and just recently I asked how soon he doesn't know. So, Iam feeling really stupid now. Did I just let this man just keep promising and promising and nothing ever is going to happen with marriage at all. It's OK for him to spend everyday and night with me on the weekends and the summer months but, this is getting really frustrating to me. I am the kind of person who likes to continue to grow I can't stay at the same level year after year. The excuse is his financial status (student loans, credit cards etc.) my thing is then find another job if thats what you need to do for us to proceed with our plans and life. I love him and I am sure he loves me but, I can't keep waiting.... Please Help!!!!